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so /b/, time for some serious talk.

26 yo here, has had the job of my dreams for 2 years now, doing good money (enough anyway), did good studies and have good friends overall. Recently single cause ex dumped me, which is linked to this post.

Anyone else in that age range and kind of situation has recently started feeling depressed?

I mean, I basically have everything going for me, but I feel like it's actually a long slippery slope from here on out.

When you're studying, your situation changes quite a lot (heck, i moved every fucking year for the past 6 or 7 years, sometimes very fucking far away), but when you actually start working, what's left?

What's 5 years from now? Same job, more responsability, more money? I don't give a fuck about money. Got enough to pay the rent, to have a decent car, to put clothes on my shoulders, and to buy a game every now and then. I don't fucking need more.

Actually, i don't know what i need. I was lucky enough to travel, to basically try out everything i wanted. So why is there that fucking void in me?

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You're just beginning to understand the American Dream is just a way for corporations to use you... You aren't free, cause you don't know what free is. You aren't fulfilled at all.
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>>576904214

but this is something i find our parents' generation didn't experience at all.

I actually have several acquaintances that tell me they have the same feeling.

The american dream/capitalism dates back further then that, could it be something else?
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>>576904464

The idea has been around since forever. If not against corporations than the government, church, friendly neighbourhood african warlord/pirate captain, etc
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>>576904774

then why is it that some people actually find happiness through our system?

is this all about ignorance?
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you're the worst type of faggots. The one that thinks that a job with good money is the job of your dreams

I'm on this Third World Country working as a teacher. My monthly salary is 500$. I work in a school where you get killed by gang members just for the lulz. I'm single, been hanging out with some female colleagues and other teachers from around town. My dream is to have a family but I haven't found someone to settle with.
I barely have enough money for food and clothing, I spend most of it in materials and class-related activities

AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
I'M SO FUCKING HAPPY WITH MY LIFE I'D DO THIS FOR FREE.

My life is dedicated to someone else, a group of people. Small people. Ones people call "ankle biters". Really tough, loud, annoying little fuckers I tell you. However, they mean the world for me. My happiness depends on theirs and every day is a challenge, never a chore, always a laugh.

You just realized that you've been thinking in yourself all this time. Now you've just fucked yourself over because you found the money and success for your own, but not for someone to share it with.
I did the opposite. I found those who I should share my hapiness with and, in turn, they became the source.

As soon as I die, imma ask god to send me back to that country and be a teacher.
You go use that money as napkins for those tears.
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>>576904464
Because they grew up in a more religious time... They had their thirst for fulfillment quenched by the belief in some higher being rather than looking inward. There's a consciousness that exists between all human beings, information is shared subconsciously... We're slowly attaining the knowledge that the road the world is on, won't be able to sustain it or us. Go meditate and really devote time to thinking about who you are, your reasons for existing, and the future of humanity... cause it's pretty easy to tell that working half your life away to earn money so you can enjoy like 1/4th of it getting slaughtered at some shitty bar isn't really the life we're meant to live.
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>>576905116

Some people prefer a structured, simple life.
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>AND YOU KNOW WHAT?
I'M SO FUCKING HAPPY WITH MY LIFE I'D DO THIS FOR FREE.

My life is dedicated to someone else, a group of people. Small people. Ones people call "ankle biters". Really tough, loud, annoying little fuckers I tell you. However, they mean the world for me. My happiness depends on theirs and every day is a challenge, never a chore, always a laugh.

beautiful
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>>576903670
OP, I was truly scared by your thread since I was having these thoughts in mind today and just got on /b/ to get myself distracted.

I'm 26 yo too, good job, single (but I dumed her first FuckYea.jpg)

I'm questioning my life's course lately. I'm a systems analyst and job is really starting to piss me off with little corporate burocracy every fucking day.

Besides, I'm out of goals after finishing my relationship, so now I'm starting a Graphical animation, creation, games modelling course (I don't know if that's the name in english but whatever, it's a course on games) to see if I can prosper in this area, not far from mine now.

On personal life, I got some training (yeah, do you even lift style, 3 last digits) and applied for Canada perm Visa, so I can get out of nigger country of mine.

Wanna share something? Right now I think the biggest boid is to know every girl is truly a bitch after all (and no, I'm not a faggot or a virgin, it's just how things have turned out to be so far)
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>>576905226

i did find someone to share my success with, and it was good while it lasted. But as everything else, it faded away and here i am today.

I get your point, and while i don't agree that you'd have to go to a third world country helping people out of misery to be happy, i think it's more about finding sense in what we do
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>>576905226
Wow what a saint.
And a massive fucking ego
Most likely just some more b8
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>>576905770
that is one of the few images that have ever offended me on /b/. I would slaughter those fucking niggers with my bare fist
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>>576906013
Get on the line... It's like a wave of hatred getting higher right now against ignorant people.

They're protected by the law and increase in number while we die everyday on urban conflict...
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>>576905631

hah. i actually work in video games meself, but it hasn't fixed my problem just yet it seems.

You say you're out of goal, and that's exactly what i am today. I mean, apart from finding a new significant other, however complicated that may sound in my extremely biased mind right now.

But even then, i'll be back where i was 6 months ago. Having kids? Building a house? Will that really make anything better?
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>>576906331
?
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>>576906470
I got your idea, I must say I'm waaaaay behind you, but hope gets me up everyday.

Maybe if I manage to reach your position, I might run dull, but still sounds weird to me.

It's more like I'm learning to fly while you're on air, but you are sad because of that... It's just nonsense.

I presume you're on USA. Working on games on USA, oh my god, I'd try to create my own games with some friends or contacts from work.

Girls might suck, but I'd put an extra effort to find girls from other countries, with something to add to my environment, instead of just looking for sex.

To be honest, I find sex to be really easy to find, but it can be also really lame if it's done with shitty people. It's like getting hungry and eating dog shit to get saciated, you know what I mean?

About having a family, I think it's not worth the trouble. Maybe in your place it's different, but here, every woman is selfish and deceiving, I'd end up in a divorce or worse sooner or later.
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>>576907556

>hope gets me up everyday

and i think that's actually what it's all about.

What hope is left when you already got everything?

It's a bitter realization, I probably just need more time to see how life goes and if it really needs to be overhauled
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>>576905750
>As everything else, it faded
Nothing fades if it's real, if it's meaningful. Maybe that's the (more ambiguous) answer to your existential mickey mouse bullshit.

Just think of it as a video game, while I hate using it as a comparison... you get a game, play it, and once you finish it, you probably replay it a few times and go buy another game.
Only this time you only have one game, and you must play no exceptions.
If your goal is money, get ready to have a shitty life. That porch monkey mentality of "money in the bank"


>i did find someone to share my success
What success? money? traveling? That's the real fucking problem. Success. The word, the meaning. That "something" something that people want to materialize with a nice GF, a big house, a nice mileage points on your airline account and all that eyecandy on Paris, Berlin, Greece, Spain, etc.

I'm never successful, because success is something that can be achieved in little scales once per day. Something that's not definitive and in constant change.
Never a chore, always a laugh I repeat.

You don't only need to find sense. Because doing so is that fucking egoistical mentality that got you here in the first place.

If you still don't get it, let me be a bit more primitive: humans are gregarious animals. That's it, we like to get together and do shit. Religions, Political parties, Raves, Tribes, Rituals. Meaning is something you don't find by yourself.
Hope you're not the typical /b/tard that only gets it with maymays.

>>576905770
You call it ego. I call it confidence.
Pretty fucking real; not gonna bait over something I'm fucking happy about
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take LSD, and shut your existiential crisising ass up maybe? if you're still not happy, kill yourself.
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>>576908005
Think bigger OP.

If you got anything around you, try to get into different social circles, live in other countries, try to reach your area specialists for some insight.

There's always more to do
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become stupider
I'm totally serious. The more you think about everything, the more pointless and depressing everything becomes.
Focus on today. Not the past, not the future, but just today, now, this moment.
Maybe get a new hobby as well
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>>576908151
>video game analogy

that's exactly what i was saying earlier, and money is definitely not my goal, as stated in my first posts

>What success? money? traveling? That's the real fucking problem.

Indeed it's the real fucking problem. And maybe working in my industry (which was, after all, my childhood dream) has shown me that it wasn't all that i made it up to be, but maybe i'm just being difficult and need more time to tell.

>>576909151
Actually just came back from working abroad, and i am glad to be back.

>>576909451
heh, sounds about right
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>>576903670

Same situation here, OP. Curiously, I'm also 26. I have a great job I enjoy a lot, I make way more money than I need, I have a girlfriend I love.

But then what? I have probably lived 1/3 of my life and I already can't see what else to do with it.
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>>576906013
I see worse things on a daily basis than a crucified cat.
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>>576909451
how do you do this? seriously. ive become more and more logical (read boring) as the years go by.
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>>576903670
Self amusement
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just makes me wonder how people with shitty jobs or simply jobs they don't like can go on about living.

It's horrible to say, but when i see how my situation affects me, it's kinda scary to think what it could do to less fortunate people
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>>576909656
Man, fuck your GF as if it was no tomorrow. I did that to my ex and I'm glad every fucking day for that now...

>>576909638
You're FUCKING scarying me. I mean it. Everything I'm aiming right now is something you did and was shitty.

What happened out there? It was lame? Embarassing? Boring?

And, after all this conversation, what were your expectations about game industry and life abroad that you got frustrated?
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>>576910046

yeah no that doesn't work anymore. Was fun when i was 20-21, but smoking/drugs in general are so fucking artificial i think it would actually make everything worse
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>>576910056
Poor people just focus on something else.

Why do you think they are heavy drunkers and criminals, or just fuck themselves so much so they can do more poor maggots?

And, believe me, they enjoy being shitty.

It's like /b/'s nigger concept, they destroy everything and are proud of it...
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omitting the fact that you spell like you just started high school I'm gonna say that shit is always scary. it is scary because now you know that your choices have fucking consequences. don't worry, things will start looking better in several months
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>>576910313
Do you have any close friends?

I have some and it's like crucial to meet every other weekend to smoke narguile and talk shit about old times.

It really fills my feels (oh my), but seriously, these moments make life sweeter...
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>>576910172
haha don't worry man, i'm definitely not into the artistic part so you might very well find much more in it than I have!

Everything actually went very well, except for the gf situation and the fact that getting more and more depressed turned me into a fucking lunatic. Far from family and friends, in the cold ass canadian winter, i didn't react well to all that.
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>>576910519
not native english speaker and very tired, so there you go. But yeah, i guess time will tell

>>576910660
I do, and most of them actually feel the same way haha
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>>576903670
It probably won't get any better. I had that same feeling at around that age - 27, good job, finishing up graduate school, nice girlfriend, time and money to travel.. but, once you've crested that high point in your life, it's a perpetual slide downward. It doesn't necessarily mean your life is bad, you just feel empty, even when you "do stuff." I'm 31 now, gf turned into wife, had two kids, got a dog, still working the same job. I have a fairly good life by all accounts, but it's not the same. Nothing replaces youth and adventure.
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>>576903670
Why the fuck is this nigga complaining? Some of us can't even finish school much less think about what the rest of our lives are gonna entail having no worries and a family and probably a wife and in general a way above average life and maybe being bored from time to time. Fuck you
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>>576910692
That's it! Now you're in the country I'm trying to live.

Look, it's the freaking 10^90 time someone talk about the cold weather of this place. What's with it anyway?

But whatever, on a spiritual approach, I feel so in need of living in the nature, to get lost in the woods and run like a crazy ass man.

If I was you, I would train how to shoot with any rifle, get my gear, head the woods and live in the wilderness for sometime.

If you're not into artistic stuff, doesn't like the cold, miss some people and wanna forget damn ex, head south. Go to the city and meet the most people you can get, and look for another job, even a lame one just to shake things up.

I wish I could exchange my life with yours, I wish so fucking hard, like a Halloween's crazy wish or something

>inb4 anon is a faggot
>inb4 fuck you... ¬¬
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>>576911137
underageb&, get out
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>>576910997
dayum, now that's some scary shit.

And actually that's also it: this is supposed to be the best part of my life, yet here i am all depressed

>>576911137
trust me i do realize that, and that makes it even worse. the ex didn't understand that at all, probably one of the reasons she left too.

I'm not looking for people to feel sorry or to take pity, but for ways to actually change all that
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>>576911137
TFW

>Niggerism intensifies
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>>576911360
i'm not in canada anymore, actually just got home, in the south, close to my family and friends not that long ago ;)

so again, apart from the love life, everything's pretty much fucking perfect
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I'm 24, and I find myself becoming an old man, and honestly I like it. I like to sit on my rocking chair with a cigarette, a cold beer and a book. On my days off I go to my town's diner (I live in a town of 3,000 or so) and have breakfast and read the paper. I've come to like gardening, the shine of a clean bathroom, that feeling of relief when you unlock the door to your house after a long day of work, and many other small things. Honestly, I like the small joys. To hell with being something bigger, I'm fine with just living a normal life. It honestly took a lot of weight off my chest when I realized I didn't have to be the president to succeed, all I had to do was live.
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>>576911360
and depending on where you're headed in canada, the cold can be pretty crazy. Lots of people don't seem to mind, but i guess it affected me more than it should have due to my condition
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>>576911743
jesus fuck i want to be you so much, but i think i'd hate myself too much

that's a real genuine compliment btw
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is anyone else here legitimately happy with their life other than
>>576905226
?

Id be really interested in hearing from people who are actually happy with their lives. its a rare thing
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>>576903670
Do a job you love, not one just to pay the bills.
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>>576911438
What? I said I haven't been able to finish school which means I'm at least in college. Kill yourself. Pic sort of related

>>576911479
Yeah, I'd figure the way to change that is to appreciate what you got and feel lucky. Your gf prolly left because literally almost everybody doesn't want to be around someone who is depressed and bored/boring. Be more spontaneous, be happy. Or do some drugs, that will spice your life up. Your not gonna be sittin there all dunked out on pcp thinkin your life is depressing. Damnit

>>576911657
Lold
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>>576912421
bro do you even read?
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>>576912084
Just find yourself working a real man's job. I work in a cereal factory, where not only do I put in hard work (the ingredients for your breakfast come in 50 pound bags), but I have respect because I'm one of the best there. A few months back the president of my company, the factory manager and the head of the quality assurance had a meeting with, as they said it, "The best four workers" to improve everyone else's performance, and I was one of them. Job satisfaction goes a long way.
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I drink too much, my job sucks, I can't drive and I have no friends.
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>>576912461
lel u mad ?
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>>576911671
OP, got an idea for ya.

If anything has got you better, try to get inspiration in someone else's life. Look for something really impossible to do that someone could, like climbing K2, or starting a project of your own, like a girl here in my country.

She out of nowhere decided to invent a kind of sponge to suck out oil from rivers of her city (which by the time caused whole fish mortality).

There are more examples, a guy suddendly started to travel frequently and then wrote a book about it and started to sell it.

Another guy just took a trip to freaking Serbia and nos is living there and said it was the most perfect idea he ever had.

You can't know for sure what will fit for you before trying
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>>576912163
I think being healthy includes gettin insatisfied with yourself and always wanting to improve.

OP, though, is almost sick on that matter...
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Wow I'm 27, great job, loving girlfriend, more money than necessary, living my dream of working abroad for some months (in London) all expense paid by my company and still I'm feeling exactly the same as you....
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>>576903670
Do crime on the side
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>>576903670
the clue is the word RENT.
think it over
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>>576912576
heh, maybe a simpler job is the answer? but damn, wouldn't you feel you could aspire to so much more?

>>576912702
so you've got so much to look forward to man

>>576912742
down the line, that's probably what will happen. i'm definitely not one to let myself go, it's just that having everything i ever wished for and worked toward should have made me happier than that, plain and simple
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>>576903670
CHarity work. Work in a project to change someone's life.
The top of the pyramid of human needs is the longing for immortality. You can achieve this by changing the lives of others for good.
Watch about Mr. Schmidt.
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>>576913196
buy a big house and itll make you happy
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>>576913139
probably our mal du siècle ?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mal_du_si%C3%A8cle

>>576913196
nah, don't think there's anything there

>>576913305
been there done that. Wasn't as fullfilling as i hoped it to be
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>>576913251
If the inspiration and need comes to me, I'll change. But not everyone is special, and sometimes it's nice to just be, well, normal.

Well, as normal as one can be, browsing 4chan. But I live a pretty normal life otherwise, and it's honestly a nice change from being pressured into being something grand.
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>>576913251
It's not exact science OP.

/b/ can keep suggesting you things the entire weekend and still you won't feel like in the right path.

The good thing about this is that any action of yours is an answer to this. But you gotta do something about it.

The faster you do, the sooner this feel go away...
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>>576912494
Yeah, at no time do you say you like your job, yet you keep doing it, presumably to pay the bills.

So if money don't matter to you do something fulfilling like African teacher anon, something challenging, something that makes you travel, something that's fun etc. Doing your job you will meet lots of other friends, go lots of other places etc. You spend about 50% of adult life either working, getting ready for work, travelling to work and shit, so it needs to be something you love and that offers you interesting challenges otherwise you'll be bored the rest of your life.

That or kids man, I'm 38, I've got a job I love, most of my friends derive happiness purely from seeing their kids growing up.
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>>576913785
you're definitely right. And don't let your hopes be crushed by what I stated, Canada was actually fucking awesome and definitely the place to be if you want to get into video games!
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>>576913915
second line:
>has had the job of my dreams for 2 years now

My work actually gets me to travel everywhere, it is challenging and evolving, it's my fucking passion. It's perfect.

Yet, despite all that, it doesn't seem to be enough. As a brethren stated at the beginning of this thread, it also has to do with the fear of only playing the same video game for ever and ever
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Is this some sort of specific quarter-life-crisis thing? I'm turning 26 in a couple of months and I just quit a good job to go freelance because I got so... sick of it? I don't know. Isolating myself and staying at home probably isn't helping but I feel like I need to recharge or something before I can figure out where else to go, or maybe I've gotten so bored I'm just sabotaging my own life to give me at least something to worry about. Shit's scary.
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>>576914657
>Is this some sort of specific quarter-life-crisis thing?

haha sure seems like it

something that previous generations didn't seem to experience anyway
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>>576904464
Our parents' generation did experience this. They had hippies, and before them the beats. If you're young enough your parents' generation invented punk and hip hop. Hundreds of movies and television shows have exploited the nostalgia of their free youth and their shame at "going straight." The industry that will be selling you nostalgia in 10 years is already "packing up the 90's for posterity." You're getting old.
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>>576914820
Previous generations had kids a lot earlier than ours does. Maybe there is something to that, but economically having kids before 30 is impossible of late, so that could be a factor.
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>>576914657
You have a point. From kid to final degree you have a goal to reach, you work hard to get to this social success job. After graduating you are all focused on finding the job, once you got the job you want to prove you are good at it. And then you turn 26, you proved you were good you reached every goals the society hammered in your head AND THEN WHAT ?
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>>576914401
Sure you're being honest with yourself?
>What's 5 years from now? Same job...
>...when you actually start working, what's left?
Doesn't sound very evolving, passion or perfect to me man. Is it still your dream job or was it your dream job? Is it now "a good job" which gives you all the money you could ever need to see and do anything, but takes away all the time you need to see and do anything?
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>>576903670
>be 34
>married a german girl
>have two daughters
>own house outright
>both cars are paid off
>retired at 30
>VA pension currency and defense investments have me set for life
>working part time as a chef and going to school because smoking pot and playing video games gets old fast

Plan is to finish school. Become a countryside travelling Dr in Germany. Keep the house here in florida as a vacation home. Overall i love my life. All i had to do was become a welfare queen and fight for the jews. Was well worth it.
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>>576914820
quarter life crisis is a real thing and most common in guys.
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>>576916086

see

>>576915845
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well it's nice knowing you're not the only one anyway

it was instructive and interesting /b/, am calling it a night

to a better tomorrow!
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>>576903670
pic is related because you're a pussy. stop being complacent and build shit / do shit / destroy shit / learn shit. go read The Myth of Sisyphus or something until it makes sense.
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>>576916416
well, exactly. You got all the way there and it's clearly not the blast you were expecting because you're bored already, or well on the way there.

So challenge yourself again. If you basically like the work it could just be the wrong company, work for someone else, start own business, move into something a little different which uses similar skills.

I knew a guy who was in corporate marketing, lots money, "evolving" always working for different clients, but felt empty. Started consultancy helping charities promote themselves more effectively, earns very little money, super happy because what he's doing now means something, constantly challenged because charities have fuck all money compared to huge corporations, etc.

You might not need something Hollywood cheesy like that, but the point is a small shift in position can make a huge difference. If you were happy before because there was constant change, challenges and goals, then you need to find some new change, challenges and goals.
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