Need advice /b/
My gfs pussy is too tight. Her last bf took her virginity, but she said she's so tight it hurt every time they had sex. I've got more girth than he did so she's scared of even trying with me. It's not a lubrication issue, she gets dripping wet.
How do I get her to loosen up so we can fuck?
Time. And effort.
I suggest getting some kind of vibrator smaller then your penis and slowly inching it in her more and more as the 4play continues. Also lots of 4play since you'll need time for her to get more and more into it
Take the dirt road.
This guy gets it.
My friend's girlfriend had to go through therapy because hers was psychological. Vaginismus, or something? Don't know if it worked or not; it got to the stage where the doctors said they'd literally done everything they could, the rest was up to her.
As a girl I can tell you this, she just doesn't want to have sex with you and is telling you your dick is big to make you feel good without having to fuck you. I even cried to get out of it but it was a guilt thing because I was cheating on him, more than likely she's cheating on you. You should treat her better instead of trying to get your baby dick wet all the time.
I think part of it is psychological. She went through some shit as a kid and is only now dealing with it. She also said she never felt comfortable around him the entire relationship.
as an anonymous member of /b/, i can tell you that you are most likely not actually a girl and just someone who is bad at trolling. or if you are a girl, then you are dumb and pretty much a bad all around person.
Anon is usually a psychological thing, it could mean she isn't happy with you and doesn't want to risk pregnancy deep down, could mean she's seeing someone else, could mean she has a secret std she's afraid of giving you or many other things. Take time to be understanding and work with her, this isn't her fault, one thing would stop even trying for a while because in her mind she will associate sex with you with pain.
Either that or she has an std that is causing a tightness/burning feeling, get her checked out.
I see alot of these problems in my work.
She's on the pill, she only had the one partner and she got tested when they broke up. I know she isn't sleeping around, because I know. I'm not pushing it on her, but I'd love to find a solution. Our relationship is a lot deeper than the sex, but i wouldn't hurt, n'awm sayin'?
Wow fuck you.
Telling him to treat her better for cheating on him. You cunt. You should feel guilty for cheating.
If someone cheats on you, show some self respect and dump their ass. That shit violates the relationship.
And if she tells you it's your fault for not treating her well enough then she's an indecisive, entitled cow who won't amount to anything because she thinks the world should be handed to her the dumb slut. Go find a girl that likes you enough NOT to bang someone that isn't you.
Alright alright fair fair
Though the overall tone was like "this is what's happening, do this" rather than "from my experience as a girl"
Delivery could use some work as it was pretty harsh sounding, but maybe some people need to be told harshly and have decisions made for them on the Internet Idk
I was adding to your shitty point.
You're right, maybe she is cheating on him. But you're wrong about him needing to treat her better if that's the case you lying bitch. He should dump her because cheating's unacceptable.
And I only call you a bitch because you admitted to cheating on someone. You bitch.
I can guarantee it. I know nothing I can say will make you believe it, but we're just that close. She's a rare breed and we couldn't be happier together, even without the sex
That's kinda sad, cos with that frame of mind you basically have to stay permanently detached to keep your dignity and not hurt so much *just in case* a partner cheats on you
That doesn't sound fulfilling, I'm too nice and trusting by comparison to most, I'm just lucky not to have been used and walked over by people in life
More often than not it's the cheating that causes this problem from what I have seen, there are other things and I know you don't want to think she's cheating so maybe you should ask her to see a professional, it will help. There is usually an emotional barrier that is involved with this specific situation, 9/10 I've seen it resolved and usually it is resolved well for both parties.
This is true, you can never know, I've been cheating on my girl and we've been together for 6 years, we do everything together and she trusts me 100%, I act as though I'm completely in love with her, I let her feel daily that she is the best person I've ever known, I tell her personal and seemingly intimate secrets to gain her trust.
On the whole though, I've been cheating on her on and off for the past 4 years and it would destroy her and her family if she found out.
It can happen anon
Happens more often than not just like this, my best friend had the sweetest relationship, she was cute and shy and so nice, turns out she had been cheating on him alot. I was jealous but that really grounded me.
Love is so cool, when I'm single I'm always excited about going new places and getting to know women, I like finding things out and I find it easy to like things about people. I try to enjoy life and self improvement is like a fun game
No man, don't avoid women because of that. Don't avoid women just because you're afraid you'll get hurt.
Having a relationship means giving someone else all the tools they need to break you and trusting them not to do it. When it works, it's the most amazing thing ever.
When it doesn't, it gives you an excuse to bounce back like a badass.
I know that feel bro, my girl of 4 years only told me when I proposed to her so she wouldn't feel bad about marrying me. Obviously we broke up but I thought I knew everything about her, that we were two of the same, we had our own jokes, spent all our time together, she told me about how she loves me and everything was warm and genuine, love is the only thing that can absolutely destroy you as a person, I still cry about it like a little bitch. She's moved on within weeks and I probably never will
> I'm a girl who doesn't know vaginismus is a thing
Of course you are. Or you're a fat sad virgin who wants everyone to hate females as much as it does.
... but someone always takes the b8
You're seriously making your mind up about all women based on the role models you know?
Nigga, there's more than millions of girls out there. There's a TON. Each with their own personality. Just because some are batshit insane doesn't mean they all are. Not even most of them.
And you think you're just going to happen upon a reasonable woman? No man! You have to make an active effort to find them, someone with the qualities you like and appreciate. It'll take time and effort, but that's the point. You don't get star girl by sitting around on your ass. That's why all the best couples have great stories for how they met.
Not raped, but close. There was some mental damage done by the guy, no doubt there, but no physical damage. It's definitely a deep fear, it took a long time to get to where we are now
I just spent a lot of time taking caros v-card.
Massage, eat that pussy, relax her, put her on top of me.
After a few times it was only really tight at the beginning.
Put it in very very slowly. Pause if it doesn´t work. Put her on top.
When you are in, you just stop for a second, let her accommodate. Go slowly.
She generally doesn´t like it too fast or too deep. Middle speed very regular and with your faces and bodys close to each other. Doggy she doesn´t like. Remember that and she can cum pretty easily.
I am glad she found someone. She was so devastated when I broke up. Also how big is your cock exactly?
I just don't like her that much, she's fun to hang out with but I like the thrill of fucking girls I know, if she doesn't find out she can't get hurt. I'm still going to give her the wedding she wants and I can provide her with a great life because she's like my best friend which is good. She's pretty and cute so the sex is good I just, it's like a fetish you know?
I'd take this faggots advice out of all, just get her checked out.
That's pretty messed up but I can get it, I wish I had a girl to be nice to and not be a cunt to like you
this sounds a lot like she doesn´t want to have sex with you.
Put no pressure on her. Don´t even ask for sex. That is applying pressure. If she likes you she´s going to want to please you and try again despite not really wanting it.
If you wanna initiate it just cuddle, massage her whole back and ass, including the legs and arms. Inside of thighs. Make her wet and tease her for a long while.
Ask her what she wants to do, if she is reluctant to answer don´t go further yourself.
She is as horny as you, eventually if you aren´t gross, she will want to try again.
How long were they together and how old are you, may I ask?
Use lube, no matter how wet she gets. It makes all the difference in the world. My gf is tight as fuck, and we have to use lube every time, no matter how wet she gets. But it's no big deal. Just put a little lube on my dick, and away we go. It's a night and day difference.
Pic related. It's what we use. I get it on ebay. A little goes a long way.
She's only coming to terms with what happened, bery recently. The only people who know the specifics are me, her parents and the police. I'm helping her get through this, which is why we're so close. She hasn't decided if she wants me there in court when the time comes though. I may not want to hear about everything he did to her.
I'm not evil, seriously, I am nice to her, she's a great person and I am prepared to share my life with her. Surely you guys, one of you must know what I mean??? I want her to be happy and I do my best to make her happy. Do you understand?
Thanks man haha
I have plenty of friends that are way cooler, I think my charm is just being a bit carefree and happy go lucky. Ignorance really is bliss and I kind of fake it till I make it.
I'm quite shy, but if I meet someone and decide they're friendly, within a minute of knowing them I speak to them like a good friend and behave like a weirdo for laughs. It's fun I just worry people are uncomfortable because a guy they don't know is being who he is around them.
I enjoy people's company very much so I'm lucky!
I get it. After some time its just boring to fuck only that one girl.
Sadly she doesn´t seem realistic enough for suggesting an open relationship.
Just please be careful. Don´t wanna hurt your best friend so badly.
And use protection ffs.
He´s human. It is way too common to be seen as an abnormality and so evil a crime.
Its a violation of trust, yes. But monogamy as a concept makes no real sense. If you aren´t enough you aren´t enough, no matter whether you allow them to fuck other people or don´t.
She's almost always the one to initiate. That's how I know it's a real problem that we want to work on. We've gone through the ropes but never pressure her to take it.
They were together all of 5 months, as a long-distance relationship. He broke up over text after she went to see him.
I'm 26, she's just turned 20. Genuinely feel like I lucked out
I honestly don't think you're being serious, so I'm not going to get mad, but the reason I think you're evil if this is true is because you've completely violated her trust.
She wants to be the one and only person you share your most intimate moments with. You're sharing them with other women who aren't her.
She wants to be the only person who can make you feel as good as an orgasm can make you feel. You're letting everyone make you feel that way, which diminishes the impact she has on you and makes her feel worthless.
And you're not telling her. Now, I'm not one to defend 100% honesty, but I do think that if the information you're withholding would ruin the supposed marriage you're going to have, you shouldn't keep that shit a secret. Because it will still be there after you're married.
I agree, if you're not enough you're not enough, but once you get to that point, just break up. Don't drag it on and force hurt feelings.
That, or tell them about it. If they're cool with you satisfying yourself with other people, great. If not, then decide whether or not it's worth staying together. That's all I'm saying.
>be nice to her
Jesus christ, this thread is full of whiteknight greeting card pussies who worship women. No wonder they're on /b/.
Thats fucked up. You say youre like best friends and youre always nice to her but Youre fucking hurting her behind her back, doesnt matter if she doesnt know, she will find out somehow. I hope she realises soon and gets out before she spends her life with someone as horrible as you.
I'm being 100% serious, I know it's not the right thing to do I'm not an idiot. I do feel bad about what I do but I don't let it get to me, I do love my fiancee but you know, it gets boring having sex with only one person, that's the only thing. Everything else is great, she's a fun person to hang out with and she's smart and good to talk with, I just really get the urge for other women constantly.
I'm not trying to justify anything, I was giving a personal example to op that cheating can happen.
Wow, my ex and I had the same exact problem.
It's something she has to discuss with a doctor, but it's best to work your way up from smaller things for a couple of weeks.
Also, on the offhand chance that's her (same hair, frame, etc.): Fuck her. She broke my heart. Cunt left me bitter and broken.
OK man, I'm surprised that you can't believe it but yeah, once again, I'm just saying about cheating and how it's possible for anyone. You don't have to believe me anon but I don't see what is so hard to believe tbh.
Her ex helped nothing by telling her her tight pussy "killed the mood" before he ditched her. Also told her she'd become a whore now that she's had sex so she feels bad about getting horny
Good. How do you meet women and make sure she doesn´t catch you?
Please don´t be a nigger and give her the receipts of the hotels you use for tax reasons. The dad of my best friend did that.
Fucking loser lost the best thing that ever happened to him.
Or the dad of my ex who told her mom that he was at a conference and then she met his buddy and asked about it.
Be aware that you could get caught, and will eventually. Murphys law. Can you live with the consequences?
I only ever cheat when I want to break up anyways.
Nowadays I just tell them: I´ll break your heart and I don´t do girlfriend. After having fucked them.
They never believe it, come back for more sex cuz I´m awesome at it and eventually get their hearts broken when I get bored or find a new, better girl.
Funnily enough my own heart got broken by the only woman who could do that. I´ve been devastated for the last week and told my current fuckbuddy who´s also a really really good friend.
She was pretty cool about it but then started to sigh much in the same way as I did for the past 5 days. I think I did break her heart with telling her that and feel a bit bad.
But I need company right now, and I need a pair of tits to cuddle. And a blowjob once in a while.
And she is really fun to be around and maybe I should start something with her but I also haven´t yet fully given up on the other girl, which is really killing me and its all messed up.
I tell you this because I like you and you seem to have the same views on sex-related stuff as I do. Sorry to have wasted your time.
You need to speak to her asap this is not fucking healthy man. Youre not going to last if you keep doing this shit. Better yet just fucking break it off she doesnt desrve that, and it will be your fault if she wants nothing to do with you after.
I mean, yeah, I was raised by my mother. Just giving some background to her issues that I know are part of her problem. Caring about how someone feels helps a relationship once in a while
And she would do anything for you, unless you went around sleeping with other people. Which you're doing. You're just not telling her.
Which is fine. Good luck with that until she finds out and dumps your ass like she should you dick.
Aw <3 Haha
At the end of the day, I'm just doing what I find fun yknow and not caring so much about things. Even the nicest people have probably been assholes to someone in person or on the Internet so it's not something to be concerned and sad about.
Have a good one, as they say!
sex is not as intimate as you think. People have it all the time with people they just met. Its not a big deal. You can fuck someone you hate easily.
Popping each others pimples, peeing in front of each other is way more intimate.
Orgasms are also caused by masturbation. Is that also cheating?
I get why people want their spouses to be monogamous. Its because they are insecure and jealous. But at the same time everyone does feel the need to fuck other people. We put such a high emphasis on monogamous for old reasons.
With modern technology (condoms) there are no consequences to sex anymore. So Why only have it with one person?
Surely, you should ask before, and not lie about it. The lying is bad. But that too, we do every day, without even noticing.
Wanting to cheat and not saying it is equally morally wrong.
The fucking itself is just a normal, human act.
Im Not the guy who´s cheating on his gf, btw.
By not enough I meant getting left. If they want not to be with you anymore, as in: a relationship, they will go away whether or not you allow them to fuck around.
Not allowing them might be pushing them away.
Sex in a relationship should always be good. But having great sex with one person is just not enough in itself.
It has nothing to do with that person. It is just that humans (or me at least) miss the game, the curiosity, the hunt and the finding out about how her body reacts when I lick her clit.
Fucking them after having fucked someone else is like coming home.
this is a load of utter bullcrap. Of course they are going to last, given she doesn´t find out.
Just because he´s fucking around and being bored cuz fucking the same person over and over becomes boring doesn´t mean they can´t lead a happy and sucessful relationship.
Time. And effort.
>>I suggest getting some kind of vibrator smaller then your penis
>> getting vibrator smaller than penis
>>smaller than penis
Dude, they dont sell em in ticktack size
Don't just get her wet anon, you make her fucking surge m8. You get eah finger in one by one, slowly while twirling that clit around like a fucking wacky inflatable flailing-arm, flailing tubemans arms. You give that ass a couple hard slaps and start getting that worthless cuck a inout, tip only whilst still annihilating her clit, until she whams you all the way, hopefully not showing any prematurity you probably have and splooge hours before even getting your worthless cuck out anyway.
Sorry, I have a massive problem with just walling with words when it's late and I'm tired.
I literally say stuff I cringe hard af at in the morning. Just tonight though 4chan is getting it instead of friends haha.
I only fuck with girls I know, I'm not into the whole random girls thing. I like hanging out with my friends, drinking and messing about, only good friends though. I know I can trust them. It seems more risky but random girls might know my girl and that can get me in the future. If she finds out I'll be surprised but obviously I'll deserve so I'll be able to make sure she lives comfortably without me if she decided to leave me over it. I know how you feel, it's easier to cheat so you have some sex to go home too after a night out if you don't get any, I like spending my days with my girl though, I like doing things with her plus the sex is still good you know?
I know man, I don't want to lose it and fortunately I most likely won't. You're right though, obviously she deserves better and if she does find out then I'll have to deal with it then.
I'm just saying the same thing over and over but yeah, thanks for the input.
Because you literally just told a person that his girlfriend is likely cheating on him, and then went on to tell him he has a baby dick and to treat his girlfriend who is most likely cheating him better. Which is so backwards it actually made me wish I knew you so I could strangle you.
Well. Then explain to her that slutshaming is out since the 1900s and that she should not let this guy get to her.
Girls get horny as well as guys and its a normal bodily function.
Girls fucking around is as normal and awesome as guys fucking around.
Ask her for a blowjob. Do it nicely after having showered with her. Moan extraordinarily loud so she gets self-confident.
Talk very relaxed and normally about sex in general. Do not put up any acts of wild lovemaking. Laugh. Make normal conversation while you are in bed, during foreplay.
Basically: Take out the edge and the awkwardness.
Giving you a blowjob and feeling that she´s good at it (if she doesn´t want to, don´t push it tho n just moan when shes giving you a handjob) will give her self confidence. Tell her her pussy looks extraordinarily. Maybe shave her?
No. I am awesome at sex and don´t live in that shithole you call murrica. So no rape charges. Also I treat them like grown ups and never pay for their drinks. Which they all find positive, or so they tell me. Since they always come back for more I have no reason not to believe them.
I just very openly tell them that I will not be their boyfriend.
It's different when a girl cheats, it usually means that the guy isn't giving us what we need or is being a dick, I'm just saying if he was nicer she might want to make him happy IF she was even cheating. It was a fucking SUGGESTION
you must be new here, faggot.
OPs too stupid to realize his gf just doesn't want to fuck him. And you assholes sit here holding his dick for him while he pisses all over the place and wonders why his room stinks.
Friends who know you´re in a relationship and are okay with are probably the safest you can be.
Also yes, its good having backup. (Although nowadays I don´t cheat cuz no relationship). Being able to call afuckbuddy is just great.