>tfw someone with strong social skills will get farther in life than someone with strong technical skills
How do my fellow /biz/autists cope with this feel?
I cope with this feel by learning social skills and working on them actively, as any intelligent, future successful person would do.
Seriously what kind of answer do you expect? "Give up and hang myself"?
Golf is about drinking, socializing, being competitive within a strict framework of rules, and striving to improve yourself
Very compatible with the life philosophies of most successful people
>mfw supposedly smart people can't learn the rules of social interaction.
There are literal books with all the rules written down. You can't be that smart if you can't even follow directions.
>someone with strong social skills will get farther in life than someone with strong technical skills
Depends on the line of work. I used to think this in college. I could be autistic, personally. Although, I've never been diagnosed with anything. I pretty much had zero friends throughout highschool in college. In college I tried creating a facebook once but could only get 20 friends. I deleted it after 6 months because I heard people in the dorm room making fun of me for it. I get terrified in social environments. People mainly ignore me, and are not interested in me at all. I don't think I'm rude or repulsing in anyway, I'm just extremely uninteresting for some reason. I also am 5'7'' and weighed around 200lbs throughout college and wasn't very attractive, although now I've lost weight and weight around 150lbs. People still mainly ignore me. I used to think I'd just have to kill myself after graduating college because I'd never be able to get a job. But I've been working for 4 years now and have been pretty successful as a programmer relative to most people I know that I graduated with. I guess its because of my talent, or it could be just blind luck after a lifetime of unfortunate events. In any event a lot of people I envied in college, who were popular, had a girlfriend or could get women to sleep with them, people I was kept up awake at night by thinking about I mush I wished I could just be normal like them, haven't done as well. They're working crappy jobs or still looking for a job in their field while they work hourly. They constantly complain about money, or doing bad at work. People at work trust me and know I can get things done, I do them right, and they don't expect me to socialize. They're also mostly ages 30-50 and are less intimidating to me than my peers. They aren't cliquey at, and don't make fun of me or play tricks on me .its a lot different than I thought. I don't fear going to work like I used to having to go to class.
cause being all alone and hitting the same 8 buttons over and over on your video game controller day after day is so superior to being outside and socializing for a round of golf.
I got strong social skills. GF, loads of friends much hobbies.
But I got terrible math grades, cuz too autistic to care about school. Still finishing pretty good, never did much. I'm bored out of my mind, there are about 80% girls on my school. Working is just much more my thing.
Obviously I don't find a job now.
>too autistic to realize the importance of a good school degree
>nobody gives a shit about your talents if you failed math
What do now? I'm thinking studying law or teacher training. Would be happy to get a education as a banker, because the only thing that keeps me entertained is business.
but how does this not make sense to you?
humans are fundamentaly social animals and all the 'technical' stuff is just a development of ways to make a sharp stick or find use for a rock
we could have never developed any technology, never invented fire, but basic patterns of social interactions would be more or less the same
now its all based on biologicaly inherent bullshit, its all silly, absurd and arbitrary as are all things in the meaningles fuckfest we call ''nature'', but the reason people have problems with it is even more retarded, its just fear and shame, making people neurotic and inhibited
that too is understandable but its realy childish
best part is other humans dont give 5% of a fuck about anothers inhibition and shame, the massive paralizing importance one places on it is just a internal burden that one refuses to let go, like its some cross to bare
Drinking bleach right now
>Mfw 190 point iq
>Mfw good social skills
>Mfw can read and speak grorious nippon
>Mfw no real education
>Mfw anxiety makes shit hard and depression makes shit not feel worth it
Comfort me /biz/
I never had it that bad. But I've always been a strong loner and uncomfortable being social. My experience going into programming is very similar.
I try to chat from time to time but no one expects it and people respect a guy who can do his job well and have answers for them. This type of job rewards head down focus and keeping to yourself 90% of the time. I feel a lot more satisfied working than I ever did in school.
You're right it does require assertiveness and a bit of charm (or whatever you want to call it) in order to get into a leadership role. For me the confidence comes along with knowing the system and tools so I find it pretty easy to get out of my shell when working on a project.
I guess my point is that you can be much more reserved and introverted than say a sales manager
Eh, I'm a shy introvert with no social skills, and through my life people have always tried to make me a leader for some reason.
> no leadership ability
> no desire to lead
> don't give a fuck about shit and always speak my mind
>listening to these guys