Hi, autistic 18 year old here. I wanted to find some like-minded people, but my interests include and are limited to anime, games, and daydreaming, so it's kinda hard. I'm not even invested enough in anime/games to call myself a weeb/nerd.
My plan was to go to some place outside where people generally don't go, and wait there until I meet someone. This doesn't seem to be working though, I thought loners like me would go to places like that but I haven't seen anyone yet. I guess they must all be holed up in their homes. So how do I meet lonely autistic disinterested lazy selfish pricks IRL?
>Wanting to meet assholes
>Going to places where most people do not go
>Assumes people who are lonely assholes go outside of their house very often, let alone meet someone like you
>Implying assholes are not cynical enough to even be willing to talk to you for a reasonable amount of time
>Not wanting to be more outgoing, socially capable, open-minded, etc.
Your plan is bulletproof.
Well I was basing it on the assumption that if I saw some lonely dude outside I'd try to befriend him or something, and I can't be the only person in the world that thinks like that right? And they don't have to be an asshole, I try to be nice at least even if I'm an asshole at heart.
I tried looking for some group but nothing that I could sustain a conversation about came up. I hate small talk though I guess I could do it for 5 mins before I ran out of stuff to discuss.
Are there some sites for meetups like that besides meetup.com (the one I checked already)?
Never used it before. It's gonna be hard to make friends if you're a NEET. Most ppl make friends through work or education. Do you want irl friends or will online friends suffice? Cos you can always make friends through vidya.
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OK well I've looked through Craigslist before and there wasn't anything interesting, so should I try posting a listing? Like under the Personals section?
What crowded places? Give examples please. Pereferably somewhere that's not super awkward to be alone at.
I guess online is fine. But I never made any friends online even though I frequent a lot of forums and stuff.
As I said I'm not even that much of a gamer but older FPS games are what I play generally. Unreal Tournament would have to be the one I play most, pretty much every other game I almost-complete and then stop playing for some reason. I even dropped fucking Undertale.
Replying to all of it:
1. Never used craiglist but have used similar site. Made a casual friend this way. It was aight.
2. A mall or a public library or a university lecture hall or church on Sunday mornings.
3. Do you play mmos? What bout guilds?
>I want to meet people.
>Go to place without people.
You don't need like-minded people. You need nice people, and then you need to not be a cunt to them.
>So how do I meet lonely autistic disinterested lazy selfish pricks IRL?
Construction yard or ghetto.
Look, forget the interests thing, forget the nice little cross that you've decided to nail yourself to for some fucking reason. You don't want to wallow in the filth that you were, more likely than not, born to. I don't know who or what did it to you, though I'm familiar enough with the story to guess that you had an absent or indifferent father, but I do know that what you need the most is someone who'll help you struggle back to your feet. Are you able to see a therapist? Some will give you a free appointment for consultation. Even a church or some kind of young adult support program would be better than nothing.
OK I'll try Craigslist later.
>2. A mall or a public library or a university lecture hall or church on Sunday mornings.
Library is a good idea though.. But like, fuck, I'm way too anxious to actually try talking to someone. If it was outside and I could just run away when the conversation turned sour I could maybe do it, but in a quiet library or mall with a bunch of people I can't imagine myself starting a conversation. Also I'm pretty uncomfortable in churches and stuff, so I'd rather not go there :/ Although the people there are probably the nicest.....
3. Nope don't like MMOs :/ I've been in some FPS game clans but I never used voice comms or made friends with clan mates.
Just don't like give out any personal info cos there some fucking weird people online.
You mean like literally run away wtf? Just walk away or go bout your business. Nah don't go to a church unless you're religious. Some of them will try to rope you in under the guise of conversion.
Should have used voice man. Why not try some new FPSs?
Well, there were lots of nice people in school but I never could relate to them, and talking to them felt like a chore. It was hard to try to seem interesting when I'm not.
Dunno if I can find a free appointment.. Plus I can't drive and I don't want to tell my parents. Also it's not like my life is a super horrible hellhole, I just get a bit lonely in the middle of the night sometimes (like now). But thanks for the advice.
Well, I tried talking to a random passer-by some time ago but I realized I was visibly shaking after I said "Hi", and that realization made it so awkward I just sprinted off as fast as I could. I dunno if I have the option of doing that in a library, they'll think I stole a book or something.
As for new FPSes, I'm just not interested I guess. I try a lot of new games and anime, then think "oh this is interesting, I finally found something I enjoy" and then get bored of it a few days later. I have like 10 games I installed, played for an hour or two, never touched again. And many anime I watched like 20/24 episodes and never finished.
Also I'm too anxious to use voice comms. Not because of the other players but because my parents might hear me talking, and this makes me super uncomfortable for some reason.
Well, I'm not saying I will definitely do that but it's hard to walk up to someone and start talking if I don't have a "path of retreat" (running away). How can you just walk away? That's too embarrassing. I can do it easily in the mirror, but I can't imagine myself doing it for real.
I doubt my parents would make fun of me but I still can't bring myself to do it. Might be because my mom used to be overprotective and eavesdropped on me all the time in my childhood.
Oh yeah, I guess church isn't a good idea then. I'm not religious anyway.
Try counting backwards from 100 and walk away. Maybe work your way up social interaction wise. Offer to go pick up the groceries so you'll have to interact with the cashier at least. How come you're not in school or working?
>Try counting backwards from 100 and walk away.
Well, when I imagine myself doing this I still think it'd feel awkward and I'd run away. Should I practice this out on the street first? I get a sinking feeling just thinking about this though..
Well I have no problem getting the groceries as I don't really have to say anything to the cashier. I'm a NEET only for a few more months, then will probably go to college but I doubt that will change anything.