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How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? (aside from lifting)

*NEW* Recommended Videos:
http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo

Approved reading material:
http://raouldify.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/2011_1203-the-flinch.pdf
Dale Carnegie - How to win friends and influence people

Unapproved reading material:
Benjamin Francklin's Autobiography (work ethic as a young man, his philosophy of self improvement, time management and scheduling, how he got into politics, how to become a founding good father)
Brian Tracy + Colin Rose - Accelerated Learning (Staple self-improvement. Really really good, full of practical information)
The Millionaire Next Door (Full of really engaging anecdotes)
The book of pook.pdf
Models by Mark Manson (What "be yourself" really means)
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
No More Mr. Nice Guy
The Art Of War
Total Recall
The Way Of Men

Things you should be doing:
-Exercise
-Put actual effort in to your diet
-Clean your room / house at least once a week, don't live in a pigsty
-Do daily, simple, effective things (Brushing your teeth, flossing, making your bed)
-Learn to play an instrument (imagine having 10 years experience playing the piano when you're 30)
-Read every day
-Wake up at the same time every day (and get at least 8 hours of sleep)
-Have a morning routine-Learn a second (or third) language (duolingo.com)
-Stretch every day to become more flexible (http://www.reddit.com/r/flexibility/comments/28anxp/welcome_to_our_first_ever_30days_toetouching/)
-Taking good care of your skin (http://np.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/wiki/beginners)
-Meditate 10 minutes per day
-Stop cursing
-Make good long term decisions (getting braces, stopping smoking, losing weight)
-Make goals with the “7 days to live” mentality and accomplish them in 7 days

"Live your life like you're being followed by a camera crew that are making a documentary about you"

If you have any additions or remarks, post em
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>>28303196
>The book of pook.pdf

Reading this every year.
Simple and no bullshit. Solves every problem related to women and has also some really great advice for life in general. Based Pook.
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>>28303296
>Learn to play an instrument (imagine having 10 years experience playing the piano when you're 30)

I've played guitar for 7 years now and am pretty proficient (I can play most solos and riffs without a lot of effort, can improvise, etc.) so I'll offer some advice on learning guitar and instruments in general.

>Guitar

>Technique
For the first 1-2 years you'll be pretty shitty. Your fretting hand will often go on the wrong strings and your picking hand may miss strings entirely. This is normal.

1. When you're watching a movie or television, bring your guitar! Slowly pluck frets 1-2-3-4. If you can do this for several hours a week whilst watching movies, your technique will improve much more quickly.

2. How to play fast? Use a metronome and play slow. Slow whatever riff you want to learn and spend 5-10 minutes playing it slowly. Gradually bump up the metronome until you reach the point where it's difficult, yet you can almost play it. This is your 1rm. Drop slightly (5-10bpm) below this point and work on the riff then.


>Rock Music
Learn barre chords, pentatonic scales, and solos. As you learn each of this, try to come up with something new/different ways of playing it. When you learn solos, learn to SING them! If you can't sing the whole solo, you have not learned it. You have only memorized frets on a guitar. Good musicians can play solos on any instrument once they figure out how far apart the notes are.

there's a lot more to go into, but this is fine for now
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>>28303926
>Finger size
Your fingers are not too small
Your fingers are not too big
I've met good players with both. Stop complaining.

>tl;dr How do I get good?
Do you want to become a great guitarist (or musician)? Do you want to be the type of guy who can play along with any song? Do you want to be able to walk into a jam session and play without asking for chords?

Read the Music Lesson by Victor Wooten and follow his philosophy for learning. Learning by ear is tough, but the hard way is the easy.
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>>28303970
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yRMbH36HRE
to offer a bit of Victor Wooten's philosophy:

>Music is a language
When you're learning a song, you are learning a language. Understand what this entails. If you memorize the notes, chords, and solos of a song, but cannot hear or sing it, you have not learned the song. This is similar to memorizing phrases in french and saying that you have learned french.

Learning songs is a long process. It gets faster though.
1. Can you sing the melody and harmony?
2. Can you sing the solos?
3. Can you play the song in different keys, different positions, etc.?
4. Can you play the song in a different order?

Once you've learned it, you've got to apply what you've learned.
1. Take the solo you've learned and change it.
2. What techniques does the artist use? Change these and try them in different situations
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>>28304051
also,
musical notes subordinate to rhythm
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>>28303296
Quit peddling that shit.
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>>28304075
that first linked video: "How to Hold Conversation Like a Man"
lol'ed so hard

>guy talks with a lisp and sounds homosexual
>looks like he's nervous
>is out of breath
>can't maintain eye contact with audience

Yeah that's a load of crap
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>>28304137
I never watched that video nor am I OP. This video was pretty awesome though:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7HwmSX92ZY
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>>28303196

>Stop watching porn
>Run every other day (while recovering from injury then every day)
>Eat 1000kcal a day of food I prepare
>Keto @ <20g carbs / day
>SL 3 times a week; taking creatine before workout

Lifting is just meant to stave off muscle loss rather than to build it

>Study 7 hours a day
>Wake up at 5:30
>Foam Roll
>Stretch
>Take a cold shower every morning after run
>Go for a walk later in the day

Sorry I'm just writing this shit down for my own benefit.

Anyone know what my options are if I don't have insurance but want to see a therapist? I could barely afford food there's no way I can afford to pay $100/h
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How do I fuck women?
Srs
Never had a gf (26yo here), virgin and finished uni years ago (before getting fit).
>and about the same time I nearly had sex but
>she said I looked "... kinda average, but not in a bad way Anon"
>dat look of disappointment/disdain.
>still hurts
So far I've got:
Art of Seduction by Greene,
Book of Pook
Models
No More Mister Nice Guy
And some of the post on GLL.
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>>28303196
>blames self for world
>maturity

choose one
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>>28304853
m8, i found a perfect description of what women found attractive. give me a moment
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>>28303196
Never knew this image holds this much meaning.
10/10 OP
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>>28304562
Talk with friends. The poor man's therapist
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>>28304949
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>>28304853
>What women find attractive
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sCdjKrzEgGvTwJgS5nwszZlWT97tEc-9o3SzNBXV2Ig/mobilebasic?pli=1

>How do I fuck women?
Get rejected many times.

>28 women approached per week (4 per day, easy if in university)
> 22 rejections
> 6 phone numbers
> 4 dates
> 1 fuck

It's a numbers game mate. As you get used to things you'll become more confident and learn how to streamline things though. In the end it is and always will be a numbers game. Most men wait for pussy to fall in their lap.
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>>28304853
Also, stop reading books. Would reading books on playing guitar be any useful if you've never picked one up? Go talk to women for a month, the books will still be there.
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I'm having to buy a new rack for all my fedoras that these threads are tipping.
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>>28304966
>https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sCdjKrzEgGvTwJgS5nwszZlWT97tEc-9o3SzNBXV2Ig/mobilebasic?pli=1
That also nice section, do you know how the hell I access titifoti? That models condensed post was great, then the owner closed it, I assume to avoid copywrite issues
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>>28305075
nope
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Welp, this died pretty fast.
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>>28303196
My number one tip is to stop posting on 4chan. You're being a humongous hypocrite if you read this self improvement general everyday.
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>>28303196
>needing help with being alive and functioning properly
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>>28303926
I hope you stay on this board. You're a good poster

I don't plan on learning an instrument because I'm learning Japanese and lifting as my productive long term hobbies but what are your opinions about taking lessons?
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>>28303926
>>28303970
>>28304051
Thanks for the tips Guitar Anon, guitar is what I'm working with now too
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Any tips on how to kick the caffeine addiction? I drink way too much coffee and it's throwing my sleeping schedule out of wack.
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I'm going back to school Monday so I always do self improvement stuff around this time.
>go to bed at 11:00, get up at 7:00 to run every day
>shower and brush teeth every day (it gets away from me in the summer), dress nicer
>get to school an hour early to study
>read the news; I read all articles that are related to my field or may come up in a conversation
>on weekdays I have 2 hours before bed to relax, all other hours are spent studying or working out
>go out of my way to socialize on Friday and Saturday nights, don't expect something to find you
>volunteer on Saturdays, get any non-school work/shopping done
>go to church on Sunday (haven't gone in years and I'm kind of embarrassed to go back for some reason), relax for the rest of the day
>no masturbation, cut bad habits like biting nails and picking nose
>cut sugar from the diet, cook more meals
>make an effort to keep old friendships (I picked only 4 people from high school I truly want to stay in touch with)
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>>28305683
Where do you get your coffee? Is it just laying around at work or are you bringing it?
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>>28305722
2 cups in the morning and 2 cups in a thermos. I've been trying to cut down to just 2 cups in the morning but the 1pm lull is killing me
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>>28305683
Take melatonin at night
You can do both and it always puts me to sleep
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>>28305748
Try eating an apple when you would drink the third cup. See how you feel. Drink plenty of water as well.
If you manage to cut it down to 2 cups I think you're fine.
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>>28305790
How soon before you plan on being asleep do you dose?

>>28305795
Ahh a carb burst I never thought of that. Thanks anon
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This is all very interesting anon.

Thanks for sharing :)
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This is a pretty good general tho the hardest part of this is really nofap and limiting your vidya, and nofap should have it's own general if it wouldn't be a giant target for trolls posting porn
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>>28305700

you wait till you are at school to brush your teeth and shower.

What the fuck are you doing anon
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>>28305948
> 2014
> having time to brush your teeth

You're not gonna make it.
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>>28305505
>what are your opinions about taking lessons?

Guitarfag here. I would say don't take lessons. It will just become a pain in the ass and make you want to quit.
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>>28305941
o yea my contribution to this thread is to take advantage of your mentality.

In 99% of cases, your mentality is what limits you whether it's talking to girls, getting in a few reps, getting through a tough day at work etc.
If you learn how to alter your own mood and mentality going into something then you'll find everything not only easier but more effective.
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>>28304562
If you are a student then your school can hook you up with one for free or something something. Ask around.

Thats a heavy routine btw. Don't burn your self out.
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>>28305941
Yeah an abstinence troll deserves its own general.
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>>28306095
well the idea of nofap is that you refrain from fapping all the time so you don't walk around like a dried up beta fuck all the time, not to advocate abstinence.

If anything fapping every day or more is a more effective way of abstinence
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>>28305803
depends on what youre taking
pills? 30-40 mins
gummies/drank? 20-30 mins

trust me. shit works wonders. Im not the one youre responding too but I take pills (10mg each) and It helps a ton with insomnia.
also
>moisturize daily (face, neck, chest) after shower
>wash hair only once a week (with anti-dandruff shampoo) the rest of the days rinse with water for at least 3 mins
>take multi-vitamins
>take omega-3 pills
>drink a ton of water (at least half a gallon)
>cut out sugary sweets (2 weeks to get rid of sugar-addiction)
>dont eat fast food, ever
>watch out for high-sodium shit
>In the morning, drink water, wash face and stand in sun for at least 30 seconds (helps wake up biological clock
>stretch before bed and after waking up
>workout at least 3-4 times a week
>eat more fruit and veggies. seriously.
>dress nice. go to a tj maxx or marshalls or goodwill and stock up on clearance button up shirts or polos, a few normal shirts (beige, white, black, gray, navy) 3 pairs of jeans (tight fitting, but not too tight. You dont want to look like a freshman in highschool)
>practice smiling in the mirror
>in public places, try to not shift around or play with your phone or look around
>do not ever touch your neck or face unless youre actually blowing your nose or putting in contacts. it is a sign of insecurity
>open yourself up in public physically. like spread your arms on a chair or open your legs. curling up and resting your head on your hand like some beta fgt
>pause before you speak, at least more than a second if its casual conversation
>never say sorry unless its totally necessary

what to wear:
disgusting white shirt with graphic design and ill fitting shorts with dirty running shoes: NO
trench coats ever: NO
tank tops if youre not tan and muscular: NO
glasses that dont have a solid black/no frame NO.
>transition lenses, fucking ever
>jeans with black reeboks and a metal t shirt
NO

never get a buzzcut unless youre balding. go to young-stalin.com
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>>28303196
Next time, you might add the full list of books
http://pastebin.com/yEN7ru09
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>>>/adv/
>>>/soc/
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>>28305378
nope
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>>28306244
>jeans with black reeboks and a metal t shirt
>NO


hey wtf is wrong with metal t-shirts? I like metal

>inb4 hurrr you're 12?
>what are different musical tastes
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>>28305948
I do it I just get lazy and forget when I'm partying so much.
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>>28306751
"A man must stand erect on his own, in the dark, not be kept erect by other men on a gay fitness board."
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>>28306978
wear whatever the fuck you want
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Required reading for every anon

https://projectubermensch.wordpress.com
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>>28307086
yeah ofc I do, but I wanna hear the stupid "logic" behind that
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>>28303926
>>28303970
>>28304051
If I want to git gud at drums do I just replace riff with lick and fret with rudiment etc.?

because I have fucking S-U-C-K-E-D on kit for a good decade
>tfw girls won't appreciate your sweet ass timpani solo
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>>28304904
It's the previous in reverse. In the red section, it said "blames world for problems"; it's not to be literally interpreted, but you're probably american so reading must be hard
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>>28306978
Whoa, one step at a time
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>>28304853
that models book seems good, anyone got a pdf link?
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Cannot stress giving porn up
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>>28307377
This
If you take anything from this thread, make it this. Also, keep fapping to 1-2 times a week
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>>28307599
why is no-fap so important to you people?

to me its a footnote, i dont see the benefit of not getting a handy-j whenever i want it
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>tfw you'll never be a bad ass samurai ;__;
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>>28307377
>>28307599
Why?
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>>28307618
It's just my personal experience, I find getting with girls more enjoyable and rewarding when I haven't fapped for a while.
>>28307763
Fucks your mind brah
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How to start? Here’s the action list …

At the bare minimum, do this:

1. Get rid of everything that doesn’t support your journey to enlightenment. Ditch your loser friends. Completely stop consuming TV and video games.

2. Strive to exercise 4 times a week (ideally, lifting weights)

3. Read a book for 1 hour every day.

4. Meditate for 20 minutes every day.

5. Get your finance in order (save and invest your money)

Level 2:

6. Work harder at your career (upgrade your skills, take more relevant courses) or start a side business.

7. Have interesting (and productive) hobbies – martial arts, picking up women, traveling, survival skills.
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Why dont you dumb faggots take a class.
https://www.coursera.org/
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>>28308108
>>28308108
ist his of any use outside of the US? If I do a lot of courses can I add them on my resume?
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>>28307042
*homosexual Taiwanese claymation forum
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>>28308164

Learn for learnings sake.

I did a coursera course about a year ago on behavioural economics. I wouldn't put that on a CV or resume but it helps me make better decisions and evaluate situations.
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>>28303196
you fucking idiot theres a pastebin for the books
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has anyone considered /x/ style self improvement, ie law of attraction, asking for angel help ect ect
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>>28308481
Angel help, you mean angel investors?
..
No, can you explain what you mean? I honestly have no idea what you mean
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>>28307202
>it's not to be interpreted literally
then how should it be interpreted?
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>>28306244
I can never find shirts that fit (broad shoulders, narrow waist) so I have to settle with Slim-Fit graphic T-shirts. Can you help me out here?
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>>28306751

>Quote by Albert Einstein
>Credited to the famous french general
>A picture of Genghis Khan in the backround

top kek
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>>28306059
This poster is not me.

>>28305505
Depending on your teacher, lessons can lead to the greatest improvement. My guitar teacher is a 30 year old Ukrainian man. He has wonderful ears and can play any song instantly. This sounds unbelievable, but it's true. In my beginner days I would come into a lesson, show him a solo like Sweet Child of Mine or Cliffs of Dover, and he'd know how to play it instantly. Suffice to say he's cool dude. Not only a good player, but a good teacher. Find teachers in your area, have a trial lesson, and find a teacher that you think is personable and skilled. Teachers are definitely worth it.
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this is the most beta thread I've seen all week

pro tip: you're not gonna improve yourself by watching youtube videos of some guy lying. it's called self improvement because you have to do it on your own you fucking r9k ass fuccbois
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>>28304853

>lower standards
>learn to escalate

that is literally all there is to it
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>>28310097
Nah man
It's actually rather constructive in terms of seeing what other people prioritise on their road to success. I've found some very important points that I need to change that I didn't think of myself.
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Bumpin ;)
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>>28307123
the logic behind not wearing band shirts?
there's nothing inherently wrong with them, but they're graphic t's which tend to be tacky and look juvenile

granted, the same can be said of going the opposite direction. if you walk around in poorly fitted #menswear you'll look at least as bad as a doofus in a band shirt

think about it like lifting: try to keep it simple. an over designed/over branded graphic t is like a bro split with a dozen different isolation exercises everyday of the week. a simple Oxford shirt in a neutral tone is like ss
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>>28307123
also, it greatly depends on the shirt. /fa/ has band shirt threads on ocassion and they're full of simple, aesthetic shirts which can definitely be worn without looking like a loser
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>>28303196
why hasnt this OP changed in months?
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>>28307164
im a self taught drummer, just play along to songs you enjoy and over time you will improve and eventually you will come up with your own play style and implement that into playing those songs to make them "your own". sit on your throne and just start playing a pattern you think is cool and build it off from that, expand it and create different combinations for cymbals, toms, kick, snare, etc
as with everything proficiency comes with time.
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>>28307164

>>28313514
this guy again

also go to concerts or watch videos of drummers you like and study the way they play or move, this is another way to learn. you dont have to play exactly what they play but you will have an idea of how to play
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>friends, family, parents always telling me I'm a handsome tall guy. Why not qt gf anon?
>crippling anxiety, fear of rejection. Insecurities 4.5" penis etc
>finally get over the fear and start talking to girls
>ask a few for their number get rejected
>message 3 girls on fb, get ignored

Well I have lost nothing but also gained nothing, basically same person. Feels bad man.

What do?
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>>28313642
Accept the fact that you're probably a below averege looking guy with a small penis. I mean what the fuck, did you think anyone will say "fuck you're ugly" to their friends and family members even if that's the case?
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>>28313674
In that case I'm going full Leeman mode and bulk up like a fat ass.

T..th..thanks /fit/
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>>28304853
If after reading all those books and you still haven't gotten laid. Kill yourself pls.
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I got to silver V, pretty happy about that
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>>28304966
Good stuff. Alright, what do you talk about when you approach the girl. I feel like approaching is easy but the talking part is the hardest.
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Aside from lifting in the past year and a half I got a girlfriend and have formed a very solid relationship with her.

I've gone to therapy and made huge strides in overcoming my anxiety and self worth issues as well as addressing understanding why I am the way I am and that some of my habbits aren't healthy. I now let myself get angry and voice my opinion instead of just shouldering everything like it's my responsibility to deal with all issues.

I've started eating way healthier and doing far more cardio, I see a chiropractor which I feel has helped my general mental clarity and overall makes me feel better overall, less tired, less anxiety, less headaches.

I've been taking classes so I can go back to school for something that will actually get me a job.
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>>28313883
My only remaining issue that I would like to ask some advice on is this.

The girl I am with is amazing in so many ways. But I've noticed her hair has started thinning. It was super thick when we met, but in the past 5 months its really started to thin. And I'm a worry wart and now all I can think about is how to fix it, if it will get worse, how she will look if it gets worse, if I'll still be attracted to her, how I shouldn't let this get in the way of my relationship with her, and tons and tons of crap.

Thing is, hair thinning aside she's way more attractive than I, out of my league for sure. I really just want it to stop.

What would you guys do? Am I a bad person for letting something superficial that she can't even control make me question the future of our relationship, even when as a person she's fucking amazing? I just want her to keep being hot, it's kinda great being with someone out of your league and I don't want her to get that sickly balding look you see some girls have, hair is a big thing for me.
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I filled out my driving licence form :^)
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>>28303196

Adhere to this religiously and keeping your living space clean will be nearly effortless.
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>>28314391
Are you a woman?
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>>28314425

>living like a slob regardless of your relationship status
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>>28314438
>having adhd is self imporvement
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>>28314438
I was referring to the feminine handwriting-style font used for the headers rather than the general concept of cleaning. It's not a font choice that a man would typically make.
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>>28314453

>implying taking 15 minutes out of your day to do this constitutes ADHD and not living in a professional manner.

>>28314472

If it makes you feel better, I thought the font was girly too when I first read it.
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>>28314472
it's appropriate for the content
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>>28314425
>>28314472
>>28314506

Fixed it.
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>>28313949
Depends whether it's a problem because you won't find her as attractive with less hair, or because of what others will think (you mentioned "it's great being with someone out of your league" which makes it sound like you're worried about other people judging you for being with a girl with thin hair).

>>28314491
Thanks but I feel pretty good already.

>>28314506
Cleaning isn't effeminate. Cleaning on behalf of others for no money is effeminate, but not cleaning in general. But that font... even if the person who chose it is a girl, it looks totally out-of-place. Schedules should use conservative fonts and handwriting-style fonts just shouldn't be used at all. The other font in use is pretty hipster and stupid as well, looks like Helvetica or something in that family.
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>>28307202
>but you're probably american so reading must be hard
>focusing on differences
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>>28314554
Not saying cleaning is effeminate, nor was I implying that the font was effeminate rather from a design point of view the font looked clean and appropriate.
>implying implications
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>>28307856
>Fucks your mind brah
How
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>>28307999
>tfw burnout
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>>28314547
>using italics
Nice try.

>>28314637
Handwriting fonts are girly and retarded. When the "justgirlythings" people picked a font, did they go with that most conservative of masculine, serif typefaces, Times New Roman? Nope.
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>>28314391
Do people really need to be told that
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>>28303296
I Second the Book of Pook.
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>>28314675
[spoiler] well I still think it looked nice [/spoiler]
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>>28314711
Well you should ponder what that says about you.
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>>28314689

This IS a self-improvement general. And this IS 4chan.
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>>28314391
I like it. It's a better idea than binge cleaning and leaving it alone for the rest of the week/month/year
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>>28313767
Just have a conversation bro. Have you ever made friends at the gym? I'm not good at cold approaching, but once someone people are talking I can always keep it going. For the love of god don't "interview" her.
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>>28314554
It's probably a bit of both. I am overly concerned of other people's judgment. But I can safely say its mostly because i'm worried how this will hurt my level of attraction to her. Like I said hair is a big thing for me. A girl having thick hair is a huge turn on for me. I already find myself unable to stop looking at her hair part and noticing how its thinner than it was a few months ago.

But I also feel like shit because I'm balding and she doesn't give a fuck. But I mean a guy balding is normal, a girl...not so much.
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>>28313767
Get a job in retail
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>>28304562
>SL 3 times a week;
new here, whats sl?
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>>28314938
are you fucking retarded

don't bullshit us and don't bullshit yourself, you are not with here because of her amazing personality but because of her looks in the first place, looks are gone? are you married and you have kids? no? then move the fuck on

seriously, there's nothing you can do and noone can blame you for dropping her

and you can do even better, trust me.. I am fairly ugly and people constantly tell me I am with girls way above my league, except the girls themselves. Because I don't care and they know it.
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>>28303196

bump
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>>28305075

http://www.datafilehost.com/d/170f085e

Models Condensed in pdf. Probably the same shit. If not, it's still useful.
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>>28315753
stronglifts.com
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>>28303196
>Exercise
good one
>Put actual effort in to your diet
Also a good one
>Clean your room / house at least once a week,
don't live in a pigsty
Naturally
>Do daily, simple, effective things (Brushing your teeth, flossing, making your bed)
Naturally
>Learn to play an instrument (imagine having 10 years experience playing the piano when you're 30)
No, thanks I don't care.
>Read every day
Good one
>Wake up at the same time every day (and get at least 8 hours of sleep)
Decent one
>Have a morning routine-Learn a second (or third) language (duolingo.com)
Not necessary
<Stretch every day to become more flexible (http://www.reddit.com/r/flexibility/comments/28anxp/welcome_to_our_first_ever_30days_toetouching/)
I don't care personally
<Taking good care of your skin (http://np.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/wiki/beginners)
Ok
>Meditate 10 minutes per day
Pretty much a wste of time
>Stop cursing
Not necessary
>Make good long term decisions (getting braces, stopping smoking, losing weight)
Ok
>Make goals with the “7 days to live” mentality and accomplish them in 7 days
Bullshit
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>>28308514
Illiterately
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The 48 rules of power is a great book that gives harsh realities on many situations
I suggest you guys give it a shot
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>>28317878
it's pretty fun to read, but you need to really think about it and try to apply the lessons to different contexts to get lasting value out of it. which is a real bitch.
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>>28317905
I think that's half the fun because on a realistic level it's still present in many of our basic interactions. You'll need to actually study it too in order to see true results. I have a friend who spent several years in prison and he recommended I study this
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>>28314666
>>28307999
Based trips we praise you, but in all seriousness burnout is a huge deal for most self help.

I think the solution to burnout though isn't what the usual motivation threads and shit like that
>Just work through the pain bro were all gonna make it
I think what you need to do is accept that there will always be pain and the real question that needs to be answered is whether or not what you are suffering for is worth it. What that means though is that you need to take responsibility for what you do
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>>28314938
You could try telling her that her thinning hair is causing her to become less attractive to you. Communication is really important in a relationship so you should keep her informed of how you feel. If you are losing part of your identity because the woman you are with looks different now than when you first met then you are going to have problems throughout your life.

You also shouldn't care what other people think because you can't effectively control what other people think, you can only control how you feel about things.
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>>28303196
I think you should add to the general

>In order to improve yourself you need to believe that you are worth improving
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>>28308929
thats the joke
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>>28317820
WHEN YOU CRITIQUE THIS THREAD. POST A PICTURE OF YOURSELF.

I want to see the loser fucks who decide to hate on an improvement thread.

I guarentee all of you are trash
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>>28303296
third
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>>28308929
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>>28303196
kekkity kek, this thread again
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>>28317820

red goat pls go
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>>28307101
Fucking based. Thanks anon~
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I got a terrible job and lost all my friends. How do I make new ones, /SIG/? I feel so lonely and shitty.
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>>28320897
aren't they pink?
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>>28320794
POST. PHOTO. OF. SELF.
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>>28303196
>The book of pook.pdf
>The Art Of War
>Total Recall
>The Way Of Men
You must be so euphoric.
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Putting this down here.
Goals for this year of Uni.

>Eat 2500+ cal of prepared food
>Drink at least 2 liters of water
>Every 3 hours or so I should eat something
>Hit gym 4 times a week
>Cold shower in the morning
>No fap
>Stretching every day

>Don't miss any days at uni
>Go to library for extra studying / getting assignments done for at least 1 hour every day
>Don't spend money on stupid shit.

>Fuck at least 5 girls this year
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>>28320960
what kind of friends do you want to make? be specific in a way that you can tell whether you're getting closer to it or not.
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>>28317657
Thanks Anon! This is good. I've read most of the book, but having some great notes helps
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>>28307101
not bad brah
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>>28321104
Buds to drink with, someone to talk to about lifting, a bro where I can express how I feel about stuff. I've never had any of these except for the drinking.
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>>28321119
You are welcome, fella!
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>>28321157

1. Talk to people at gym
2. Talk to a philosophy or psychology student/professor (or take/sit in a class)

There you go.
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>>28321345
I dunno man.. I think everyone doesnt like me at the gym because I started out so weak. I always get dirty looks when I come in. I also don't go to college. No money/fed money and all..
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>>28303196
This Thread.
You ARE doing god's work son.
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>>28321157
psych major here. if you wanna shoot emails i'm down.
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ascendexistence.com/self-improvement/
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Might as well post my goals this year.

>Wake up at seven every morning. This will allow me to do some lifting in the morning and eat breakfast.

>Go to bed by 11

>Study at least an hour every night. Some nights I study more than that, but I need to make sure to do it every night.

>Spend half an hour everyday cleaning my apartment. A small clean every day makes it easy to have a clean place.

>Be more social. I'm naturally introverted, but I've been making headway in the social arena, and I need to continue with it.

>Get into rock climbing shape. I need to lose a bunch of weight and gain some upper body strength.

>Become more well read in philosophy. I love the subject, but can't debate it because I haven't read enough. I will start working through the most important authors.

>Stick to a budget. It's time I started saving money and acting like an adult.
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>>28307618
>>28307377
>>28307763

giving porn up is a fucking good move

porn not only fucks your brain so its hard to get turned on by real women but kills your general motivation in life

you can go cold turkey but thats pretty hard just fap to porn like once a week and regular faps using your imagination are still ok just not all the time
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>>28323628

Some people just don't have 'it'
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the amount of fedorascience in this thread is astounding
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I've been improving a lot over the last 6 months.
I'm more active, I'm stronger, I'm starting to look better (cut off my gross long greasy metal hair, no more acne, way better personal hygiene, always fresh).

The problem is I was lazy my whole life. Because of this my teeth are fucked.
What do I do to fix this shit? I'm 20. Is it too late for braces? I brush and floss and mothwash 2x a day but I fear the damage has been done.
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>>28324677

only 20 and doing all that shit? nice work.

yeah go to the dentist and get him to sort you out, your teeth dont look that bad tho
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You guys use any apps to help keep habits? I've been using one that has a calender to track your success, like a don't break the chain thing. But it also allows you to set alarms or silent reminders for any time any number of times per day. It's pretty neat. It makes me feel like shit if I buy fast food because then I have to miss a link and my calander looks like shit.
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>>28324677
>cut off my gross long greasy metal hair
Dude, just fucking wash it. That said, I'd love to say I have amazing long metal hair but alas, its been thinning slowly for the last 5 years, I'm getting to the point where I'm just going to have to shave it. It was nice while it lasted, I just wish I ignored my ex and got dreads

> Is it too late for braces
Its not, it might look unusual for your age while they're on but the results will be worth it. Nice going on all your progress so far too dude, keep it up
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>>28324741
Meh, they aren't too yellow or anything but it feels like some of them or just fucking shaped wrong. My top row has those weird half vampire teeth shit but they are crooked and the bottom row isn't symmetrical.

I work a factory job, making $15/hour, which is good for my area, but I don't think the dental I have would cover superficial stuff like that.

I will go though. I want to be the best me I can be after all.


>>28324767
I liked my hair, but the long strands fell off all the time and got everywhere in my house, in the shower, and I personally think my face looks better now with the short cut. But what do I know?

Thanks for the props both of you, It feels so great to look back just a little while ago and see tangible results.
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>>28303926
>first 1-2 years you'll be shitty

tell that to my band nigger
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>>28324790
>I personally think my face looks better now with the short cut
Well, I can't fault this, if it looks good stick with it.
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>>28305026
underposted rate
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Any studying tips?

I'm studying engineering for three years now. While I am getting better with time, I still don't really know how to study efficiently
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>>28313707
I never started getting girls until I stopped giving a fuck. You have to understand that there nothing lost when you ask a girl out. The more women you go for, the higher your chance at success.
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>>28324884
While this method does work, it also sucks because I have been on some of the worst dates ever just asking out too many chicks.
It's a difficult balance, because I'd like to get to know them at least a little bit so I know I won't have fucking terrible evening and waste money, but at the same time if I start to like them too much rejection feels shittier.
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>>28324874
Bumping for interest. My ability to study is basically non-existent. I feel like I've lost my ability to learn.
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This probably isn't the thread to post in, but it's the closest I can think of outside of making a thread on /b/, which isn't going to happen.

So i'm a 21y/o non-kissless virgin. However, I'm a virgin still because when I was in high school I had a dream of religious significance. I won't go into details about the dream, but because of it I refuse to have sex outside of marriage.

On a personal note, it makes me miserable. I've had a girl literally naked on top of me on my couch wanting to ride me, and I had to send her home before I let her (She was really pretty and I had known her for a while.) Needless to say, she doesn't speak to me anymore.

I have somewhat high standards (No fatshits and you have to be at least a little bit interesting, so many girls don't do anything at all and they aren't really attractive to me.) I'm not saying you have to be a 10/10 model that goes horseback riding and kayaking for me to like you, but you can't be a 500 lb hamplanet who sits at home on /soc/ either.

I was wondering if /fit/ knew if there was a way I could get a girlfriend without it leading to me having to break it up in order to keep my promise to God? It really breaks my heart to have to send a girl home just because she wanted to fuck me and I just can't do it, it makes me feel like i'm not even a man.
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>>28324967

Did you make a type? Was 21y/o supposed to be 12?
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>>28325010

Sorry what I meant was, you're 21, you should be old enough to figure your own life out. You made a choice on how you want to live your life, some people will like it and some won't. Don't complain that the majority of girls don't want to wait for marriage when you're the one who put that restriction up. Live with it or change it, just don't sit around acting confused like "why is this happening?!?!"
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>>28324967
Find a vagina that believes the same tripe you believe in. Pretty sure you have gatho's for that stuff.
Also, that picture is a heap of shit.
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>>28324967
I'm going to keep my opinions of you to myself.

However, if you are truly devoted to this religious thing, shouldn't you get happiness out of being true to your word to god? Shouldn't physical attraction take a backseat to what is surely more important to you?

If you ever come to your senses, fuck a girl.
You need to develop your sexual experiences if you ever want to be happy with another person, unless you magically find someone as loony as you.
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>>28325053
It was a pretty terrifying dream. While I do believe in God, I was never a very religious church-goer or anything.

The main feeling I get for my abstinence is relief that I haven't broken it yet.

>>28325042
Not many abstinent grils in the USA, at least not where i'm from.

>>28325040
>>28325010
I was asking for advice, not complaining.
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>>28325085
I had a sleep paralysis dream/hallucination once where some fucking plague doctors were fucking with my eye sockets with needles and hissing.

It doesn't mean anything though, you silly.
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Tomorrow marks 290 days since I last fapped.
I haven't watched porn during this time either.

I can honestly say it is one of the best things you can possibly do.
If you have any questions, feel free to ask.
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>>28325111
It was more real than anything else i've ever experienced, so i'm gonna keep with it.

Already been doing it for 5 or so years anyway.
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>>28325122
How do you get protein returns if you don't fap into your own mouth?
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>>28325132
I get my boyf to fap into my mouth obvs.
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>>28325129
Sunk Costs Fallacy.

Wake the fuck up dude.


Besides, I don't know what advice anyone could possibly give you. You know exactly why you aren't happy. You want an alternative to actually changing your life to be more happy? Do drugs. Get Drunk. Whatever one of those isn't against your religion.
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>>28325122
How intense are your sexual eruptions, comparatively?

assuming you have sex
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>>28303196

Fuck you goats, I'll live my life however I want.
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How do I become a real man?
I want to be strong, fast, hard and deadly
an athletic young guy who fears nothing, is intelligent, brave and proud

I know how to change my body, but how can I change my character and personality?
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>>28325351
Doing manly things makes you manly.

Think about it like this, if you don't run, you aren't a runner. If you keep running you will be able to run, and eventually consider yourself a runner.

Eventually, if you keep working with your hands, getting strong, and doing alpha things/being confident, that's just how you will be.
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How flexible are you guys on your routines?

How often do you miss a day, and how do you feel when you do?

If I have a long list of shit I wish I did, and shit I wish I didn't do, how do I organize and start to work on it when it all seems so overwhelming?
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It may sound stupid, but is there an "Alpha camp" or something?
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>>28325435
Marine Corps.
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>>28325351
Survive a storm of steel and blood and you can call yourself a real man. Too bad nowadays wars are nothing but air strikes and plastic weapons on the western side.

Sucks to be you.
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>>28325351
>strong, fast
Lift, Plyo
>deadly
Really doubt deadliness makes you more of a real man. There's too much ambiguity around peace and 'being the bigger man' which excludes it.

As for the rest, it's just about exposing yourself to all stimuli. Showering cold, doing 30+ rep sets, walking out in the rain without fear of how you'll look, not being afraid to get into confrontation, etc. All stimuli in the world which challenge you will push you towards it. If you wake up in the morning and remind yourself of your intention to fear nothing and follow through with it in what you expose yourself to, you will fear nothing.
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Just throwing this out there as somebody that's tried self-development a million times and thinks he's found the answer: You're all going about it the wrong way. Hoarding resources, trying compulsively to become 'better', trying to commit to things that somebody else says is good for you (e.g. learning an instrument - it's good, but definitely not essential).

The one thing I would recommend (I hope some people take this seriously) is Mindfulness Meditation over everything else. Being mindful helps you with all of these things (Staying committed, experiencing difficulty, becoming more manly, not fearing people and having more friends, becoming more successful, watching your desires, no fap, being happier, infinitely more++), and it's always my #1 priority of the day to meditate and be present.

If anybody is tired of doing all this self-dev shit and never getting anywhere, and wants to know how to start making a real change, spend some time reading this:
http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe.html

Will change life/10
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>>28325261
I do have sex.
I find that if it's been a long time since my last time I had sex (eg. 3-4 weeks), it'll be much more intense.
However, since I started nofap, I found that it was more intense even over short times (1-7 days)
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>>28303926
The trick is with learning instruments is to keep it fun but turn it into a habit.
Playing for me is like not brushing my teeth just as my teeth feel fuzzy my fingers feel soft.
They should be calloused
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>>28325587
Do you have better or worse stamina in terms of time to orgasm?
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>>28325582
While I don't agree that meditation is really life changing, that book is one of the best books on meditation.
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>>28304853
Stop over thinking it.

If you talk to women, and the only thing on your mind is sex, they're going to catch on and get turned off.

Women want an independent man who is happy by himself. They want to feel like the man is going to bring happiness into their life, not vice versa. Once you realize this you'll get laid.

Until then you're just forcing things and it's going to be luck that gets you laid.

>>28325587
Sex is psychological more than anything else. 90% of ED is psychological. I think that ties into intensity as well.

>>28325582
Yes I definitely agree. I practice that as well.

>>28325351
You become a real man when you stop trying to find answers on why you're not a real man and just accept that you already are.
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>>28325625
Honestly, I don't think nofap has a huge impact on time till you orgasm. And as Brohatma Ghandi said >>28325729 it's mainly psychological.
If you focus on if you're going to cum too quickly, it's very likely you'll cum quickly.
But if you focus on pleasing her and yourself, it's likely you'll do better.
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>>28325582
good post
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Information doesn't lead to action, emotions lead to action.
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>>28306244 is a big fat faggot(newflash: im drunk as hell). Nearly half of the things you listed are not universal advices. I know this may be insulting to you, but I would really like you to look over this and consider reapproaching your ideology of what life means and what being confident is. Your post contradicted a lot of my values so I just wanted to play devils advocate while drunk on a public forum.

Following Posts:
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>>28326151
>moisturize daily (face, neck, chest) after shower
Moisturizing should depend on your skin type/sensitivities/problem areas
>wash hair only once a week (with anti-dandruff shampoo) the rest of the days rinse with water for at least 3 mins
Hair wash subjective, different skin types again(general rule, wash as little as possible for healthy hair)
>dont eat fast food, ever
Just a bogus statement, apart from hormones, pesticides, and genetic modifications used in fast food, there are actually a few healthy choices at most fast food places.
>dress nice. go to a tj maxx or marshalls or goodwill and stock up on clearance button up shirts or polos, a few normal shirts (beige, white, black, gray, navy) 3 pairs of jeans (tight fitting, but not too tight. You dont want to look like a freshman in highschool)
If you wear tight jeans and a button up/polo in everyday life, you look like you are going to chat up drunk fatties at the club, and then not get laid. Dressing is a part of your individual expression and you should dress in a way that you would mind being seen. "Dressing well" is not "tight fitting, but not too tight" jeans and button downs.
>in public places, try to not shift around or play with your phone or look around
If you are spending time in a public setting for more than 10 minutes, and you aren't working or reading a book, and you are bored, and choose to not take out your phone so you can look "alpha," NEWSFLASH: YOURE A BIG FAT FAGGOT.
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>>28326172
>do not ever touch your neck or face unless youre actually blowing your nose or putting in contacts. it is a sign of insecurity
Ties in with the last one, do whatever the fuck you want. If you are choosing to not touch your face for this reason, you are just being insecure about your insecurity. Don't care what strangers think about you touching your face, focus on thinking why you are insecure and fixing it if that is a concern.
>open yourself up in public physically. like spread your arms on a chair or open your legs. curling up and resting your head on your hand like some beta fgt
This is just retarded. You should sit however you feel comfortable. Waiting for something where everybody is standing up? Still got an hour wait? Sit the fuck down. Cold? Curl up. Tired? Rest your head, lay down on the bench. Who gives a shit. "Spread out" is actually a way of "alphas" (see: betas) trying to assert "control" in a situation that they have no control in.
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>>28326184
>pause before you speak, at least more than a second if its casual conversation
Big fat faggot alert. Conversation should come naturally and not require forced things like this. If it doesn't, pausing is working a step backwards towards it becoming so.
>never say sorry unless its totally necessary
You should avoid saying "sorry" all the time since it makes people pity you, but you don't have to wait for it to be absolutely necessary. If you feel "sorry" for something- SAY IT. If you feel like you say it too much, just try to consciously try to identify if you are really sorry or just saying it. Communication isn't about pretending to be alpha, it's about expression thoughts/ideas/emotions effectively.
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>>28326192
CLOTHES:
>disgusting white shirt with graphic design and ill fitting shorts with dirty running shoes: NO
You should aim for fitting clothes, but on a lazy day, wear a graphic tee if you like them, don't if you don't. Shouldn't not wear clothes you like. Wear some shorts you know look like shit, if you don't mind. Odds are, people will think "look at that dumb ass shorts," but you should just get over it. If you want to impress strangers, good on you and go for it. If you don't care, don't.
>trench coats ever: NO
Usually. Trenchcoats are an important staple of menswear/business fashion, and fits in more in certain climates. Looks bad on nearly everybody, but if you like it wear it(but you probably look bad). Aim to fix whatever is making it look bad.
>tank tops if youre not tan and muscular: NO
The recurring pattern, wear whatever the fuck you want.
>>transition lenses, fucking ever
Big fat faggot. They aren't worth it to me, since the ones I tried (10 years ago) didn't transition in the car, but if you spend a lot of time outdoors, it's annoying to carry around a spare sunglasses.
>jeans with black reeboks and a metal t shirt
looks bad. wear it if you like it. confidence is key
>never get a buzzcut unless youre balding
some people have no interest in maintaining hair
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>>28324874
>>28324939
If you don't think that you can learn then that is your problem. If you don't think that you can study then that is your problem. If you think something is true and it makes you feel bad that is YOUR problem

Ultimately you need to do what Brohatma Ghandi said earlier in this thread and just realize that you already can study and learn. The question really isn't whether you can or cannot do it it's whether or not you want to

What is the point of productivity/efficiency in a task that you don't want to do? If you want to just get something over with then you shouldn't do it in the first place
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>>28315753

stronglifts, its a variant of ss, but with less focus on squats
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>>28324967
you could become a Jehova's witness they also believe they have to wait until they are married to have sex
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>>28307377
>mfw I relapsed a couple of times, despite the sex drive crash
>mfw I don't even want to watch porn anymore
Porn free for almost two months. Tried hitting on girls a few nights back, for the first time ever, feels good man, placebo or not
>failed miserably with the grills but don't even give a fuck
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>>28303196
>Accelerated Learning
http://pastebin.com/yEN7ru09
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>what you need to MASTER
PATIENCE
DISCIPLINE

>why
BECAUSE THEY CARRY OVER TO EVERYTHING IN LIFE

>things you should be doing
YOU KNOW WHAT THE FUCK YOU SHOULD BE DOING, JUST GET THE DISCIPLINE TO DO THEM, AND HAVE THE PATIENCE TO ACCOMPLISH EVERYTHING IN TIME.

thats all you really need, some of those book are great but then some are just generic ''how 2 b alpha 4 betas'' (pook is not one of these, its amazing despite coming from a pua forum. EVERYTHING in it is SOLID)

this should really be on /adv/, but then again I'd rather have self-help threads on /fit/ than the same old tiring memes, and height/dick/race trolls.
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>>28303196
OP why did you use the cropped version?

Also
>No More Mr. Nice Guy
https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf

It's breddy gud and would probably do a lot of people on here a lot of good.
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>>28303196
>is built for climbing

I don't get this one
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>>28306751
>Thinking I or anyone else should have to read all this shit to improve themselves

Intellectualism is just another barrier you put between yourself and the world. Even the OP has superfluous reading material that isn't necessary. Art of War? Fuck off.
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Advices on from a few threads ago, just dumping what I put before

Never care what other people think. You've got a mind and a voice, don't silence them to please other people.

Dress to impress yourself. Personally, I don fully agree with /fa/ on somethings, but its good for basics. Essentially, dress up everyday to think Holy Shit I look sext as fuck.

Always have a project. Don't know where to start? Start with your body, and you'll find others.

Think of completing goals as a day to day thing. Rather than "I'll be 9% bf this time next year" make the goal "today i eat healthy - this next meal will be grillen chicken and veg, etc"

Most guys love relationships, not women. Under 30? Been with less than 20 girls? Don't settle down yet

Smile more. Or practice smiling more.

Never take anything as personal, just a new lesson.

Girls LIKE being spoken to. The guy just staring at them is creepy. Fuck, stick your tongue out at them if they catch you staring- do it cheekily enough and they smile. Or think you look part lzard. Either is fine.

Work hard, play hard. Dedicate time to unwinding.

Stand up straight, shoulders pushed back and chest out. Instant vconfidence boost as opposed to shoulders slunk forward and chest sunk in.

Moar?
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>>28303196
>stop cursing

nah ur a cunt

if I keep cursing I'll improve over time

and this thread is shit

only dubs can save it
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>>28325351
>who fears nothing
You don't want to attain this (it's arguably impossible). Read The Art of War.
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>>28325369

great underrated post
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>>28307202
>blaming america
>mature
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>>28305505
one on one lessons are good, but only if you have a teacher you can get along with and relate to.
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>>28329091
Reading it. Guess I'm both.
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>>28313212
i like to buy band merch to support bands (mostly smaller ones), but fuck, I never wear that stuff outside the house
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>>28314547
fucking lol
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>>28303196
AYY LMAO
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>>28324874
This varies a lot between people - some people are more visual and have different memories
However you can write your notes then summarize then summarize again - the act of writing helps get it into your brain
Your memory works by linking things like concepts, images and places to each other - if you can find ways to link relevant knowledge in your mind it helps
Try memory cards, explaining things to someone else, recordings etc. etc.
Read up on memorization and study techniques, experiment, and find out what works for you
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>>28329260
I've read art of war, I can't believe how much people hype it up
Most of it is super obvious shit like "You should feed your army"... duh
That said a lot of self help books assume you're semi retarded so I guess intense patronization comes with self-improvement territory
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>>28329338
>Moar?

MOAR
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>>28329338
>stick your tongue out at them if they catch you staring- do it cheekily enough and they smile

roflmao will start doing these, what could go wrong
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>>28325388
this
answer to the glorious dubs pls
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>>28303196
/fit/ has sent me to this website before, reposting for you bros.

arcitea.com/
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>>28329338
very nice. some adjustments:

>Never care what other people think. You've got a mind and a voice, don't silence them to please other people.
instead of using others as a lighthouse to guide you, use them as a compass to check if something is way off (like everyone hates you, might be cuz they h8rs, might be cuz you deserve it)

>Stand up straight, shoulders pushed back and chest out.
chest out is the wrong cue, you get arched lower back and that douche chest look. neutral spine is better, imagine being suspended from the top of your head
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>Been lifting
>starting college tomorrow
>Cleaned my room today
>parting out my car, finally got it up on blocks
>we all gone make it :)
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>>28304562
Regardin therapist stuff, look up Blahtheraphy
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>>28329260
Sigh. Of course I don't think you should read all of these books. I just want to point out that their is an existing list of reading material composed by /fit/. You obviously shouldn't read them all, neither are all of them good books. And the barrier you talk about is mentioned in at least two of the books on the list (Book of Pook & how to make friends and influence people).

/SIG/ is a thread with ideas, things you could do, things that might help. Not an instruction set that you have to follow.

And yes, Art of War has been critisised a lot so whenever someone feels the urge to make a second list, he'll probably remove it.
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>>28329260
Are you a troll? Or a young fag? It's pretty obvious that you need to learn books to draw inspiration, to learn how to do things, to understand the world better.

Granted, reading some books can be pretentious like The Great Gabsy (lol), but I'll take a book over TV any day.
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>>28333271
>arcitea.com/

Reading blog now, thank you base anon
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>>28333531
Very nice, we're all gonna make it.

Little things adds up to big things …

Imagine average Joe coming home from work. Instead of cracking a beer and vegetating in front of the TV before bed time … he hits the gym. After a year of training, he’s shredded as fuck. Women admire him. His wife gives him blow jobs on demand.

He reads for an hour a day. Because his read books that enrich his minds, he makes better life decisions. He eats better food. He saves and invests his money. Perhaps he even works on his own business part time.

There’s an old saying that goes – those who don’t read, live only once. Those who read lives the life of a thousand men.

After reading, he meditates for 20 minutes. What used to raise his stress level is now met with zen like calm. He’s more in tune with his spiritual self. The more he meditates, the more self actualize he becomes.
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>>28329260

There’s an old saying that goes – those who don’t read, live only once. Those who read lives the life of a thousand men.
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Someone asked for more so I'll give more
>>28333475
This guy gets it.

Know how to use your hands as well as your brain. A handy man is a popular man.

Speaking of using your brain, don't be stupid. Think things through, educate yourself. Not everyone can be intelligent, but that doesn't give you the right to be an idiot.

It s not vanity, its pride. Take pride in your appearance, take pride in your surroundings.

The little things make a big difference. Always focus on the little things.

Never judge a woman for being a slut, because 9 times outta 10, you're just pissed off that shes not sleeping with you.

4chan is a terrible place. Use it for info and then fuck off (still working on).

The key to conversation is asking questions, just don't be an autist about it. React to what other people say, but to keep it flowing ask questions. For best advice, look for Tom Torrero Conversational King on tpb.

When doing something knew, make sure to hav fun with i. I said earlier about sticking your tongue out if a grill catches you staring. I do it for fun, and grills who are interested usuaaly reciprocate, or even give that sexy shy smile. Just have fun with everything.

Motorbikes impress girls more.

Only miss breakfast if your fatasfatass.

Have principles, something you believe in and will stand up for.

Use soap, a bar of soap before anything else.

Scooby maybe the nattyking, but hes brilliant for fatties losing weight.

If you can kill it or grow it, you can eat it. You cant grow a pizza, but you can grow apples. Easiest diet advice ever

Anyway, tired now, will chuck more in over the next few threads. If i end up repeating myself, its just because I think those are the most important points.
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>>28333946

thanks man
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So this idea has been flowing through my head

Right now I am a high school graduate NEET with no job about to start college next semester, and I was thinking about typing up all my thoughts and experiment with the best and fastest ways to become successful as I become more successful. Like a "Starting Success" routine based on breaking your habits, becoming more successful, and becoming more optimistic and giving better chances for your future.

It would be for the NEET autist or whatever you would like to call them because I (kind of) am one and it would be from my perspective as I move up. I think I have great writing skills, and my reading comprehension reflects that. I would probably write about how I experimented with certain things, give really in-depth tips, and all that good stuff on my road to success (it would be a project until I have a great job... I would eventually post it on here in a couple years and share what I did, kind of like my skinnyfat - swole progress except in success in the real world.

but it's just thoughts right now, does this sound good or does it sound really gay
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>>28326209
>>28326192
>>28326184
>>28326184
>>28326172

Wow shut the fuck up you dumb baby.
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I really like these threads. Self-improvement should be a #1 priority for any human being.

What I recently (in the last few months) incorporated in my daily routine is meditation as OP also suggests. Made me a lot more calm and relaxed. I can only recommend it.
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>>28307763

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

Check this out
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>>28304966

>It's a numbers game mate

It took my years to realize this. I'm 22 now, and it wasn't until the last few months that I realized how little it means to get rejected by a girl. You can't get along with everyone, it's simply impossible. I've had my fair share of success in the past, but I always got stood up when I got rejected or things didn't work out as I thought. Just stop giving a damn.
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Hi all, jobless, degreeless, friendless, gfless NEET reporting in. How do I fix my crippling social anxiety and addiction to weed?
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>>28334973

1. Cut down on the weed

If you smoke multiple times a day now, cut down on it. From five times to three times. Gradually do this so you only smoke a few times a week. Then once a week... etc.

2. Social anxiety

See a therapist and get description for medications. I don't have any experience with social anxiety myself, but it's my impression that meds and therapy are the way to go

Best of luck Anon, we're all gonna make it.
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I want to learn everything there is to know about how the human body works, and how nutrition works.
Where do I start?
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>>28335245

I would say an encyclopedia about the human body and system. I don't have a specific recommendation, but try googling it.
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Protips for life
1/2
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>>28307101
Lets see
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>>28335292
2/2
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>>28309418
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>>28307999
>Ditch your loser friends
I want to do this but without looking like an asshole, is there a way?
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>>28334973
>addiction to weed
real talk I have no idea how people get addicted to that shit
weed just makes me wish I wasn't high
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>>28335350

Kind of in the same situation. I have one friend who I don't really get any benefit from knowing but I think she's pretty dependent on me.

What do?
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>>28318320
> you need to take responsibility for what you do

hit me hard bro, i'm high as fuck and this resonated with me a lot. Like I sit on my ass all day everyday as if i'm being forced to by someone other than myself.
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>>28335350
Just start spending your free time doing constructive things. Have an excuse to not hang, like being at the gym or something. Eventually you will just drift apart, no mess.
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>>28335416
The thing is that I see them at school and if I avoid them it would be pretty obvious, like not sitting with them or not acknowledging them on the corridors.
But if it needs to be, so be it, they are good friends and all but their mentality is just so pathetic and I can't stand it.
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>>28335477
In that case it would just be finding a new group of guys to sit with that have similar ideals. Your old and new friends would likely clash and they would leave you a lone.
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>>28335357
i smoke only around 5g a week but i use it to unwind and avoid anxieties/responsibility. Forgetting about all your troubles for a while is kind of addictive. The thing is you should be working on your troubles to improve things rather than trying to ignore it I guess.
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>>28325388
>>28332449
If you miss a day just accept that you did it for a reason that made sense for you. Beating yourself up over the past doesn't help. In the same sense planning out the future is also pointless because reasons to modify your plans will always come up

You need to realize that whether you like it or not you exist in the present and all of your fears about what has happened and regrets about will happen also exist in the present. Ultimately your mind is just giving you suggestions about what you should do. You are the final arbiter who decides how you will act
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how do i stop having a frowny face? i look pissed off all the time. I think there's something fucked with my teeth/jaw because i can't smile for shit. My mouth doesn't go that way dawg
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>>28335350
>>28335384
You're being an asshole by hanging out with them when you think they're losers.

If you told them that you didn't want to hang out anymore because you thought that they were a negative influence wouldn't they understand? If not then aren't they the assholes then?
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i gotta stop eating candy, this sugar addiction is killing me and i can't stop
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>>28335622
Why can't you stop? Just don't buy it?

I used to drink 2-3 cans of Pepsi per day, plus the large drinks when I got fast food or multiple glasses at a sit-down restaurant. I just stopped buying it. Now when I'm thirsty I have to drink water because it's all I have. Shit works brah.
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>>28335575
relax your facial musculation, man. massage your face if you have to. buy frownies and wear them at night
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>>28335575
hint: smile and lift your eyebrows more/be expressive with your face.
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>>28335589
I like them anyways, but I know they are losers because they are my friends since highschool, when I was a loser too, and when I try to help them they think that it's impossible to change in a good way and that their behavior is normal.
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>>28335622
Never tell yourself you can't do something. You can, but the first step is to realize that you can. Until then, you're just lying to yourself.

>>28335575
Flex your cheek muscles, look up something really funny. Force yourself to smile, even if you don't mean it.

It takes more muscles to frown than smile, and when you flex your smiling muscles it actually releases endorphins.

>>28335542
You only tell yourself that it helps you unwind and avoid anxiety. Before you smoked weed you were able to deal with anxiety and responsibility. Don't fool yourself into think you don't have that ability naturally.

Trust me, I recently got over smoking weed as well.
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>>28335690
Also more on
>>28335542
A large portion of wanting to smoke weed is the social aspect of it. If you smoke with friends stop smoking with them. You're probably going to lose friends doing so, but they weren't worth having in the first place if you can't enjoy them sober.
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>>28335648
abstinence

>>28335690
my self image is non existant
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this might be a weird question but can i make my mouth wider/bigger somehow? people say i mumble and hardly move my lips when i talk
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>>28335669
So you want to get rid of your friends
>because you think they're losers
>>because they hang out with you
doesn't that mean that no matter who you're friends with you will think that they're losers?
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>>28333935
>There’s an old saying that goes – those who don’t read, live only once. Those who read lives the life of a thousand men.

A saying made up by nerds who do nothing but read books. Gamers have started saying the exact same thing to justify their shitty escapist hobby too.

http://youtu.be/ZGpM9OXXcOM?t=9s
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>>28333946
thanks dad
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>>28335751
No, I mean that I was a loser with the same mindset as them in highschool, but now I'm trying to change and they drag me down with their "We're not supposed to do that" mentality.
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>>28335745
Whenever you talk to someone you probably speak quietly without thinking about it; this has nothing to do with your mouth size. The solution is to just think about speaking louder and forgiving yourself whenever you forget
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>>28303926
any tips on the more advanced guitar theory? really struggling to find a resource of the correct pace, any good books?
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>>28335328
I like this. I added a bunch of them to my list of quotes/sayings I have
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>>28335754
Yeah people say that about pretty much anything. They just want to feel special for the things they already do without putting in extra effort to change. If it was actually true that books/videogames/PostingOnBhutanianMantraBoards actually made you an objectively better person everyone would do it
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>>28335866
Everyone already does those things, that's why they lap up the platitudes that people put out to justify it.
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>>28335836
tip: don't wait to learn the songs you want to play. Find one you like and slow it down until you can play it. It's useful to learn songs this way that contain cool licks or techniques you would like to learn.

Combine that technique with a little common sense googline, i.e: how to sweep pick/how to tap/how to alternate pick etc etc.

Also, mind your picking hand's technique. You should always make sure the pick is perpendicular to the thumb and that the pointy end of the pick is only just about showing beneath the thumb. This way it can move over the strings more efficiently and you can play smoother/quicker.

Regarding attack (your picking/strumming motion) you should only be moving your wrist, not your elbow or shoulder. The motion should be relaxed and have no tension in the hard itself except for the slight bit required to hold the pick. (hold it tight enough to not fall out when brushing against the strings, but not too tight) The pick should be angled upwards at all times; you may have a tendency to move your pick angle to get to the higher strings, where infact you should be lowering or lifting up your hand instead. The pick should always be angled upwards.

For your fretting hand you should aim to get as clear as possible sounds out of every note. Your finger dexterity is important too. You don't have to push down too hard to get a sound. For an exercise try playing a note with your finger on the note without applying any pressure. Slowly add pressure until a clear note rings, you'll be surprised how lightly you can press down to get a clean note.

In general your fretting hand should be tension free and relaxed as possible. Relaxation is another key to speed. If you are playing sometihng challenging and find yourself tensing up, take a breath, completely relax your hand and continue.

Use a metronome.

Just some stuff I learned over the past few years of playing.
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>>28335958
You should just feel whatever you want then and justify it however you want
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>>28335984

I think I can play the vast majority of songs in the way you say (been playing 10 months and I can play a sloppy sultans of swing)

My question was about theory, chord formation, arpeggios, scales ect

I was surprised by how lightly I can press to get a note, thanks a load, that's really helpful

I dont really use a pick so that's a useful tip about he angle for when I have to learn something I cant fingerpick, ty m8
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>>28335754
>A saying made up by nerds who do nothing but read books.

Obviously someone shouldn't be sitting at home all day reading books but should go out there and experience life itself.

But reading every day is good for the brains. Holy fuck, it isn't and all or nothing arguement.

Fucking nigger.
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>>28335754
Go fuck yourself you omega bitch.
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>>28307999
>interesting (and productive) hobbies
>picking up women
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>>28337054
yes but the people who say that shit are usually the people who don't even have their own lives to begin with. if they did, they'd be busy enjoying their lives, instead of trying to justify their time spent reading or whatever.
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>>28333549

checking it out now, thanks
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>>28337655
Some people actually enjoy reading.

>reading or whatever
You remind me of the idiocracy movie.
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>>28303926
>tfw learned to play Brown Sugar and Street Fighting Man this week

Thank You Based Open-G
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>>28329260
whats wrong with art of war?
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>>28337941
don't forget to improvise and create something! creation is part of learning. open tunings are great for this.
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>>28310115
how to scalate m8 pl0x
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>>28323679
>mfw I don't watch porn yet still fap rabidly
life finds away to not make things easy.
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If you wear polo's you'll look like you're trying to pick up underageb& girls.
If you wear graphic t's, expect to be treated like a manchild.

Love, /fa/
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>>28338516
nothing. its just not interesting to him
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>>28338939
What if I wear a graphic polo? Do I win a free fedora?
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>>28306978
>DEATHFUCKKK EXPLOSION SUPWR WRESTLEMANIA CUNTSMASHKILL 2013 TOUR t shirt
>not being a fucking manchild, ever

it makes you look like a stupid pleb who listens to heavy metal to deal with pain caused by problems that YOU created by either being 1. Autistic 2. Fat 3. Lazy. under general assumption its a beta way to tell everyone "yo man I hate everything I am a edgy faggot and I like shitty loud white trashcore music because it allows me to live in an alternate universe where im not some complete fucking loser waste of space human bean"
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>>28339078
>listening to music
I don't have metal t-shirts but a lot of the shirts I wear is just old high school shit I have in my closet. No fucks given.
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>>28323679
What's wrong with not being turned on my real women?
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>>28339105
nothing imo, but if you get too sucked into waifuism it will distort your mind and might make you depressed. I'm currently in this situation and I don't know what to do.
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Hey there /fit/. What are some good male models to look up to and learn from? I need to know more about women and how to act around them.
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>>28340165
Elon Musk, founder of Tesla, Ebay, Space X and Solar City.

Read my blog, I just updated it. Best post you'll read.

http://projectubermensch.wordpress.com/
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>>28335866
>If it was actually true that x actually made you an objectively better person everyone would do it.

That's why there are no fatties on the world and nobody smokes...
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>>28337941
That Gif was great, I never imagined Doom Marine doing a desk job
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