My gf was abused by her step dad and raped by one guy we both know and one of his friends. I feel so dead inside because I liked her and got along better with her then I have any other girl and we already have a near impossible relationship where we don't see each other at all.
We were so committed to make it work and then I found all this shit out and I'm afraid to be with her because of how much it hurts me. On top of that its making the whole world seem dark as fuck like a life can be so easily ruined by cowardly acts and the people get away with it and the life of the victim and everyone around them is ruined.
All I can think about was what happened and all the details and it scares the fuck out of me that two random guys had completely controlled my girlfriend and did whatever they wanted with her.
I've never been stressed or depressed like this before
Rape marks a girl permanently.
Ask her if she masturbates to the memory of them raping her. Her answer (if she's honest) will shatter your world.
Don't get involved with rape victims ever. Just walk away man.
Yes she no longer lives with the step dad and she said he stopped years ago. I'm not sure if she's in school with the kid who did it I'm afraid to ask. I honestly am scared shitless of it happening again not by the same person it's just she always does shit without thinking about personal safety. I haven't seen her in person and she's been saying she feels alright but she sent me a picture and she looked really stressed
Your girlfriend is probably losing respect for you since you're making her horrible experience about yourself. That's a serious thing to open up to someone about, you should be a protector figure.
Of course it can faze you, but you're making something that SHE went through into something that's sad and disturbing for YOU. And now you're trying to make it into "let's just have fun and not plan the future"? So you want to turn your girlfriend into a fuck buddy because you figured out she was raped?
Lol. You're a spineless, selfish, spindle-dick of a man. She'll be even more scared to tell her next boyfriend after you.
You want advice? Try talking her through it and understanding that it is HER tragedy and not yours, you fuckwit. Then maybe you have a chance at saving your relationship. Stop thinking about how everything affects you and maybe how it affects other people.
I had an ex that dated me for 2 years and fantasized that I was her rapist almost every time we had sex. This came out during couples counseling when she decided to actually deal with her trauma. Guess what? After she actually started to deal with it, she couldn't have sex with me because she had permanently connected me with her rape. Bitch didn't even give the ring back.
Fuck you're right I want to help but I really don't know what I can do besides tell her to tell her parents or to call the authorities. Maybe she wants me to push her into doing that??
I don't really see how I'm making it all about be im seriously conxerned about my mental well being
That's the laws of nature buddy. Your woman is a ball of estrogen. Someone forced themselves on her (there is no 'rape' in nature) and now she's tied to them permanently. This is is how humans are at the primal level.
hatefuck a coulpe other women (consensually ) and you'll feel better
She probably does want that, and for you to just be there for her in general and listen to her. Maybe she hasn't found anyone else trustworthy enough to speak about this with. I know this is really deep stuff to get into, but you could end up helping her so much if you're just there for her.
>how am i making it about me
>i'm concerned about my mental well being
you literally just typed that. i get that it's freaking you out but get this through your head - it's not about you. if she's telling you this, she trusts you and sees you as someone important to her.
you sound like you're fun at parties.