how have you improved yourself this week/month/year? (preferably outside of lifting)
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Things you should be doing:
-Put actual effort in to your diet
-Clean your room / house at least once a week, don't live in a pigsty
-Do daily, simple, effective things (Brushing your teeth, flossing, making your bed)
-Learn to play an instrument (imagine having 10 years experience playing the piano when you're 30)
-Read every day
-Wake up at the same time every day (and get at least 8 hours of sleep)
-Have a morning routine-Learn a second (or third) language (duolingo.com)
-Stretch every day to become more flexible (http://www.reddit.com/r/flexibility/comments/28anxp/welcome_to_our_first_ever_30days_toetouching/)
-Taking good care of your skin (http://np.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/wiki/beginners)
-Meditate 10 minutes per day
-Make good long term decisions (getting braces, stopping smoking, losing weight)
-Make small goals with the “7 days to live” mentality and accomplish them in 7 days
"Live your life like you're being followed by a camera crew that are making a documentary about you"
If you have any additions or remarks to the lists above, feel free to post them
Why should I learn to play an instrument? Why should I wake up the same time everday? Why should I read everyday? Why should I learn a third language? Why should I stop cursing?
I'm new to this thing.
I recently started showering everyday again, actually managed to stick to it for three days. Brushing teeth, washing face everyday too.
But I have one of those shitty 5-blade razors and shaving feels like a massive chore. Should I get something else or just keep using this one?
Can't concentrate hard enough to meditate, it's like the internet ate away my attention span. How do I get better at concentrating
Oh and here's a decent link:
I stopped my endless bulk, and have switched to a diet of mostly brown rice and chicken. It's boring but my total has gone up 40 pounds while dropping 10 pounds of weight. I started learning with my roommate's guitar, he recommended I try the bass instead due to the size of my hands, so I may pick that up. I am currently ahead on my homework, and making sure I master the material of each class before I go to it again.
Fun, mastery, discipline
Routine, discipline, habit. Consistent sleep schedule is good for circadian rhythm. Also if you sleep in one day you might not get to bed on time to wake up early the next
People who learn a second or third language live longer. I don't have a source my prof told me that
I disagree with this. Cursing has been shown to make you sound more trustworthy. Also in my personal experience, cursing while you tell a joke gets a much better laugh
Most fedora tipping post on 4chan.
>"Live your life like you're being followed by a camera crew that are making a documentary about you"
-learn how to speak whit diferent kind of people
-learn to speak in public
-learn how to make a speech
-do not discriminate people
-when you feel you are done think if you are really done (you usually know if you can or you can´t do something)
-dont accept less of your potencial
-take care of yourself (see a dotor at less twice a week)
-learn gramar (it helps a lot in some cases)
-cardio 2 times a week (get yourself a healthy heart )
-do not waste time
-while washing your teeths remember to brush your tonge
-brush your teeths
-remember to brush your teehts
-DO NOT USE EXCUSES
-learn to tell truth on a decent way (example: "dude she is a whore" "she likes to date whit more than one at a time")
-spend less than an hour in 4chan
-answer text mails mesages and calls
-don´t make others feel bad
-don´t let others make you feel bad
-don´t get on a fight if you still can talk
-bad days are unavoidable bad reactions can be avoided
-bros help other bros
-not everyone will be your friend, but they deserve a chance to be it
-take it easy
-make a playlist
-being ashamed is normal on some situations
-sucessfull people can go beyond of their fears (but dont try to go beyond your fear to die, it cant hurt you ... a lot :( )
-older people give good advice
-work on your dreams
-work harder in yourself (not only fisical but mental)
I recently went to see a doctor about my binge eating and now he wants to do blood tests as he thinks it's probably a symptom of on-running depression. It's going to be another few weeks before I start getting meds though. Any advice on how to control binge eating urges in the meantime? Having taken measures to change my outlook, I feel a little better and want to capitalise on it, perhaps even lose the weight I gained during my binge (about 5kg).
So I still need to get contacts, get my teeth fixed, see if anything can be done about my big upper lip and then I think I might be happy with my face.
The only thing I can't fix is my height. At least I'm losing weight.
since february i:
-started going to the gym regularly, i've been told i made some nice progress
-read a good few books
-quit smoking (so fucking proud, you guys)
-been spending more time on my hobby and less on staring at a wall or sleeping
-changed my diet to a nice cut and it's working
-started going everywhere by bike
-i drink much, much less, i don't really get sad drunk any more
-became a better scout in team fortress 2. probably should have kept that one to myself.
so yeah, surprisingly enough, i did improve myself quite a bit.
I should have been more specific. I have a pretty specific disease that fucks me up. Doesnt matter how much i sleep my brain wont shut down. Everytime i get in a deep sleep state i see weird stuff that scares the crap out of me and makes me wake up.
Not nightmares because im not asleep. Im still up but close to sleeping. Y'know what im talking about. So everytime i sleep im still active. Its funny tho because it makes cutting easier
You shouldn't unless you enjoy them. There are only a few things on that list everyone should be doing, regardless of whether they enjoy them or not. Learning an instrument and thins like that just to 'improve yourself' is really silly if you don't actually like doing it.
-wash your face before to go sleep (goodbay cist)
-slice a onion get it on a glass whit water put in your room when you are going to sleep (good bay stuffy nose)
-if you work standing in the day sleep whit no pillow and whit tour back flat on the bed (next day you will be like you were reborn)
-do not eat from 1 to 2 hours before to go sleep ... you can get nightmares and indigestion
-if cant sleep take a hot shower, dry your body and hair and go to bed (while still warm) you fall sleep like you were knocked out by muhamad ali
-try your bed as your soul no dirty thing on it, no clothes or disorder on it, keep it as clean as you can
I'm saving this shit, my sleep schedule is completely fucked and it's holding me back from being a good worker, getting to the gym, and having a good sex life. This weekend I completely skipped a night of sleep, I woke up at 7 PM yesterday.
I started talking to more people, being more social.
I've been trying to get into more student organizations on campus.
I've also been playing more video games than posting on 4chan of late which is good.
Lets see I've downloaded a daw and learning how to use it so i can make some music
Gonna start Keto tomorrow
also will try Minimalism with things like my workouts/food/room etc. hopefully should help stop my case of adhd.
meditation starting at 10mins.
get a job thats not mcdonalds :(
Routine is gonna be
wakeup at 5:30
Look at my goals
i have 100 mb of self improvement general
let´s bring the pasta to this thread
I'm 25 going on 26 and stuttering has plagued me my whole life. I dropped out of college after high school due to failing a mandatory speech course (not mandatory for me specifically it's for everyone) and becoming depressed because of that. Was a NEET for around two years after. Going to a tech school now while working and things are looking good but the massive MASSIVE social anxiety is there due to my suttering.
Help me /fit/. I hate stuttering. Not even a bad looking dude, have close friends too. But in order to really succeed in the world you need presence. A voice people respect in order to excel in leadership positions. I don't have that because in high stress environments I stutter hard. Please, someone here has to know the feeling.
>shave your beard
>cut your hair
>wash more, don't touch your face so much, eat healthier, get some clearasil, change your sheets every week, shower before bed
>you're on /fit/. sticky. self-explanatory.
>only managed to keep showering for 3 days? wtf how is this even an issue? shower every day even if you don't think you need it. shower after working out or right before bed if you don't exercise that day.
Jesus fuck kid, why are you being such a coward? srs, I'll wait for replies.
/fit/ unofficial self improvement FAQ
Q. What is the formula for success?
1. Pick a goal
2. Take action
3. Make it consistent
Some examples …
Goal: gain 20 lbs of muscles
Corrective action: follow a push/pull/leg routine, progressively lift heavier weights
Consistency: lift 3 times a week and eat enough food
Goal: get a girlfriend
Corrective action: approach women, get phone numbers, ask her out
Consistency: go out 3 times a week and approach women / or go on dates
Goal: have $5000 in the bank
Corrective action: save $300 from every paycheck
Consistency: save 16 pay checks to get $5000
Q. What causes failure?
1. Distractions (idle gossip, TV , video games, toxic friends)
2. Negative emotions: (fear, anxiety, guilt, low confidence)
3. Inaction – not sure what to do …
People fear failure due to negative emotions. So they dive into distractions, which leads to inaction.
Q. I’m on my journey to self improvement. But what will my friends think of me?
There is old saying that goes – a young man cares what other people thinks. A middle age man doesn’t care what other people think. An old man realize that other people didn’t care about him in the first place.
How to start? Here’s the action list …
At the bare minimum, do this:
1. Get rid of everything that doesn’t support your journey to enlightenment. Ditch your loser friends. Completely stop consuming TV and video games.
2. Strive to exercise 4 times a week (ideally, lifting weights)
3. Read a book for 1 hour every day.
4. Meditate for 20 minutes every day.
5. Get your finance in order (save and invest your money)
6. Work harder at your career (upgrade your skills, take more relevant courses) or start a side business.
7. Have interesting (and productive) hobbies – martial arts, picking up women, traveling, survival skills, markmanship.
I have one of those shitty multi-blade razors, it irritates my skin and causes acne, and straight razors cost too much.
My hair's messy because I haven't showered but for some reason I don't like showering. I used to do it everyday, I don't know why I stopped.
thanks for the advice
eh you're right I don't know why I'd actually complain about physical fitness-related problems when I'm on /fit/
When you stop going out and meeting people during the holidays, showering feels strange
I don't know why
Even if the answer to everything ever is just "stop being a lazy shit"
something feels different during holidays
In conclusion – get going, because your life starts today
Ever see an old man at the park, staring at the pond, contemplating? He’s looking back at his youth, pondering about the things he’s done, before the death reaper snatches his body and soul, collapsing his body into an inanimate heap.
A youth walks by, looking at the old man. However, the youth forgets that his destiny is the same as the old man. Alas, old age seems to be decades from now, in some vague distant future.
Nothing is further from the truth.
You will become an old fuck before you know it, living life full of regrets. Don’t let this be you. Guard your time wisely. Have the courage to pursue your dream. Don’t shrink at fear. Do not coward at setbacks. Have the resolve to walk the narrow path, and become your ideal self.
The journey is long and hard. At times you’ll doubt yourself. But once you reached the summit, you’ll look back at your journey. It will be the most amazing adventure you’ll ever have.
Once it’s said and done, you’ll bask in your own glory, enjoying the fruits of your own work. The sheeps near the foot of the mountain, will crane their necks, looking upward at your enlightened being. The higher conscious sheep will look at you for aspiration. The lower conscious sheep will bahhh and maaaa at you, telling you to get the fuck off the summit. “What do you think you are, some special nigga?” they baaaa in unison.
But you smile inside, because you know you deserved it. Your effort, your courage and your resolved paid off.
Your time has come. Your great journey starts today.
schick 5blade vibrating. fuck yeah, shit's legit. obviously you'll need to trim it short enough. Hell, get yourself to a barbershop and spend the $30 for a full shave and a decent haircut. Then get a decent 4-5 blade and shave at minimum every other day, or else it'll start to get too long.
As for showering, as with a multitude of other things for your entire life, you gotta do it whether you like it or not. Just deal with it, life isn't always what you want.
"holidays"? You mean weekends? If so, bite the bullet. Or get out of the house to force yourself to have to be clean. Hell, I guarantee you'll feel better when you're clean and being productive. I too feel like hell and depressed and shitty when I spend the weekend on the couch or whatnot, write out a to-do list of stuff and feel accomplished. it'll do wonders.
yeah if you shave regularly it's actually easier because you have less to shave
it's too long right now
I mean holidays. Uni hasn't started yet over here. And I'm taking a gap year and trying to find work experience anyway.
>write out a to-do list of stuff and feel accomplished. it'll do wonders.
Thank you, I'll try.
well either get it trimmed or remove it. depending on the line of work you're looking towards, you'll have a better chance 95% of the time being clean shaven. it might suck, but that's the price you pay for earning a living.
Oh like summer break. Gotcha. Shit man, it's just down to discipline. "get off your lazy ass" is true, no matter how generic or lame it is. Live it up some, once you join the workforce there's no such thing as summer, but also don't be a basement dweller.
It's all in your mind man. You just gotta want it more. You can want and wish you did anything, but it boils down to wanting to do something more than you don't want to do it.
Let me leave you with this vid, ignore the dumb program they're trying to sell you, it's the message in the speech that matters.
I gotta go, gotta get ready for work tomorrow. Best of luck in your endeavors.
I don't know, OP. Just today I was sitting on my ass playing video games and eating doritos in my trainwreck of a living space, and I conked out on my jizz-stained bed without brushing my teeth or anything. I was supposed to practice clarinet and read a book about self improvement that night, but whatever. I fell asleep at 2am and woke up at 9:30am and rushed to uni before realizing I slept right through my Spanish class. I threw myself to the ground in pathetic agony and sprained my neck. As my face hit the concrete all of my disgusting blemishes popped, leaving my face soaked in pus and tears. I really didn't feel like meditating now. Fuck. I then chain smoked a pack of cigarettes to calm my nerves. This is it, I thought, today I am going to kill myself. I eventually decided to cheer myself up by masturbating in front of parking lot security cameras. It was a pretty killer day.
best excuse i've heard is that it short-circuits your thinking. instead of figuring out how you feel, or how you want to respond, you just use your default curse word, and move on.
basically. half of the pasta shit is from 50-year-old fedora concepts that would be utterly fucking dismissed if they actually posted the context that they should come with.
>buy a house instead of renting
no fuck you, do the actual math and figure out if you expect to make money
>wash your hair every day
no, figure out your hair type (how oily is it naturally), because excessive washing can make your scalp produce even more oil to compensate
>Buy DVDs in bulk and burn all your files to them
DVDs start degrading after 10 years, stick with mechanical hard drives
>Put 1 dollar aside for lottery tickets every month.
fuck you this is why you're poor
fuck i have better things to do
I'm trying to pick existentialism as a way of self-improvement, any recommendations/stories/whatever?
I'm currently reading Thus Spoke Zarathustra, I like Nietzsche's idea of the Übermensch
I'm stuck at home with parents I hate at 18 because full time comunity collage, and need advice on the steps to get out. I'm going to get PT certs and a GED by next summer and look for jobs in the fitness industry, but what can I do in the mean time? Fast food job?
read up on renaissance Italy's perception of the universal man, its more offers more of a holistic view of self improvement than Nietzsche.
Honestly all these threads can be condensed into:
>mind (study and read)
>body (lift, run, stretch)
>soul (meditate, sleep)
If you're reading pua bullshit, or how to self improve, you're a fucking idiot and have already failed. Aside from how to win friends and influence people, its pointless and pathetic.
If you're reading dumb shit like art of war, you're an idiot. Read something to do with current affairs that you actually learn from.
And to end it off, don't read fiction. It doesn't challenge you or make you improve yourself. Its better than watching tv but thats about it.
How old are you? Nietzsche is good but don't fall into the trap of actually living how he thinks someone should live. His entire message is 'think for yourself', but for a beginner it's very hard and an existential crisis is almost inevitable. Although I think every remotely intellectual person goes through one at some point, Nietzsche is especially dangerous because he dictates that basically any ambition you have other than living completely alone and becoming the overman is conceding yourself as part of the 'herd'.
>have interesting hobbies (...) picking up women
>so anon tell me about yourself
>um I followed an anonymous text on a thai cardboard agora and now I try hard to fuck every woman I know, it really made me feel a better person!
You're a fucking idiot. Nietzche offers a perception of the perfect man, and OP asked for similar views.
The renaissance was the first time society came up with the concrete concept of what a man should be, it formed the idea of the universal man. That's why I pointed it out to him.
Anyways OP it can be summarized as
>be well read
>be well traveled
eat a dick
I don't know about the renaissance and the works of that era, I will search for it, thanks.
And I read books on PUA a long time ago, now I'm past that stage.
I'm 18, and yea, I was starting to consider the idea of living alone and becoming the Übermensch, but I will consider what you're saying.
Can you elaborate? I make it a point to not rush, when I go for leisurely bike rides I go down the streets marked "no outlet", knowing I will have to turn around. The old man at the park is enjoying the present, not looking back. He welcomes the reaper because he has lived his life. As long as time is spent doing what you want to do, I don't think it's a waste. Idk, I guess what really threw me off was the old man introduction and the sense of urgency in your post. Life isn't a race, improve everyday and reach your goals.
I've seen this before and it confuses me. Can you try to give an honest analysis on why that is? Do you have no motivation, think its wrong, what exactly? People at work always talk motivationally about pursuing their dreams, and then in the same breath talk about how much they hate their job. I always try to point out the contradiction but it never sinks in.
I'm scared of making moves, I also have no one to talk to and I don't feel comfortable with a psychiatrist
I don't really have friends and can't land job interviews.
I've read the flinch and when I bring in me resume I notice the stuff they talk about, I always bring in my resume but because I'm so nervous when I do I already fuck it up then are there
you're overthinking it
someone posted before about the difference between a young man, a middle-aged man, and an old man
the young man cares what others think about him, the middle-aged man doesn't care what others think about him, the old man realizes no one cares about him anyway
it's really not. it's the exact opposite, really
it's freeing. no one cares about you or what you do. just do whatever the fuck you want. people will talk shit about you but they don't really give a fuck.
think about the people you talk shit about. do you really care about those people? whether they were arrested for child porn or they suddenly became super successful amazing people, you'd just shrug and move on with your life. they're an afterthought
so do whatever you want. what's really stopping you?
Why doesn't anyone add something pickup-related to this list? I'll admit it's a bit creepy to obsess over it, but it's not hard to stop and talk to five or ten women over a weekend and go for a phone number/date, and it will improve your love life immensely. Or do you guys only like self improvement when it's practised alone in your basement, without any fear of failure or rejection?
So I started hardcore self development after hitting a real bad low earlier this year. Since then I've improved my grades, study habits, gained 10lb of muscle, lost virginity, got a girlfriend, learned bass, learned the basics to investing and got a pretty 'cool' job for my age (casino dealer). But even looking back on all of these accomplishments and the daily habits that I have implemented to achieve these I'm kind of.. disappointed.
I'm proud of myself for doing all of this but I've sacrificed videogames with friends, watching cartoons/television and in a way - the way to relate to others who have normal interests and the feeling of being blissfully ignorant and happy. I think it's just me realizing that going on this developmental endeavor has left me ultimately alone (besides with my girlfriend). Is this a part of growing up? Losing a large network of friends to focus on other things. Or is it a by-product of the choice of lifestyle I have focused on for these past 6 or so months.
As of recent these thoughts have kept crossing my mind.
I used to work as a casino dealer. That work takes away, pretty good income from tips though.
Back to your question. It's both. I like to think of it as "filter" good, close friends stay, rest is out. Having such a job doesnt help either since (at least in my case) it started at 6-8pm (10-12 hour shifts) so the only friends i had contact with were my coworkers.
Don't worry about it anon, good luck to you. It's all natural and i think you're doing great. If you found a good girl then she's defintiely gonna be a good friend to you too.
>Can't concentrate hard enough to meditate, it's like the internet ate away my attention span. How do I get better at concentrating
It's something you practice
It's always hard to concentrate the first few minutes. If you stick to it for at least 10 minutes and keep trying to draw your focus back to your breath (or whatever else you chose when doing mindfulness), your mind will quiet
They have put models by Mark Manson on the approved reading list. It's considered one of the prime books in regard to developing your ability to communicate and interact succesfully with women. Read it.
Sounds like night terrors/sleep paralysis. Those effects will just perpetuate themselves with consistent lack of sleep, so I recommend asking a doctor to prescribe you something.
You're addicted to 4chan. Go for a walk. Lock yourself up in a library/get on a train and force yourself to concentrate on a book for longer periods of time.
Then I really don't understand what you're going for. Of course your supposed to put it into practice; that's the whole point. What do you want, a book that makes you theoretically succesful with women?
More reading material needs to be added
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
If blogs are included, then:
Art of Manliness
I have better lists.
Things you should be doing:
-What you are passionate about.
Things you should absolutely not be doing:
-Reading or learning a language or playing an instrument etc. because it "improves" you and not because you actually find it interesting and enjoyable.
-Basing your lifestyle on what random idiots watching an imaginary documentary about you might think.
>Do things you're passionate about
This implies that passion is not cultivated, and it is innate. When that's not the case, just because you love something, doesn't mean you love doing it, or have passion to do it.
Passion is cultivated.
You shouldn't learn to play an instrument, you shouldn't wake up the same time erryday, you shouldn't read erryday, you shouldn't learn a third language, and you shouldn't stop cursing.
You should just lift, make money, and fuck every married woman you can, while her husband is doing all of those beta things.
There's no such thing as cultivating passion. You can't create passion -- passion comes when IT wants to, not when you want it to. Pouring time and energy into something you find boring in the hopes that you'll eventually become passionate about it is a great way to end up hating yourself.
>renting not buying
Have fun forking out a lot of money over the course of your life to have shelter over your head, for you to come out the other end with no shelter to your name.
Renting has to be one of the worst things. You don't own the house, you might be forced to move, you can't completely make it your own because it's not yours.
Long-term renting is dumb, just buy a fucking house.
Have some research.
Distill that down and what do you get?
It's not about doing something you love, it's about loving what you do. Adopt a craftman's mindset, do you think making chairs/tables/cupboards as a wood worker and carpenter would be fun?
That sawing, the shaving, the sanding, the finishing, and everything in between cause I know fuck all about wood work. It's pretty mundane, arduous, boring shite. Yet a craftsman loves it, why?
Because he's mastered it, because he has autonomy,because he gets feedback, because variety (no chair, no table, is the same). How does he achieve mastery? By putting in his love, how does he obtain autonomy? Well, that comes from mastery. Feedback? He asks for it. So on.
Look, I'm not demeaning what youre saying. Some people love crafting, some find it boring - but "following your passion" is some dangerous advice.
However, you're telling me you cannot cultivate passion - and I won't have a bar of it. Do your homework.
I need a gymbro to guide this skeleton through the wonderful world of lifting. I've been doing my own stuff at home, but finally got a gym membership since I have a job now. Guess I'll start by asking someone to spot me.
every single thread you guys show up
you know how I know you're full of shit?
people who are actually proficient in multiple languages understand their limitations and don't go around bragging about something so ephemeral as 'speaking a language'
I dont understand why is it "so good" to know that many languages
anyone serious talks english and in most situations, it is the only language you really need to communicate
besides that, I'd really like to understand why people want to learn more than their natal language + english
>I know you're full of shit
Whatever m8, you're the one acting as if it's a big deal. I clearly said that it's nothing special and it just happened. I'm not even interested in learning languages, I think it's a waste of time (except for learning enish). That time can be better spent to study math/physics/chemistry.
Depends what you want out of life...
I generally agree, but on the other hand I was bored with my old job and so I learned Chinese, now I have a much better job involving the language, thinking of getting a PhD involving the language, and I fucked a lot of Chinese girls (not that attractive but sometimes the sex was crazy). Worked out well for me.
But yeah, for 98% of the people here you need to know your native language and English and beyond that, languages are just a weird hobby.
> nothing special
> just happened
see that's just it. if I claimed that I could squat 4pl8 and said "nbd guys, it just kinda happened" everybody would know I'm full of shit.
sure, maybe I put 4pl8 on the bar, but if it's not something I've worked hard on there's no way I'm doing full rom squats with good form
When I need to study I write down my goal and time limit it; say 5 pages of my maths book by 9 p.m. Making goals time-constrained puts the fear of failure into you. If you don't time-constrain them you can reason that you'll do it later and haven't technically failed
In 4 years I have taught myself to code. I started off with "Hello, World!" and ended up writing a few games.
If anyone is thinking bout taking up a challenge I would really recommend programming because it doesn't take a lot of commitment.
>Lost 27 lbs since late May
>Started teaching myself chinese over the summer, put on hold to spend more time preparing for the MCAT
>on a sleep schedule, feels fucking great
>started lifting yesterday, feel sore but otherwise good
>stopped listening to sad music as often as I did
Goals for the next 6 months:
>Get a 4.0 this semester
>Get at least a 28 on the MCAT
>cut down to 175ish lbs (~28 lbs)
>cut down on video game playing
It horrified me when I checked my playtimes on steam that across all games in the past 1 year and 4 months I had logged over 2,000 hours (roughly 4 hrs/day).
future plans for improvement
Sleep routine. Things that work for me:
1. Enough physical activity during the day. Cold room at night. Cannot be hot if I want to sleep well.
2. Flux installed on all electronics.
3. Avoidance of general bright lights after sundown
4. If stressed, mindfulness meditation in bed
5. If unable to sleep, some combination of:
- Diphenhydramine 25mg
- Melatonin 5mg Extended Release
- Phenibut 500mg for the knockout blow
Lastly, if I truly can't sleep one night, I simply accept it. I used to get really stressed, anxious, angry if I was unable to sleep. Now, I just get up and eat or do some activity. I've found that this improved my overall quality of life. A few hours of missed sleep here or there doesn't do much in the long run, at least for me.
> Took the bar exam, waiting on results
> Teaching myself Russian; two years in, I can do it pretty well, just can't speak fluently, so planning a long immersion trip once I have the money
> Making an effort to reach out more to people, both for networking and for more social life
> Working with a pair of friends to design business plan for a brewery; if we all live frugally for the next few years, we should be able to pull it off without serious debt
> Bonus points in that I was an engineer before becoming a law student, meaning that if I do all the engineer's work in the brewery I can sit for the PE exam for even more credentials
> Put in application with patent office; if I receive this job, after two years I can telecommute 100% of the time, meaning I'll have the time and freedom to build successful brewery, or to travel if those plans fall through
> Have begun to really enjoy reading nonfiction in my spare time
> Meditating at lunch erry day
> In the last two years, have worn fedora only on Halloween plus one 20's theme party
> Realizing just how much time there is to get shit done when you wake up at 5 and restrict vidya games to saturdays only
> Plans all on hold while recovering from pilonodal cystectomy. Seriously /fit/brahs, do not put it off, even to study for the bar, the cyst and the necessary operation only become worse over time, butthurt destroys gains and makes you browse 4chan during the day
How do you deal with letting go grudges on someone? I have had bad moments with some people,
for example an ex cheating on me,
dad didnt care about me
and all I can feel about them is despise, anger, disgust and sometimes even rage for ruining some of the little nice things in my life
Recently I read someone over here, saying: gee, you dont have to forgive them, but you just gotta let that go, don't let that shit ruin your life, or hold you back....
meh I dunno.. I feel confused, I feel like letting them have it their ways turns me into a complete manipulable dummy, but I dont want either to have those feelings holding me back
wat do :(
Things I do:
- Exercise 4 times a week
- Good diet
- Clean flat
- Brush teeth, floss, mouthwash, dentist every 6 months
- Muay Thai twice a week
- Read every day
- Wake up at the same time every day
- Have a morning routine
- Stretch 4 times a week
- Curse (everybody can suck my dick)
- Stopped smoking
- Curse (suck my hairy bollocks)
:D :D :D
jelly mirin. love my iphone but dont wanna go through the hassle of jailbreaking to get it installed, only device i just try to generally avoid using after dark.
i set goals and work towards them. in fact, you could say my whole life is really working towards a series of different goals. i get so wrapped up in them (as they define me), i honestly dont have the time or the care to bother considering other people who have wronged me. if i dwell on it, sure, it makes me angry - but what does that do for me and my progression towards said goals? nothing. so i re-focus on the task at hand.
my two cents anyways
Get a Nexus 5 now or in the next couple months. With the new one coming out soon, deals are coming out for it. I have a Nexus 5, it's an absolutely fantastic phone. Doesn't require a contract with it, can be used with any (I think, I know it's not attached to any single carrier) carrier, and you can get a 16gig brand new one for a little over $300
I had a hard time with that too. Spent a few years hating a handful of people over some drama and cheating. I'd see them around, or just randomly think of them, and it would all come back as fresh as ever.
What I eventually realized was that doing that gave them power over me. I was acting and thinking like a child - why should anyone be able to ruin my whole day just by existing? It's not their fault, it's mine. Their actions are their own, but if I choose to react by letting myself be pointlessly angry, that's my loss, and it's certainly not going to change the past or improve my future.
So my ex cheated. So what? It's done. Hell, the guy didn't even know she was taken at the time. Why should I be mad at him? Why should I feel like he owes me an apology? If anything, I should buy him a beer; the only reason I knew she'd cheated was because he bragged to a mutual friend about it.
Roll your eyes at it, mutter angrily for a second or two, and then let it go so you can focus on whatever you meant to be doing.
30 isn't what you should be aiming for anymore... Most American MD schools are looking for 30 minimum.
>dat dere 35 reporting
>residency in a couple months oh god shoot me
Trying to read philosophy, but it really isn't a good topic to read when you're just starting.
Tomorrow I'll receive my copies of The Stranger and The Brothers Karamazov. So I'll probably read those first.
Try ~2000mg of fish oil right before bed. I'm serious here, just try it and see if it works for you. That shit was magic for me.
I think maybe he's defining "no big deal" as, "no adversity", rather than "no effort required".
For example, I had essentially no adversity getting to a 4pl8 squat. I went to the gym, did my training, slept right, ate right, and it happened according to plan. No "effort" outside of the baseline amount was required.
Now that I'm moving from 4 to 5pl8, I have encountered adversity in the way of needing additional mobility work and cleaning up form to deal with some elbow pain during squatting.
So what anon might mean is that is wasn't a big deal because he just did it. No setbacks, trying times, it just happened. That's how it seems to go when one finds something they're good at, up to a certain point.
Enjoy being uncomfortable because you're so worried about other people's impressions of you. Anybody in life worth impressing isn't going to rule you out based on what you're wearing. A guy in tatters who knows his shit and is willing to work for what he wants will always be picked over a slick-looking bullshitter. The idea that the clothes make the man is dead except in pop culture and the self-help world.
Fuck that shit anon. I had to go through the whole thing, laid on my stomach for a month with this horrible vacuum bandage apparatus that made loud fart-esque noises at random. I feel your pain. Immediately got laser hair removal after that experience and I keep that whole area squeaky clean these days.
I usually read two books at a time, one fiction and one nonfiction. Whichever I feel like at any given moment. Right now, I'm reading the Witcher novels and American Lion, the Andrew Jackson biography. Before that, I was reading the Vorkosigan saga and the Mitrokhin Archive. Before that, the new Dresden Files book and A Brief History of Time.
do you understand what 1/10^9 looks like? it's putting a dollar into the trash and having it dropped back into your lap within a day. it's the probability that all of our knowledge of the moon is wrong, and the entire thing is made out of green cheese. it is an unimaginably tiny fucking number.
and 0% probability does not actually occur in real life. if the universe is infinite, there is an exact duplicate of you located 10^(10^29) meters away, because matter only has a finite number of configurations. consider that before babby's first math teacher tells you something is "infinitely" more likely than anything.
Forgot to add reviews and recs:
None of those fiction books are particularly deep, but they're all a ton of fun to read. Good page-turners. American Lion is very well-written, almost like an old novel, so it's easy to follow along, much less dry than history books can sometimes be. The Mitrokhin Archive is much more dryly written and hard to follow at times, especially if you aren't familiar with Russian names. I had to reread some parts to really get them just because it's hard to know who is who, but the details are really interesting once you get used to it. A Brief History of time is not going to have any surprises if you passed basic physics classes in college, but it does break down a lot of very complicated concepts in an accessible way. Quick review for anyone with the knowledge, and a good first look for anyone else.
Damn, that sucks. I got a 32gig white Nexus 5, absolutely amazing. Only issue is the battery life, so I got an extended battery case for it, now I can easily go two or more full days of constant use with everything eternally turned on (bluetooth, gps, etc)
That's what I meant. A 30 won't get you anywhere spectacular, but it makes you a legitimate applicant. Props on your residency man, Zyzz be with you.
I'd like to recommend adding "How to Read a Book" by Mortimer J. Adler to the reading list. It's a phenomenal resource for extracting all you can from important books. In addition, it constantly references all the "Must-reads" during its arguments.
>Elon Musk, founder of Paypal that revolutionize e-commerence, he also found Tesla, taking the multi-billion dollar industry heads on, he also found Space X, his plan his to build rockets and colonized mars, he is the chair man of Solar City, to completely make Earth run on 100 percent solar energy
>has a 10/10 waifu
>has a 10 inch dick
>tfw you'll never make it like him ;__;
His 10/10/ waifu who is 16 youngers them him
American pigdog, here. I'm learning Korean so I can bail on Merrica, move to SK, and lie about my originating country continually to save face. They largely speak English over there, but having both won't hurt.
>all those self-help books
How to Win Friends was sort of helpful, in that it offered social tricks and small things to add to your nuances. A few of the others are boring and/or useless in my opinion, and they're all for different topics. OP, maybe suggest a couple of books for each area (picking up girls, increasing learning capacity, being positive etc). I should read Book of Pook though, because I've heard good things.
Gonna also suggest getting /lit/-fit (jump on their sticky), and getting into lifehacks. Just started listening to audio-books at work (allowed iPods)
Also, put this shit into practice. Just reading about it will not make you a better person, and you'll forget it all. Reading lifting books won't get you swole, and reading self-help books won't help you in the same manner.
>a young man cares what other people thinks. A middle age man doesn’t care what other people think. An old man realize that other people didn’t care about him in the first place.
That's a bit cynical.
Admittedly a lot of my friends shit on me for not being who I was at 17 (borderline alcoholic, overweight, only talked when drunk) and I'm actually leaning towards the 'people only express interest in you for the social validation of gives them' angle currently, so you have a point, but you've worded it so negatively.
Nothing wrong with being part of the herd, if it fits with what you truly want.
I somewhat agree with this. These books aren't written for shut-in NEETs that haven't spoken to anyone outside of their immediate family for five years, or kids just out of high school that spent the whole time being awkward.
You really need to lay your own foundation with social skills before using these books to add nuance to your behaviour.
>hit on person that means exactly zero to you
>fuck it up / get knocked back, whatever
And nothing of value was lost. All about perspective. It's like handing out job résumés
he is not too pleasant or interesting to listen too. his voice lacks any sense of conviction.
i'd recommend The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie for anyone who hasn't read it. Almost 100 years old and still a extremely useful and helpful book.
>Had to dump gf yesterday because she constantly hurt me over the last 3 weeks
>Long distance relationship (200km)
>She always failed contacting me at all, played WoW 14 hours a day, wouldnt change
I feel like shit, really. She cried, begged me not to do it, etc. etc. But she wouldnt have changed. It would have gone back to the same thing again and again.
But still i feel like shit and regret.
What to improve in order to change? I guess i need to get to known to some other girls, but i have no clue how. There are zero femals in my social circle, which is obviously small.
Depending on the housing market, cost of living and lifestyle a house may not be a good investment.The only guaranteed winners in real estate are the bank and the realtor. If you make money off a house thats a bonus.
Consider that you are renting a bachelor pad at 1k a month. To buy the same pad might cost 350k. You go to the bank with 35K as a downpayment to get a loan and lets say the interest is 5% p.a. The interest in the first year prior to you paying anything is $15,750. You generally pay loans back at three times the borrowing cost over time in total presuming minimum repayments. Thats 945k. On top of that there's govt. sales tax when buying and selling the house, insurance, degradation and fluctuating property markets, and buying a house starts to look very daunting. For 12K a year you can give 1 months notice and be anywhere in the world after that. You can't put a nail in the wall but you don't have to pay for anything if it breaks or needs upkeep, and you're not being fucked on by compounding interest, government stamp duty and realtors taking a bigger cut than the steam marketplace.
Renting is a /very/ viable option long term.
Because I have seen it.
>people compare Elon Musk to Steve Jobs
>Steve Jobs was a closet gay guy who made computers more prettier and make a cool phone
>Elon Musk created a FUCKING car company from the grounds up
>create rockets to ship people to space
>create a business model for solar energy
>and now is creating a hyperloop, how to travel from California to L.A in 30 minutes
BASE AS FUCK. He's Steve Jobs x 1000, in a sense he will have a more lasting impact on humanity then Gay Jobs.
>tfw you'll never get to suck Elon Musk's 10 inch dick ;__;
Base as fuck, thank you. It's post like this is why I visit /fit/ because it's educational
lol, a whole general about this ?
>workout some more
>do something outside
>leave your laptop/cell/ipad, don't take it to bed
there, i fixed you
>"Live your life like you're being followed by a camera crew that are making a documentary about you"
Thats nonsense. The last part sounds like the youtube fags that think they are celebrities because they point a camera at their face and talk about nothing.
Anon from last few threads who's been dispensing advice and shit (sometimes repetitively. I've gotten bored at work and written out a lot of stuff - some of it regurgitated, and on a number of subjects (attitude, presentation, grils, just general life shit, etc. Anyone want it, or keep it to myself?
My girlfriend of 4 years last month left me for by best friend and long story short we hate each other.
But we share the same friends and I have to go to a birthday which will be at a club and they will be there as well.
I don't think I'm ready to see them dancing with each other or being intimate.
Should I go to the birthday?
Can you handle it ?
-Yes, go to it. Do whatever you have to do to stay furthest away from them, enjoy yourself.
-No. Don't go, and my advice, tell only the person throwing the party, don't make a bull shit excuse but tell him to keep quiet about it.
To anyone else just say you can't. Period.
That's how I would go about it.
guys, what the fuck do i do. i don't really know what it happiness
i'm doing all the shit that is recomended (reading, lifting, etc) for years not because someone tells me to, but because i like it. i'm also a pretty good student, studying medicine, and on my way to learn a new language and explore the broad opportunities that this provides
still, i am not happy, i am not satisfied, often i feel like i'm doing jack shit even though the evidence proves otherwise
think this is also girl related, i've had girls fall for me, but always some bullshit happens that i cannot change and usually don't know until it's too late
what do i do?
How do you meditate? Is there a guide or something
Also here is my progress:
>Dec 2013 Quit Video Games - I entirely quit quake and cs 1.6 which I felt I couldn't live without.
>Spring 2014: Focusing on studies, trying to get over oneitis. Play Windows XP solitaire to make sure I don't start playing CS again. Realize that is fucking stupid.
>May 2014: Start going to Gym.
>June 2014: Quit biting my nails: a habit I have had since I was a baby
>Aug 2014: Ready to go back to school. Not bringing my desktop with me. Learning how to drive a manual transmission car. Look forward to fitness and legitimately feel addicted to the gym.
>TFW still no social skills.
Ambition mate, you have it. Its just the patience you lack. Think long term, and do short term. You'll get there eventually. The girl problem, just do what I do - just assume they all wanna fuck you, and be forward about it.
i've considered this, thanks mate
i'm always thinking about long term mate. one of the girls was pretty forward about it... after she moved 500 km away, and i'm a bro with her boyfriend - so bro code, and i didn't do anything
the other one was a little weird at times, but i and some mates realized she likes me, and after months of half asses flirting and myriads of mixed signals - all leading to nowhere, i found ot she has a boyfriend... i met them on the street. super akward. all of her friends that suddenly took an interest in me and started talking about her all the time couldn't tell me this either
it's a shame, really, and they both quality girls
>never cheat on a girl
>form monogamous long term relationships
>don't fuck her friends after breaking up
>buy things for a girl
>don't let things get physical too fast
>don't be a manwhore
alpha = fucking lots of high quality women
this is giving advice for monogamous long term relationships, which are not alpha.
>do wear an undershirt
scarfs can look ok
>shave your penis
and have a cactus dick?
get it lasered.
>never one word reply
frequently one word reply
writing an essay and seeming emotionally invested signals desperation
>smile when talking to a girl
smirk maybe, big smile = i'm so lonely that talking to a girl is the highlight of my life
some guys are ugly and should settle in the meantime
>compliment your girl
light rewards for good behaviour only
>don't talk about sex near girls
awful, unless they are not attracted to you
>never walk like you don't care
walk relaxed but with good posture
>don't talk about nerdy shit
talking about technical shit to people who care about technical shit is good, it demonstrates intelligence and skill
most people don't care
>don't speak like a nigger
but it's really funny and girls like it if you do it jokingly excessively
>fix up and resell
"Yeah you can't go wrong investing in real estate" - every bankrupt person ever.
>go swimming instead
>invest in solar panels
maybe, probably not.
>date older women
they are inferior to younger women
>eat complex carbs instead of starch
that makes no sense
starches are complex carbs
>use gmail drives
slower than local storage, requires internet connectivity
you can get a 4TB hdd for $150
>upload porn to google drives
>-Make small goals with the “7 days to live” mentality and accomplish them in 7 days
If I did this I would spend all my money on drugs and hookers and expensive food and I would drop out
You are dumb
don't do this
use HDD backups
>download from torrents
don't use tpb or anything like that
your illegal activity is publicly available if you use tpb
>buy a bread machine
it's like 70c a loaf, cheaper and easier than actually making your own bread
>extend the nerves
what the fuck am I reading
>4chan is very knowledgable
>buy a screwdriver and open every electronic device in the house
study ee if you actually want to learn
>use credit cards instead of cash
>invest in Starbucks
>women cost money
if you spend money on them like a little bitch
otherwise they don't
>cured with cashews
>anchoring mental states
>blast eca stack and do situps
>only close your fist at the last second
>brunettes are usually bitchier than blondes
>apple makes better notebooks
>buy lottery tickets
diminishing marginal utility suggests this is a bad idea
>don't use tpb or anything like that
bullshit, just use common sense about what you download, that Screener of the newest summer blockbuster that just hit the cinemas will probably get you in trouble, also that brand new top40 pop album, but most shit on tpb will not get you in any trouble, even less if you live outside the us
you can try a Safety razor
I buyed mine for 15 € with 100 blades at amazon. It is one blade and cheap as hell. And you can use razor soap instead of the shit out of a bottle. I buyed my first 2 rasor soaps 2 years ago and didn't even stated the second. Cheapest shaving ever with a very manly and easy to use razor
>inb4 reddit plz go
Finally work has finished so i can post. So, as this is the self-improvement general and I’ve been spouting off some rather well-liked advice for your improvement, I’ve decided to write up a whole list of good things that should help you on your way. Admittedly, most of this should have been done by our father’s, but most of them were loveless alcoholics who saw us a nothing more than a bitching topic of conversation at the pub...let’s just get onto improving your lives, shall we?
1 – Finances
Very important this, so listen up.
>Spend less than you earn. Rather obvious, but I’ve noticed that people like to spend money that they don’t have. Don’t do this.
>Only buy things that will entertain/improve your lives for three times the cost of time of it took you to earn the money. To put it another way, if you earn 6 shekels an hour, and you’re thinking of buying a McFatShit sandwhich, you must look at the cost of this sandwhich. As McGodIHateThem tends to fill you up for an hour at most, the sandwich should cost you 2 shekels (1 hour of joy at a third of the time it took you to buy it).
>The only exception to this rule is: accommodation, a bed, and healthy food (which is still not really necessary, as it is possible in the UK to get 2660 calories and 170 grams of protein a day at about £22 a week).
>Cars should be paid for in cash.
>A house is up to you, but if you’re young and don’t have guaranteed income, I’d say rent first and foremost.
>If room permits, invest in equipment that is usually at the gym. You’ll save money on petrol/time walking to gym.
>Money is the physical representation of your time. When you buy something, you are trading your time for it, not money. Let that sink in before you buy ANYTHING
>>28382769 2 – Education
>Money doesn’t follow your heart, it follows skills and products that are in demand. Sure, learn about topics that interest you (mine is history) but don’t spend money on it. Use your education as an investment into your future, so go the STEM route, or learn a trade.
>Don’t be stupid. Not many people are smart, but too many people act stupid. You don’t need to do that. Think and educate yourself before opening up your mouth.
>Ask people if you’re not certain. Especially your tutors. Most of them will have time for you, because you’re showing an interest in their specialised field, and will want to help you as long as you want to help yourself as well.
>Learn how to apply things. Sure, learning a new language is all well and good, but how often will you use “There is a cat under the table” in any language? Instead, learn how things work (sentence structure, how and why oxygen and hydrogen come together to form water, etc) and apply it to other areas. Again, using the “There is a cat under the table” analogy, don’t just learn those words, learn the order that they are spoken in that language, and why. This will help you string other words together in order to form usable sentences.
>There is literally no excuse for ignorance if you are posting on 4chan. No fucking excuse.
>I recently started showering everyday again, actually managed to stick to it for three days. Brushing teeth, washing face everyday too.
Wait, some people don't brush their tooth at least 2 time a day and shower everyday ????
What the fuck ...
3 – Fitness
>SS isn’t just a troll, but realize that it is more for improving your strength base, not just your muscle size. I’d recommend adding in pull-ups, chin ups, dips and even curls into the program. It is there to teach you the fundamentals, the necessities, and should provide the basis for any personalised workouts.
>As much as I love our Natty overlord, his strength, for educational purposes, lies in his nutrition. I personally think he focuses more on the typical fatasfatass American rather than the average Joe. His routines might work, but, honestly, you’re better off learning about from his nutritional videos and then following SS or SL.
>Sloots do love muscles, but also a pretty face. Don’t think you can get girls to swoon from your arms and chest alone – they help, as well as building up your confidence, but if you look like a cross between Gollum and moot’s anal warts, you’re gonna struggle finding love (thankfully, no-one is that detestable).
>Cardio doesn’t kill gains. I’d argue that it’s particular useful for just good alright maintenance.
>Take ya diet seriously, folks. A shit diet with a killer routine will provide minimalist results. Eat that chicken, that broccoli, and those oats with love
4 – Hygiene
>There are many studies to show the benefits for hot showers over cold showers. I just tend to take a cold shower every four days. Same results, in my opinion.
>B.O? Try shavig your armpits. I had the nickname BOB at school (B.O. Boy), and I cured that by shaving my armpits. There’s a lot of scientific explanations for why we tend to get BO there, but that’s not important. Just shave there if you’re having trouble getting rid of it.
>Shirts can be worn 3 times and jeans 4 times before they need a wash. Change your underwear daily.
>Bar of soap over everything else. Seriously. It’s a neutral smell. If you really want to use shower gel, use it AFTER the soap.
>Floss and brush your death daily. Yellow teeth is hardly sexy, whereas white teeth are beautiful.
>Trim your pubes. Nothing feels...well, not sexy but pretty damn awesome when a girl is giving you a blowjob, strokes your pubes and comment on them feeling like velvet. Also, shave your shaft. Might be too much information, but it can’t just happen to only me...right guys? Guys? Fuck.
>Fresh towel (I mean clean towel) on your pillow every night to get rid of spots.
>Change your bedding weekly, especially if you masturbate in it. Big stains do not an attractive sight make
5 – Presentation
>/fa/ is brilliant for beginners, even if I personally do not agree with everything they have to say. Go to tuxbell.com, read the basics page, and build your wardrobe up.
>Fitted clothes are usually better than baggy clothes. I personally like the fact I can feel the clothing against my skin, rather than hanging baggy. That said, don’t be afraid to have just comfy clothes for days in the house.
>Dress each day as if you might meet the love of your life, or whatever makes you look in the mirror and think “Damn, I am a sexy motherfucker”
>Long hair can be sexy as fuck, but not always. Sometimes it just looks a mess, or lazy on your part. Again, find a style that fits your face and suits, and wear it with pride.
>And take good care of your hair, man.
>Shoulders should be kept back, and chest pushed out (though not retardedly). Hold your head up, though not looking up.
>Make eye contact – never look at the floor.
>Keep a presence of calm and control, as if you are in charge of your every movement.
>Walk as if you have purpose, not as if you’re a lost puppy.
>Take pride in your appearance. When you go out, have soe standards and respect for yourself. Sure, it might be fun to go over to the corner shops in slob gear, but your every moment around other people is you, basically, selling yourself in one way or another (especially for underage b&’s trying to get served).
>Struggle with smiling? Don’t actually smile – just think about smiling, or something happy in general. Works wonders
6 – Attitude
>Positivity<negativity, personally. Not many people want to be around people who just bring down the mood of a party.
>Treat every day as a new experience, and learn from it. Whether it’s affirmation or something new, treat it as experience point to that next level.
>Don’t be too judgemental in the real world/ Sure, have beliefs and standards, but don’t mock any for it. If someone does something you don’t agree with, especially for you, barely register it, as if it is so beneath you it’s not even worth you noticing.
>Be excited and passionate about things. One reason why I think I’m better with people now is because I am genuinely excited to meet someone new and to learn about them. That excitement is infectious, most of the time.
>Never take anything personally. Bitch rejected you? Well why are you getting upset, you guys clearly aren’t compatible? You failed a test? Well, you’ll educate yourself next time. Body isn’t looking as good as you want? Well, you need to rain more and up your diet. It’s only an experience, and you have the choice to make it negative or not.
7 – Grills
>George Foreman all the way.
>One of the reason why nice guys are friendzoned, in my opinion is because they are afraid of the grill knowing that you want to sleep with them. They think it should come as a reward for nice behaviour, which isn’t how it works. Be nice to the girl because you’re a decent human being and so is she, but don’t be a pussy about the fact you want to fuck her.
>Just because she won’t sleep with you, doesn’t mean she is a whore. Quite the opposite, in fact. It just means you’re not physically attractive, or you’ve literally acted as if you don’t want her to fuck you, that she IS nothing more than a platonic friend to you and can’t figure out why the fuck you’re annoyed she won’t sleep with you. Face it, you’re not attractive to everyone.
>However, how the fuck do you know who IS attracted to you? Unless you’re a mind reader, there’s no way you can know, so don’t be ashamed about approaching a girl to find out if she is or is not.
>If you have made the balls and approached her (and I can’t believe it is now seen as having balls when it’s just normal behaviour) don’t be boring. Stand out in her mind. Don’t just buy her a drink, take her buy the hand and lead her to the bar. Make comments that probably haven’t been made to her. If you’re clueless, compliment her eyes.
>Inititate contact. You want to fuck her, don’t be too shy to touch her. How do you fuck without touching? Work out her interest levels by touching her, but not making a big deal of it, as if it is natural.
>Talk about shit she is interested in, and show an interest yourself. Don’t just ask questions, like is spouted her, make comments on what she has said THEN make the questions. Fuck me, this is just normal social interaction.
>Most women aren’t shallow. They appreciate a man who is confident, because he accepts and is comfortable with himself, and is exciting. Excitement means making them feel emotion. I’m pretty sure that women are addicted to emotions, and love ti when a guy can make them feel horny and angry and happy and near tears. Sure, looks do help, but they’re not the be all and end all, so never say you’re not attractive enough for girls – you just weren’t that girl’s type.
>If you’re still clueless, watch 3 dvd’s – Direct Dating Summit, which drills it into your head that it’s okay to want to fuck people: RSD Transformations, as it teaches you techniques on how to get over the fact that a girl is hot and intimidates you (which it never ever should, because you should, by now, think you’re hot shit, have money and just be seeing this all as a playful game to see what you can achieve today and learn from it); and Conversation King, by Tom Torrero of DayGame. Conversation King can be applied anywhere and teaches you how to keep a conversation going, rather than being autistic.
8 – Other Life Advice
>Never study what you love, because you probably can’t get a job in it. Instead, study something that can land you a job, and find out how to turn what you love into a business to make money from it. This should be important.
>If you’re under 30, don’t even think of settling down with a woman. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN ONE YET. Take your youth as an opportunity to find out what you like in a woman.
>Never be ashamed of your morals and principles. If you think that it’s wrong to take drugs, don’t be ashamed of it. There’s too much pussyfooting trying to please everyone these days and not enough people saying “Nope, that’s bullshit.” Don’t be afraid of it.
And finally, don’t spend too much time on 4chan. It’s like WoW, but far far more negative. In small doses, it’s okay, but so is cocaine occasionally. Take it all the time, and before you know it you’re wrapped up in an adult diaper shitting into your own mouth via a craftily constructed tube because it’s too much effort to go to the cupboard and get some cheetos.
And with that Anons, I’ll finally shut the fuck up.
Oh for fucks sake, forgot something. >Women aren’t the be all and end all. Women should be an accessory to your life, your partner someone you’ve invited to enjoy your time with and life with you, not someone you please so you have gash on tap (Which, ironically doesn’t work).
>Start a journal and diary; write down your thoughts, feelings and the day. You should be doing this with your lifting, so do it with your everyday life as well.
>Just because you read doesn’t make you more intelligent; doing the research and applying it into the real world does.
>Experiences are a must when you’re young. Enjoy your life, go travelling...just set some money aside for older you, okay?
>If you’re suicidal, do anything that scares you. Absolutely anything, even if it is just hitting on every woman in a super market. You’re going to be dead anyway, so do everything you were scared of doing before you do it.
>Fuck the haters. Don’t want to sound too reddit tier, but honestly, if someone hates you, there is literally no reason to expend any time or energy on them. Acknowledge it, laugh it off, and carry on doing your own thing.
>Don’t worry about the big things, focus on the little things. They usually help lead to the big things in the grand scheme of...things.
>Confidence is built by reaffirmations of positive aspects. Even if you have shitty confidence, tell yourself every day ten things, even small things, that you like about yourself. Tell them to yourself untily ou’re sick of hearing them, until you believe them almost fully. Then you’ll really think you’re a sexy cunt.
>Again, don’t be ignorant.
>Have the ball to do things, anything.
>Have hobbies and interests. Mine are swimming, photography, writing, cars and LP collections. There, its done