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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Shaven, trimmed or full jungle?
Trimmed. Shaven is for fags, pornstars and faggy pornstars. Full jungle is for gorillas and 80s pornstars. When the shaver hits the hairs just right, the balls sing.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon, frogposters and tripfaggots
What do you think about a guy that absolutely refuses to use Facebook? Most girls I know always ask me for mine, and when I tell them I dont use it, they feel dissapointed.
Should I begin to use facebook again in an attempt of normalfaggificating myself?
Nah. I don't care.
My boyfriend doesn't have facebook because he doesn't give a shit about it, I don't even use it THAT much. We just text through normal messages and actually talk if we want to know shit about each other.
I'm a dude, but in my experience as a fellow non-facebook user, as long as you don't go on some tin-foil hat conspiracy shit, no ones ever really given a fuck.
Honestly though, I do have one just because it's useful for calendar shit.
Other men, what is a multiple orgasm?
Last night I was with the wife and came as normal. Ejaculation and all. But she didn't stop. My penis was rapidly deflating but she managed to get another out of me. It's like the moment stimulation stopped, my erection was fading, but it would remain hard if it was constantly stimulated.
I didn't think it was possible to ejaculate twice in such rapid succession?
I've done it before as well, but it's not rare I stay hard after cumming anyway.
I've also had a full body orgasm... that... that's a completely different thing all together. Felt like shockwaves of pleasure running down my neck, through my spine, and out in to my very fingers and toes. Never been able to replicate it though.
Okay so through odd circumstances of this pretty weird chat I just had with the girl I like, I randomly asked her if she liked me, to which she replied back saying it was too soon to know or some shit like that.
At the end when we were discussing if I should buy her gifts for the upcoming international women's day, she said that let's wait until we are a couple to do that.
You're 'on hold' in case she runs out of options.
Have some dignity and move on. Vague, 'maybe' answers are worthless and can mean a million things.
Also, don't buy her a gift, unless she's a really, really good friend.
Girls and guys
What actually causes the "knot" feeling in your chest when you are heartbroken? I feel like absolute shit right now and that knot won't go away. It can't be healthy physically.. Also I feel like shit so my questions are:
What is the science behind the knot.
how do I stop feeling like shit (having sex with other girls is not acceptable answer)
Fuck I'm sad now. Is there a way to reverse the situation? We've only gone out once tho.
Granted I'm not like the aggressive type or something. Only texts her every few days until we meet in class.
So, this girl would
>would make sure I overhear that she has a boyfriend all of a sudden, probably because another friend was talking loudly that a girl was being good to me
>she won't mention another guy to me at all
>sometimes will check me out, but other times won't even look at me
>will care for me and ask how i am
>will keep an eye on me when I'm being chummy with another female friend
Wat's going on here?
No. Plus it's nice to not know everything all at once about a guy. I try to refrain from social media stalking a guy to let him tell me about himself, and so that I don't look for dealbreakers.
>No. Shes lying to you you fucking cuck.
Theres this lie going around that you can break it other ways. Which is true if you go extreme horse back riding or engage in activities at Olympic level.
I am sure cause she has only few girlfriends before she met my social circle.
But who knows maybe she did have sex long ago with someone
Well honestly I don't care if she is virgin or not I am just curious is it possible to lose them without any blood.
We had sex after her 18th birthday.
My gf don't do any gymnastics or horse riding activity.
Yes, and really it doesn't mean shit.
As the FAQ says:
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
What is google.
You should have left this crap in the other thread. Don't attract more "red pill" robot trolls.
Girls, why do (some of you) act irrational?
>start dating friend of mine
>she ends it after a couple of dates
>only gives bullshit reasons like not your fault etc.
>we avoid each other
>meet at party 3 months later
>hitting on me again
>don't want to rush things but try to contact her a couple of days later
>takes forever to reply to my texts
>eventually set up a date
>she cancels at the last second (gives no reason)
>realize I'm over her and it doesn't really bother me
>get a text a couple of days later where she apologizes and asks for another date
>decline because fuck that shit
>goes to my roommates birthday party (in our apartment) whom she barely knows
>lies in my bed
>literally takes her clothes off and grabs my dick when I come in (no other party guests in my room at that point)
>tells me she needs me and shit like that
>throw her out
I feel kinda bad but I'm sick of her bullshit
Just got a message from a woman I've only met a few times., but it came around 1am.
She told me about an event this weekend she was interested in, and thought I might be interested in.
I offered to meet with her so we could go together, which she accepted enthusiastically.
Should I read anything into this? Or are we two acquaintances going to a thing? 1am is such an odd time to send a message like that. I was only up because I fucked up my sleep schedule the day before.
I don't know about the knot. When I'm under immense stress, I get nauseous, dizzy, and might vomit. That's happened during a breakup.
Your best bet, since you don't want a rebound, is to cry for a little while. Then distract yourself. Play a new video game, go for a walk, go shopping, hang out with friends, do whatever you need to do to get your mind off of it. Allow yourself a little bit of time to be a sad sack, but don't wallow for too long.
I'm trying to change things up. But I'm really stuck i a routine. I go to work, come home, workout, eat some food, watch TV and go to bed.
this might seem childish, but I'm really done with girls. I wish I didn't experience love, because now id rather have just never known it. I don't want to experience this again. So I'm done
Is it weird for someone who is... very young, to show affection to an 'older' man? Does it make you uncomfortable if I smile, act nicer around you than others?
There could never be anything between us, but... does that mean we should hide our emotions from one another?
If people misinterpreted it, it would ruin his life, and not yours. So yes, you're playing a dangerous game where for you, it's just about "feelings," but for him, it's about the law, his reputation, his career, his family, etc etc
Don't be dumb.
could be a circulation thing, I've fucked through a refractory period because the condom was too small and acted like a pseudo-tourniquet. or your wife is a semen demon and was sucking your life force out through your penis
Not very to me but I have girlfriends who won't date short guys despite being like 5 feet tall.
Not going to bullshit, I act very irrational when I'm pms'ing but what you wrote sounds next level. You dun good by not fucking that crazy chick.
Not a guy but don't tempt men unless you actually want something of it. Its unfair to lead anybody on, no matter how old you are or they are.
Could girls date someone who makes less than them?
My time at university/mixing with people above my station makes me despise chavvy working class girls but I'm not likely to ever earn very much money, just want a middle class gf (UK)
Girls, do you prefer being asked out in person or by text/Facebook.
There's this girl I kinda like in one of my classes and I thought I might as well ask her out. However I'm quiet shy and struggle to maintain eye-contact when talking to people (even my friends) so I'm worried I might come across as super creepy or recluse. Would it be better to ask by text or do girls just not dig that?
I could and have dated men that made less than me. I was raised without a father though and it was drilled into me that there is no prince charming and nobody will pay your way. Financially my only expectation of men is that they can take care of themselves as I can.
Some women really want to be stay at home moms for at least a few years so your mileage may vary.
I prefer in person, but I do understand that some people just don't have enough courage to do so and totally don't mind if they send me a text.
Don't make it long, don't make it weird. A simple "I'm going to this event, you should come with me" is more than enough.
Yeah I mean I would never expect to just be taken care of (unless I get dat MILF sugar mummy), I'm going to be financially responsible and independent myself in any case, just probably not making a huge amount.
>Is it weird for someone who is... very young, to show affection to an 'older' man? Does it make you uncomfortable if I smile, act nicer around you than others?
No idea what qualifies as "older" but I guess I'm in my late 20's and I sometimes get younger girls interested in me.
There's this one girl in particular that's a family friend who I've got around a decade plus on. In some ways, it actually is slightly awkward. She'll drop hints, and watch me pretty intently, and I pretty much have to pretend I don't notice, politely decline, and just wait for her crush to go away. With her in particular, she's had a crush on me for at least 3 years, and I just kind of hope her first year of college she gets her brains fucked out and forgets about me.
With other girls, I just ignore 'em. Out of sheer curiosity I once actually asked a younger girl why she was interested and I got, "because guys my age are just so immature." and I kind of internally cracked up because she herself was far from mature.
Some guys might be in to the younger girl thing, some (like me) aren't, but we're nice enough we won't stomp on your feelings.
So whatever, take from that what you will.
I think you misunderstand. I don't mean 'love', but affection. Kindness, fondness? Not interested in romance, or make him afraid for what others think.
Ten year difference. Thank you. I don't have a crush on him (What does mean?), but I very much appreciate his company. He is one of my care-takers, so I see him often. He is very nice, very warm smile. I don't want to make him uncomfortable.
>Thank you. I don't have a crush on him (What does mean?),
Infatuation or romantic obsession
>I don't want to make him uncomfortable
I know for me, when a younger girl is interested in me, I just think, "Oh, that's cute" and don't really pay attention to it.
If you're just smiling and acting nice, I don't really think he'll care or be bothered by it. Maybe your culture is different though.
>I don't mean 'love', but affection. Kindness, fondness?
In current day and age you're gambling with somebody else's life if you do that. You never know when somebody will see that, snap a pic with his/her cellphone and ruin someone's life. False accusation of statutory rape is the same as false accusation of rape is the same as false accusation of paedophilia. The accused is guilty until proven innocent (which in itself is a low chance) and even if the courts clear the person in question, the general population won't.
No i said they should always be nice but age and gender doesn't really come into play with just being nice unless her version of " affectionate" is flirtatious and would lead him on
Kinda weird, to be honest. I don't mind if you have a profile but rarely use it, but people I've met who refuse to have on on principle are generally those who think they're better than everyone else for not having one.
Could be legit, could also not be. Clearly there's a cultural difference somewhere here, so we can't answer this.
He has to be 2-3 inches taller than me, but not more than a foot.
You keep posting the same question over and over, that's what's going on
Because some people are crazy.
Depends on how late. If we're talking 30 and still a NEET living in your mother's basement, that's pathetic.
Sure, as long as I'm not supporting them
In person preferably, but if we don't see each other often then Facebook/text is fine. I really don't know how you plan to actually go on a date if you struggle to talk to people in person though
>If we're talking 30 and still a NEET living in your mother's basement
That's just a suburban mythological folklore legend of false prophecies and dark bibles, in other words, propaganda.
I don't want to hurt him, I was trying to be more affectionate. He has seen me very sad many times, so I feel bad.
If world thinks this is bad, then I don't understand. Are they stupid?
Okay. Not ijnterested in romances. Culture is different here, but I don't want him to suffer. He has taken care of me so I only thought it was a good deal.
Yes, not flirting. Only hold his hand, tell him my feelings, show drawings. This is ok?
>Are they stupid?
No. Afraid? Yes. Everybody drones on and on about 4chan ruining people's lives but the tumblr and reddit crowd do it too. FFS, it used to be perfectly normal to say to a woman with a small child that she has a cute kid, as a compliment. Nowadays it will get you at least arrested if not stoned to death. Is it fucked up? Yes. Do we have to be aware that the rules have changed and act accordingly? Yes.
from a social standpoint, yes, it is important.
people don't use email, and if you want to form connections with these people then you're going to have to put up with the common methods.
especially professionally, unfortunately, i've learned that it's important to network this way. otherwise look forward to instigating every thing because people will refuse to talk on the phone, etc in lieu of sending texts or messages on facebook or other forms of social media.
i know from experience that the knot is normally caused by extreme stress and anxiety, which causes the sinking feeling.
when i have panic attacks, the sinking feeling i get in my chest is the exact same feeling as that of being heart broken. usually the only way to get rid of it is to distract myself or actually sitting down and dissecting all the things floating around in my head, so that i'm not just leaving things unaddressed to be stressed over.
make a list of all the things bothering you right now, rate them from smallest to biggest. having a list in front of your eyes, and a realistic approach to what problems you can solve right now versus ones you need to take steps and time to work towards can help ease that anxiety A LOT. i know it sounds stupid but please, just try it.
you can only realistically do so much at a time, but your brain when it's stressed and anxious doesn't care. making a list and doing this will help.
this is not how women act normally, this is someone that isn't emotionally ready for a relationship and is probably very insecure.
i've had girl friends that do things exactly like this because they have no idea how to be in a relationship correctly and for every correct step forward they take in it, they get terrified and insecure and take three steps back by blocking themselves off emotionally (and sometimes physically).
it sounds to me like she has bad anxiety, and although she really likes you, doesn't have you up high on her priority list to cancel on you last second (if a girl likes you A LOT, she will not cancel). she probably liked you, but at the same time is too insecure at the moment to have a proper relationship without causing you grief.
it's not worth it, imo, until she can see that and fixes that shitty behavior.
try to treat it as two acquaintances going to to a thing, especially if you guys rarely talk and have nothing to go off of. have fun and enjoy yourself, you'll be able to tell from her if she invited you with other thoughts in mind.
nowadays, people are up until the wee hours of the morning, so i doubt the message being sent at 1am has much meaning except that she couldn't sleep.
but yeah, go for it and have fun together, ask her in the future out to another event and go from there if things go well.
>sometimes I'm a little moody
That's your personal perception. Maybe you were even told that as an answer because people care about you. Every woman I care about, I convince that. Truth is, they go jack nicholson in the shining.
I get emotional and cry for spots on tv and nice things my boyfriend says.
Other than that, no major change since I started hormonal birth control.
Before I used to get big cramps, vomit, be always mad and get bad, bad back pain.
i have really bad periods, so about a week or two before they actually happen i have a migraine every single day, and can feel a soreness in my vagina muscles and abdominal muscles. my moods can range from extremely moody to suicidal in just a few minutes, and nothing seems like it's worth it and i can't feel happy. it's like the worst depression i've ever felt, only for no reason whatsoever.
then after a week or so of having the migraines, soreness, and emotional instability, i'll suddenly wake up in the middle of the night with extreme cramping, usually bad enough to make me cry (and i've had brain surgery, so i've dealt with pain).
the cramping feels like someone is squeezing my abdominal and vaginal muscles in a vice and stabbing you at the same time, it's almost like having a stomach virus and you get those cramps from having to take a shit so badly and then being punched.
so yeah, once the cramping starts up, i also get the shits and extreme nausea. if i throw up, my stomach cramps worsen, and i'm literally throwing up and shitting myself at the same time until i can down some pain medicine, get a wash clothe on my head and a heating pad on my stomach.
not all women's periods are like this, but holy shit, do i dread mine.
What dates are good after I already took a girl on all the "cookie cutter" dates
Already went to movies, zoo , etc.
Would feel weird if I just took her back. So now we just keep going out to eat or what?
Ladies: why are always so surprised when you're treated differently working in STEM fields? The boys you mistreated their entire childhood end up as engineers and then you cry when you get pushed out and disrespected. It's fucking hilarious.
i've never mistreated a man and i'm in biochemistry, most of the men i work with are professionals that don't get petty when working with me because they know how to not bring their personal lives to work and not let things that happened when they were children affect them. i don't get disrespected and i don't disrespect them.
sounds like you got turned down or cheated on big time and that's a shame, don't let women from the past cause you to be a shitty adult.
although i fear it's too late.
How do I keep my girlfriend from drinking with other guys
I dont care if she drinks with her girl friends, but I get upset when she posts pictures and there is a guy drinking in the circle with her and I'm not there
There is a girl I met six weeks ago. She moved here from another country and I helped her a lot (I found her a flat, I found her furnitures, I helped her orientation in the city and I became her voluntary translator in many occasions). In the first month I was seeing her 5 times a week and one month later I confessed my crush, she tried to friendzone me. Then I alienated myself, I stopped responding to her texts and calls, one week later she fucking cried me on the phone telling how much she missed my company. She was telling me that I'm the kindest and nicest person she ever met in her life and she missed spending time with me.
Yesterday we met again. Just being around her is wonderful for me. I made my point clear that i'm not around her to just to get into her pants, but I crave for her in a more complete way. I hold her hand while walking back to her flat. She didn't push me back but when i made a move to kiss her, she pushed me back then I left without telling a word.
Today she called me again like nothing happened and asked my help for translating something, I know she already has other friends already which can help on language issue.
I simply don't understand what this girl is up to.
Does she use me, or does she like me?
I can't truly tell...
Tell me about it. I got a degree in electronics engineering and it's autism galore. I got tired of it and now run my company for household appliances repairs. It's bliss working with trade bros. Regular Joes all around me.
>I'll beat you at your own game
>I hide my inadequacies behind PC culture
Pick one. You don't even understand that my game is meritocracy. It's not like I pack pitchforks and torches to hunt down your kind.
Oh I'm so sorry. What pronouns do you want me to use for you? Can I get a link to your pro feminist tumblr? How much money did you donate to female streamers to combat the villainous oppressive male patriarchy? Did your semi cute pseudo nerdy chick with a pixie cut finally acknowledge your existence via your continued efforts in feminist and race activism?
Why shouldn't we? If the company that you work for wants to sell the product that you personally have no rights to to the open market, they can do that. Unfortunately for you, your job security relies on other people using the technology that 'you' make. YOU owe US.
Thanks for the free shit shitlords
we coming for your shit ese
Users like you are the best. We make fun of you all the fucking time. You're so quick to talk shit to the people that enable your business to succeed. But no, we owe you. Sure buddy. Keep telling yourself that.
>Oh I'm so sorry.
You are a sorry excuse for a man.
>What pronouns do you want me to use for you?
Him, he, his...
>Can I get a link to your pro feminist tumblr?
I don't have a tumblr
>How much money did you donate to female streamers to combat the villainous oppressive male patriarchy?
0 <insert currency of your choice> because they're female equivalent of guys like you.
>Did your semi cute pseudo nerdy chick with a pixie cut finally acknowledge your existence via your continued efforts in feminist and race activism?
My GF has a nice, long, flowing hair, acts like a proper woman and laughs at feminists.
Normies are, by definition, not retarded. It is you, who can't grasp that simple fact, that is retarded.
>buys MGTOW merchandise
>hurr durr, look at me
Yes. They're the ones that originally sold such mugs and retarded tumblr feminist bought them in bulk.
Look into a mirror. You see that creature staring back? That's a retard.
Do you have any original insults that aren't from the 8th grade?
Sure you don't have a tumblr. It's OK, anon, we won't judge you for your progressive views. I'm sure you validate your girlfriends status via acknowledging your male privilege and empathizing with her struggle as a modern female.
What validate my existence is laughing at people like you, taking your money, and watching you screw up using said technology even after we explain it to you. It's great. Never change.
Honesty is the best policy which is why it's great that you're so honest with her and not shaming her sex positive ways. This is why you accept her choice of having sex with a much better man than yourself because female sexuality should be celebrated not shamed. What a great man you are a true champion to what men should be.
All women wish for black cock, its bigger and more masculine
Its scientifically proven
No, friend, mine does not. Does yours hurt when you want to try and better understand homosexuality and/or role reversal? It's very brave to let your girlfriend peg you, anon. Did it free your mind? Do you feel more connected to your gay activist friends?
No, these are cheap insults: suck a dick you gay nigger. I hope you girlboy friend pumps cum down your throat all night, gayboy. Fuck you.
See? There's a big difference.
How would you want to be approached on a dating website?
Just casual remark about something you wrote on your profile or w/e?
And by dating website I don't mean tindr, I mean more like OkC
Do I just go from there and ask general stuff about yourself etc.?
>obvious n00b yes
>only ever dated girls I'd been friends with for at least like half a year already
>casual remark about something you wrote on your profile
I like when guys do that, especially if they make some joke about it.
>Do I just go from there and ask general stuff about yourself etc.?
Yes, and tell them stuff about you. I really like when a guy talks about himself and asks me more about me.
honestly, I know like...2 girls that can genuinely make me laugh; not just polite laughter, I mean actual laughing out loud
so I'm really surprised when a girl has a proper sense o humor and I instantly like her, either as a friend or potential partner
it's pretty cool when girls can keep up with banter/jokes, makes everything so much fun
but I mean it's not the end of the world if you're not; there are some guys that get almost scared away by a girl who can crack jokes with them
Gh, blue shirts on pale ghost-man are sexy as fuck. Really.
Yes, that'd look nice, especially on slim/average body types they look great. But untucked shirts are not elegant at all, make you look like a fast food worker. Rolled sleeves are fine tho.
When a guy asks you out, do you prefer he uses the word "date" in some way? I'm sick of girls assuming I just want to be friends and then getting mad at me for being a "nice guy" when they found my intentions are purely romantic. At the same time, I'm in college and it seems like no girl wants to end up in a relationship on purpose, so the word date might scare them.
>so the word date might scare them
That's good. Scares away the sluts. When you say date, you directly say date but it implies seriousness. On second thought, it's bad if you're just looking to get your dick wet. Two sides to each medal.
jesus christ anon quit beating around the bush and ask what you actually want to ask
if you like a guy and don't know if he knows, make it really fucking obvious if you can't outright tell him
but ok, let's play along, easy mode:
>if guy likes you he won't be creeped out about it
>if guy does not like you but is a real human bean he'll let you down gently
>if guy does not like you but is a dickhead god knows what various crap you might get
>Have you ever known someone had a crush on you without them telling you?
Yes. A multitude of non-verbal signs makes it quite obvious.
>Was it a mutual attraction or were you creeped out by it?
Sometimes it's mutual, sometimes it isn't. I'm only creeped out if she's underage b& or a colleague/business partner. The possibility of false accusations scares the living shit out of me. I'm talking about balls retracting to stomach levels of freaked out/scared.
>Girls, is it true that when a guy is really good at foreplay, his size matters less ?
It definitely matters less if he's great in bed and at foreplay
>Does being in a relationship with a small guy make you think about bigger dicks more ?
Not really. Girls are more emotionally driven. Just keep it interesting without seeming too eager and find out what she likes. It might help if you get her off first.
how is this photo for dating pages/apps?
what would you assume based on this, also about action in bed? what would you want to ask me?
In my experience, middle eastern. Not because I think they're all terrorists or any of that shit.
but, they have never shown much interest in me, the cultural differences are very extreme, and they are just the least attractive overall. Skin color isn't an issue, I just think a lot of them look like starving gawky birds (sorry). The big eyes, big nose, and long faces and stuff. Not entirely what I'm attracted to.
Next in line are Chinese and Korean men because I'm also not entirely attracted to it. I think their faces are too feminine and the cultural difference is fairly extreme. (I'm European and Creole by the way)
Granted, even though I'm not attracted to the race in general, if an Asian or Middle Eastern guy and I had a lot of chemistry, I found them attractive/they found me attractive, I'd give it a shot.
Maybe I don't want him to know. Maybe he's got a girlfriend and I still want to be friends with him and get through this crush without things being weird. I don't want to act on it. I always thought attraction was mutual but now I realize unrequited feelings suck but I don't want to lose my friend.
Wouldn't date a guy who isn't white, in general.
If I found a guy I had incredible attraction with, maybe I'd give it a try but it really never happened.
My least favourite are maybe black, but I don't know.
The communication Vs. actions dispute is a test that people pull out when they are not satisfied.
Ideally, everyone wants a combination of both. Doing too much and saying too little won't work. Saying too much and doing too little won't work either.
see, why can't you just ask what you want to ask
it all depends, I have no idea if he'll notice or not
but I can tell you that the best way to get over it is to find another guy
honestly? the harder you "try" to hide it, I think it's more likely that you'll only make it more obvious. Some things people aren't good at controlling, for example looking at people they like more than at others, paying more attention to them, being more positive around them, more helpful, etc
distance and time is the best
but yea, you mostly just want him as a bf, so if you don't want to fuck things over for him, get a different guy.
If you didn't care why did you reply?
So you're asserting I have control over the minds of everyone on Earth?
I appreciate your compliment
I like sex but I don't like commitment. The whole concept of being there for her, sharing and caring for her needs annoys me to no end. As edgy as it might sound, I don't want to care for anyone really, I don't want my time to be wasted on someone else, even when they share my interests I just get very annoyed after spending too much time with someone and I start being mean to them so they can leave me alone.
But for some reason I'd like to see myself with children someday. Is this something every mid-20's guy feels or am I destined to die alone and with no heir of my own? The question is for both men and women I guess.
if you were just friends with a guy. Close friends. Talk about everything. You are both there for each other and just have fun too. would you have sex with him for fun too?
this girl has told me how she thinks it would be fun to kiss me. She lives far though. We've never kissed before, although when I left last time she did give me a extended kiss on the cheek. But she made it clear she didn't want to date. I'm confused
Is it possible for 2 close friends to kiss and maybe have sex with each other, but not be in a relationship?
your friendship will very likely end as well afterwards
it might not though
most good relationships are mostly just that: people who get along great and also enjoy fucking/kissing each other
No, I wouldn't. A good friend is hard to find, because men don't want friendship often, only sex or romance. I didn't want to risk.
Your friend sound strange. Maybe she has 'infatuation' on you?
Let's say you're friends with a guy. There is a little sexual energy between the 2. But not a ton. However you really enjoy talking and have great conversations. If your guy friend was honest with you (after months of taking) and said he had a lot of troubles on his mind and was depressed. Would that change your opinion of him? Would you lose interest in him because he's not "Alpha minded"? I'm worried because I just opened up to my friend. And I've never done this before with anyone, ever. So I'm worried she'll think less of me. Although we are good friends and talk every single day and have fun
I used to think this about my female friend who I'm in the exact same position with. I got really drunk one night and was drunk texting her all my problems because it was a sad kinda drunk. Anyway, she listened to me and talked to me. When I apologized the next morning for sending stupid emotional drunk texts she said she didn't mind and that she loves me anyway. It was one of the nicest gestures someone has done for me in a long time.
All in all, maybe she'll lose respect for you or maybe she won't.
One of my closest friends is going through a really hard time and he tried to open with me, share his feelings ,talk to me about what's going on in his life. Yesterday told me that he trusts me more than anyone else and I'm the only person he can share his feelings with.
I felt like the most special human being on earth. I feel so special because he thinks so highly of me, and I am so grateful I can see who he really is.
I bet your friend feels the same.
You all were right. Thanks again :)
even though we are not "together" it's really nice to have a female who I can be open with. That cares about me. A true friend :)
This makes me wonder though. If she gets a boyfriend in the future. Could that affect our friendship? I've never had a female friend before. I'm worried that the boyfriend would be against us talking as much as we do. I have no idea how that works
Brandon sounds like he would spend hours on end trying to choke on his own dick.
Anyways, what I originally came for. Yesterday I asked the girl I've been going out and about with for over a year and a half if she'd actually be my girlfriend and none of this middle shit. She didn't say anything when I got around to the point, so I just gave up. I know I made the right choice (the advice from here told me to do just that, along with literally everyone else) but now I can't sleep, barely have any appetite, can barely taste raw sugar, much less regular food and even random people on the street are asking me if something is wrong. How do I cover it up?
Maybe. The female friend I was talking about has had a few boyfriends since we've been friends. It hasn't been a problem. She loves me on a different level than that of a boyfriend. It's not conventional but then again we aren't conventional people so it works out.
I'm wondering if you're even involved in STEM. Women are scarce and the fact a lot of men in the field are awkward around women is obvious when they do pop up, but there is rarely any spite.
Denying someone because of their personal beliefs is pretty retarded too though. All that does is reinforce their beliefs and they get better at hiding it.
I understand that. I guess that is how we are. We love each other on a certain level. She doesn't want a relationship at all with anyone right now. So we are just really close friends.
I was just curious about if she started dating a guy. Because we talk every single day. So I'd hope her future boyfriend doesn't cause issues between us. Like if she dates someone other than me, it would suck. But I'm her friend so I won't want to ruin a great friendship over that.
known a girl for about a month, within 3 days of knowing her she crashed in my bed w/ me after some heavy smoking/drinking but nothing sexual happened.
Since then we've hung out fair amount, got coffee, smoked weed, had drinks, chatted, etc.
I haven't made any advances this entire time, has it been too long and i'm just a buddy now? or is there still hope if I get my act together asap. We still talk and hang out pretty regularly.
Two questions for both genders:
1) What are some good icebreakers to start conversations? I'd usually rely on something I can observe and can make a comment about to start a conversation. Something like a common interest usually works best, although such things aren't always apparent. Stating a conversation with anyone has always been my biggest issue. I can hold a conversation just fine, but I never want to be the one to initiate it because I feel like without a specific reason to do so I'd just be bothering the other person.
2) How can one easily get out of a situation without making things awkward if it becomes apparent that a girl either has a boyfriend already or just isn't interested?
I'm wondering if you even work in the stem field. I have seen men bully women out of countless teams because they wouldn't fuck them or they believed that because was a woman she couldn't be an engineer. It's sad, yes, but that's the nature of the business.
>I have seen men bully women out of countless teams because they wouldn't fuck them or they believed that because was a woman she couldn't be an engineer. It's sad, yes, but that's the nature of the business.
I'm going to express doubt over this. HR is a real thing staffed with people who have too much free time. No company would worth risking a lawsuit because someone was horny.
My mother is crazy(legit mental illnesses) and as a result i feel hate/disgust against women. I´m 19 but never really had a crush or fell in love in my life. I´m not a virgin, but the sex wasnt really appealing and i had some problems getting it up.
I doubt that men are something for me, cause i find anal sex disgusting. Because I do weight training I learned to like the physique of men though.
I don´t feel like I will ever want to have a girlfriend and my parents are starting to ask me, why i don´t bring any girls home...
Could it be, that i just masturbate too much? Any advice?
girls and gals,
realized a close friend has feelings for me, he has talked about how he wants to avoid them as much as he can. he has started texting me good morning and sending me pictures and videos of his dogs and star wars stuff, also of stuff round his house.
also, we used to joke around with nsfw topics and shit, but now he asks me to change subject very fast. we live close but not THAT close so we barely see each other in person, but last weekend we happened to be at the same place, same time and he asked me if i wanted to look for him there, i was in a dinner with my parents so i refused and explained him.
also i bought him a thing he needed and since he speaks with others about avoiding these feelings/fightning them i thought it would be better if i mailed the items, i asked him for the info i needed to mail it properly and he just said he would just rather see me.
i do like him and i told him i feel l he is a qt.
what to do?
>You realize engineers aren't stupid, right?
They're text book smart. That doesn't mean they're intelligent in other respects. If they were, they wouldn't be sexually harassing their coworkers.
Seriously, are we working with the assumption that women are too stupid to use a recorder?
Eastern philosophy shit:
The heart is what leads to your Higher Self. It is a step right above your Solar Plexus (think pancreas, Gall bladder, diaphram) which houses your Ego.
Both of those areas end up hurting at the same time.
Thank you for reading, but science never whats to give you direct answers and doesn't want to help you out. Ironically, it is more of a female than the 'feeling' religions.
>main picture is awful
>maybe they at least have a great personality
>all the other pictures are actually decent or even outright beautiful
>it's just the first picture that's awful
Why do so many of you have poor taste in first pics?
I've started to lose some weight. I was 280lbs in October, now I'm at 212lbs. My girlfriend was at first supportive, but now is concerned I might leave her. She's not overweight like I was, but still not super thin.
How can I convince her I don't want to break up with her and losing weight is actually somewhat for her? My goal is 180lbs.
Not the same anon who asked the question but I've heard mixed things on the subject. I've actually heard people say that not having social media equates to an instant lack of interest on the part of wome. I've also heard that it doesn't matter very much either so as another anon who doesnt have Facebook this question is of interest to me as well
>How can I convince her I don't want to break up with her and losing weight is actually somewhat for her?
The girl clearly has some insecurities if she thinks you're going to leave her the moment you improve your own value. Has she expressed any desire to lose weight herself? If so I'd suggest trying to get her involved in the process.
"You're worried that I might leave you for someone better? Yeah right, like there's anyone better than you, babe."
Just start throwing all these corny jokes at her. That is sure to boost her confidence. And if her confidence actually skyrockets to the point she dumps you instead, well, then you can actually find someone worth your time.
Are you really this fucking dense? Suppose she turns one of the team members down in a not so nice way. This guy starts spreading rumors, her work suddenly comes under more scrutiny, nobody takes her ideas seriously, etc. It becomes a not very friendly place to work but certainly not hostile (no lawsuit). Performance reviews come around and for some reason the boss is under the impression that she's not a team player. She can cry and argue that her team is bad but she really can't prove that they did anything malicious. Eventually she leaves and everyone gets what they wanted.
Its OK, anon, I know this whole thing is a little complicated for you but I'm sure in time you'll understand.
My boyfriend has a "thing" on his penis. It looks like a very bad pimple: white head, red around the head, etc. He said it was caused by masturbating and ensures me it's not an STD. How do I probe further without coming across as untrusting? Do men usually get sores on their penis from masturbating too much/too hard?
Sometimes you can get a little bit of a scab or maybe it's zits from sweating too much (working construction in the summer sometimes I get pimples on my sack)
tell him to go to the doctor and if the doctor thinks he needs to get tested promise you'll get tested together. Sure he might freak out but what's worse, breaking up or having an STD?
It looks like one of these pimples which gives credence to his explanation, but it just weirds me out. I've never got a pimple on my vagina.
>Suppose she turns one of the team members down in a not so nice way
Sounds like you shouldnt be a cunt to your team mates. You can reject people without being a cunt.
Being rude has consequences. I'm sure you'll understand this in time.
Yeah, I get that sometimes in the summer and I know it's not an std because i've never had sex.
However I stand by what I said. Better safe than sorry. That shit can lie dormant for years so he could've gotten it ages ago and it's just manifesting, or maybe even from you and you haven't presented. Get tested together.
How do I build up attraction when interacting with women?
Whenever I interact with women I can never seem to build an attraction with them. I get friendzoned often. I'm fairly attractive, maybe not confident enough? I have no problem holding a conversation and I'm generally funny. Maybe I simile too much? Idk
most girls i've met irl don't give enough of a shit to have a sense of humor outside of bad puns and recycled garbage from Schumer-tier comedians.
women comedians always devolve their act down to implying they're whores
>have you ejaculated since the last time you peed
>do you precum
If you dont ejactulate then you are normally safe. Peeing cleans out your penis from sperm. Now if you didnt pee since the last time you ejaculated then theres a small chance that you will carry sperm in your precum.
Now if you dont precum then you are probably fine no matter what.
Girls: How do I comfort you after you just tried to commit suicide
I was sitting next to a girl (crowded area limited seating I ask to join her she smiles and says yes), We start hitting it off. About 3 or 4 minutes later another guy shows up I assume hes trying to hit on her as well or its her boyfriend.So halfway through some flirting and small talk he shows up, I get embarrassed and like a weasel I find my nearest option to scurry and vacate the area.
Luckily I see in the corner of my eye an available seat I move over there to finish my chips and water. Now I am walking to the trashcan to dump my garbage, I look up she staring at me like she was into me. Then she waves and smiles at me. I am not sure if I am an idiot for leaving or if that is her boyfriend..
Now i am wondering if I made a fool of myself.
Should I talk to her and see what happens or should I do nothing
How do I stop falling for the wrong girl and putting myself in stupid situations? Long story short I started talking to a coworker who had just "broken up" with her bf, and then it turned out not only was she still with him, she'd been doing the same "I always had a crush on you" thing with like four other dudes at work before she started talking to me. Thing is it was pretty obvious all along and I even knew it. At first I didn't care because lolgettingmydickwet, but then I got stupid, started to fall for her, and then all that and now I fucking hate myself. This isn't even the first time. Literally every girl I fall for ends up being more of the same. First girl blatantly just used me as a surrogate for her ex-bf, second girl was blatantly just an all around whore, and then this girl. I'm very close to just going full /r9k/ and swearing off women forever because I just can't keep doing this. It's like I'm attracted only to girls I know will end in disaster and failure
Just here to say that you can have HSV on your genitals even if you've never had sex. I had an outbreak there and I had never even kissed anyone. I most likely got it orally as a baby from being kissed by family, and then transferred it to my genitals at some point. If it does turn out to be that, it's not the end of the world.
this is directed more towards the guys here, but girls are welcome to offer insight as well.
anyways, what are your thoughts on someone who is disabled, or in the process of applying for disability but still actively pursuing a degree in forensic biochemistry and very much motivated to better herself?
when i'm not studying i am in bed in a lot of pain, and the thought of dating someone and having them see this side of me is terrifying. i don't need someone to take care of me physically, but i go through a lot of emotional side effects from being in so much pain, as well as suffer from short term and long term memory problems that get worse as the years go by. i can see myself becoming very emotionally needy.
would you be willing to date a girl, who on her good days would be willing to do spontaneous things and make those days the best adventures you've ever had, but a good majority of the rest of the time is bed ridden and sick?
despite my illnesses (lupus, epilepsy, brain disease, and blood clotting disorder) on my good days i am extremely motivated to explore.
i guess i want to know how good my chances of keeping a health relationship going are, since it seems like the only guys that really want to date me are people that want to 'fix' me. i am not going to get better, and i've started to realize this.
sorry for the long winded question(s) and thank you to whoever replies.
well i told him i had feelings for him, he started freaking out and talking shit about himself, so i just shifted the topic around.
he has a very bad luck with relationships and bad self-esteem, but i truly enjoy being near him and helping him being happy is very rewarding for me.
Not a guy, but I think most guys would be reluctant to start a relationship with you. I think most guys would stay if you developed health problems over the course of the relationship, but I think you'll have more trouble finding a guy to date if you already have issues.
i'm 5'0 and prefer shorter guys because i feel like a child with other guys. i admire tall guys, but when it comes to sex it's awkward and usually painful.
shorter guys are perfect for me
thank you for your honesty, part of me knows this deep down but i guess another part of me is still holding out, haha.
i definitely need to help myself before i can be with someone else and expect them to help me through things, i just wish it wasn't so hard alone.
you're right, i've had a few people over the years that said they were fine with me being sick until they actually saw the full extent of things. nobody wants to have that obligation, and i don't blame them.
thank you for being honest, as well.
>i'm 5'0 and prefer shorter guys because i feel like a child with other guys
My friend has commented that I make her feel that way whenever she tries to hug me. I always found it hilarious.
i am very much still attracted to a guy despite his height, but compatibility wise sometimes it doesn't work unless you make it work.
a lot of girls do like the feeling of being smaller and more feminine/petite, however. it just boils down to personal preference.
>a lot of girls do like the feeling of being smaller and more feminine/petite
Nah I get that, and with most things its a matter of moderation. I'm a different guy at 6'2", and it gets weird when she's more than a head shorter.
i get migraines pretty much every day, but have medication and can be back on my feet in about an hour. same with my partial seizures.
it's usually two or so times a week that i have to sleep for a lot of time, and sometimes i'll have random flare ups from my lupus that keep me bed ridden for days at a time. it honestly just depends and i can never tell when i'll be able to keep my word or promises to do things, so i'm usually more of a spontaneous person that does whatever i can cram into my life when i feel okay.
> i just wish it wasn't so hard alone
Life never seems to get easier but it looks like you're determined enough to see it through
It's hard to get into a relationship with someone like this because from the get go the girl already has strong emotional needs from you. I could handle some mild disabilities, but with frequent bed ridden pains and growing memory problems I can't do it. There would be too much emotional dependency on me, and if those memory problems keep getting worse, possibly a physical and/or medical need. It's far too much for me far too quickly.
Now when I was on the dating site scene, I met a gal with your situation, headaches a lot.
She was cute, she was interesting to chat with. And she told me of her migraines but it didn't stop her from going out to see me.
She ended up going with another guy so oh well. Point is there's an example of the headaches not getting in the way.
Honestly the only thing that can fix it is time. I went through the same thing, and no matter how much I read, studied, worked out, hung out with friends, or tried to forget, the only thing that eventually relieved it was time. Took about 3 months before I stopped feeling like shit all the time, but I still think about her every day.
no, i'm not hahaha, rest easy anon
this is very understandable, which i think is a reason why so far i've refused to let myself actively look for a relationship. i would rather be alone the rest of my life than bring someone else down with me or suffer through having to see me suffer, so i guess this means i need to work on things a little bit more before i should start seriously thinking about dating.
i'm going to sound lame saying this but, thank you for saying that. being alive is painful but the thought of not being alive and able to see things up until the very end is even worse for some reason.