Hey /b/ who else is in a shitty relationship that they want to leave? But feel like they can't?
Inb4 OP is a pussy
If you're in your twenties and in a shitty relationship, get out. You won't regret it and you have all the time in the world to get into another shitty relationship that will completely replace the memory of the last ladybitch you were with.
The reason people feel this way is because they keep waiting for something better to come along, but they don't. In reality, you have to actively go out and seek it. The only way you are able to find better is if you break the current bond/chain, but you are used to that safety net of having someone there because you feel insecure on your own.
Your own emotions and confidence is your own worst enemy.
Ask yourself. Would you rather settle for content or dive into the unknown trying to find something better that will bring you more happiness?
Thanks anon I just feel like I am content but I'm not, I just hate how much of a bitch she is and that everything is my fault. However, I do get sex, occasionally love and a stable future with her. I have been with her since I was 14 and I'm 19 now.
Sounds like being alone/on your own scares you. And it rightly should because you've been with someone for 5 years. However, sex shouldn't be the driving force behind your logical reasons to stay with her. If you're not even content with her then you're just making yourself more miserable and digging a bigger grave for yourself.
You're young. You don't have control of the world. You don't know your future. EVERYTHING is uncertain. So, if you leave her, the positive side is you can explore and get to know yourself. Find out what drives you, what your true goals are in life, and what you really want, both in life and in relationships.
Some people try it once and find their one, but this is a very rare case. The world is vast and beautiful, but you are only seeing it through a clouded eye with so much holding you back.
If you're uncertain, take a break. Tell her that you just need to gather your senses. Take this time to really look through things through your own eyes, without having to worry about anyone/anything else.
Be you. Find yourself
Having been thru similar experience helps.
Just remember. Everything that happens in life should be a lesson to be learned. You've barely even opened your eyes.
Take chances anon
The other anon is right.
In one hand you hold your current life. It's good, bit of feeling opressed every now and then and maybe even powerless but you get fed to your needs. And in the otherhand you have your dreams you could follow which makes you grow as a person and ultimatly even leads to that special person who really is what you want.
However we both know you will stay with ur current gf.
This came to mind:
you said you lost all your friends because of her and hope to make new ones. Who's to say she won't prevent you from making new ones in the future or losing them as well?
I for one think that a working relationship should never restrict one's life (well other than the obvious ways, ie. you can't have sex with other people unless that flows the boat for both of you). A bad relationship will only slow you down. You're young, and at 19 still in the midst of searching yourself. Don't be afraid to take chances and get rid of what doesn't work for you.
I don't even remember what that word was supossed to mean or how it feels llike having it.
screenshot it man