>be 18F in love with 37M
>he told me before he's extremely shy, kinda insecure, he's not very attractive (rumors say he's never had a girlfriend)
>crushed on him for 3 years, he likes me too but we never make it explicit
>been writing emails for months, met three times, now he suddenly doesn't respond anymore.
This has happened before so I just wrote him again and we met right after that. But I can't always take all the steps. I know he fears rejection but so do I. Or do you think he simply fell out of love, in a matter of a few days?
Should I be patient or forget it? Good advice gets more pussy pics
you seem also very shy and insecure about it. As a guy myself, where the girls in the past had to do the first step: next time you meet him (maybe even don't try to make a date, just go to him) kiss him at some point. Just do it. This will force a talk and then you will finally know what's up.
Probably found a new chick. Not trying to be mean. I suddenly cut off contact with a girl before when I fell for a different one that lived closer.
Even if that isn't why, it seems he isn't worth your time.
Be patient. But make sure you fully understand where he stands in this relationship. Also make sure he understands it takes two to tango. Relationships aren't one way and he needs to ante up.
Communication is most important.
My girlfriend used to talk to some faggot online quite a few years back. They were quite close but the autist suddenly disappeared. Quite some time later he wrote to her saying that he had been scared she didn't love him back.
Maybe you're just talking to such an autist.
hairy is usually better, nice pussy OP
does he live near you? why do you like him? its about money/success?
if he is fearing about losing you or something similar just prove him you can be by his side. usually 30+yo man think that teens will leave them after another boy about their age, so prove you are a mature girl and dont need anyone else.
Just stop thinking and do it. It is not good to wait for something to happen, just let it happen and then you have the answer. If he runs away and is really this insecure ask yourself: could you handle a relationship with somebody like that? then you have also an answer for yourself.
Ok well as I'm currently not getting any sleep I'll bite.
Why the fuck would a 36 year old want anything to do with a child who has experienced all of 0 years of adulthood? Su you can fuck but so what? You are 10,000%likely to get bored with him and leave him in a world of pain, if it was me I'd rather eat a bowl of rusty nails.
Being insecure doesn't necessarely mean he'll be like this all the time. I was almost as bad as the guy when I met my girlfriend, but then once we started dating all the insecurity went away.
It would take too long to explain. He lives half an hour away. I like him because he was with me in my darkest times, made me feel safe with him, helped me when I needed it. He appreciated it whenever I did something nice for him in exchange... he's mature and the smartest man I know, even though he always says I'm smart... I just really really like him as a person.
Thanks for your advice
I can help. I have a phD in cognitive science and I work as a counsellor for married couples. In my career of five years I have helped numerous clients improve their relationships only through conversations. It is very important to see what you and your male friend have been talking about, so I would suggest you top either post at least the last two e-mails which you have exchanged or mail them to me, so I can analyze them and consequently provide you with the information that you need.
>18F loves 37M
What is the problem here? You fuck him you dumb pink snatch...
>He lives half an hour away
and you've only met 3 times? If I live a half hour from a girl that liked me, I'd be at her house every day.
That's the mistake, you should've spent more time together in person, at your house or his, it's more comforting to be with each other in person. Maybe the guy was waiting for you to invite him over and you didn't so he thought the relationship wasn't going anywhere
I still live with my parents. He'd shit himself if he realized they know about it. And he has never invited me to his house so...
Also he's extremely busy (could be just an excuse also)
It'll take time and lots of intimacy; and I don't mean just fucking.
But whatever you do, if you get feelings for someone else or feel like cheating; any shit like that. Break up before any shit, don't tell him about it, and don't talk to him again.
Guys like that, well it's better to pull the bandaid quickly otherwise it haunts you for years.
I believe that IT HAS MUCH TO DO.
You're super young, trying to involve with someone who lived A LOT MORE than you have. You can't imagine being 37YO. You have a broken 18YO mind, and you MUST GO BACK to real life, your 18YO life.
Oh, 35YO here, living my beautiful 35YO life. Not hanging out with kids.
I assume you two haven't fucked, perhaps kissed.
Thing is when the relationship relays almost completely on online communication it won't satisfy as communicating face to face, so feelings can't be felt so well.. along with that half hour away is not too much at all so why don't you meet up with him daily so it'd be his and yours daily thing.
Ok, start hanging out. Does any of you feel embarassed about seeing in public because your age? Im 31yo and a few weeks ago I declined seeing a 19yo girl because she looked underage and I have to admit Im too shy for that kind of things. Specially in a small town where everyone knows each other.
If you have been talking for that long its time to approach him and making him confident.
One of my problems is I usually find too much rivals and Im not in the market anymore, specially with apps like Tinder or social sites. So if he is 37yo I can understand him, girls about your age may change from one day to another and you'll end with your heart crushed while the girl finds another guy -hotter and better- in just 24 hours.
I'm gonna stop you right there. You're a woman and you're thinking like a woman. He's insecure and the slightest shit you do might scare him off.
Tell him you really like him and that you would like to date him. Tell him that you are afraid too but that you can at least see him a few times and see how it goes. Just go over to his place, watch a movie together and have a few drinks. Enjoy!
PS. ignore all other advice on this website. Everyone here is a retard, including me.
Don't invite him over, invite yourself to his house or convince him to invite you.....
There's never extremely busy, he can always spare time from his sleep or weekends or dayoff
I do look very young... I'm not embarrassed and we've been out in the public but only in the evenings/at night
Well right now my heart is crushed... and I would never hurt him. Too bad every girl says that in the beginning. I hope I can stay true to my word
Look, I'm not saying you don't currently have feelings for the guy, I understand that you feel strongly. Feelings change, it's life, he knows this. If you are serious about life long relations, show him your serious commitment by being patient over time and not just looking for a quick fix.
Real relationships take real commitment.