BDSM thread! Talk about your sub, your Master, your fetish, and

>>552158610
bumping for great justice

>>552158610
Hey I'm the guy from the other thread

>>552158610
bump

>>552158610
old thread lurker reporting

>>552158862
lol which one, I'm we8 the guy who knows a lot about a little!

>>552158862
the story guy?

>>552159054
I sure fucking hope.so!

>>552159023
OK guys, gals, pans, and everyone else, pick your discussion and let others answer and ask! I like to think I can talk a little about a lot, so let's get to it.

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Got back from shower and theres a new thread. Thanks.

>>552159214
Where do you meet a sub?

NYC here

>>552159352
fetlife

>>552159352
Munches, local kink events, fetlife, r/bdsmpersonals.

A lot of it is luck, but a surprising amount of people have a secret or not so secret desire to give up control to someone else. I really can't say how much the local scene helped me out.

>>552159327
All that picture is missing for me is a hitachi roped to her clit and then you have a perfect scene. Holy fuck. Thank you sir.

>>552159486
>>552159551

What kind of profile do you even make for fetlife? How to separate fatties from hotties?

Those are all good ideas I guess, don't know what I was expecting. Just never got into the whole internet dating thing

>>552159758
It's not about internet dating., Think of Fetlife as the Facebook of kink and you're closer. It's about connecting to local kinksters, not about making an e-dating profile. I make a Fetlife profile that;s true to me, but isn't super revealing. I don't want to be outed.

>>552159970
Welp, that does it, I like. Time to start writing out ideas to subject my sub to tomorrow.

>>552159949
Cool, thank you!
Goodnight brother

Ok so my question to you /b/ kinksters is this - do you have any experience in some of the edgier play? Fire/knife/blood/wax play?

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any of you do figging?

>>552160616
nope

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>>552160735
Have once or twice, it apparently is intense as fuck for her. The first time she was in crazy headspace and loved it, the second, she hated it and safeworded.

>>552160735
Das is mane. And sometimes.

>>552160909
welp, that's the picture, but I want experiences dammit.

>>552160735
What is figging?

BUUUMP

>>552161195
shaved ginger in anus/vagina/sensitive places

>>552161195
The use of ginger as a sexual stimulant. I've only ever applied it to the clit, but other's actually carve wedges and insert them. May have to try it some day.

>>552161195
and it hurts like hell and has no potential to be "overdone" to the point of permanent damage.

>>552161486
I've carved a plug of it and plugged my girl, it starts off fairly mild and within a minutes or two it build a lot. Keeps building. Great punishment.

>>552161604
this.

I will definitely write down figging into my journal!

I want to get into BDSM but ive never tried anything before... wheres the best place to start with my gf? She has never mentioned an interest, but does like it when I am "raping" her.
>What was your first BDSM experience like?

>>552158610
Personally, I'm not into it, but I knew a 9/10 freaky bitch in Uni that was.
>We're chilling in her dorm studying one afternoon after classes.
>I'm sitting at her desk, she's sitting on her bed
>Notice this cool looking ornate box sitting in the back corner of her desk
>Open it up, oh, cool, marbles
Something about the smooth glass of marbles always attracted me.
>Start rolling them around in one of my hands for a few minutes while reading over notes and textbooks
>She looks up and starts laughing her ass off and asks if I knew what I was holding
>"Uhhh, marbles?"
>No, anon, those are my Ben Wa Balls
>"Your what?"
>They go in my vagina
Oddest boner I'd ever gotten.
Ended up having a threesome with her and her Master since she'd always wanted to get DP'd
Pounded her ass, pounded his ass, got to put the balls in her pussy with my mouth.
Tons of fun.
Damn, I miss Uni.

>>552159708
Name's Sarah Blake. She does a *lot* of force orgasm stuff. Give it a look. She's damn good. Does mostly sub stuff but some weird dom stuff too.

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Mmmm, feet and bondage go perfectly.

>>552161980
If she likes con-noncon (consensual non consent) you could introduce rope play as a natural extension, and then from there it HAS to be driven by your talks with her. You can't do BDSM without clear and effective communication. Like you really can't. It's not sustainable.

>>552162105
Thanks anon, I and my sub enjoy looking at things like that for new scenes ideas. Really enjoying this.

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Already done some 'light' BDSM with current (as in ropes/ wrap/ dominance play, etc).

Want to get into pet play/ roleplay/ etc more- get a story going sort of deal, as im mostly shit with dirty talk and want to force myself out of the comfort zone.

any experience/ tips/ websites/ stories?

>>552162451
Talk to her about it, communication is literally the most important thing about BDSM.

As for tips, do your research. Google and other sites are great for it - it's how I got started. Once you build up, go to a munch or local event and meet people, ask for pointers and help.

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I admire the creativity in this one.

>>552162808
Oh fuck. Those hangers are mean as hell. I've used them on my girl before, left bruises for literally two weeks. I can't imagine what they'd do to the vaginal lips. Oh damn. I love the ropework though.

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I got out of a relationship with a hot sub recently. Don't have any pictures of her tied up, but I've got stories and vanilla shit.

>>552162618
Only dabbled in BDSM. Still very amateur, but as a sub who really fucking wants a dom, I have to agree. Even in my limited experience communication is key.

>>552162618
Already have- she is down- and I've been googling and what not.
Just curious about others experiences with it. Also, we have no wish to meet other kinksters and prefer it as a 'dirty secret' sort of deal.

>>552163131
You can't hope to effectively give your partner what they want or to have your wants/needs met without being willing to say "Look, I want XYZ but DEFINITELY NOT ABC, and 123 is a maybe" having someone you can definitely relate to and know you can be open with communications wise makes the scenes so much mor intense.

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>>552163108

I wish I had a dominatrix, that would complete my dream 3some since I already have a male Master.

>>552163262
You're gonna have to specify what you m,ean by "others' experiences with it," cause that could be porn stories of the problems we've faced with it or the successes we've had.

>>552163668
>how much planning
>how much of the planning did you share with your partner
>did you use a script?
>how much of what you were going to say/do in the roleplay was decided before hand?
>how much on the fly?
>was their build up to more extreme scenarios?
>did the scenarios ever break down due to silliness/ being off put/ etc


these sort of questions. Mostly regarding petplay and other roleplay.

>>552163357
Any idea how to get into the scene intiially? I'm not even looking to get laid just trying to make contacts. I'm not super picky and really as a submissive dude I feel like I can't really be too picky. But it's intimidating trying to approach the scene, especially as a submissive.

>>552164129
Depending on how much we're doing that is pushing the limits of what we've established, there's 100% talking and planning or less, but it's just dependent.
See above.
No script, I say what comes to mind. Scripting ruins the scene.
Say? Nothing. Do - again, depends on the action and where it falls on her spectrum of limits.
Always build up for more extreme scenarios, because otherwise it's too much of a shock. I can beat my girl black and blue, but I have to build up to it or she doesn't enjoy it.
And yea, sometimes it breaks down because she cracks a joke or I go to fast or she's not there, etc. It takes both of you buying it.

>>552164563
Find a munch, introduce yourself carefully/politely, say how you identify, and express your newness. People in the scene are usually really welcoming (think opposite of /b/) and will want to help you learn. I went to my first event and was like Hey I'm anon, this is my first event.. I want to learn everything. And they replied with their specialities and such.

>>552164838
Best way to find a munch?

Does the scene in which the roleplaying help? Converting a basement/attic into a dungeon is feasable but is it necessay?

>>552165014
It's all about how you buy in... Usually I just use a bedroom. With the right mindset, words, and actions, anywhere is a dungeon.
>>552164968
fetlife or reddit, truthfully. Or google. "My area munch" usually finds good ones. Or google "myarea BDSM club" will find it (most metropolitan areas)

>>552164129

gonna need specifics in regard to petplay. it's a bit of an umbrella thing

>>552165264
Actually, I do know of one club that does a once a month event, but I feel like going to the middle of a fucking club would probably be the worst way to approach it. Not to mention I don't have anything even remotely appropriate. Or is this a good idea?

>>552160735
that's awful!

>>552165446
You don't have to play, you don't have to participate, you don't even have to talk! IF there's a munch before, or any kind of demo, definitely go, and you don;t have to stay for the party part. Contact the organizers so you have someone in your corner before the event, it's what I did.

>>552165264

ever bottomed?

>have just started sexytimes with a kinky bitch.
>she enjoys rape play, facefucking, anal, being dominated, being bound and pain.
>can't get over the fact that I could be hurting her proper.
how do I get past this? she has okayed basically anything that I want and we have a safe word but I am worried about going too far.
also fun tip: drop acid and have super kinky sex. so good you will feel empty inside.

>>552165751
Only time Ive ever bottomed have been for the experience of what a particular act feels likes, but I derive NO enjoyment from it at all.
>>552165823
1) safewords are enough. If you trust her to tell you when it's too much, you can dowhatever. Safewording isn't "I don't like you," it's "I'm in trouble, YOU can help." 2) Never trip and do kinky sex. Limits go out the window and thats how you really hurt someone. I will never trip or drink or smoke and then have a scene. It's not worth the risk.

>>552165823

>enjoys rape play
>worried about going too far

not possible unless she mentions otherwise

>>552166129
Safewording is difficult with subspace

>>552166129

dom(me) or master/riss?

>>552166559
Then instead of a word, have her be holding a bell or 3 (small ones). If she goes into subspace truly, she'll let go and you'll know you can't keep escalating.

>>552166559

hold an object, like a ball or bell. something that grabs attention when dropped

>>552166617
Dom/master, depending on the time/my mood. My girl and I vary between dom/sub and master/slave depending on our moods, but we have basic codes to alert the other what we're feeling (colors)
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>>552166773
you and me, we good.

>>552166871

thanks. i've been researching on fetlife

>>552158610
For three years had boring lame sex with my girlfriend she would never let me dominate her and our sex was only shitty in vanilla. Suddenly she like discovers herself or something and shes instantly like a jaded dominatrix. Arousing me to the point of busting then slapping me in a chastity belt, spanking me until i beg her to stop and making me take a huge dildo up my ass just for her amusement (this is a girl who only let me ass fuck her once in three years so i thought she had no interest in anal) Her favorite game is to make me get on all fours and grip both my balls in just on of her hands and slooowlly but super firmly pull until I'm groaning the walls down in a crazy state of confused pain/pleasure. Usually while spanking. There have been talks of buying a strap on and fucking me while i watch straight porn and she teases me about "How i will never get to fuck any of thous porn girls only get fucked myself like a bitch" shits gotten pretty crazy

>>552158610
Where would I go to find a Domme/dominatrix?

I'm switch but I've only been Dom before, somewhat annoying since I've been wanting to get tied up.

>>552168242
Not as in a hooker, don't know how to rephrase it.

>>552168242

see

>>552167572

>>552168242
r/bdsmpersonals or fetlife or r/bdsm or your local dungeon. A lot of those will have those temp dommes who are willing to engage in scenes with others.
>>552168157
sounds intense as fuck yo. How are you liking it? I could never sub. MY mind is not in the right place for it at all.

>>552168538
Tried it a while ago, mostly abandoned profiles around me; but that was a year back.

>>552168157
Do want.

>>552168694
Fetlife isn't great for setting up hookups, but is much better for connecting and finding events to MEET people who then become your hookups.

>>552168621
I have never subbed before, one girl talked about wanting to do it but never could bring herself to. I am shocked how much I like it but the thing is I was never into subbing but what I really thought was the hottest thing on earth is a dominant person being forced to sub. Having this little girl simply showing such a talent for domination in itself is sexy but to be honest I really get off on the fact that I dont want to sub but sort of get "forced" to. The fact my dominant side is really neglected is kind of a turn on too but only at times at least half the time its actually a big piss off to me and i spend time dreaming about girls who used to let me dominantly pound all their holes without more resistance then a sad sounding whimper. Pretty soon I'm going to dominant the Dejesus out of this girl that's been dominating me and the revenge factor should be really really erotic.

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>>552160945
that's quite common... usually I find that it very enjoyable when I got ginger that is not just harvested and not yet gone moldy in the fridge. In this time the Gingerol has its smallest concentration in the plant and it will sting "less". A quicker way to release the burn just to wait for it to end is just rubbing with any oil. Also, if you had rough anal in the last few days I would suggest you think about using it as punishment only as any tiny wound will hurt like hell (the nasty vinegar on wound hurt). Figging is a lot of fun and you should not stop doing it because of a safeword drop, but if she used the safeword once I would maybe used it on one of her enduring sessions next time.

>>552169107
It looks like shes going to let me rough fuck a 19 year old escort while she watches too. Have to wait for some kind of Christmas, Hanuka, birthday deal though so its a "Special occasion" or whatever.

I just wrote my little a sexy, rapey bedtime story over facebook (temporarily long-distance) and she loved it. What's up with you guys?

>>552169368
Appreciate the tips anon. I didn't stop figging her because of the safeword, but rather because I found things I enjoyed doing to her more. I never knew about the oil or refridgeration.
>>552169254
Hmm.. interesting. It sounds more like you have a thing for primal play and establishing dominance through force (mental or physical). How does she put you in your (her) place? Why do you like it so much? What specific actions do it?

>>552169846
Put my sub in a rope corset/harness/crotch rope/futomomo with a hitachi and took her ass today because I was feeling ropey. I might die if it was a LDR. I need me some physical contact on top of the talking and emotional aspect.

>>552170168
Yeah, it can get pretty lonely sometimes, but we were together for two years beforehand, and it's only until august (she left last august for school) and when I get there I'm gonna take every single one of her holes on our balcony.

>>552170168

japanese silk or nylon?

>>552170501
Well done anon. On both lasting so long and on your reunion plan. Any rope involved? Tying her to the balcony could be a lot of fun, especially if you have clips/clamp/hitachi! Only if you're into sadism, of course.

>>552170693
I hadn't even thought of that. Sounds great. I'm gonna surprise her with a hitachi as a reunion gift.

>>552170589
Hemp, I like the scratchy.

>>552170589
synthetic fibre tends to produce a lot of heat when there's any friction combine this with the sharpness of the nylon string and you have a very unpleasant experience. I would strongly recommend not using synthetic rope in any bondage situation.

>>552170892
It's so much fun to do predicament bondage with, because her labia/clit get so swollen after 15 min on there that she can't stand it. I love it.

>>552170909

ah, a sadist. well i'm tired as fuck, so i'm out. make another thread tomorrow night around this time and i'll pop in.

>>552171157
You're right, mostly, but depending on usage, it's fine and can lend itself to a more sensual experience (doubling up the nylon to prevent pinching, lots of coils/wrap around to prevent slippage, etc).

>>552171271
If I'm up, I'll make one. Otherwise, it was a treat anon!

>>552171529
Enjoyed lurking. Good stuf here.

>>552171529

indeed, Sir. it was a pleasure.

>>552171663
Thanks anon. I'm exhausted so I'm heading to sleep. I have a rather intense flogging scene planned for tomorrow morning after the sub and I workout, so I need my beauty rest to beat the fuck out of her. I enjoyed it, my fellow kink-anons!

>>552169991
This primal word is something i encountered on fetlife but no where else it intrigues me now even though at first i dismissed it. Its started up really recently perhaps to recently to establish any patterns yet but I usually come up to her and start pressing my chest into hers looking into her eyes super dominantly and trying to push her back into the bed. Really seeming like im going to fuck her against her will. I hold her hands up over her head against the bed and nibble and suck on her neck while she panics and screechs at me not to give her hickys. I dont let her get away until she actually starts to get mad. She clues in and brings out the chastity belt. Lulls me into submission by sucking my cock then while im laying there watching her suck my cock she starts telling me how shes going to lock me up and then she does. Generely she makes me do some chores, take a really bad spanking, eat her out, tugs on my balls (which feels amazing for some fucked up reason dont ask me! it feels great to have her just fucking pulling on my nut sack) shell unlock me then ill fuck her till she cums shell spank me then ill fuck her again till i cum and she cums agian. I really want her to stop me after she cums someday spank me then lock me in the belt without letting me cum.