I just don't think I'm a Christian anymore. I stopped believing it after thinking about it for a while, and it really has made my life shittier. My parents are devout and always want me to be my best, and I feel guilty as shit for being a closet nonbeliever. I feel like the world is more cruel now, and I wish I just kept on going to church and not thinking otherwise. Life is a lot worse now that I have "lost faith", and it also feels like I have less purpose.
>>29069426 Hey man I've been there too. It takes a while to move on, especially because your mind will instinctively feel religious guilt. Your purpose though is whatever the fuck you want it to be. Get that 500 lb deadlift if you haven't already, be that hot new tech startup, buy an Audi R8, save a bunch of kids from cancer, do whatever you want brah
I was with this girl for about 10 months First love, first girlfriend, first fuck and everything was great. Bout the 9 month mark, when she's coming home from vacation she decides to tell me she doesnt love me anymore. That was mid-august. Since then it's just been a rollercoaster of getting close to her again only to have her push me away again. It sucks cuz I want to be the one pushing her away, and make her miss me, but I enjoy every second I get to talk to her cuz she was my only best friend too.
So I've been talking to this chick for a while, and she works two jobs so she's always busy. But, we still send a few texts / snaps per day (light-hearted, flirty shit, she knows I think shes a QT). And I already asked her out, but she had to cancel plans that day (work unexpectedly called her in last minute), so when should I attempt for it again?
>>29069381 My poops have lately been oscillating between small little things and normal sized. Today I had a flat looking poop. I have a doctor's appointment on Tuesday morning and I'm concerned that they're going to tell me I have an ass full of cancer. My dad died of cancer at 50, and my mother has had Crohn's/IBS and all that for ages. I myself had an upper endoscopy and while I haven't had the results yet (been a few months and I've been too busy to follow up), they did tell me that my intestines were smooth in spots, which would explain the absorption issues I've been having.
I know it's probably just something like celiac/IBS/UC/whatever, but the fact that ass cancer is on the table is worrisome. Too much shit I haven't done
tl;cbfw'ing: >know grill >end up getting close >bitch out on making a move when I last saw her because social anxiety and spaghetti with meatballs >lose contact >facebook msgs me about 5 months ago >she had a mental health episode (as did I by coincidence, though differently) >made to move in with family (for safety I guess) >now many, many thousands of km away >tfw probably will never see again >tfw after trying to let her escape my mind for ages I realize I completely love her >tfw I think she's trying to make it known she likes me too
waht do /fit/. this is by far the hardest i've been dealt to by life.
>>29069480 This mother fucked didn't understand your feel. I know how you feel. I used to be into my religion big time and it seemed being around those people even though what they believe is crazy still made me feel like at least they were doing aometho g , however ridiculous, to make the world more peaceful. That's guilt bro . I think if you did something to help humanity you wouldn't feel so guilty and alone! Find! Like minded non religious people that want peace and want a good world too without religion.
>>29069528 thats the worst bro, sorry, just move on and improve yourself, if she comes crawling back then there might be options you can take but right now you need to make her dead to you. Get angry not sad
Been into fitness since I was a kid. Have an awesome father who lifted weights with me when I was young. After high school I really got into it and now three years later I'm packing on decent muscle. Find great passion with strengthening my body. Feels great man. However, social norms are against me and even though I usually say fuck society and social image... it still gets to me. Most people find women with muscles to be unattractive....makes me feel insecure. hurts
>>29069381 >Athlete in highschool, bretty gud, stuff going for me besides that >Top of my shit, terrible social skills, absolute garbage tier. Like one friend who keeps me in the loop >Try out for comp. D1 uni, injure myself horribly in the process. Oneitis that I'd had since I was 14 rejects me after a painfully drawn out process where I acted beta as shit. >"friends" abandon me >Become simultaneously better at females and worse at life in general >Lose my ability, physicality and physique >Become friendless alcoholic with little going for him who fantasizes about suicide on a daily basis
>>29069577 I have in the past, but I suspect it was from the hemorrhoids I gave myself from taking adderall and not drinking water (never do this). Trying to pass an obstinate, baked potato sized shit puts the integrity of one's virgin asshole into jeopardy. If I'd known what would've happened, I would've taken my chances with shoving an immersion blender up my ass to break the poop up. Haven't had any ass blood since then though.
Iktf man. Dated this qt for a week or so, shit is great. Next thing I know I dont see her for a month because all these excuses she makes which sound like bullshit. Believe me, just drop her and if she text you back dont answer it. Move on man, for your sake please take my advice. Any other /fit/izen in the same situation do the same
>tfw lifting for 4 months on cut because fat >lifts go up slightly but still weak as fuck >still fat but decide to bulk because want to be stronk as fuck >lifts barely go up after 2 weeks bulking
they said noobgains and eat more to get stronger. I've lost 130 lbs in the last 2 years constantly cutting so I figured it wouldn't hurt to go on a slight bulk and actually get stronger. Should I be eating more? give it time? stats:27 m 210lbs bench 5x5 120lbs. squat: 5x5 245lbs. deadlift:1x5 230lbs. ohp 5x5 85lbs
>>29069616 Bright. The source was right at the exit. The blood didn't worry me because it was always preceded by a familiar "oops, way too dehydrated for this giant shit I'm taking" feeling. If it was dark or tarry I would've been in the ER immediately
>freshman in uni >qt girl lives on the floor above mine >worked up the balls to knock on her door a few days ago >asked her if she wants to go watch this open mic with me at a coffee shop on campus >"sure let me finish my hw" >have a good time with her, she has a great personality and really is beautiful >a few days later >watching a horror movie in the dorm lounge with a bunch of people >she's obviously flirting with another guy >walking back from the gym earlier tonight >notice her and the guy walking around together >dude's a manlet but has massive confidence >tfw they're probably fucking right now >tfw 19yo kissless virgin >tfw not even ugly or autistic Why do I even try.
>>29069683 absolutely, i'm near failure on a lot of my lifts/last reps/sets. getting 180-200g protein and 3k calories per day. On low carb though, been thinking that might be an issue. Under 100g most days because I did keto for the past year and don't want to go back to a high carb diet. Been looking into targeted or cyclical keto but those seem to be more for actual athletes than noobs like me.
whenever I try to do shit that makes me happy my brain gets filled with "what ifs" its seriously such a shitty mindset, its like im trying to prepare for every single situation when its obviously not fucking possible.
also does anyone else get a feeling of like anxiety randomly and then when you try to think why youve got it it goes away. i swewar my brain is fuking stupid fuck
>>29069381 I'm trying to get back into shape, I'm still very far from my goal but I've made a huge progress so far but damn believing I wasted 6 years getting larger (I'm 26 now) and larger makes me thing about all the QT's that flirted with me and shit when I was at the uni, I still don't know why I let myself grow so much.
My father always warned me when I stopped exercising. He basically told me:
>My family is naturally fat, but we have always being runners so there was no problem.Your mother's family is composed of skinny lazyasses so there was no problem. and here you are a lazy fat ass.
how fucking true that was, how the fuck I let myself go from 179 lbs to 300 lbs (I'm 5'10'') in five years? now I've got not enough time as before so I'm sacrificing my masters degree forcing time to work out. I was 300 lbs in April 2013 and I'm now 253, I changed eating habits a year ago and I stopped losing weight just for that at 271 lbs. so I started hitting the gym a month ago, after a cousin of mine died because of her fatness (she was around 400+ lbs, 32 years old, her heart just fucking gave up) It seems the road ahead is still long and far from where I'm standing. It's fucking depressing, I get why all the fat bitches try to force their acceptance shit, because they won't deal with this, they just want to convince themselves they are happy the way they are, I refuse to accept that fallacy but somtimes I wish I had someone to talk about this, but my insecurities had made me lose ties with all the people that met me the way I was before, and all the people I met recently sees no problem with me, they accept me as I am because that's how they met me, they think this is my normal state and that I can't do nothing to fix it, they won't understand this pain...
>>29069637 Bruh. I know that feel. Was in theatre in highschool and during a dance show we did, this freshman got a super huge crush on me and told me how much she liked me and all this shit. She was pretty cute, was actually a year older than most freshman so i actually thought about, but ultimately decided not to lead her on and do anything. She was a good little religious girl too, didnt even like to cuss. May seem bad, but I would sometimes think about how it would feel to ruin her with sex and drugs.
I actually succeeded with a girl on OKcupid. We went on a first date where we hugged hi and bye and she likes me and is interested in a second date. She's not slutty.. shes smart and funny... basically I don't want to fuck this up by pushing too hard. Whats the goal in the second date? Kiss?
I'm 27 and I've never had a girlfriend (well except a couple of internet relationships but they don't count). I've never even kissed a girl. I've never approached a woman because I don't think I'm good enough. I lie in bed every night and think imagine what it would be like to bury my dick in a girl that I love and loves me. But it's not just sex. I just want someone to love and someone to love me, not just see me as a friend or brotherly figure. As it is, I've given up on ever finding love and live life as if I'll be an old bitter male spinster. Not looking forward to my family asking me why I haven't found a girl when I'm in my 40s and 50s. They probably already think I'm gay.
>>29069785 bro I have seal-level face scarring and even I made it at 30. Just fucking work hard on yourself. Get rid of the fucking flab and work on your hair and clothes. It's VERY achievable and you shouldn't think it's not for you. It's for you. You just have to make it happen.
>>29069656 If your goal is to lose weight, and you are doing that we'll, then don't beat yourself up over strength or muscle. You lost 130lb man, you are the fucking man. Keep going with your weight loss as primary goal until you are happy with the weight you are at, then start your bulk
>>29069770 You are me. Except for the imagining all that romantic stuff. I used to. But I feel so tired of thinking that way that I just stopped. I still feel that I want to be with someone, that I don't want to be lonely anymore. I just tell myself I better get used to being with ME. I don't know if it's truly working but I don't want to be a needy piece of shit if I ever do get the balls to talk to women and the luck to find a decent one.
>>29069408 Just be yourself. That's really all that should happen
>>29069426 Don't know that I'll ever turn from my faith, but just tell them. If they seriously love you they'll understand. They may spend some time trying to answer your doubts, but if you keep level headed with them about it then they'll accept it (assuming they really are devoted to the Christian attitude)
>>29069593 >most people That very heavily depends on who it is. Guys into fitness tend to find fitter girls more attractive. I know I've started noticing more fit girls now that I've gotten into lifting
>>29069656 Make sure you're getting enough protein. Otherwise it just takes time. Looks like your squat is progressing nicely though
>>29069688 Alpha up and ask her on a real date or forget about her
>>29069772 >business owner >posting on 4chan Maybe, lol... You probably just feel like shit for getting called out. Either way, you probably need to grow up. Mexican bitches are easy, especially if you speak the language and own a business. Lemme guess... 450 lbs?
>>29069727 I used to have this a lot. I found the shut off switch for my brain. That little fucker has helped me out a lot, but it has also cost me a lot of opportunities. I don't have any problems locking that shit up for a while if I need to. Just turn it off.
>>29069859 No I'm 155lbs 5'6"" master race, lol. you might not like it Chicano bro. And im not like 100% owner but I sure as hell put the most money in.I will say it's lonely when you choose to have standards in the friends category.
>>29069868 yeh man youre definetly right. what i just hate the most is that i can never seem to calm down my mind if that makes sense. like i always gotta be thinking or doing something i cant just chill and focus on one thing.
>>29069593 you're probs gone but there's this big, strong girl who i mire at my college gym. i think she was benching a bit over 1 plate the other day. i think she's hot as fuck, but i'm also a /fit/izen so take that with a grain of salt. she still has a womanly figure, so as long as you have that going and you don't look like a man, then i'd say you should chin up!
Im a virgin and I feel like complete shit after I cum even after wet dreams. Not emotionally but physically my brain doesnt work right as in I cant think and I get depressed and filled with anxiety in social situations. I also get really heavily fatigued and have trouble convincing myself to do normal and tasks. This clears up about a week after I cum, but unfortunately I tend to go months while feeling like this with small breaks in between. I'm scared guys I really just dont know what to do about it anymore...
I think I might be scared of girls. I finally got tinder, messaged a girl, she was receptive, we set up to meet for dinner tonight, and I blew it off and blocked her because I got nervous/didn't think it'd go right
I'm chubby and I fucking hate it. I started lifting a couple months ago and the only thing I've progressed in significantly is squats. I have made a little progress by lofting but now I look even fatter. What can I do?
>>29069980 Lmao I'm 27btw, ok tough guy, well you don't understand someone trying to better themselves in the world of finance requires sacrifice. I don't know where the hell your girlfriend comes from I bet she's Dark. Also, maybe your white friends think less of you cause you can't get a girl your own race.
>>29070131 You think you've snagged a hot piece of ass lol you probably scrapped the bottom of the barrel . Funny that I know A proper Grade A Latina would not go for you over another Latin guy 100% unless she is using you.
>>29070258 Women generally like men who are already committed. I'm not even kidding or trying to be a sexist pig, it's be true through and through IME. When I'm single I get lolnopussy. When I'm in a relationship (and the girls know it) I get gals propositioning me left and right.
I think it has something to do with wanting something they can't have (same reason why drug use is worse during prohibition) and the assumption that the man in a relationship is capable of committing in some capacity.
>>29069755 Don't make it a goal. It will be all you have on your mind for the whole date, which will make you fuck it up. Be calm, have a good time, and if a kiss is in order at the end of the date, then it will happen. Kisses and fucks are not goals, but rewards.
>tfw go out to the mall with parents, some some time with them >head to food court for some food >decide to have a burger, havnt had on in months >2 grills in front of me one fat, the other a 7/10 >standing in the back waiting for food, just looking around waiting. >eyes end up my mom whos turned around and then shouts "GET CLOSER" parents always fucking do this shit, they think it's not weird to chat up strangers anywhere anytime. I get if you're at a club but fuck their 80s mentality
You think you have a connection with them until a year and a half has passed. The relationship gradually slips into domesticity. Then you attempt to live with them and realize they're unbearable but still have feelings for them. Then you realize a LDR isn't worth the hassle but you don't want to deal with the break up more or less.
>20 >about to start 3rd year in college, can graduate this year if I do all my classes >0 friends and social skills >get my first job as cashier during summer >get D+ in summer physiology class because poor time management with work and not even interested in major >feeling extremely overwhelmed already when school begins at all the work >have to take the MCAT after they make it harder this year because shitty planning >going to quit my job despite working less than 90 days >wasting time in college because no interest or effort made in class material and no networking or research or extracurriculars
i'm turning 24 in a month, kissless, handholdness, creepy guy who's 5'10'' and 230 lbs. can't grow a beard. i fucking suck at lifting (can barely rep 2 pl8 on bench, can't do deadlift or squat since i fucked up my right knee on a hike).
I've got no friends. It's homecoming week and all I can do is scroll down my facebook page and look at all the people out having the time of their life making memories, while I sit here looking at bootleg snapchat pictures. How do you make new friends without it being super fucking awkward?
>tfw my gf's ignoring my texts again I should end it because she's at uni and we hardly see each other any more and I get way more negativity than positivity out of this. I'm paranoid she's cheating on me cos there's no way I would find out unless she told me but I don't wanna end it because I really love her
>>29070283 it's because being in a relationship indicates that another girl has found something in you worth committing to, meaning that you have something that other girls will find worth to commit to.
>meet girl in psych ward >try to avoid her >she latches onto me >fall for her hard >she becomes bright spot of my existence >we move apart after discharge (5 hours distance) >she grows distant >I act bipolar and clingy >she grows more distant >she tries to kill herself via overdose last week >haven't heard anything in 8 days
She's goooooooooooone forever man
>tfw ready to kill myself again >tfw only thing that made me happy >tfw planning to slit throat as soon as I pull 600
>>29070647 it's not designed for people who are failures at life. it's for people who have achieved something, then feel the need to compensate for it by changing their attitude to a more "ideal" one despite the fact that your attitude got you there in the first place.
an example would be acting normal and getting a date with a really qt gril, then feeling you need to impress her on the date so you rock up in a leather jacket and shit, act like a dickhead and all of that, when you copped the date in the first place by being yourself.
I got aesthetic and all the chicks I work with want my dick and I know it'd be stupid to shit where I eat
> tfw you work for a dispensary in Colorado > tfw all the "bud tenders" are hot chicks > tfw you are the head-grower so they all think you're god > tfw fucking any of them would be unprofessional > tfw I dated the GM of the dispensary Dr 2 yrs before we both started working here and everyone knows so they want my D even more since shes the hottest of them all
Yet I can't meet women outside of work cuz I do 60 hrs a week... and spend the rest of my time lifting, needing my introvert wind-down-time to browse the net, and sleeping
>>29070674 this guy's kinda right, why people say just be yourself is to remind you that she's just a person, and so are you, you're either going to like each other or not, its not a performance thing, just go in there and be yourself, and then if she doesn't like you, than fuck her, it wasn't gonna work in the long run anyway.
Really, the only time the whole being yourself thing isn't the right answer is when you just wanna fuck the chick.
>>29070707 because it is used a lot, taught in schools under muh self esteem bubblewrap pack and is perceived as a lot nicer to say. Funnily enough, telling someone to not change despite the fact that whatever they're doing is clearly not working for them and is causing anguish is seen as nicer than telling them to stop doing what they're doing, and change to improve.
>tfw I don't know if I have Klinefelter's Syndrome or a hormonal imbalance >tfw gains in the gym aren't too great. >tfw doctor has told me my bloodwork is fine but my body is shaped so differently than other males (I store my fat predominantly in inner thighs and butt). >tfw idk how to feel
The dude I had sort of feels for told me he met a girl he really likes and is keen to see where it goes with them. I knew this was coming and that I'd blown my chance with him because I am crazy bitch, but it still feels like a little kick in the gut. I need to know how accept this and move on.
Also feel like my weight loss progress isn't going fast enough despite the scales telling me I'd lost another kg. I'm worried I'm training wrong too, by not having some fancy routine like everyone else seems to have. I go in, do the lifts I like (basically SS with some other shit), and do cardio twice a week on off days.
Worried my life is going nowhere and that I'll end up alone.
then the best way to get good at jumping is by jumping. honestly squats have done shit for my vertical, but i never got up to 2x bw either. maybe there's a magic number to hit where after that you get nigger hops
>>29070770 Okay, I never said that. What that other anon said was an assumption. It could e true, or not but to post it purposely for the intent of making that other anon possibly insecure about his situation I feel is uncalled for. It wasn't the truth but I do get your point. This is why I prefer 4chan over reddit. I hope you get what I'm saying
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