>>10918037 In general? No, men and superficial women are the reason love isn't real. You see I said superficial women, cause women usually are too nice when it comes to the type of men they acknowledge however men in general are very very very visual beings they don't consider ugly women or fat women to even be worth talking to. They even think that these women shouldn't be alive. Isn't that crazy
>>10918335 While you're right I hope you do get that what men and women find attractive is determined by evolution.
To keep it simple, men primarily judge a women based on the necessary and advantageous physical attributes for child baring and raising. Since that's all they really need from the partnership in order to successfully pass on their genes. That being said personality does play a part, men are more attracted to smiling women. Essentially women who look happy.
Women also take into account physical features, mainly to judge a potential mates health and ability to provide and protect. But its more important to find a partner who will care for her and their offspring. Women are inherently vulnerable and even more so with child so they look for safety and stability from men.
Neither is better or worse than the other, each is just as shallow. Just operating at different ends of the spectrum.
>>10918335 Is this bait? Ugly women and unconfident men are equivalent in terms of how valued they are by the opposite sex. I'm too ashamed to post my face, but a woman as attractive as me would NEVER be a foreveralone loser. My looks are worthless because of my shit personality. Making yourself attractive is fucking easy if you put effort into yourself (clothes, exercise). I can't change my personality because of how my childhood and teenage years played out, im stuck like this.
trust me, women can find love much easier than men.
>>10918335 this is so true the amount of pretty/above average girls i see with ugly ass straight boys is amazing. and i know it's not their personality that caught them, and they also don't have money cause >broke college kids
women are just insecure and want attention from anyone.
>>10921348 That's true in a sense but sometimes women just don't have very high standards and they might just be attracted to that type of guy.
I can say i'm a pretty girl and i've only dated not very good looking guys because i just felt attracted to them.
I have a not very pretty or fit friend and she has surprisingly high standards and she looks at guys that are waaaay out of her league ( I'm sure that's why she's still fucking single and a virgin . So sometimes it might not be because of insecurity man, it's just what we get attracted to.
>>10921361 >i've only dated not very good looking guys because i just felt attracted to them. you felt attractive to people who weren't very attractive? yeah, that's kinda hard to believe. so you're telling me they're ugly, boring, broke, and bad in bed, and you still find them attractive? the truth is, you're settling because you feel like you can't do any better
>>10921385 They not boring, broke or bad in bed but indeed they were financially below me, they weren't spectacular in bed but I didn't complain much and as for ugly well my friends all said they aren't very good looking although to me they were so I don't know lol
This isn't really true, there was a period back when I would choose a 7/10 friend (6.5 without makeup) over any other girl in the world, and that's even with me as a superficial individual
Her ability to make me feel so many different things just by talking and doing silly little things was something I never really felt with any other girl, regardless of how conventionally attractive they were
>>10921390 because most dudes are horny dogs, srysly. so women find easierr company.
why are female prostitues more popular than male prostitues? why are female porn stars more popular than male porn stars? more dudes are horny dogs anon.
its supply and demand, and men demand sex like crazy. thats why women are never alone, there is always a man horny enough for them (even if they're chicks ugly). the fault is on all the horn dogs for not having self control.
just like stoners support drug dealers. same case here.
>>10921561 my advice: while its a nice feeling and you learn a lot from it you shouldnt be so shy. its worth to go through everything fast since time is precious.
ask her one day if she is interested in you.No, NOT like that dont be an autist. find the right way and use social media if you want (b-but its less meaningful!)
dude I used to worry about meaningful shit but its not worth the trouble. finding out shit is way more useful, meaning can come later once she confirms something and make sure she is clear because currently you're in a mental state where you will think anything between you 2 has meaning when it sometimes doesnt.
>>10921628 that's logically impossible, no one reads minds. I'm telling you because I experienced the same recently (4 months before) and I thought exactly like you, love is good sure, hard and meaningful but its not worth getting delusional for it, sadly it typically happens.
the meaning, the values you are starting see are from yourself. You're projecting, sounds selfish but its your own mind.
so if you can find out quickly if the girl is viable for a relationship, if she is not then just fish in another place because otherwise its will just waste time and drain your emotions all for something that cant love you back.
>>10918335 >They even think that these women shouldn't be alive. Don't talk stupid Nobody thinks fat or ugly women should die, men just don't want to fuck them because they're fat or ugly and therefore there's no real reason to interact with them
>>10921604 Thanks, but it's definitely not a good feeling. I wish it would go away.
It's such a weird situation. We're in the same "preparing for uni"- thingy. She initiated contact after 6 months (this was like two weeks ago) (and I had been eyeing her since day 1) and now we study together almost every day and sit next to each other in class. She says I'm the only cool guy there, that I'm smart in a not-braggy way and have a nice smile.
On the other hand she asked to see my private instagram account, only to not accept my request for hers. And today I see she's no longer following me. I'm so confused.
To top it all off she's a muslim (no veil) that has never drunk alcohol in her life, and we'll most likely move to different cities next semester for Uni.
I've been in a relationship for 9 months now. Everybody says it's me that's out of her league, I don't think so, I think that she's beautiful, it seems not so many people do.
She also hates herself, is incredibly paranoid, and will accuse me of the most wild shit (STD's, cheating, lying) despite the fact that she indeed lied to me about somebody and cheated on me (kissed somebody at a party) early in the relationship.
She is currently mad at me for following another female on a social media app.
It's surprising that I still love her, to be honest. The idea of being without her is horrid, but I'm coming to the end of the line.
I don't think love is what it's made out to be, I wish it would work with her, but it seems nothing really lasts.
>>10921680 hmm true but its your best choice imagine committing yourself to her and she doesn't even notices because she doesn't loves you back?
you will give cute gifts to her, you will be super nice with her, she is probably going to be grateful as fuck but she is not going to notice (trust me there are girls that dumb) even if you think they're intelligent they dont get that you like them emotionally if you dont tell them. seriously and you are going to suffer a lot pointlessly for that, so try get to the point knowing if its a viable or lost cause is way, WAY more useful.
because there can be a lot of girls interested in you and equally as nice (or better you never know). and you wont ruin anything either, moving on from a girl especially one that has never been in a relationship is badass because if she rejects you/didn't gave you a chance. You know! she will probably stay lonely in the future since and that remorse of not giving you a chance will bite her in the ass.
When did you anons had your first relationship? I'm 18, I have never had one, not even a fucking kiss, I know I'm still pretty young ofc
I've had people, both guys and girls interested in me but everyone seems so boring and uninteresting to me, but then whenever I actually find someone who interests me they don't feel the same way about me
>tfw no gf/bf to watch Wong Kar-wai films with >tfw no one to go to shows with and get fucked up then get home, fuck and cuddle afterwards
chill, no need to rush it/force it, you'll have much better sex if you find someone you really want tp fugg and who really wants 2 fugg u
lost viirginity at 14, first real relationship between 15-16, single for a cpuple of months then relationship #2 which lasted five years.Now single again for the first time in half a decade and I'm loving it. :V
point being you've got tonnes of time, don't pursue a relationship though, let it develop. the friendzone doesn't exist because friends fuck each other all the time, and dating/being in a relationship with someone you already love and enjoy being with is much better than trying to start from scratch with someone you might not even like.
>>10927671 cont... I want to make you feel like cutest slut in the planet. Fug ur boy pussy missionary while I jerk you off and suck your nipples. also I want you to wear a gothic choker, and I'll choke you sexually if you're into /fa/ bdsm.
If you resist all that lewd stuff I'll suck you off as a reward~
>>10925252 i use to have the same kind of attitude towards life in general, that is being too afraid of failure to the point where the resulting inaction was my biggest failure. then i realized that like %90 of life is a literal gamble (even if you dont realize it!) and you just have to learn to let it ride and not give a fuck.
>>10928913 It would be a lot more cucky if you constantly hovered around her, catering to her every need, hoping she would magically fall in love with you. You did what you could and you can't do more than that.
>>10921409 >and then they get called sluts for it. so ? so fucking what ? I get called gay pretty often even though I'm straight but who the fuck cares ? So why would you care if someone calls you slut ? Only insecure people care.
>>10929155 If she has the right attitude (read: isn't boring and closed to trying new things), yeah. Introduce her to fashion yourself.
>tfw your girlfriend wants to move in together but you're not sure you love her any more >tfw you're falling really hard for your friend instead but you don't want to ruin the friendship Might just off myself
>>10926445 Had first serious relationship around 18 yo. I don't want to put any pressure on you but now being two years older starting to get busy and having relationship with younger girl I really wish I started it bit earlier so I could enjoy more years of careless teenage love when you can just lay around in the grass together all day and have no care about what hour is it or how much money is in your pocket.
As for advice what kind of girl you should choose there is impossible to give advice without really knowing you. You said everyone seems to be boring to you but have you been really listening to people? I mean there is big number of stupid basic bitches who have nothing to say but there are plenty of people who are interesting when you really challenge them.
Anyway don't get depressed or anything even if today seems hopeless you could find right one even tomorrow in totally unexpected place. I don't want to sound like some kind of motivating faggot who is telling u everything is k but something have just their own way of happening. Like I've met my girl among group of people I wouldn't touch with a stick she's brilliant but her friends are bunch of retards.
All trademarks and copyrights on this page are owned by their respective parties. Images uploaded are the responsibility of the Poster. Comments are owned by the Poster.
This is a 4chan archive - all of the shown content originated from that site. This means that 4Archive shows their content, archived. If you need information for a Poster - contact them.
If a post contains personal/copyrighted/illegal content, then use the post's [Report] link! If a post is not removed within 24h contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org with the post's information.