Any of you fuckers asexual, or ever had an asexual partner?
There's this girl, been spending a lot of time with her lately, thought she wanted to take things slow but nope, asexual. Who the fuck is asexual? Also it's not as easy as "nope gtfo" because I kinda like her, but I can't figure out how this is gonna work out. I need some people to talk about their experience.
No one is asexual. They probably have:
1) Low confidence
2) Low self esteem
3) Repressed heterosexuality
4) Repressed homosexuality
5) Using excuses to remain virgin till marriage
6) Believes in religion and sex dirtying her soul
OP she's using it as a mask for one of these reasons. How come she's with you and not dildo-ing a girl? Obviously means she likes dick.
I'm asexual everytime I shot my load for like a few seconds
My GF of 6 months is asexual. Once a week she lets me lube up her hand and stroke my dick while she watches TV. She doesn't do the stroking but I move her hand for her and it feelsgoodman.
She's a 8/10 and I'm a 4.5/10 at best. We're both virgins and I realize I'd rather get hand ob from an 8 then lower my standards to a land whale.
Also, she lives in my condo and lets me jerk off on her while she's sleeping as long as I make sure she's really asleep and don't get it on her when I'm done.
If you are asexual you are mentally ill. There isn't really much to do. You can always have forced sex and see if that cures her or makes her worse.
If you are not shitting me and you love her and she loves you at some point you will ask here to try for you.
Don't waste your time, buddy. She's not asexual, she just doesn't want to fuck you. She'll soak up your time, attention, effort and money, though, because it validates her... but she'll never give it up and she'll make you feel like shit for even trying.
She will, however, go to a party and get drunk or high and let some aggressive asshole fuck her... and then she'll come back to you and confess the whole thing. How are you going to feel then?
Get out now. You should only ever date people who clearly want to be with you the same way you want to be with them. In the mean time, spend your resources on yourself.
maybe cause she fucking likes you and wants to be close to you??
I'm 23 and she's 27. I met her at a coffee shop last year and we started talking. She said she was asexual and felt safe around me because I was the only guy she's talked to all year that hasn't tried to hit on her. A few months later I let her stay in my place with me as she's studying for the LSATs to get into law school. Works out pretty well and I'm happy with it. Also, I think eventually she'll wind up letting me lose my virginity to her. She said if I'm still a virgin at 30 she'll let me.
sometimes I wish I was asexual. It's hard to be so attracted to women and not have the desire reciprocated by them. It's like a starving person who has thanksgiving meal sitting in front of them and they can't have any of it, it actually causes me to think about walking in front of a bus sometimes
where the fuck did that statistic come from?
there are asexual bacteria and shit like that which are 100% asexual..
no human being can actually be asexual unless they have a disorder
So you would be okay if someone had sex with you? Since you have no preference, it'd be fine if a man stuck his dick in your ass or a woman sat on your face and got off on you... you wouldn't care either way?
It is literally impossible to have no preferences about something. Even saying "no, I don't want to get fucked or have someone grind one out on me" is a preference.
Plus "asexual" means a living thing that preproduction without sex. Plants are asexual. humans are sexual. You may not actively desire or pursue sexual activity, but you are not asexual.
I'm asexual and I hate to break it to you but it is a very diverse group of people with a very wide range of reasons for not being interested in sex. You aren't going to get a magic answer here because she is the only one that knows why her sexuals drives and desires are the way they are.
Am asexual. Would be alright with fucking someone I liked because I realize it's fucking retarded to not want sex from someone you like.
That said, pic related.
Sounds like you're the creep in this equation. You are hitting on her, just too beta about it to trigger her alarms.
Guys who claim to respect that a women just want to be friends with them but are secretly intent on fucking her are just as bad as women who claim they're not into sex but are just waiting for someone to come along and take it from them.
You, my friend, appear to be both a sucker and a creeper at the same time. What we might call a Nice a Guy. Do yourself and mankind a favor... get your shit together and quit fucking around with broken girls. Go after a woman who can engage with you in an honest and direct way.
I'm not giving her free rent. She's keep tabs of everything she eats from my fridge on an iPhone budget app and when she becomes a lawyer she will pay me back. She's NOT a freeloader and is very sensitive to that topic when my other buddies bring it up.
I don't have a weird hand rape fetish are you some fucking kind of idiot? I'm being respectful of her desires and meeting my sexual urges in a non-intrusive way.
I would just ask her if the option is on the table and make sure that she knows that you are wiling to take things at her pace. Most aces will have sex with their romantic partners eventually.
Okay, OP, let me help you out here as an asexual female myself.
Inb4, "fits or gtfo", it's relevant to this thread and there are a lot of misconceptions about asexuality.
But first, a few questions:
Is this girl involved in weeb/fandom stuff?
Does she have a history/reputation of never being intimate with people?
Is she typically introverted?
Because a lot of asexuals out there are fake or just trying to stand out.
It's fucking annoying and makes a joke out of the rest of us who really want no physical contact besides hugging.
Even with people we actually like.
Unlike most of my male friends, I can take it or leave it. I still have sex, but usually just because she wants it and it naturally progresses the relationship.
Usually when I have sex I just switch to my inner monologue.
Yes. Our sexual organs work just fine. We just don't either have the desire to have sex with other people (prefer masturbation) or do not have a sex drive at all. Even if you have no desire to have sex it still feels good when you do it.
Did you read that in a patriarchal rape culture propaganda pamphlet where you buy your roofies and condoms?
So I actually care about getting to know a girl before putting my penis inside her and that makes me beta? I don't date rape her and pressure her into sex by drugging her or lying to her and that makes ME that bad guy? Oh sure so now I'm a sucker and a creper because I don't live up to the image of masculinity portrayed by pop culture?
I assure you I'm very satisfied with my sex life and feel emotionally complete with my GF instead of being a virgin. There's more to life than just sex...
naw bro didn't you read
>fits or gtfo
>Is this girl involved in weeb/fandom stuff?
>Does she have a history/reputation of never being intimate with people?
As far as she told me, yes
>Is she typically introverted?
Hard to tell, probably more introvert than extrovert but not shy by any means.
Seems to like making out when drunk, and cuddling otherwise. Sometimes makes moves that sends all the signals of lets have sex right now and then it just turns back into cuddling. I have the bluest of balls. Would you have sex with a partner for their sake and how much would it suck for you?
this is possibly the saddest thing i've ever read on here in a while. really super sad. wow. i'd say your nonsense about the 4.5, women don't give a fuck about your beauty number. but then again if you're thinking this way your lower than that on any scale imaginable.
No physical contact besides hugging? Are we going to have to take a field trip to Tumblr in order to find out what you whackos are trying to say when you call yourselves asexual?
Does it have something to do with being a furry or imagining you're married to a cartoon character? Maybe you guys have cuddle parties too? Do you or do you not pleasure yourselves ever?
I swear, people just use whatever word they want to try to make legitimize their particular brand of crazy.
Sometimes people confuse asexuality for other things, it can be related to mental disorder, trauma or it could actually be just a genuine disinterest in sex. Unfortunately, if she claims to be asexual you aren't going to be able to change her mind by saying she has a mental disorder etc.
Is she sex-repulsed ie it grosses her out?
Has she mentioned any trauma to you?
My best advice is that you either accept her lifestyle and jack off to porn a lot, ask her about an open relationship, or find some compromise, maybe she'll let you jack off on her or something.
There's a Facebook page called "Asexuality" that is private but you can join very easily and ask a bunch of questions from actual "Ace" individuals. Best of luck.
You just need to hold her down, lube her asshole and plug it in, she will cry and say shit like no and dont do this, but if you do it right she will be your ass whore for as long as you want her. Just take a step and take what you want, she will love it.
Yes, she is in fact a freeloader. If you feel the need to defend observations that are consistent of someone who is freeloading don't you think that's a little strange?
Hypothetical future reimbursement is a ploy and has nothing to do with her CURRENTLY being a freeloader. She's using you but doesn't want to have sex with you which is the customary exchange from males to females (hey its like mutual usage, cool!).
Let me know how the magical future monies come along. You know that's not even close to being an original story, right?
Asexual is just meaning they're not attracted to any sex. Doesn't mean they won't fuck or anything. Ive had an asexual partner before. It's like fucking an emotionless doll that doesn't really get off to you or anything