So a couple days ago my friend Arin came out to me and basically told me how he wants to be a girl. He's married to a really nice girl who I don't think knows about his gender issue yet. I'm honestly not even sure that when she finds out that she'll take it that well. Neither would his friends I'd imagine. He'd probably lose his job if he tried to go to work doing a fake girl voice too.
After he told me I just said "Be yourself, do what you gotta do to be happy" etc etc. Haven't spoke to him for two days or so now since he came out.
I guess what I'm asking here is what should I tell him? What kind of advice should I give him?
he came out to you b/c he wants you to fuck him
tell him not to tell his wife and just fuck him on the side everytime you guys "hang out"
trans guys are extremely slutty and submissive and will pretty much do anything you ask them.
I'm absolutely 100% serious. he told you first, not his wife. he's totally into you. this is your chance to get all the free depraved sex you ever wanted. don't fuck up an opportunity like this because you'll probably never get one again.
I think u could just try to ask more about it... why... since when... u know stuffs like that... thdn just try to tell him to be open to his wife, it will hurt her but better niw than later dont u think?
If anything, make sure he's aware there's a difference between "being yourself" and being accepted. The family doesn't have to like having the floor pulled out from under them, that's a hell of thing to drop on your spouse.
Personally I'm a fan of accepting yourself as you are. If you want to talk in a high voice & wear drag... fine, you don't need to be a "girl" for that to be ok. Most trans I've encountered have been sexist characatures. Just strikes me as insecurity & trying to shoulder your own burden of self acceptance on others.
Still, disassociative gender disorder doesn't exactly produce the paradime of mental wellness. So maybe some coddling IS in order.
she's a gross fetal alcohol syndromed clown whore
Tell them to go to a gender therapist immediately, that shit doesn't get better if you ignore it.
Trust me. I've dealt with this myself. Ignoring it seems nice, but it's not an option.
For everyone saying that they want to fuck OP; you're retarded. This is not a sexual thing. This is a gender thing. It's not sexual at all.
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Does his girlfriend happen to look like this?
Body perception issues are usually treated. The idea that your body has something wrong with it and needs fixing had different names based on the context. Sometimes it's called hypochondria. Sometimes it's called anorexia. Sometimes it's called muscular dysmorphia. It used to be called gender identity syndrome, but now it's called gender dysphoria. Be nice to him but firm about body acceptance. Many claim to accept their bodies and just want to dress up, but it's rarely that simple.
OP, you need to tell him how sorry you are for him, since no matter what amount of hormone treatments and surgeries he has, he will never be a female with today's medical technology.
It's genetic, yo.
Also, be there for his wife. Must really REALLY suck for her to be the one married to him when he decided to jump dimensions.