So my gf likes to wear shitty band tshirts of shitty bands she likes, I won't name names because of how horrible they are but let's just say all of you would cringe at the sight of them.
Bottom line is I feel kinda embarrassed to be around her in public when she opts to wear such articles of clothing. I feel like a douche because of this, but I see so much potential in her in terms of fits she could pull off.
My question to you guys is how can I suggest she wear different styles without coming off as a total cunt? I don't want to go full autist and say "look, you dress like a pleb and these bands are for teenagers, get some self respect and wear something a bit more stylish". I hate to be the person trying to change someone to my own liking, but she's pretty oblivious in this area. Remember, I'm only doing this because I love her :^)
you have 3 options
1. drop that bitch
>PROS: no embarrassing feeling, benefits of being single
>CONS: no gf and the negatives of being single, realization you caved into superficial standards that most people give no shit about by dumping a girl
2. deal with it
>PRO: keep gf, moral superiority, didn't cave in to throwing away gf based off superficial crap, gf may become stylish someday
>CON: your gf is not effay, forever irking you unless she improves
3. intervene by buying her gifts, hiding a few clothes, taking her out shopping to nice areas, getting better clothes and filling her wardrobe up, etc.
>PRO: keep gf, improve gf's taste gradually, not being overly superficial
>CON: moral grey area for you, financial costs, your gf may not be receptive to your plans
you should realize that your interest in fashion is a hobby and many people have many different hobbies. your interest and knowledge in fashion is as compelling to the general public as interest and knowledge of cheese.
you probably eat cheese like a pleb. when's the last time you ate a good roquefort, let alone paired it with the perfect port? you probably haven't given a passing thought to such a thing. your S/O would probably receive your fashion obsession with similar incredulity. there's no reason to shame people about it.
>you probably eat cheese like a pleb.
actually I despise the taste of cheese m8 but I'd appreciate someone's passion for fine cheeses if they were to inform me of such
metaphors aside, my situation isn't about being into high fashion/ haute couture, it's just basic style shit. Like, a bunch of girls like cute clothes, doesn't mean fashion is their "hobby".
just because you personally would appreciate it doesn't mean other people should
also what you think of as "basic" other people don't agree. to use the analogy again i'd think of NOT eating mass market cheese as a basic thing but yet countless millions of plebeians put pre-sliced mass market 'provolone' on their sandwiches or eat sargento 'cheddar' with ritz 'crackers' and think they are getting a good experience.
now that i think of it the comparison is apt. you have a distaste for cheese in general. same with people and fashion. some people would just rather not bother with it at all.
basically what i'm trying to say is that its nice that you want to share your interest/hobby/passion with your SO but don't force or condescend to them.
>basically what i'm trying to say is that its nice that you want to share your interest/hobby/passion with your SO but don't force or condescend to them.
yea, that's what I'm trying NOT to do, it says so in my OP.
>gf dresses like shit
>girls b mirin when we go out
>gf gets jealous
At least she doesn't waste her money of stupid shit like I do.
She looks like shit and makes OP look like shit in public. Why wouldnt you want someone looking their best to be around you vs someone who doesnt give 2 shits about their appearance.
>anon, why are you wearing black all the time? And why is your hair so oily, do you even wash it anymore?
>ITS CALLED FASHION, GEE EFF! I'm totally achieving a heightened sense of aesthetics thanks to designers like Rick Owens and Raf Símóns, and am leaving the basic bitches behind!
>anon, you didn't use to be like this. Why can't we just put on some normal clothes and go get some food?
>Yeah, yeah go ahead! Go ahead and wear that damn Joy Division t-shirt again! I mean honestly, are you even trying to impress the internet avant garde? Somewhere in a French boutique, Yoji is weeping into the seams of a hand-made women's size zero loose fitted pantsuit, irreparable damaging the leather, and all because you have to be such a basic bitch
>Yoshi? Who is that? anon, you're scaring me!
>Yoshi? YOSHI?! That's it, GEE EFF, I've had it with your shit taste, you little Fuck Boy!
Police arrived on the scene several hours later to find a woman in her early twenties strangled to death with what appeared to be an overpriced tracksuit. Suspect was found locked inside his bedroom, mumbling about dietary supplements. Officers attempted to take the man into custody, but he quickly reached into his pocket to reveal a sandwich, a passport, and several pipe bombs, which he detonated, killing himself.
>superficial standards that most people give no shit about
no one outside of this boards cares for fucking band shirts! most people find them cute on girls what is wrong with you
being embarrassed? dont act like anybody would think look at this guy! his gf is wearing bullets for my valentine shirt omg
your thinking is embarrassing
you dont deserve here
Like that other anon said, just compliment the shit out of her when she wears stuff you like. Tell her how AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL she looks with the shit you prefer her to wear. And don't say shit when she wears those shitty band tshirts.
That's funny you say that because yesterday I was at the mall with my gf and as we were walking around the mall we past a huge mirror and as i looked at our reflection i had a terrible realization.. gf's are an embarrassment to be around with. She looked so fucking stupid next to me holding my hand and not to mention how much of a fucking manlet she is.
I'm thinking of breaking up with her but I don't know what to say if she asks for a reason.
Anybody got any ideas? should i go with the classic "it's not you, it's me"?
Whenever I did laundry I'd leave the clothes I didn't like at the bottom of the basket. I didn't wash his stupid ninja turtles shirt for months.
I couldn't change him though. He kept buying more and more ugly clothes.
Are you that bad at understanding context and metaphors that you really think that post had anything to do with your gastrointestinal tract? Daffy Duck and Daft Punk combined arent as daft
>not to mention how much of a fucking manlet she is.