How do I get guys to notice me without dressing "sexy"? I'm 22 and I've never had a boyfriend. I'm skinny, I have pretty big boobs, not ugly, but I dress really conservatively, I don't show cleavage or butt cleavage or much leg, or really much skin at all most of the time. I like nice dresses and outfits with long skirts and cute designs. It's hard to attract guys though, most of my friends pretty much paint on their outfits and show every bit of skin possible without going naked and guys eat it up.
Your friends are going to get attention from guys who are only looking for one thing.
You're doing fine by wearing dresses and skirts.
Wear make up too maybe. But be modest about it.
You dress fine. You just need to get out and socialize more. It would also help to become more approachable. Example: If you're in a good mood, show it (smile, laugh at people's jokes, etc...)
The guys you'd attract dressing more 'liberally' are not ones you'd want to anything to do with, unless you want to be treated like shit.
>Your friends are going to get attention from guys who are only looking for one thing.
this pretty much op, if your goal is turning into an cum dump, then go with your friends, but if you're looking for bf material, develop a good personality(assuming that you don't have one), be talkative, you don't have to expect the guy to always make the first move.
I was the same way. I realized the only way was to slut it up just a tiny bit. Don't wear a super tight mini dress but show a little cleavage. If you have big boobs then take advantage of it. Just that little thing will get you much more attention with guys?
Honestly, just keep doing you. People who dress like that usually don't look for particularly serious relationships and are probably just in it for the short-term, and if that's what you're looking for then maybe you should start dressing like them, if you really want to.
But if you want to find somebody who loves you and genuinely cares about you and stuff, you need to find somebody who can accept you. Pretty much just find a best friend that you'd fuck.
It might not sound like that great of advice, but I believe you should just keep going with your daily races and you'll naturally find somebody who fits into your life perfectly. But that's just my opinion.
By being cute. As a girl you can take two routes to flirt
They are mutually exclusive. Sexy screams sex. If you really really want sex go sexy. Cute melts guys hearts. Instinctively it triggers our needs to protect. Giggle like a little girl, hold your body is noticeable vulnerable ways. Smile a lot and speak with your facial expressions and body that you are extremely cute.
Dont dress like shit though. You need to look attractive in what you are wearing.
Style. Dress the way you like cuz thats what you'll wear well. If you see someone who's style you like (not whats popular but what you like) then emulate it. Be confident in who you are.
Girls i think are most attractive arent the ones dressing the most revealing but the ones who show a lot of personality in their appearance.
By going for older guys. In my experience the younger guys are just rabid for the slutty looking barely wearing anything girls. Nothing you can do about that if you don't want to be a slutty too. Older guys for the most part pretty much moved passed that and want a serious girlfriend with some class.
There is a 30 year old single gentleman out there who will be enchanted by your classy appeal if you're willing to go for that guy.
This, dressing sexy like that most likely is going to attract guys looking for sex.
Try just being more outgoing and friendly, talk to them more, make more eye contact, smile more (THIS is a huge one, men love a pretty smile)
There's clearly something wrong if you have those qualities and have never had a bf at 22, sounds to me as your personality makes you seem unapproachable. Be happy, confident, cute, and flirty. If you're really shy you may give online dating a shot. It sounds lame or weird and embarrassing I know, but it actually works for some people, just be careful of who you meet up with and trust, some guys are gonna be sketchy, a lot of guys will say they want a relationship and will go for sex, and then drop you immediately after, just be very selective and picky.
I personally I met my gf of 3 years on OKC very randomly
>go on OKC because moved to new state, no friends
>felt kind of embarrassed or weird because I thought only losers and old people resorted to this kind of stuff
>due to glitch with the app(thank fucking God this happened lol) I can see who liked me even without paying for premium account
>message a qt 3.14 asking her if she was as bored as me
>somehow hold conversation till like 3-4 am lol
>text for a week or so
>meet up finally
>she's shy and nervous, which was soooo fucking cute
>I show her around my place, tell her about myself, and go over interests we have in common to have something to talk about
>smoke weed together and she opens up and we connect perfectly
>have amazing sex
>now we've been together 3 years and were insanely and madly in love, have been through so much, and want to get married and have kids one day.
A woman who shows off her sexuality, is going to attract men who are just interested in sex. Just try to put yourself more out there, and be social when you go to events that interest you.
OP, you sound like my dream girl.
Keep doing what you are doing. Most guys now are whiny-ass babies who are only looking for "mom+sex". Someone who'll coddle them and feed them.
You are worth much more than that. Just keep being you.
Something's wrong here.
It isn't how you dress that doesn't attract guys. If you're thin, non autistic, and haven't had a boyfriend at 22, then it's your personality that is the issue.
There is some good and bad advice in this thread. My suggestion is to try going out, dressing differently, and see whether or not you get approached. If you seem to more, ask a close friend if your personality was any different that night than it has been in the past.
I mean, but even if your personality is wholly off, if you're at a bar and you look like you have a body under all your clothes, you're going to get approached.
Do you know how to flirt? Do you ever smile at a guy you're interested in?
As far as the autists saying that a woman dressing to her assets is only going to attract a man interested in sex, that's just betas being beta. People meet and have conversations for lots of reasons, and mutual attracting is the major one.
Don't listen to these virgins OP, you've got to start dressing hotter and sluttier to attract attention. You were probably raised religious or something so you're probably scared of your sexuality. Don't be, it's an integral part of life. Furthermore, it's just plain gratifying.
Go have a one night stand, blow a stranger, get in a devil's threesome, fuck a ton of guys. You're young, and you only get to do these things now. Any quality male you'll end up with is out there doing the same.
And as good as your personality might be for helping keep a man, modern men won't even consider you until they've gotten a taste of the goods, and you have a right to demand a certain level of satisfaction that can only be obtained through, vigorous, experience.
And before you say it, no it isn't hedonism. This is the new standard. You either get with it or die alone.
Guys expect us to be super sexual creatures nowadays so yeah, if you dress like a church girl you'll be more ignored. It gives off a less "fun" and more uptight vibe when you're dressed like that. Guys want to have fun, they want a girlfriend they can have fun with. The people here who say guys will just use girls who dress slutty for sex are lying through their teeth. Sure there are guys like that but tons and tons of those girls get boyfriends.
Well maybe if you asked out a guy you liked insted of waiting for everything to come to you you would have a boyfriend.
>Could you imagine a guy who's never asked out a girl complaining that he's never had a girlfriend at 22? You laugh at him and say stop being such a pussy and ask out a girl.
If she goes to to the guy they'll just assume she's throwing herself at them. Desperation only attracts the lowest of the low.
What's retarded about giving into carnal desires? Into doing your biological imperative?
Your body was literally designed with a pleasure switch and you would abstain from it because what? You think your "purity" leaves you and you become worthless?
Careless fucking while you're young has literally been going on since the dawn of society. There's literally nothing wrong with it.
Talking to people isn't desperation.
And if the dude you're talking to is interested in you, well jackpot.
Sleazy clothes don't really change much, except slow you down by making you go talk to more people you don't need to see.
>im tired of getting rejected
Toughf luck kiddo
Thats how guys get girls. And it looks like your gonna have to do the same thing. You have to expect that somepeople are gonna say no. Get over it and dont take it personally.
Besides who would ever want to have less control over there lives and relationships by hoping by luck that the right person is going to come to YOU.
If nothing but shit approches you that all you get unless you search for something YOURSELF.
Honestly, attract them with your mind and accomplishments bc then they will respect you. You don't want to attract men with dressing flashy bc the type of men who actually like that have always, always turned out to be perverts with porn addictions and cheaters. I found my husband by becoming an attorney and getting a job on Wallstreet. He appreciated my mind and my personal drive. I down played that under my clothes I have 34 DD and a tiny petite body, to which now is all his. A man that will truly value you will want that for himself, not for every Joe blow that walls by. Let for friends attract the toads & you land prince charming. You sound like who you are naturally is the exact type of woman who will attract a good man. Look where winner are, take a trip to Clearwater for spring training, meet an athlete, live the dream. Volunteer at a hospital, meet a surgeon, someone who you can travel with and be so proud of and share accomplishments with. Don't sell yourself short you have all the time in the world to find a great man to compliment your great personality and talents. Attract a man by doing you, do it well, smile, and be a friendly beautiful face doing great things in this world. Don't chase men or attention, do great things with your life, be a great woman and then will chase you!
>I have 34 DD and a tiny petite body, to which now is all his
What so he owns you now, thats not a very healthy mindset or respectable relationship that way.
>be a great woman and then will chase you!
Why are so many woman incapeable of finding men themselves? Are they so obsessed about the fantasy of a prince sweeping them off their feet that they cant find there own partners? They just have to deal with what comes to them and settle.
Women are having trouble finding men bc since many men are unfortunately man children and don't want to grow up and be men. Peter Pan syndrome is all too common these days and women are growing more accomplished and successful this we don't want to put up with the immaturity.
Roasty vagina is referring to a whoreish woman, which is irrelevant.
Although many woman feel that submissiveness is very sexually appealing to them identifying yourself outside of sexual acts as an object is unhealthy for any individual.
But hey if you want to see yourself as a sex object then that's fine, but it is not mentally healthy as an individual.
If I was a woman I would be disgusted at how you are portraying yourself.
You can blaim men all day long but when I read
>unfortunately man children and don't want to grow up and be men.
What I hear is
>WHY wont men be perfect statue knights and sweep me away to slave away for you, THE GODDEST of all woman!
Op is not single becuase of immaturity you claim in men.
The real point is just because she has a vagina doesnt mean men will throw themselves to her. Calling men manchildren because they have better prioritys than pussy is simply childish.
If op wants a boyfriend she had to do what is expected, ask out men she likes.
no woman or man is entitled to a relationship.
Roastie refers to a vagina that has a big labia and looks like a roast beef sandwich. It doesn't necessarily mean they're a whore, they just have a really gross looking vagina.
Look at someone you like. Wait till he notices you. Smile at him.
That's the "open" sign. If he doesn't approach, his problem. Move on to the next guy you like.
Study basic flirting too, you may find some useful stuff! There are pickup artist for women too - harder to find I must say, but they are out there.
Anyways, you need to open up for it before attracting it - else you'd not notice, or just blow ur shot.