Im not sure what to do. What would you do?
>20 years old
>Just quit job
>unemployed for almost a month now
>pregnant girlfriend baby due in April
>3000 dollars saved
Should i take out a loan? Or what im lost
You fucked up big time OP, this is why you never EVER trust women who say they're on birth control or if they bring the condoms. Use your own, make sure they aren't tampered with. Too late for you now, I guess.
Anyway, try harder with the abortion route. Explain to her how horrible of a life this child will lead: parents who can't support themselves, let alone a child. Welfare will be the only thing keeping you afloat. You won't be able to spend time with your child because you'll be too busy looking for work or working two minimum wage jobs just so you can make the rent payment.
You need to explain to her how awful life will be for this kid. It's imperative that she terminate the pregnancy, because it will ruin both of your lives and will only introduce another life to suffering.
You have two choices here, OP.
You raise this child with your what is your soon to be wife and raise the child well with love and care etc.
You tell her that you absolutely do not want to be a father yet and you don't want to fuck this kids life up by being a terrible father.
By choosing the latter, you will be basically condemning this child to a shitty life by having no father in the first place, if she decides to have the kid and can't find another man to raise this child with that actually cares about it.
This is your fault, OP, just so you know. She can have the kid if she wants based on her religious views or whatever in the hell because it's her body, but you not being there WILL fuck this kid up and he/she will always have that scar of having no real father there.
The only non-POS options is to either "get lucky" in your case and she decides to have an abortion by her own choosing, or you raise this kid with this woman and be a good father and husband.
There might be some shitty replies to this, but it's the truth.
To be more specific,
1.) idk the situation with the babies mom but it might be a more utilitarian choice to stay with her until the kids old enough for daycare (old enough to tell on daycare weirdos really) so age 3, unless she's a real psycho then see if you can at least make it that long , raising a baby is fucking taxing (I have a 4 month old, I'm married and its hard)
On that note, for the first 2 months when its gonna need food every 2 hours or its blood sugar drops? yeh it sucks ass, mine was colicky (luckily otherwise healthy) and thankfully me and the wife have parents willing to help but even then - I went 9 weeks of 5 hours a night sleeping (work + school + baby) - It was rough enough so I have a vasectomy planned (not even worried about the cost financially or what it did to my social life, im 29 , what social life? i've done everything I wanted in my youth)
also dont shake the baby - this causes brain damage (this seems like common sense but seriously dont shake the god damn baby)
ok 2.) Finances : So you need decent money and you need it fast, regardless of who else can help and what happens with the babies mom welcome to 2016 where you - the one with a y chromosome who didnt get a say in this matter will be breadwinner - yay feminism right?
Ok so sales - You can start today as a door to door kirby salesmen and have enough experience by the time the babies due to get yourself hired at a car lot - I know that from experience but working 60 hours a week for maybe money is kind of bunk
alternatively real estate , basically you need something fast and both of these offer career oaths where you can slowly build up clientele and repeat customers and do ok for yourself in the near future.
if youre under age 26 and a US citizen google "jobcorps' its free tradeschool and they likely have one close to you - its like 8 months turnaround for even a plumber though so you kind of waited until last minute on that one.
Then we have the nuclear option, you can join the military - this almost guarantees that you and the women breakup and she'll get almost all of your money initially (she'll be spending your earning whether or not you 2 break up) - However, on this end you yourself are coverd with free room and board so whatever she doesnt take you can squirrel away - its also not hard to make yourself "career" military and then have a halfway / semi decent pension in 20 years. Good luck
Stop being such a manchild nigger and spend 14 hours a day bettering yourself. (8 hours working and 6 hours devoted to studying/nightschool in a relevant field, not a meme one).
Then with the money you save go to university after 2 years with a 3.8GPA+.
You should spend your weekends studying/planning as well.
Do fafsa and take out student loans while your girlfriend works and takes care of the child, and finish school making 70K+ a year starting (take placement tests for credit that you study for in the summer).
You can finish in 1.5-2 years of University. Make sure you go to the best state school in your area or Ivy league if you can get enough scholarships.
Then, when the child is 4 you will be making 70K+ a year, while your girlfriend says she is living elsewhere and collect benefits from the government, effectively raising your kid on the equivalent of a 100K income.
If you don't have the discipline to do this, buy a trailer and be trash for the rest of your life.
Time to man up and find a better job OP. So depending on what you know, tomorrow you'll walk a 2x2 block all around your place and give resumes/fill out applications everywhere, or online, again depends what youre applying for.
Don't be a roodypoo for your kid, be someone they can be proud of.
>What would you do?
I'd have beat my dick instead of consigning myself to a life of gyno-slavery.
As a man you have no reproductive rights in the eyes of the "law". This is the future you chose. Enjoy being the host to a parasitic fuck hole.
>Niggas need to go back to the OG penitentiary days and start jackin' off, cause if we don't don't we gonna end up killin' each other. We gotta start sayin' "fuck these bitches mayne."--Tupac
Brasil? Spain? Ecuador? ThaiLand? (good ladyboys)
Your life is over if you plan on staying with her, should have pulled out.
Get into trade school asap. Scrape by until you graduate. Develop a drinking problem. Work for decent salary for a few years only to see it all siphoned off by your family. Slowly earn more, get yourself almost out of debt. Buy a fully loaded crew cab pickup on loan and go back into the hole for $40k. Cheat on your wife. Get a nasty divorce. Manage to see your kid graduate high school. Liver failure.
>implying iHaz has nothing better to do than banter with 16 yr old retards from pol.
Whatever knowledge he wanted to distill on this board, he did it already. He's unlikely to be back.
And? The likelyhood of your relationship at the age of 20 going anywhere is stupidly low.
Get the abortion, or say goodbye to your life.
She'll break up with you soon enough anyway, and you'll be paying for the baby.
>also dont shake the baby
This is harder than it sounds. You will be at wits end. Tired and delirious. Mentally, emotionally, physically destroyed. Try notn to shake the baby. Have fun! Shoulda wrapped your tool! You knew what happens when you rub naughty bits together.
She won't care about the kid's life bruh
She needs to be told how awful HER life will be on welfare. How both of them will be working the rest of their lives at menial positions trying to support a single child.
Join the Military. You wont need a car and if you get married you'll be making around $4500 with your dependents, plus you'll get to live off the base with your woman. Get married dumb ass.
>implying it's his fault that she goes through with the pregnancy
Here, an analogy:
>"I really want this new car."
>"We can't afford that. It's too expensive up front (child birth), the gas for it is too expensive (food, clothes, etc), and the maintenance is absolutely atrocious (medical costs, daycare, etc)."
>"Yeah but I want it."
>Proceeds to go buy the car
>retard legal system forces him to pay for it and sends him to prison if he can't/doesn't want to
I hope you're trolling because I don't know how you could possibly think this is HIS fault.