/b/, I'm not sure I love my girlfriend anymore.
We've been dating for about 3 years and she's the only gf I've ever had, total qt3.14. It was great at the start, but now I feel like more often than not I'm angry or annoyed with her. We only occasionally have sex now and when we do I'm almost always the one who instigates it. She can still get into it but rarely shows that she wants to have sex, and she never does anything sexy for me anymore. I cook for her all the time (which is something I like to do anyway) and drive her to and from work since she doesn't have a car, but she rarely shows any gratitude. When we kiss it just doesn't feel as good as it used to. As much as I feel like the passion has gone out of our relationship though, I don't think I could bear to let her go.
tl;dr My relationship's falling apart but I'm afraid I couldn't handle breaking up. Wat do?
i feel like shes only using you at this point and a break up is bound to happen sooner or later. The fucked up part is you cant just straight up go and ask her whats up, these girls never give straight answers.
Might just be you spending too much time together. Everybody needs some alone time. Try to get some time apart, and see if you miss her.
If not, talk to her about it. Don't just dump her out of the blue. This way your relationship might just have a chance of being fixed.
But yea, after two years with my gf i feel the same. But we have a kid together so we can't just break it off without trying everything.
give it a chance. This way you will not have any regrets.
Say something along the lines of
>I feel that you've been distancing yourself from me lately, and it makes me feel ____. Is there anything I can help you with? A problem you're afraid to share with me?
Idk, that's just a gist. Your verbalization will be based on your specific context.
If she doesn't want to open up, that's her deal.
Hope it helps, even a smidge'.
op your girl doesn't engage in sex because she is bored with you. sorry to be honest but it's the truth. there's no more mystery to you and she feels just as frustrated as you. she's cute and has guys hitting on her. guys that are mysterious and make her feel excited. not sure how you can become that guy again but there it is.
>well you are already thinking about breaking up, so that's a step in the right direction. if it sucks, end it.
>maybe you should talk to her about how you feel. Befor breaking up. Or you should spend some time apart, to see how you feel.. sory for abd english
This. Dumped three girls because of this and the one I'm with now I stay with because we can actually communicate.
Life is too short to spend it being mildly content or anything less than that. Sometimes love just fades even if you're still just comfortable with each other. Think about it and get ready for it, prepare what to say, and end it with her. Suggest a temporary break if thats what you want, but don't say that if you don't mean it. Be firm. Then you will feel cleansed and free and new. Sadness will come of course, but you can look to the future and find someone who won't give you doubts like this again.
>We only occasionally have sex now and when we do I'm almost always the one who instigates it
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Initiates. You're almost always the one who initiates it.
I see these threads every once in a while and my advice is always the same.
I'm a guy that's been in two of these relationships. The first lasted 11 years because I let it thinking it would get better. She was emotionally abusive and took 8 years of my youth away from me that I'll never get back. Are you seeing this: Eight. Years. When I was in highschool and college I never went to parties or had friends or the college experience. I missed out on my life trying to make hers better.
That's the first one.
I married the second one and we have a daughter now. She's not abusive but sex twice a month and two pity blowjobs a year and no passion gets old fast. We've been married a year and a half and I do love her but we won't stay together.
Trust me OP. If there's doubt, get the fuck out. There really is more fish in the sea and you can't understand until you can't leave. This is your warning.. Don't be like me, please I beg you.
>She was emotionally abusive and took 8 years of my youth away from me that I'll never get back. Are you seeing this: Eight. Years. When I was in highschool and college I never went to parties or had friends or the college experience. I missed out on my life trying to make hers better.
Dude, listen to what a crying, cunting bitch you are. Seriously.
No wonder she treated you like shit. Eight. Years.
Thanks for shitpoast.
This guy knows what's up.
I've been in the same boat once, also together for 3 years.
She's either using you till she finds someone else to use, or she's cheating on you.
Probably the second option... Sorry anon, not trying to be a dick. Women are sluts, even the ones you think are different.
That's exactly what I'm doing.
I have no idea what to do OP. I'm in the following situation. Anybody wanna help?
I am 18 years old and have a cute girlfriend who is very sweet to me. We are in a long-distance relationship and I actually don't like spending time on her when not with her. When I'm not near her the feeling kinda disappears and I fall in love with random girls. When I see her I do want to hug and kiss her and she's funny and loyal. I just keep thinking about deciding what to do. Should I leave her and be single or should I stay with her. I feel really bad about hurting her. Please help.
You're probably being as much of a whiny little shit to her as you sound right now. She's probably turned off my how completely non masculine you act around her.
You do everything for her in hopes for more passion and sex and she sees that and loathes you.
Heavy dose of the red-pill for you my friend.
I can vouch for this, been in this situation. Find a girl that is infatuated and always be doing something other than vidyas. Find a hobby and sink yourself in it so much that she needs YOU for YOUR time.
You were a fucking freak, and spineless bitch for sticking with her for so long. You could have kept dating her, but fucked other girls on the side. She was fucking other guys - you got played.
You have nobody to blame but yourself. Thanks for the shitpoast.
Thank you for weighing in. Care to shitpoast some more newfriend?
No? Okay, kthanxbai!
Go eat a bag full of baby dicks and choke to death on the very last one.
What you are describing is the end of the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship. You are now "used' to each other, know each others' ins and outs, quirks, etc. In other words, you are becoming predictable to each other. It happens, to varying degrees, to any relationship that lasts long enough. I actually think one of the primary reasons people cheat is when the "newness" wears off a relationship and they go chasing that feeling again.
>tl;dr she's cheating on you /b/ro
They're called Cargo PANTS you limey fuck.
Damnit, Soup is ready.. and I was having fun posting my whores.
Your life so far looks so good. The fact you pay for sex, and with ugly as funk girls, is just the saddest shit. I'm sure your mum looks at pictures of you as a kid and wonders how her little boy became such a creepy degenerate.
My boyfriend left me for very similar reasons four months ago and it broke my heart. I really did care and I'm still pretty torn up about it. Can't even talk to people let alone date. Shit sucks.
Get out. Now.
I was in an almost identical situation jist over a year ago.
Been with gf for a year when it started going sour, despite my best efforts, the next 4 months were horrible.
To the point where she made me so angry, i felt shivers and numbness in my left arm and leg.
I always calmed down the arguments, made all the effort, etc. I even had to do all the fucking since she was too much of a lazy starfish spoiled cunt to go on top and give me a good ride.
Tl;dr get it over with asap. I was in same situation, found new better gf 3 mknths later, year together with her and its amazing. Thinking if shes the one.
You're just slipping into the same situation.
I said dilemma intentionally.
...... First and foremost long distance never works. You obviously care enough not to hurt her, so your options are to advance or retreat. Are you scared to progress in this relationship or what's holding you back? I broke up with mine fairly recently a few months after we'd left school. Not happy with it but shit's gotta be. I'm 19 year old you.
I am wary of that. But it is a night n day difference between the two.
One was emotionally and physically draining, with shitty sex, and a complete "taker".
The other is supportive, caring, and willing to compromise and puts the efforr in the sack, while being more of a giver than a taker.
When you consciously start thinking if someone is "the one" you must be close... Or so i am told.
I feel you /b/ro I'm in the exact same boat verbatim she never wants to have sex like a three month period she is always at work which I drive her to and from I'm always angry at her or upset with her she never does anything for me and to put a cherry on it we have a lot together that I take care of by myself while she sleeps or is at work I can't offer much advice because I'm the sameway she was my first girlfriend we broke up got back together had the kid and now I don't want to put him through the same shit I went through as a kid it's a rock and a hard place and you have to put yourself first is all I can say but your not alone
Feels bad man, if you are happy keep her. If you arent, then quit it. Im together with my gf now aswell for 3 years but theres still romance and sex, even if its not as intense as in the first months i would not want to have anybody else
Did she send you nude selfies?
Did you have to ask for them or did she send them by herself?
I won't ask you to post them, but if you could answer these questions that'd be great.
If she didn't send you any, how would you feel discovering that she has sent some to her ex before she was with you?
I'm in the exact same boat as you dude, but I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. I love her so I don't want to hurt her, but she has no car and no where else to live but I'm not feeling it. Good luck.
Haters gonna hate <3
Yeah man. 2 months, 84 whores. Good times.
18 years old. Train trips to her cost a lot of money, but actually I don't care that much. I just really like being on my own. On top of that, I have the responsibility of a fucking earthworm and I still live at home. Currently going through therapy for my OCD and finished school last year.
>fall in love with random girls
>fall in love
You just want to fuck them, penetrate their vaginas with your penis, it's no love man but an erotic desire of a teenager. How come you can't realize that? Maybe you're 12 not 18
OP, google TheRedPill. Might save your life.
Not worth doing the long distance relationship at your age when your not 100% soulmate level. Dont waste your youth
This guys is partly correct. If she's not cheating on you now, she will either break up with you soon or just start fucking other dudes.
It sounds like you are probably, what, 20? First girlfriends (hell, even second and third) are not the ones you'll end up with forever. Sad but true. Break it off or wait for her to do it, it's going to suck either way. Eventually, though, you'll get back to normal and can look back on the experience to learn more about not only yourself, but relationships in general and can try again with someone else. That will also probably end at some point, but that's okay, too.
Nothing in The Red Pill precludes prostitutes newfriend. They might be even be the key to you finally losing your virginity.
Because she's turned off by you and isn't putting in the effort - not initiating sex, not appreciating you for driving her, etc.
The man is responsible in a relationship. You've failed at leadership.
Ditch her and move the fuck on. OR better yet, find a new cunt first, then do it. You think you'll be upset about it.. and you will be. Until you sink yourself deep inside that new girl. You'll forget your ex in 10 seconds.