Hey /b/, ask me anything about sex. Can't get your gf to cum? Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Find yourself cumming too early? Ask away!
Don't ask me how to pick up girls, I'm not a pick-up artist.
Switch things up, don't just fuck or get a blowjob. Right in the middle of things, throw her on her back and go down on her. When you're fucking her in missionary, pull out and softly rub her clit with the tip of your cock, then press your entire cock against her pussy and kiss her passionately. Then sloooooowly fuck her again and if you feel yourself getting closer, switch things up again.
MDMA is a great bedroom spice.
read this >>590691615
Additonally, there are a few supplements you can use that slightly desensitize your cock. MAOIs (like passionflower and st john's wort) will definitely have a noticeable effect, with a slight risk of it being harder to get a boner or stay hard. SSRIs are more effective but they are prescription based and I wouldn't mess around with them unless you know what you're doing.
Last night she was stroking it very well and it fooled me.When I pushed her head down for a blowjob she started crying.
We had just finished an argument about how she is rarely in the mood for anything sexual and keeps evading me.
She says sometimes she just wants to kiss and I step it up.
For me it's just that one thing leads to another is all.
We haven't had sex in 2 weeks ,but will tonight (we have agreed on it).It feels stupid and like a chore this way when we have to plan it and things don't happen on their own.
Wat do , OP?
How do I get my girlfriend interested in the idea of multiple partners? We've been together for 2 years and are about to have a child. Her self esteem is so bad that I'm afraid to bring it up to her because I think she will self-reflect and think I'm looking at others because I'm not attracted to her. Which isn't the case.
I'm good looking but unless im drunk i have really bad performance anxiety which i didnt even know that was a thing, but it makes one night stands impossible. halp
I don't see that as a solution ,we've been together for 4 years and she practically lives next door to me ,avoiding her after it would be a bitch.
I just need more sex is all , I'm happy with her otherwise.
spend time with her not with the goal of sex. show that you dont just want your balls emptied.
when things do go down that route, focus on her pleasure. make it more enjoyable for her and she'll more than likely want it more - thereby you'll get more.
im in the same boat anon, albeit slightly higher up the river than you
Segway into it. Don't flat out ask her, but like, when you're having really good and passionate sex for instance, fuck her from behind and grab her asscheeks, and slowly segway your fingers to her asshole. Softly rub it while fucking her and bend over, and whisper in her ear "is this okay...?" and put some pressure on it. If she lets you in, you can build up to sliding your cock in.
Don't make it a chore, definitely don't. Talk with her, about what sex means to her personally, talk with her about what her fantasies are, talk with her about what she thinks is keeping her from having sex with you. Tell her that 2 weeks without sex is too long, not because she's just an object to satisfy your cock, but because you want to be close to her, please her and share passion with her.
Has she done it before herself, do you think she's open to the idea? If she is, you can sort of ask what her experiences are without brining it up yourself. Personally, if you're about to have a child I think it's a bad idea to bring something like this up because it'll shatter her self-esteem even more. Women want to feel special, like they're the only one that can get you off, if you destroy that idea when she's at her most vulnerable (which is both before and after birth) well... it won't be good.
Every time I fuck a chick, I get emotionally attached. I've also been fucked over many times in the past because of this. I won't lie, I'm a nice guy. I care about people. How do I harden myself against this shit so I can just bust a nut and kick a bitch out?
>mfw the feels strike
What do you feel anxious about? Are you nervous, can't get a boner? How do you feel.
Vaseline and vitamin C cream.
Good. Don't give women what they want during sex. Make them want it more than anything in the world and then when you DO give it to them, give them more than they bargained for.
You know how cats and dogs tilt their heads and rub against your fingers and hands when you pet them so you'll pet them exactly the way they like? Girls do this too with their clits and gspots (and to some extent their entire bodies) and they are completely unaware of it. Play around with her softly, especially with your fingers. Try out different angles, speeds, pressure for a minute each or so and see how she responds with her pussy. Does she provide counter-pressure? Does she rub back and forth? Does the tilt her hips?
Also, if you're close enough with her: ask her. Ask her what she likes, put your tongue on her clit, look her in the eye, give it a lick and say: "Show me how you like it most", then put your tongue back on her clit and let her do the magic herself and follow along.
You don't, it's a part of how you see sex. You have to change your view of sex itself and accept that emotional attachment is a part of it. It's not a bad thing to have a wild night of passion with a stranger and never see eachother again, you can share an emotional bond for a night and then move on. Learn to accept your emotional attachment as part of sex and make the most out of the nights you have, blow a girl's mind more than she blows yours.
If she doesn't like it she doesn't like it. Persuasion is one thing, genuine enjoyment is another.
Are you a guy or a girl?
1. Less porn, less fapping, obviously.
2. Take zinc and vitamin D supplements, these will boost your testosterone and make you much hornier and much more likely (and fucking desperate) to cum
3. Before you meet a girl, jerk yourself off right until before you cum. Then when you have sex with her, switch things up and jerk yourself every now and then, for instance while going down on her, or sit over her chest and put the tip of your cock in her mouth while stroking yourself. Make it part of the sex play and use that to get yourself so close to the edge that nearly anything will make you able to cum.
>We haven't had sex in 2 weeks
Same boat here but for me its once a month atm. My gf suffers from depression and is trying to work through it. At least I got her to get help but this shit is breaking my balls man cos she's actually decent and good looking.
Vaseline? You kidding me? You ever farted within a week of using vaseline as lube? I don't want to shit myself a million times, i just want my ass to not feel beat up all the time.
I'm all set on the tits thanks.
What you want to do is make him feel inadequate. Keep yourself from cumming, don't get too carried away. Keep him on the edge of cumming and whenever he seems to, stop pleasuring him. Make him FEEL less dominant, make him want things more from you than you want them from him, then you can "control" him better.
Reduces friction burn and speeds up the healing process. If you want anal sex more often, vaseline is your best bet. Vit C cream will also speed up the healing process, but it won't reduce friction burn enough to make a large difference, unless combined with vaseline.
I last a LOT longer when having real sex myself. A lot of it is mental, and when you're fapping you tend to go for porn and girls that you EXACTLY want. When you're having sex things are a bit different.
When does this happen? During sex? Throughout the day? Once a month?
If you have precum, then yes.
Wish I could help you with that, but I have the same problem and I haven't had sex with a condom in years.
I accidentally a reply, wat do?
Try different kinds of condoms. Maybe you need larger ones. I've found some are so tight on me that they're uncomfortable, and some are too thick. Skyn condoms are my favorite.
Pls halp. The less I get the more I wasn't and its driving me insane. All I think about the moment I get up until I fall asleep is 'will I have sex today or not?'. I fap every couple of days but it makes me feel shit and I get slightly depressed afterwards because I shouldn't have to cap.
It really ruins sex for me. I don't tend to fuck around too much, but rather I have short-term relationships that last like 6-9 months, I've never really ran the risk of getting an STD and I don't have ANY precum whatsoever so I guess I'm just lucky in that regard.
She doesn't want to have sex with you she doesn't want to be with you, just is afraid of accepting it herself. Dump her. Srsly.
my ex lives like 20 meters away from me. Doesn't matter. We've knew each other for 7 years, and been together for 2, but she "wasn't in the mood" too sometimes. Less and less sex, felt like a chore because we had to agree beforehand. Then she goes abroad for vacation and cheats on me. Dude, move on!
Did you read what I posted here >>590695033?
What I said here was:
>You know how cats and dogs tilt their heads and rub against your fingers and hands when you pet them so you'll pet them exactly the way they like? Girls do this too with their clits and gspots (and to some extent their entire bodies) and they are completely unaware of it. Play around with her softly, especially with your fingers. Try out different angles, speeds, pressure for a minute each or so and see how she responds with her pussy. Does she provide counter-pressure? Does she rub back and forth? Does the tilt her hips?
>Also, if you're close enough with her: ask her. Ask her what she likes, put your tongue on her clit, look her in the eye, give it a lick and say: "Show me how you like it most", then put your tongue back on her clit and let her do the magic herself and follow along.
It's WAY easier to make a girl cum with your fingers than with your cock. If you want to make her cum by fucking but you're having trouble, follow the same guideline as before: fuck her from different angles, positions, see how she responds with her hips, her body, her pussy, try to find out what she likes the most. If all else fails, bend her the fuck over, grab her neck and finger her gspot until she's on the verge of cumming, then slam your cock inside her and fuck her as hard as you can, pointing your cock slightly downwards. When she starts cumming, throw your bodyweight on top of her and make her knees collapse, driving your cock as deep inside her as possible.
We've talked about it a lot and I can deal with waiting until she GS better but what I need is advice to cope with no sex. My ex used to give me BJs almost daily and sex 5+ times a week so I'm struggling quite a lot.
Half the time I can barely think straight because of this shit.
Op im curved downwards. Im like 6.5 inches with a thin girth (haven't checked). Wad do?
I'm extremely self conscious about that and the last girl who saw it just stared at it and I lost a lot of confidence that night. She was a virgin so we didn't go all the way.
Try clinging to her with your cock and rock upwards gently over her clit when you're fucking. Do not release pressure. Keep rocking up and down with your pelvis against her pelvis. Most guys think porn fucking is how you fuck but that's visual and it's for fapping. Real fucking is about contact and a woman will multi-orgasm 4-5 times before begging you to cum and that's when you give her two more big orgasms then release it all. She'll cook you breakfast, lunch and dinner and wash your clothes only out of love and worship your cock if you fuck her that way.
tl:dr; it's about maintaining contact with only as much pressure as she can take
Things like St John's Wort supplements desensitize you to sex slightly, they definitely help. Otherwise, it's never a good idea to cope with no sex. Our sex drive is one of our most primal instincts (both for men and women) and trying to suppress or deny it is only self-damaging. It's better to find a solution that involves actually having sex with her than suppressing your urges.
The mistake people always make about relationships is that they see sex and romance as different things. It's as if to say there's a purely platonic attraction and a purely physical attraction and a relationship is about the platonic with physical on the side. Supposedly anybody who thinks the physical side is important is shallow. No.
It's both, equal and fair. A relationship that misses EITHER is a broken relationship. Unless you're past 50, a relationship without sex is simply unhealthy, just like a relationship that is purely based on sex is unhealthy.
Lost confidence? Dude you are unique! I recommend watching Witches of Eastwick because apparently Jack Nicholson's cock does the same thing and dem witches love it.
If you're curved down, fuck her doggy or scissor with her on your side. You won't get to apply pressure on her clit so you should keep your hand on it if you can reach. If that doesn't work gently press a multi-phase vibrator on her clit while you fuck her. Maintain pressure on that clit and you'll hit her gspot and that should totally rock her.
It's all mental. There is nothing to worry about, nothing to prove: you and your partner just want to have a good time together. So have a good time and don't worry about the how and why and what.
Also if you take a bunch of vitamin D and zinc supplements, you'll be able to get boners harder than concrete, but try not to rely on it too much.
Most girls can't cum from fucking alone. Our clits are really no where near our vaginal opening if you think about it. Eat her out or rub her clit, or if she gets on top her clit will be rubbing against your body while she's fucking you. That works too. It's all about the clit bro
Dont worry bro I got the same. You need to two experiment a bit more. I know that if I have more than 4 pints of beer I can forget about sex except rare occasions. If you're nervous make sure you don't fap a while beforehand.
>mfw first time having sex with current gf
>le floppy wiener time
>both hugely embarrassed
>she thinks she was shirt and I think she's gona never talk again
>she asks ' are you sure nor gay?'
>get kinda mad since it felt like a kick to the nuts in an already shit situation
>she comes to my house 2 days later
>fuck twice, cum twice, we get subway around the corner
>fuck two more times, balls and dick are hurting
>now live together
Use it to your strength: with a dick like that doggystyle will feel absolutely heavenly to any girl. With your dick you can scrape the tip of your cock along a girl's gspot from behind like nobody else can. Focus on your strengths and have confidence in it. If a girl reacts like the girl did last night, just think inwardly how fucking naive she is, bend her the fuck over and show her how fucking stupid she was for doubting how good you'd feel.
I cant seem to cum during the sex, only when I jack off on my gf
>I didnt had sex for 2 years before I met my current gf
>fapped once a day during that period
I know how to sex, the problem is she rarely feels in the mood because depression and a few other issues. She gets nauseous when were about to have sex. Her therapist thinks she has had some kind of traumatic experience in the past.
yes, you are lucky to dont have a small retarded like you pulling her head out of some girl's cavern...
>It's all about the clit bro
Sorry but this is really bad advice. Every girl is different and every girl likes different things. There are no set ways to make a girl cum. There are only set ways to please a girl and find out what she REALLY likes by how she responds.
Some girls can only cum with their gspots, others only with their clits, others only with stimulation to both and with others it's 100% mental. All you have to do is have a "standard package" of things to do with which you find out exactly what she likes the most, then focus on that.
When you're about to fuck, don't think of it as a major accomplishment but rather a connection with her. Maintain that love. Focus on pleasing her. If your attention is on pleasing her and not pleasing yourself or getting some reward then you'll suffer from stage fright.
Stop masturbating for a month before you try again. Wacking off ruins your confidence because the porn stars fuck with our self confidence or the actual act has things going on we don't understand or expect so it throws us off.
Instead think of this as merely an expressive dance you're doing to show her what she means to you.
I considering going to walk in clinic and getting Viagra
This has been problem for me for a while now and I can't get out my head
I don't have a partner BTW it's just random. But usually friend of friend so word of failure gets around
you are a fag... try to think of men while fucking her that could help you
I'm not gonna say dump her but I am gonna ask you if you're happy with her in a sexless relationship. Many women and girls have had horrible experiences that have left them empty and broken.
You can't fix her. She has to want to repair the damage herself. Knowing how to fuck won't fix this problem. Knowing yourself will.
If it were me, I'd bail on her and find someone not broken or I would get her in a program with real milestones. I'd probably ask her if I could go with her to therapy to help discuss sex while in the presence of her therapist. If she has a good therapist, the both of you will be able to become intimate in a healthy way sometime but she's gotta want to... I don't think I personally would have the patience.
Try switching things up and tease, tease, TEASE.
Don't go diving straight in, but kiss her tummy, kiss her inner thighs, kiss her on either side of her labia, breathe on her clit, stick out your tongue and have it hover a fraction of an inch from her pussy. When you do touch it touch it as slightly as you possibly can with the tip of your tongue, make her want more and more of it.
As for the going down itself, switch things up and find out what she likes. Some girls like it when you stick your tongue as deep inside them as you can and have a good taste, some like it when you twist the tip of your tongue around her clit (don't do the fucking alphabet, every girl fucking knows that bullshit "trick"). What I like to do most myself is press my tongue against a girl's clit and moan into it, turning it into a kind of vibrator. I wrap my arms around her legs and pull her clit into my tongue, press into it, moan into it, rub up and down like fucking crazy.
What you can also do is put your tongue against her clit, grab her legs and bang her back and forth, slamming your tongue on her clit. Time it right and lick upwards every time your tongue hits her clit. Try different things like these and see which one she responds the most to, by twisting her hips, moaning, scratching you, etc.
Also, most girls will try to push you off them with their legs if they're getting close to cumming, so you gotta grab hold of them and push the fuck back and force that orgasm out of her, then let her crush your skull with her thighs.
She does want to and as I've said she's gotten herself some help which is a great step already. I have quite a bit of patience and like challenges so in a way I almost feel compelled to deal with this. Plus as I said before sex aside we are awesome together and the sex thing is a matter of time. I m not willing to give up yet.
Keep pressure on her clit and ensure that she's wet enough so that it doesn't burn. Don't release pressure with your tongue or bite or anything. Keep that pressure on it. If she still can't cum that way I would switch it up and grab her vibrator and get pressure on her gspot while you're down there.
For a while, I couldn't really give my girl good oral sex. I used to try, and be down there for ages, but never really got her off.
I knew my mate always bragged about being good at it, so invited him over one evening, and we all got drunk. Before I knew it, I had suggested that he gave my girl a good eating out for me to learn, and she was up for the idea.
I have to say, she's enjoyed it since we've done that, so please it happened. Was kind of hot watching him go down on her too.
>Focus on pleasing her
>If your attention is on pleasing her and not pleasing yourself or getting some reward then you'll suffer from stage fright
soo, which is iit ?
focus on yourself or her lol
You don't "get" a girl, you stimulate her interest and maybe try it out gently.
Talk with her about it, ask her to try different things, maybe grab her head and fuck her mouth to make yourself cum that way. If you're at that stage where there's a noticeable difference from before, you've been together long enough to be able to talk about it.
My "gf" enjoys me... strangling her. Being a harmless beta faggot I can barely even slap her, let alone start strangling her.
Any advice to overcome fear? Any suggestion to make it enjoyable for her? Is there a substitution maybe?
I can only imagine the look on his face when you entered him from behind.
It's not bad advice it's basic anatomy. Women are not some big secret to be answered. Are there multiple ways to make a girl cum? Yes...but 99.9% of the time it involves the clit in some way.
I did something similar once. My ex's best friend was going through relationship trouble, and one night I decided to "help out" by showing her how I gave me ex (my gf at the time) an erotic massage.
It was the best I ever gave her, she was cumming non-stop and begging me to stop and keep going at the same time. Her friend got interested so I grabbed her hand and put it in my ex's pussy and showed her how to do it. Shortly after she asked my ex's permission to have a massage herself. I made her cum a few times and them I grabbed my ex's hand and showed HER how to do it. She was really bad at it so I had to join in and at some point we both had our fingers in her best friend's pussy.
Both. Look at sex as two people enjoying the exact same thing. You don't please her, she doesn't please you, you naturally please eachother. Do whatever's natural to get her off and encourage her to drive you fucking wild.
Everything is good, she swallows, her sucking technique is perfect, i make her cum she makes me cum, However, she does not like to be on top, and she isnt as active during sex. Put it this way, almost like she is asleep and moans like its a whisper she only becomes physically active when she ia bout to climax so then she will engage in kissing pulling my hair holding me wrapping her legs around me, she only does this when she is maybe a few min from climax but aprt from that there is nothing.
had same problem with a gf long time ago. Problem was I didn't said (didnt give any feedback, was shy as fuck) on what turns me on. After her no problems any more. Body language, and feedback what feels great and what doesn't do shit for you. You need to figure out what's your favourite dish and how it is presented to you. Be honest with yourself and put your fantasies into real life. Dont be afraid of saying them out loud. Unless they are really fucking sick. Which in case of a normal girl will automatically kill the relationship. If that is the case then you need to find yourself a bitch that will like to get peed on or smthg :P
........you fucking asshole.
I love doing that but my gf doesn't like it.
Basically EVERY other chick i fucked so far loved me doing it.
And your problem is that you can't do it?! My god, life is unfair.
Don't strangle her but neck grabbing is a go-to fucking thing during any sex. Get in missionary and position yourself so you can fuck her as hard as you can, get your hand on her neck. Speed up while fucking, fucking her harder and harder and making her gasp for air, and as you do that, close your hand on her throat more and more and more and more. You don't even have to strangle her, she'll love it.
>Yes...but 99.9% of the time it involves the clit in some way.
Maybe for you, but definitely not for all women.
As for anatomy, I'm a neuroscientist, how do you think I know so much about sexual anatomy and behaviour?
Yeah, it was great watching them together. She sucked him off too, and seeing her do everything she can to pleasure him was amazing. She has always been very good at giving head, so I knew how much he was enjoying it.
how do I get my girlfriend into anal? I turned her on, was in 1000% overdrive horny mode, switched from vag sex to anal, and she completely dropped the mood. We've tried half a dozen times over the past few years, and each time she hates it. I don't have a massive dick or anything.
Is there some secret, or am I out of luck?
Not OP but want to add my 50c.
Just know what warks for you and ESPECIALLY know what doesn't. If you are feeling you are coming, just switch things like OP said. For instance: maybe you are turned on by missionary position but doggystyle doesn't feel as good for you. Start a little by missionary, if you feel you are going to come, just switch to doggy :)
We've talked about it and we've tried a bunch of stuff including the mouth fucking. It's only bjs thats the problem and i love those, just cant finish.
It upsets both her and me
Does this bother you? Everybody is different, some spread out their passion and for some the whole sex is a buildup to one glorious moment where they release it all.
Is she a shy person generally?
There, now fuck off you ignorant waste of space.
Then work on it together, most couples have trouble speaking about these kinds of things to eachother or experimenting with new things. It will feel so fucking good for you both when she finally manages to make you cum.
When did it start becoming harder for you to cum from a bj? Did anything change? What do you instinctually think it might be, in your gut feeling?
Also, if you really desperately want her mouth to make you cum, take a bunch of zinc and vitamin D supplements. Fuck her until you're right on the edge or have her give you a handjob until you're right on the edge then let her blow you to finish you, when you're already half-cumming.
Do this a few times, and every single time, have her blow you a bit earlier and earlier, see how that works out.
haha, yea she is shy, When we get into it she will push up against me visa versa for prone position which is our fav. but it does take a while. I guess maybe its just the way i think about it sometimes. I mean i got it good. She has even given me permission to have sex with her while she is asleep. And she is a very heavy sleeper When i do have sex with her while she is sleeping she is actually more active and engaging.
Gtfo with your neuroscience bs. I'm in the medical field too and I actually study human sexuality, but we're not talking about our resumes, we're talking about women's sexual anatomy. What exactly is the gspot? Oh, the internal part of a woman's clitoris? Where else is it that we can orgasm exactly. You know women fake orgasms all the time too, right. And like u i speak on behalf of all women, not just myself. We talk about sex all the time with eachother. Did u know that? Something you men need to do is stop telling women you know more about their bodies then them. Listen to us. Don't be a douche.
start by just pushing down on her chest - not too hard or cracked ribs - maybe when she's on top hold her up by doing this then gradually move up towards the neck.
as an aside, if you're so harmless, you live to please correct? she wants you to fuck her senseless and that will likely increase her pleasure.
Have you ever tried waking her up with sex in the morning?
Yes yes and yes.
I listen to women all the time, I just don't listen to you because you're an idiot, regardless of whether you're a man or a woman.
It's not a race to the finish line, it's not like you have to tell her or ask her to suck you. The more you look at it like that the less either of you enjoy it (And the less you will actually "accomplish").
That shit just happens naturally man. You're making out, fingering her, teasing her, pleasing her. You take off her pants and keep going, you get between her legs and kiss her everywhere around her pussy gently, not demanding. You make her want it, you give her a kiss on her pussy through her panties, you slip them off and lick her to high heaven. You lie down beside her and keep fingering her, pull off your pants, offer your cock and just keep on going.
The less pressure you put on it, the less you bring it up the better off you are. The more you let things happen naturally and the more passionate you get, the more likely she will be to reach for your cock out of her own desire, not because you have to ask her.
get the whole 'touching each other' hurdle over with before you shove it down her throat. start to let your hands wander while you're kissing her if she's up to that stage yet she'll likely reciprocate and things will escalate over time.
Yeah, ive woken her up with sex, she has woken me up with sex a few times too and she is on top but once i wake up she will stop.But she usually just likes play with me until i wake up or suck me.
My GF says sex hurts her vag too much. She never wants to do it because "it's torture," we've tried all kinds of lube, I've gotten her into the mood up to the point of penetration but we've had to stop there every time because she's in tears how much it hurts, and now she just associates sex with pain and has practically become asexual.
What the shit can we even do?
the vag-dick ratio I have with my current gf sucks. either my dick is small or her vag is huge, either way, it's like putting my dick into a warm bucket of water. There's no pressure and I can't get off. Advice?
Fuck it I'll ask. My girl and I have been together for almost 2 years, at the start the sex was constant and great, blowjobs, her on top, me slapping her around etc. Now it's once a week at best. She's just "never in the mood" Blowjobs are non existent which is a fucking bonerkiller for me. And we don't even go long. About 5-10 minutes in of me pounding and I slow down or stop so I don't cum, she forces it out of me by jumping back etc doing pretty much anything to make me cum which fucking pisses me off to no end as I'm not finished. I don't end up cumming properly and it just fucks me off to the point of not wanting to even talk to her after.
Then pretend to stay asleep. Shy girls are generally bad on top because they feel exposed. Let her be comfortable with the feeling. Alternatively, if she is on top, grab her torso and pull her towards you, her chest pressed on yours. Steady your hips and slam your cock inside her relentlessly, while keeping her chest and body locked against yours with your arms. Ram her harder and harder, faster and faster and hold her tighter and tighter.
She could have a yeast infection, UTI or an STD. Has she been checked out? Has this happened before?
Holy shit, don't listen to OP. Some women suffer with a condition, I'm not sure the name but basically their vaginal opening is too small for even a tampon. Treatment involves slowly stretching the muscles over time with different objects until she can handle an actual dick. Look it up.
>She could have a yeast infection, UTI or an STD. Has she been checked out? Has this happened before?
She's been like this for almost 3 years, we've been together for like 8, she claims things have always been painful but she's come to be able to tolerate the pain less and less and/or it hurts more and more.
Use force instead. Fuck her as hard as you can, and make her tight. Snap her legs together and hold them up while you fuck her. If you lie her on her belly and keep her legs together that will also make her feel tighter.
What you can also do is if you're in missionary, throw her legs up so that her knees are up to her shoulders, then sit straight on your feet and knees (so don't lean over her) and fuck her like that.
This generally happens in every relationship. You have to talk and be open and honest. Ask her what she wants, if she has any fantasies.
For valentine's day, get her roses, a big heart-shaped box filled with chocolates, a ballgag and handcuffs. Try new things, fulfil fantasies that she has. She's not "not in the mood" for sex in general, she's not in the mood for what she's been used to for 2 years now.
Surprise her with new and kinky things and/or talk with her about what she wants and likes.
happened to me, girlfriend started on the pill - libido gone - after that she tried the implant - even worse and made her cycle irregular so even when she was in the mood for sex we couldn't, period sex going badly last time, neither of us have a desire to try it again.
straight up ask her. talk about these things, neither of you is a mind reader and you aren't gonna change anything if the other one doesn't know change needs to be made.
try it keeping her legs more together or by spooning her from behind. tightens things up in my experience
Things will keep getting worse until you recognize the problem and start fixing it. This condition is just as much mental as it is physical. If you can't fix it on your own then seek professional assistance.
Either try to masturbate less and be more dependent on her to get an orgasm, or masturbate before you see her except don't cum, just edge a while instead and get yourself sensitive enough so she can finish the job.
one of my favorite positions used to be a mod on missionary
you are standing she is laying
and then lift her bum with your hands
her knee pits should be on your shoulders
nowadays I don't care really
it's all trite
>Have you seen a doctor about this?
I've been trying to convince her but she's got a thing about hospitals, she spent a not-insignificant portion of her childhood in one for reasons.
>Does she want to have sex with you despite her pain?
Yes, but unfortunately I'm not the type who can actually get off on a chick crying in actual pain despite my taste in porn.
I think it pretty much comes down to getting her to see a doctor about it.
This actually makes sense since I can't even get a finger in here without her wincing.
My girlfriend is also on the implant. She has the same. irregular bleeding and lack of libido. But even then, when we were together before she was on the pill etc she would still give me head etc if she was bleeding, now it's just "too bad". She does know, we have talked about lack of sex and her being lazy (literally just lying there, nothing hot about a girl just lying there taking it) and she'll say I will work on it, I'll change. But I'm at the point of just calling it quits (due to other things too) It's just a boring relationship. Lack of sex, she never wants to do anything, she's just a boring person really. Expecting me to go all out, take her on dates, pay for meals, buy her stuff etc and get nothing in return.
I had girls who gave me footjobs who I KNOW would be like "wtf" if I did that retarded porn thing with rubbing the clit with your dick. Just don't, if you don't wanna embarass yourself. The changing up thing really does work, so I gotta hand that to OP.
It's a pretty simple mechanic that develops when people masturbate too much: you don't depend on the opposite sex anymore to achieve orgasms/good orgasms. So yeah, its no surprise that they can't get you off because internally, you know you can do it best and that's what you're used to.
Got a problem of my own, hope you could help. My girlfriend is rather sensitive and usualy doesn't need more than 10 minutes to come. I, on the other hand, take about 40 minutes. Recently she's been feeling like I don't find her attractive as I take so long, but I can't do anything about this. How can I make my girlfriend feel like I appreciate her body as well as her mind?
cool, bro, just do all the shit you see in porn and tell yourself what a master fucker you are (if you're not a virgin, which I doubt). I bet you even do that slapping her vagina with your dick thing, right? Oh girls just love you, you are the best in sex. Fucking faggot.
Teaching her how to make you cum. I had the exact same problem with my ex. She had terrible self-esteem issues and sometimes she'd get so desperate to make me cum she'd actually hurt me with either her hand or mouth from being so fast and rough.
Have her give you a handjob, or a blowjob and have her find "the sweet spot" the thing that stimulates you best, makes you cum the best. For extra encouragement, you could masturbate yourself beforehand (without her knowledge of course) and edge for a while, making it easier for her. You have to communicate and just like she's honest about feeling like she's unattractive, you have to be as open and honest about what you like (and encouraging).
You can also compensate by being more enthusiastic. Don't limit her to one orgasm, keep the fuck going. When you're going down on her, push her legs back to her sides and keep the fuck licking, press her legs back if she resists and lick her to high heavens, then when she can't take anymore, throw yourself on top of her and fuck the living shit out of her. Make her feel like making her cum feels as good to you as an orgasm for yourself, and you'd do anything for her orgasms, even if she's had some already.
Nah, some idiot said that a stimulating the clit is pretty much the only way to make a girl cum, which is nonsense. Every girl likes different things. Some can only cum with their clits, others just with their gspots, others just with both. Some girls need to be peed on or have a finger in their ass to cum, and some girls can cum just from a few slaps on their clit.
Vitamin D and zinc supplements.
>You know the gspot is the clit right?
No it's not, it's a hypothesis, researchers have no clue what the actual gspot is and even dissections haven't provided any conclusive evidence. The only conclusive evidence there is of the gspot is that there tend to be nerve endings in most women. Whether it's part of the actual clitoris or not has been far from confirmed.
my gf never came in her life, not even by herself, I tried licking the clit, fingering her g spot (or where I think it is), I even tied her down and fingered her clit until it got so sensitive that it hurt her and I had to stop
I know how to finger btw, used to make my ex cum in a matter of minutes while fingering her clit
I dont feel shit when I orgasm anymore, the "mechanical" aspect works perfectly, I ejaculate normally, but orgasm intensity has reduced greatly and is a shadow of what It used to be.
I attribute it to shit health conditions and a sign of heart problems, but you tell me.
Boy if you could tell me how to make my girl cum.
I got some girls to cum but this one is something I never met before.
She tends to push me away some moments before she'll cum. Doesn't matter if clittoris or G-spot.
I've never heard of this problem. Basically the part of the orgasm that feels good is a massive release of oxytocin and endorphins (basically a kind of heroin that your body produces itself).
It could be that there's something wrong with the release of those hormones when you orgasm, causing you to not experience the release and satisfaction.
Do you take any medication? Do you work out? Are there other parts of your life that you feel you have become insensitive to?
Op, I've been dating a 10/10 and she hadn't done anal before me. She bled a lot at first and it was painful I guess, but I figured the first few times with her would be like that. She's small. I've been fucking her in the ass intermittently. Well it sort of goes like this:
We fuck several times a week. Vaginal, blowjob, vaginal, blowjob, vaginal, anal, and so on.
I thought eventually she would grow to like it like some girls do, but she acts like it's a chore. Lately, I've been getting poop on my dick after I cum.
So my question is, do you think she's passive-aggressively shitting on my dick to try to turn me off of anal?
Don't take no for an answer, push the fuck back.
Does she know why this is? Does she desperately want to cum herself? For some girls it can be a problem and they need something REALLY specific to make them cum, you have to find what that is, but yeah, it's like a needle in a haystack. Alternatively you could see a doctor.
Like I said, don't fuck around with SSRIs unless you know what you're doing, as for MAOIs, those are pretty safe. You can take shit like passionflower, St John's Wort, or make a really strong cup of sweetened raw cacao, there's very little harm in that.
>Does she know why this is? Does she desperately want to cum herself? For some girls it can be a problem and they need something REALLY specific to make them cum, you have to find what that is, but yeah, it's like a needle in a haystack. Alternatively you could see a doctor.
she doesn't, I am thinking of buying one of those vibrators that stimulate the clit, if I can't get her to cum like that I give up, the sex is really good though, I'd just like her to cum too
>Don't take no for an answer, push the fuck back.
I do that, but her resisting makes me really really horny and then I kind of cum too fast. How can I fix this? I tried thinking of school in that moment, but then I didn't fuck her as I should have.
MAOIs you have to be careful with what you're eating, foods high in tyramine (cheese and stuff) can cause increase in blood pressure because the tyramine doesn't get broken down like it would if you weren't taking MAOIs, which can be serious.
Sometimes some things just don't work out, and if a thing like that induces more stress and worry than it relaxes you and gives you enjoyment, why keep doing it?
Well, if the sex is good and she's happy with the way things are then maybe it's not a problem that she can't cum, but a problem that you feel inadequate if you can't make her cum.
Yes, with regular use. Occasional use just for sexual purposes won't affect anyone's digestion too much. Also synthetic MAOIs have been associated with adverse affects way more often than MAOIs from natural sources.
Then switch things up, make sure she's closer to cumming than you are by fingering her, licking her for a good while before fucking her so by the time you're bringing her to an orgasm, you can still go for a while.
Problems getting it up.
Nerves. 4chan induced unwanted cuck fetish that I'm trying to fix.
How do porn stars do it? Seriously considering going no-fap for a couple days before my first time (yes Virginfag) to absolutely ensure success even if I one pump
I cant go down on my girl, she gets too wet and I just dont like how it feels. I only tried it once and my dick went limp, after that we both agreed I wouldnt do it again. She said she doesnt care since she actually doesnt like getting oral sex that much, but it makes me feel like shit not being able to go down on her, because I love getting a blowjob. What do?
have her ride you on top, I literally don't even have to touch my gf's clit, she just will find a spot (g-spot i think) she likes and grind me until her eyes roll back and she starts shaking. its fucking phenomenal. I don't have to worry about shit any more now that we figured that out
It also depends on the shape and curvature of you and your partner.
idk, tell her to ride you and see if she can find it.
I'm "bigger" than her ex (her only other sexual partner) and even if she lubricates A LOT (there's really no issue here, my bed sheets could prove it) it bothers her. I tried longer foreplay, but she's not really into that and it's not needed for lubrication. Any advice?
Well I think I have some advice for you.
I have just that what you want.
We started of having almost no sex, here and there a blowjob MAYBE (no swallowing). Then I started being a manly man and now she wants to eat my cum all the time. Sometimes she starts rubbing her pussy on my hand if I'm lying around or whatnot.
TL;DR: Make her want you, be a man.
my gf prefers clit rubbing than proper penetration. when she is on top, she puts a lot of pressure to move her clit, but does not get in and out. so at the end, i am not hard enough. she also cum in 2 mins, then not horny to keep fucking, wat do ?
lol thanks op! here have some tits for your troubles
But don't forget foreplay, It's kinda tricky in the car, but for an example mine likes it rough so while I was driving I was slapping her tits and face and was telling her dirty words. When I came to my spot I just went outside with out a word and pulled her out like a slut and threw her on the backseat, told her to take her FUCKING clothes of and bark like a dog (for the lulz, but she liked it). That was so intense, I'm gonna redo that.
dont really wanna show face, she is a shy nice girl.