I want to be good at sex.
Objectively and masterfully good at sex.
How do I learn? Don't say HURR CAN'T LEARN ON THE INTERNET FAGGOT because you can learn everything on the internet, faggot.
I'm serious. I don't care how much I have to read, how much I have to research, and all the things I have to try. I want to be the very best lover that I can to maximize the happiness of my life and relationships. I'll take notes, I'll study, I'll internalize.
Please share with /fit/ resources you found that improved your sex life. The lessons you've learned from good sources. (Avoid clickbaity cosmo-tier articles) Sharing advice you've heard/read that turned out to be complete bunk is good too.
Let us make a good resource for mastery.
We're all gonna make it.
(I'm sorry if you don't consider this fitness related but I really can't think of an appropriate board to host this elsewhere).
A very large portion of it is being good at foreplay and knowing what positions the person you're sleeping with likes.
The best tip I can probably give is that you should be able to transition quickly from PiVing to oral. If you're PiVing and feeling like you're going to cum, but don't want to cum yet, pull out and immediately start going down on her until you've backed off from that point, then switch to a different position, preferably one you're not as sensitive in.
>Literally nobody actually uses terms like "PiVing".
Except almost every person who ever talks about sex in a more than "let me tell you about this pussy I got last night," sort of way.
Pro-tip: these are the people who are good at sex. It's an important part of their lives that they seek to excel at, so they discuss it, and that naturally comes with shorthand forms of communication. I mean, look at all of us. We use shorthand all the time. TDEE, RPE, SS, etc.
Book called 'The Sex God Method' I've heard is pretty good.
Not to brag, but I've been told that I'm a God in the sack. Key things to remember.
- Be confident and in charge
- Dominate her like a beast does to its prey
- Talk dirty (but sexy), eg 'Your pussy is all mine now. You're so tight. I want to fuck you all day.' Etc.
- Try different positions when you want, and throw her around a bit.
- Warm her up with 4-play. I don't go down on girls often. I prefer to make out with them, suck nipples and play with them using my fingers.
- Be attractive
- Be strong and fit (cardio and core strength)
- Have a decent sized dick
>Don't say HURR CANT LEARN ON THE INTERNET
well the problem is that a lot of getting good at sex has to do with your partner's body and personality. You need to be able to either openly communicate or pick up on body language. You also need to learn what works for you by having sex...so you kind of need to get out there.
That said, the most important thing you CAN work on is oral/fingering ability. Explore them. Try and do sensational things, like twirling your finger inside of her, or ever so lightly rub your teeth along her nipple.
Idk, just try to be passionate fam
Here's what I've learned: Work on losing anxiety and gaining confidence.
Anxiety is the enemy of good sex, both in you and in your partner. If you're worried (about an upcoming exam, being good at sex, forgetting to feed your dog, anything) then sex will be bad.
Confidence is the opposite, you can be a skinny dyel short dick manlet nerd, but if you have confidence you and your partner will have a great time.
Other than that, look up a few sex-ed videos and search for different techniques to try; remember every grill likes different things, so the bigger your repertoire, the better. You can even find the stuff on youtube these days.
If you are giving oral, then do the ABCs. Spell out the alphabet with your tonge. Tounge. How the fuck do you spell it. Toung. Tunge. Jesus, anyways yea. It keeps your mind of the fact that your lickin a nasty smelling hole in between, and probably for you, some fat womans legs.
>It's one letter shorter than "fucking".
"Fucking" could mean a few different things, though. I mean, I suppose there's less ambiguity if you're just talking amongst straight guy friends of yours, but in a larger community, terms like "PiVing" are important, because "fucking," as mentioned, could refer to a few sexual acts.
Meh. I'm having sex with my girlfriend about twice a day, and generally make out with a few different people at parties, so I'm pretty happy with where I'm at. As noted, there's a group of people who talk about sex in a serious way, and they've developed a dialect to go along with it.
>Dominate her like a beast does to its prey
This can be a good thing to do, but it's not always good to turn it on all the time. Some women like being dominated more than others. My partner likes likes tying my hands and blindfolding me just as much as she likes the reverse.
Also, heading out for a bit.
nah, oral on a woman is all about how much pressure you can put on her clit, same with fingering, if you can apply a large amount of pressure with your fingers in the right spot you can make them cum so easily
depends on the girl honestly. My gf has a rather sweet tasting cooter. But some women, after a night of dancing and tacos.... its bad man, real bad. I do make my girl shower if i am going to go down on her.
I'm apparently really good at having sex. When I lost my virginity I had scratches all over my back. I'll give you faggots some tips.
>Only have sex with a girl when you really really want to.
>Let yourself go. If something goes through your head, do it/say it. In fact, don't even think. Act completely impulsively
>Be rough, but not rough enough to hurt her (too much)
>Be super confident, don't second guess yourself.
>Use your mouth. Bite, lick, suck. Neck, legs, ears, (her traps too, girls like that for some reason)
>communication, if she tells you dont stop, don't fucking stop. In fact go faster and harder.
>or you could stop and make her beg for it, really you're in control do what you want
>if she's small pick her up and throw her around. Take control of the situation.
>be passionate, show her that you like her. Stare into her eyes and put your forehead against hers and sappy shit like that. Even if its a one night stand girls love being wanted
>make her really want you. I don't know how to explain it, it kind of comes naturally to guys
>have a big dick
How much girls want you is a huge part of it. Girls want me the most when I 1. don't really give a shit about them 2. and really want to bone them. Seems contradictory but I don't know how to explain it any other way.
the whole "oh just spell the ABCs" mindset is exactly why most of you will never make a woman obsess over you. If you have to stick by some sort of laid out plan like that you're fucking up.
You should be playing with their lips, teasing her, slowly making circles around her clit...then finally running across it with strong pressure...lightly making circles then sucking on it while she moans louderrrRrrr
BE PASSIONATE, EXPLORE HER BODY, HAVE FUN AND WERK THAT CLIT MAKE HER SQUIRM
for you closeted faggots just imagine that the clit is a dick. now imagine how you'd wanna suck and play w that dick and then just do that to her
>make her really want you.
>it kind of comes naturally to guys
seriously, how to do that?
Pff mate, it's such a weird thing to discuss. I know I'm great in the sack because of feedback, but I sure as hell don't get girls done with my cardio and fit related skills. I choke them, slap them, spit on them... I hate wanting to do it but it gets me off so hard. And almost all model-tier chicks seem to love it on a level that is equally disturbed as my own enjoyment.
I guess I'm shameless and that turns them on unbelieveably. I am very nice and charming outside of sex, by the way.
My best advice is to be completely honest with yourself and her. If she does something stupid call her out on that and make fun of her. If you think she has a great ass, tell her that. Actually, just say the first thing that goes through your head always, and stop caring about what people think. This translates directly to you having confidence and status, and girls dig that. If she finds you attractive, she'll want your dick. And once a girl wants your dick you can do whatever you want and she'll probably still want to bang you.
When a girl is into me I can kind of tell. There are small social cues, kind of like social pinging. She'll smile at you, try to talk to you, try to make body contact and etc. After that there's not much you can do to mess it up unless you're severely autistic. At that point just do what you want, no matter what it is. Like during Halloween, there was this girl that had been flirting with me all night. I was going to a different party, and she asked me to stay. I asked if she was single, and then asked her to prove it. She asked me how to prove it and that's when I told her "Like this" and started making out with her. Then I left the party and went to another party even though she didn't want me to. And guess who's been texting me for the past couple of days? I just did the first thing that came into my head, and didn't plan anything out.
Flex your penis daily. The muscle you should be moving is almost like clenching your asscheeks. To test if its the right muscle take a piss and start doing it, if you do it right you can stop pissing at any second. This works the same for ejaculation, so you can just keep on going and never cum. It takes practice, but it works.
I've been doing this since I was like 14 (was bored in class) and I can pretty much stop my cum or piss
it takes me forever to cum if I use a condom that isn't one of the thin ones.
>mfw gf wants to use one of those super thick ribbed condoms
it's practically cardio
>tfw can only cum when legs are straight and flexed
Most of all though, don't treat it like it's a performance or like you're on stage. Yeah you need to be a bit self-aware of what you're doing so you don't get too selfish, but in the ends it's sex. It's supposed to be fun, enjoy it.
And don't be like that one autistic fuck from a couple weeks ago that was like "Oh no, you're too pretty to suck me off." I still hope to myself that he was trying to troll.
Very little of what you listed is universally applicable.
Domination doesn't apply to all women, all the time. It doesn't even apply to the same woman, all the time.
You have to know when to mix it up. Sometimes women like to be dominated, sometimes they like to take charge. You have to know how to adapt and let to the situation.
You sounds like you learned how to have sex from watching porn, but that's not sex. That's acting.
It's the same advice when you break it down. Talk to your partner, find out what they like, and then work on doing those things better. Keep it interesting, and be considerate of each other.
Bam, you're now the best partner they've ever had.
As for OP, eating pussy can be learned from a few guides. According to feed back I'm good at that and all I did was read the guides and get to it
As for my own question, I'm by no means big, 6" long, but I've had times when porking a girl from behind she goes "ow ow ow" and pulls off. What gives? What do I have to watch out for? It seems like some girls I can't do that to no matter what and others it just happens. I think it's because the girl has a rounded lower back (weird description but I knwo you all will understand, she doesn't do the glorious arch) but what can I do to avoid it if she has a weird back position?
This man speaks the truth. My ex fucked like this and it was the best sex of my life. He would pick me up and hold me against the wall while inside me and keep fucking me. So hot.
I didn't know this was actually a thing. I've done this purposefully just as the guy's about to cum, but it's usually too difficult to keep up throughout sex.
More sex tips for girls?
This is easy. Best way to practice is to, well, fuck a lot.
It's easiest when you have a good and adventurous girlfriend to experiment stuff with. That is literally all it takes. Books and shit can give you reference but you will never be able to master anything with them alone.
> communication, if she tells you dont stop, don't fucking stop. In fact go faster and harder
Not really, I used to believe that. When the say "don't stop" you don't have to go faster, that's the way man work. not woman. They just want you to keep the pace, not to slow down or go faster.
>have a big dick
>Not really, I used to believe that. When the say "don't stop" you don't have to go faster, that's the way man work. not woman. They just want you to keep the pace, not to slow down or go faster.
This is what I've learned from my experience too, girls just like 2 things
A really hard cock (not so much size, but the firmness), and
Constant pounding. Changing positions too much is pointless to them, they just like the thickness and the steady pounding
went through this, just broke up (for different reasons, but probably stemming from the same seed as this)
just remember there are other women who will consistently want your dick as long as you stand your ground and keep them in their place
ok OP I will help you out
google how to eat pussy like a champ nina hartley or something like that
she goes in detail about what to do to eat pussy
there is also a pic floating around that has a lot of info on it
but for dick in da pussy it's less about exact specific technique applied to perfection and more about feeling it reacting to what she is feeling and adjusting what you to to match it.
Think of it like this good improve music session not a rehearsed symphony
21 kissless virgin here. Every time I read about sex stuff its such an abstract idea to me, cause I've never done it before, and that's what holds me back from trying to go after girls. How can I force myself to go after girls when I've never even kissed one? Inexperience holds me back
Step 1 is admitting that you're using your inexperience as an thin excuse for the real reason you aren't going after chicks. Honestly how can you even type that shit out here and not think we can all see through it?
I've had moderate success with women (not virgin, had gfs, etc.) but like I know that feel. All shit dealing with women is fucking abstract to me. I guess that's why my relationships have never worked out...shits wierd
>stare into her eyes and put your forehead against her
this is good advice, girls love feeling desired and this will go a long way into making her feel it. i loved doing that my with my ex.
>tfw she broke up with me 3 weeks ago
That has nothing to do with experience yo. You could pay a hooker to clean your butthole with her tongue and that still wouldn't teach you shit about how to interact with other humans--Even if you magically kissed some girl you wouldn't all of a sudden unlock the ability to be normal
>tfw your banging so many random sluts but you haven't been in love since highschool
>pic related, what I actually want
>itt: tips for dudes
man I fuck the shit out of my gf all the time. I switch things up and dominate her and call her a "my dirty little slut" when we fuck. she cums 15-20 times when we fuck.
sex is fun , but as a guy I put alot of effort into fucking her. wish girls had the same want to please their man.
>constantly interested in making her feel good
>she just receives it
Learn how to kiss and touch every inch of her body and learn her erogenous zones. I used to be able to make my girlfriend finish without touching her vagina. There's more to sex to fucking.
Fucking 7 billion humans today, and probably 50 billion more in the entire human history, seemed to have figured it out on their own yet you're sitting here sad because you can't figure it out. Maybe it's not that hard
I'm so, so, sorry in advance for what is about to happen. Trolls are going to come into the thread and they will be saying some very hurtful things about you. They will call you some very hurtful names. But none of those things are true. How could they possibly know? How could they possibly know how beautiful you really are? How sweet and compassionate you are? I'm so sorry about them, please do not let them hurt you.
>mfw thinking about you hurting
I just want to see you shine and flourish. You are so precious to me. I want to write poetry and sing songs about my love and adoration for you and all of your perfections. My name is Brian, by the way. I know that you're tired of all the assholes and jerks. I know how you feel baby doll. I know. I am different. I am the nicest guy you will ever meet, and if anything I'll be the one in the kitchen. I live in London. Please be in London.
Exactly. As a sub guy, I hate seeing men tell other men that they need to act dominant with women. Apparently it's not enough that I have few choices as it is, no, we gotta perpetuate that shit and never encourage women to take charge for once, even if that's actually what they want somewhere in their mind
Communication and being realistic is key, so much.
Maybe. But I think I'm actually good looking and thats the only reason I've gotten laid at all. I know I've got a couple stereotypically desirable features. Just not sure how the whole package looks.
Yeah. I have plenty of women friends whose best sexual experience was with a guy who had an average dick. Not joking. Most women don't want an 8x6 dick stabbing their cervix and ripping them open
Ignore these idiots
Yes you can and will. Pleasing your partner isn't just about how big your dick is. If you only rely on dick size you're going to be a terrible lover.
There are plenty of guys in the world with dicks smaller than 5 inches and they have successful sexual relationships.
>mfw i just fucked my gf on her period
Every girl is different. The only thing you can do that applies to them all is become good at oral. And if you're going to go for licking their asshole, make sure you know they're open minded about it first. I've had a couple of them freak out about that.
From personal experience it's about communication. No one way of doing oral/manual or regular sex can tell you how to be the best lover, because every girl (and guy) likes sex differently.
I have known vaginas that hate being fingered and ones that love it. I know girl who need a shit load of stimulation to come that the only way it's going to happen 9/10 times is if she uses her own finger during sex, and girls sensitive enough that they can come during oral (lucky them).
So for me, personally, I ask them what they like. This can be awkward, so it's about knowing when it's appropriate to ask. Sometimes, after you've had sex for the first time (which will rarely, if ever be the worst and probably the best candidate for worst/least good) will be good, other times during foreplay. Also, a relationship where you're comfortable enough to talk about sex when you're both love-sober will probably also have the best sex.
If it's ONS sex you want to be good at, I can't really help you. Because I think there are two many unknowns. Maybe if you do it a lot, you can tell me. But then again, if you only have sex once, can you really know if they enjoy it?
I assume /fit/ has the biggest amount of butt plundering homos.
What's the best way to deliver maximum pleasure through anal sex that doesn't involve touching the penis at the same time.
I'm dating a pre-op MtF and must improve my skills.
guys i'm scared i wont get a boner when i want to actually have sex
So first off almost had sex with two fatties but couldn't stay hard to enter either of them but also didn't really want to fuck ether of them.
But i also couldn't come from bjs so i';m not sure what that means
Bought some cialis but it does nothing for me
Tried nofap but its so damn hard. currently on day 2.
Had a blood test and my t levels are okay, not low enough that i think i'd have libido issues with it
i'm just terrified my penis is broken and i'll never ever have sex and i'll just be better off as a eunuch
It's all about the shocker
I'm not a big fan of going down, but women can have two different orgasms. You can stimulate the clit or you can find their g-spot
I prefer the g-spot, and unless you find that one position where your dick hits it (which is hard), the only way you can find it is by fingering the girl. You gotta do it right tho, and if you get good at it you can stimulate both the g-spot and clit at the same time
Honestly, fingering is the best way you can make a girl cum, but foreplay is important
this worked for me
oh, and remember female sexuality is more in the mind than it is for us. they need to be made to feel relaxed but excited, safe but with a hint of danger
>tfw 6'2" 350lbs and somehow not a virgin
>tfw ex-gf was 5'10" 220 lbs and had dem long legs
On the real, every girl is different. This is what has always worked for me:
>use the "come here" motion when you're fingering her and suck on her clit at the same time
>pushing down lightly right above her pubic mons while doing the above makes her go fucking nuts
>kiss/bite her neck and nibble on her ear during PIV
>depending on how submissive she is, pin her down by the wrists (my ex loved it when I pinned her down by her shoulders, put her legs on my shoulders, and went to town)
>kiss/talk dirty/etc etc
>pull her hair while in doggy (how hard depends on her preference)
>growling in her ear while you fuck
>if she gets loud, cover her mouth/say "shhhh"
Also, one of the most unexpectedly hot things according to her was, while we were in missionary, I put my hand under her head and cradled it while we fucked. If you bust that out on a chick, 9 times out of 10 she'll really like it.
No two girls are completely alike, OP. It really just depends on what she likes. Ask her and just do what she likes. It isn't too hard. Good luck mane.