Does anyone else here have a girlfriend who doesn't reciprocate sexually? I fuck and eat my girl out for as long as it takes to make sure she is sexually satisfied. I eat her out for as long as she likes yet she hasn't blown me in a month. It seems like she doesn't care if I am sexually satisfied or not. Sometimes after she cums she'll say " we need to stop, I'm too sore".
I know some of you will say I should dump her. I would, but I love her and want to make it work.
How do I make her start reciprocating and actually sexually satisfying me?
so lets say you love her, and dont want to dump her.
and so you continue dating, and eventually you marry the girl.
you want to live your life disappointed in any way with your current partner?
go ahead, be my guest dude. talk to her about it, or dump her.
That blows man... pun not intended.
You'd think if she loved you she would be down to S your D all day...
That's usually how girls are.
She just might not be that sexual.
Somehow you gotta make the idea of giving you head fun to her.
Do yourself one favour and if you can't make it work, bail soon enough. Once you are broken up you will hate yourself instead of her because you let yourself go through all that shit.
One a related note, stop going down on her and all that goodliness (fucking hard to resist) and see if anything changes.
She sounds like a selfish cunt.
Don't do it anymore. Have her make you come first.
Trust me, I was going through the same thing. I told my girlfriend...I'm not doing anything until I receive something in return. She got mad, lost her boner, and doesn't initiate sex unless she's willing to reciprocate.
You have to talk to her, OP.
So here's a problem for you guys:
I'm dating a girl who says she's never had an orgasm. Never. I've never dated a girl like that before. I ate her out and she said she was close, but it wasn't going to happen. I didn't fuck her yet, but it's on the agenda for this weekend.
Anybody have experience with this sort of gal? Any hints on ways to make her cum? For your reference, she's 32 years old, and I'd hate for her to die orgasmless.
Is she actually satisfied or is she simply faking it to make you feel better and then just cannot be bothered to get you off because you're not getting her anywhere?
Don't take offence, just make sure as ive heard of women doing this.
Also could be worse, been with my SO for 2+ years and never once had an orgasm. Sex doesn't last very long, under 3mins. Tried many different things, basically giving up on sex now. May end it, but sex has never been that enjoyable for me as I'm always putting in the effort..
I'm on anti-depressants, so besides retaining a shitload of water my sex drive is non-existent. Haven't had a boner for months, is this normal?
I'm not bothered by it I guess.
Keep in mind that sex is more mental/emotional in nature for girls than for guys. For us it's simple, just see tits -> want to fuck -> fuck, no context or anything required. I think for girls though they need novelty or excitement. She probably wanted to fuck all the time when you started dating and then tapered off as things started to feel routine right? You need to surprise or impress her somehow in order to get her going again. Unfortunately most girls cannot just see your dick and immediately be in the mood so if you want awesome sex on the reg this is what you gotta do.
Well, she's mentally ready for it, that's for sure. Guess she'll just have to wait for the D and take it from there.
For the first time, I generally go for straight missionary. real passionate shit with eye contact and such. But that's just the first time.
Yea, we've only been dating a couple weeks, so that might take some time.
It's tough for me to wrap my mind around an orgasm threshold. I cum when I cum, and that's that. I guess with guys it's a bit easier to tell when you've done it.
Still, now I'm nervous I'm not going to make her cum and sex will be this meaningless shitshow where she puts on airs and pats me on the back and says "good for you".
I dated a 28 year old who never had an orgasm even by herself. I fucked her in the ass while she dildoed her pussy and she had one. After that she had them all the time. Might not wanna try that one the first time though
My ex was kind of like this. She was a rape victim, so I never pushed her beyond expressing that I wanted oral or whatever.
She literally sucked at BJs, and always gave up after a minute or so. I think she wanted to please me, but she never moved out of her comfort zone to do so unless I pushed her somewhat. I probably would have gone further if she hadn't been raped, though.
Just be frank with her and say stuff that makes her realize there's an imbalance in your sex life.
I fucking hate the word "clit", I'd rather say clitoris.
Eating a girl out might be pleasant for the girl, but in my experience those frantic orgasms come more easily from increasingly hard stimulation by hand (or dick obviously).
I've been in your situation, about a year ago. I didn't want to dump her, I wanted to make it work, cause I still loved her. A GF with much lower sex drive than you, is just going to frustrate the hell out of you, and at one point this frustration is going to start affecting other areas of your life as well. Just do yourself a favor and end it now, you'll be happy you did it. I went on for 6-7 months with that shit, and I regret not ending it earlier.
then just say it like a grown-ass man.
sorry, I'm getting off track. See, with the girls I've fucked in the past, the easiest and quickest way to an orgasm is cunnilingus. That's why i was shocked when she told me it wasn't happening. So like I said before, I guess I'm gonna have to give her a dicking until it happens.
>I know some of you will say I should dump her. I would, but I love her and want to make it work.
You know, I usually help out people like you. I was going to type a lengthy, helpful response, but that line killed it. Enjoy your pathetic relationship you beta faggot.
Oh, and i'm almost 99% sure she has a dude on the side she fucks. If she "loved" you as much as you love her, she would do the same, if not more to see you sexually satisfied. But keep on thinking this is as good as you can get.
>long distance relationship
>see each other two to three times a month, bang like drunk rabbits after a Jimmy Buffet concert
>she started at a new program, I'm taking care of my parents
>been a month
I'm dying over here, holy shit. I've been fapping like a madman. Exercising more or hanging with friends used to work, but now I'm like a sexual Hulk and I cannot get off myself.
That feel when:
Be nogfvirgin(~18) and suddenly meet the most qt grill of my dreams (~21). First time I really approached her and talked we went on from 3:00pm to 3:00am. We end up really into eachother with 10/10 chemistry. End up boning and have a kickass passionate romantic aggressive and (relatively) lewd sexual relationship. Learn how to into passionate soft lighting level soundtracked sex. Feelsgoodman. All sex is excellent, every time.
Find out she has BF
Thiswouldhappen.jpg. Be alone for the next summer until my birthday when I meet grill (21) and coax her into birthday sex. It's pretty good, I was a little rusty. End up in FWB relationship. Chemistry is shit. She's a little too slow for me and pretty inexperienced in bed. Leave her after a bit.
End up with a grill i met in class (18). I usually don't go for girls my height, but why not. She ended up being a dead fish, just kind of lying on her back. Nope.
>That feel when I may have had the best sex that I will ever have in my entire life already.
>That feel when since the first, girls have been passionless shells of people.
>That feel when I just want somebody to looooooooove.
Hold me /fit/
I have two more years of college left, I need to get my shit together...
>then just say it like a grown-ass man.
What is this, a fucking porn site now?
>See, with the girls I've fucked in the past, the easiest and quickest way to an orgasm is cunnilingus
Not my experience, but it depends on the girl I think. Some like it slow and soft, but I (and in effect the girls I date) like it a bit rough. Her state of mind has a lot to say, though.
Elaborate on what? That she's most likely cheating on OP? Probably so. If not, then my next guess would be that she's bored with him and is already forming her exit plan from the relationship.
> yet she hasn't blown me in a month.
And you dont suspect anything? ffs man, this must be this poor saps first LTR.
Is that a real thing? That if she doesn't give you oral as much as you give her then she's likely straying?
I'm doing a long distance thing with my gf while school isn't in session so this worries me a bit. I'd hate to find out somehow later that I've wasted my time on this girl while being blind to obvious signs like an idiot
get a semi/have her stroke your dick and fondle your balls
hold the base of your shaft with index and thumb to make a temporary cockring to keep you hard
you won't have any issues once inside
Or maybe you're bored of the V. Try out the D, see if you like it.
Just talk to her about it. Sometimes us girls get into a funk where we cannot be turned on or enjoy sex. It is purely mental. I doubt it is because she is straying, but hell, we do not know her!
If she gives up after she cums get her to blow you, so you both can finish. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and when I have to tap out I blow him to finish, every time it happens.
Good for you? eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh
I went back to mostly normal after a month of being off them, back to completely normal by now (at least 6 months).
If the drugs work for you, stay on them.
So lately my orgasms have been shit. Well my orgasms while masturbating.
I think I might know why but I'm not sure, lemme see if anyone here has any opinions. So pretty much what happens is as soon as I cum the tip of my dick or glans becomes WAY too sensitive and any friction suddenly becomes irritating. But most the pleasure comes from the glans and frenulum so Continuing to stroke hurts but not stroking kills the pleasure. I end up with mediocre orgasms that leave me unfulfilled. Like it still feels good but its not the full body euphoria I'm used to, my mind never really goes blank.
I don't have this problem with my GF though but we only bang maybe once a week, not even always that due to distance.
The only thing I can think of is it's because I don't fap as much as I used to. I started cutting down due to hearing all the bad things about porn and over masturbation. The pro's of saving it up and blowing an awesome load inside your girlfriend. I'm also cut and have been a friction masturbator since I was a kid, but I started using lube now. I think the issue may be with my reduce volume of fapping, plus using lube my dick head is now super fucking sensitive. Where as growing up I chaffed the fuck out of it all the time so I could take the extra abuse during orgasm and not suddenly hurt.
What say you /fit/?
I did the same thing for partly the same reason. Funny thing is we still have sex once or twice a week, which is about how often we would when we were dating, maybe even a bit more.
I have similar problems mate. I have not talked to her about it yet though.
Its weird, when we talk dirty, she talks about how she thinks 69 is hot but rarely sucks my cock.
I always give her head and make her cum many many times.
I am also first person she has dick sucked and she is low mileage pussy, only been fucked a few times.
Like the 70% of girls in their twenties I've been with
You wan't to please her because you're in a "relationship"
You're nervous faggot.
>tfw the worst sex happens with the girls you wouldn't like to disappoint
I kinda know this feel OP, my sex life with my gf has dropped off a shitload and we've been together 3 years. I'm a fap twice a day kinda guy so I get fucked off if we don't fuck every time we see each other.
We pretty much only fuck once every week and a half which has made me cut back my visits and not be bothered to see her anymore.
I think I wanna get rid of her /fit/ but I can't be bothered with the drama.
You need to make her notice that other women are attracted to you.
My girl gives me head almost every day or whenever I ask for it. It's awesome. She loves fucking even more than I do. And she's beta as fuck and LOVES telling guys that hit on her than she's taken.
It's pretty solid. She is slightly baby crazy though
I'm gonna fuck my friend's bitch, I already know it's gonna happen, inevitably, eventually. He is a trex skinny fat manlet stoner with no ambition besides weed and with the two of us it's like that long lost friend connection like we've known each other forever. Life is so hard when you try to be #based Am I a piece of shit? Should I care?
Not really. She lives an hour and a half away, we both work full time and have busy lives. We set aside one day a week to hang out, often she spends the night but she can't always so some times we can't have sex. Some days we spend the whole day with other people friends and family so there's no time to bang.
I'd rather have a relationship like this where we're always doing things and having fun over a boring one where all we do is have sex. In another year when we move in together we'll have more sex.
You are human garbage.
Seriously people who do this sicken me, I hope you get the shit kick out of you and your teeth stomped in and your face fucked up so no girl ever wants to sleep with you again.
The fact that you view other people this way, friend or not, that you can just do what you want, fuck over their life, just for what you want with no remorse is disgusting.
18 years married to a woman that is selfish in bed. Don't do it OP. Or if you do, make it clear to here that you will be engaging in extracaricular activities. Its the worse thing.
I've had 1 half ass massages and zero blowjobs to completion in my entire 35 years (except for bi hookups on craigslist). There is also bi hookups on craigslist if you just want a goddamn mind blowing blowjob.
Its okay if I do anything to her, but she doesn't want to do it to herself
>and no finishing in the mouth
Am I being selfish, or does it not seem fair that if the guy goes down on the girl, the same should be reciprocated?
I did that shit because I don't really like sucking dick and would rather just bang.
My boyfriend called me out on it and told me he wants more blowjobs. So now I give him more blowjobs.
Just tell her. It's not that hard.
My girlfriend never had an orgasm before me. For a long time she faked it with me before admitting that she never got off, so I just told her to not fake anything anymore. I ate her out often, and picked up on what she enjoyed the most. Eventually I made her cum by sticking to it and going at her clit until it became enough. You just need to be persistent and find out exactly what to do to get the build up she needs.
fuck off you misogynistic fucking shitlord if she isnt ok with you shoving your tiny penis down her throat then you are pretty much a rapist for even thinking about it, going down on her is the bare minimum you can do without it being straight up domestic abuse
Have you asked her to go down on you lately? If so, I can't help much. If not though, you have to realize that blatant communication is more important than not being embarassed or whatever the fuck else to ask for something you expect and ahe may not know that you expect.
You must not know what it feels like to be dead inside.
Realistically I'll probably wait tell they've been broken up a while.
>Bitch your girl choose up, I'mma bag her, and I snatch her
My girlfriend gave one blowjob and completely hated it. I've never had one, and I never thought they looked sexy.
However, I would like to have one at some point just to see what it's like and if I do enjoy it. How do I tell my girlfriend this and convince her to do it?
same with my girl. does your girl even bother to have sex with you any more though? we're pretty much down to twice a month and its driving me insane since i have a sex drive and she has literally zero and doesnt enjoy it. when we do have sex i just finish as soon as i can cause i know she's not enjoying it. also >communication my ass, doesn't work
>never had a blowjob
I find they are honestly more pleasurable than sex.
That is, if they know what the hell they are doing.
A girl giving her first (and first 10 or so) blowjobs range from okay to teeth scrapping against your dick/10
Sounds like someone's been cheated on.
I've been the other guy.
I'm pretty sure I've been cheated on too. No proof though since she was 4000 miles away.
Hopefully that was the karmic retribution and I won't have to go through that later.
Like these fuckers
fit nice, really thin and with just enough lube
Nope, never been cheated on, but I've had close friends be cheated on, seen the damage it does. Seen what happens when it's one of their best friends that did it, when the fucker feels no guilt. When it's years of friendship destroyed for nothing, creating a rift in a group of friends.
I've seen it happen a few times and every single time it fills me with utter disgust. I've had enough of selfish people in my life, people who only give a fuck about themselves. Now if I meet a selfish person I just don't put any effort or energy into them. But I keep around people worthwhile and if anyone suddenly become selfish I drop them like a sack of bricks. I'm done with it in every way possible, it's an immature fucking spoiled attitude and people try to romanticize it by being "dead on the inside" or "damaged" I've met people who have been through worse and come out better people so I give no fucks as to why people act the way they do, but I'll not associate with selfish pricks.
Its been the best choice i've ever made.
My girlfriend's been sick for a while, they think they've finally figured out what it is, but they're still not 100% sure. So she's been nauscious for over a month, which means no sex. She's just as horny as I am
So basically you're saying you make snap judgments about who is "selfish" or "not selfish" your first few times meeting people and if you deem them not worthy of your presence you make no effort to understand them or get through to them and just treat them like shit until they stop associating with you?
Sounds like you are the real prick, anon.
>I love her
>concerned about sex this much
No, you loved her blowjobs and you miss them, you miss the slut side of your gf.
I've been in the same situation, since I did begin to treat her like shit, she was on my dick before I realized it.
Treat her like shit in your normal life and especially in bed, use force in bed, slaps and light chokes will do the trick...also grab her by her hips with all the strenght you have, she has to feel a little pain...bitches love pain.
No, you assumed I make these judgments quickly, I simply said I don't associate with selfish people.
If I meet a person I assume the best. If they start to show selfish qualities then I drop them. I have a lot of patience for character flaws, but if you start hurting other people for you own gain then you are done. Being a selfish and only valuing yourself is a deal breaker for me.
Like I said "understanding" is a fucking hoax. You can give me every reason in the world as to why you act like a prick, you still act like a prick and its not my job to accept and embrace that. I know people who have had worse life situations and don't act like cunts. Don't romanticize being a bad person.
I don't even comprehend what you are implying here, are you calling me a liar?
My gf doesn't masturbate but her give to receive oral ratio is overwhelmingly in my favor.
It does come with a price though
>typical crazy azn girl
>tired after cunning
Sometimes, I wonder if its worth it all.
>Does anyone else here have a girlfriend who doesn't reciprocate sexually? I fuck and eat my girl out for as long as it takes to make sure she is sexually satisfied
Dump her, she's not worth the effort.
If a woman doesn't fall inline with your sexual needs pretty quickly, then move on. You're not going to change her.
>I'm on anti-depressants, so besides retaining a shitload of water my sex drive is non-existent. Haven't had a boner for months, is this normal?
Have you discussed this with your doctor and tried a different anti-depressant?
If not, let me take a moment to point out that you FUCKING ASKED A BUNCH OF KIDS ON AN INTERNET SITE ABOUT A MEDICAL ISSUE YOU'RE EXPERIENCING, you fucking retard.
Anyway, as I was saying, that's not exactly an unusual side effect, as was probably mentioned BY YOUR FUCKING DOCTOR YOU RETARD, but fear not, chances are you can switch to something else that will work for you without the side effects (e.g. Wellbutrin).
>I'm dating a girl who says she's never had an orgasm. Never. I've never dated a girl like that before. I ate her out
The key to eating a woman out to orgasm is in what you do with your fingers, not your tongue.
Warm her up with some teasing. Slide your lips across her labia, nibble her inner thigh. Slowly work you way up to licking the clit.
As she's getting into it, get her good and wet and start to work a finger in. Easy at first. Get two fingers in. Start stroking. Pull upward to hit the g-spot. Push downward to give a feeling of fullness. When a woman is excited, it's amazing how rough you can be with her pussy, and she'll just want more.
I brought my ex to orgasm in under 30 seconds. As in, I had her sit back on the couch and went from zero to orgasm in less than 30.
Doea anyone feel kind of disgusted watching their gf eat food? Mine is on the skinnyfat side and whenever I see her eating chocolate or chips I just get this feeling of dread. It's like all I can imagine is that shit turning into fat right there in front of my eyes.
>tfw gf gives the weakest handjobs I've ever felt
>tfw she gets 'tired' after 5 minutes of sucking muh dick
>tfw I get her on top and she doesn't know how to fuck me
At least she likes it when I beat her
Heh, that reminds me of several past girlfriends.
>nowhere near orgasm, tell her to get on top
>she gets on top, kneels, begins to rub her clit against my pubic bone
>no other movement. Like, 1/4" back and forth movement
>grabs her own tits and makes a show of moaning
>what the fuck
>go completely soft
>she looks at me like I did something wrong
Frankly, the last GF was the best, sexually. She was very permissive, willing to experiment, and actually gave a shit whether or not I enjoyed myself. Actually, the big thing is that she didn't give up easily, and she was up for most anything I told her to do.
Too bad her rampant insecurity, loose pussy (ladies, if a guy suggests that you do Kegels, he's not doing it to be kinky), and lack of creativity led me to break up with her.
You're dating a narcissist. If she were a guy, she'd be an asshole. Find a more empathetic girl. There are better people out there for you. It just might take a little investment of time and energy to find them.
>manlets of the penis
>limp dick on antidepressants
generally adding wellbutrin will fix that. in any case complain about it to the guy who put you on ADs in the first place, they will have a fix
had a girl that had huge trouble getting orgasm, turned out she had ADD, when she was on her meds for that she came a lot easier
>tfw wildly average dick
>tfw usually drunk as fuck when having sex with grills because that's the only time i don't wildly spill spaghetti
>tfw half-chub for 30 minutes, have to go through like 4-5 condoms because they always fall off due to aforementioned circumstances.
h-h-hold me /fit/
>that feel when no matter what I do I can't get her to cum
She isn't into fingerplay, so that G-spot is never seeing digit action. Actual dickin's the closest thing right next to cunni, fucking tiny asian clit.
>tfw I'm her first guy
>after a few times I got her to blow me
>she's gotten good at it
>she does it when I ask to please me
>still doesn't like it
>end up asking her one every three times for a minute at most, at the beginning because she ain't a cum gargler
>holy shit she's pretty good with her hands !
Talk to her. enter into an honest dialogue about it and communicate the way a couple that is in love should. do so in a non sexual and non threatening setting. Its possible she doesn't even realize what she's doing. as a guy, its alot easier for me or you to cum (we do it nearly 100% of the time) than it is for her (who I guarantee doesn't every time, if you think she has, she's faked it at least once)
Women don't always care about orgasm. for them, sex is a full experience, and sometimes just enjoy being with you. obviously this is stupid as fuck, but so are women. she probably falsely assumes that you feel the same way.
Don't fall a victim to attribution bias. you see her actions and attribute them to personality defects (she doesn't work as hard to make me cum, she must be selfish/not love me) when in reality its much more situational
>implying I'm not eating her out
Watched it already, but it was long ago, thanks for the reminder mate.
Bur ya know, that pulling thing. It freaks girls out.
And as I said, she doesn't like fingers around her pussy, so all that part is lost too.
>pornstars advices for sex
Shiggy diggy doo.