19yo here, I've a date on 12th of March
Any advice? Her hobbies are fashion, literature and movies
She has [spoiler] an Instagram account with 20 000+ follows [/spoiler] but she's still shy as fuck
My budget is $1000 and it's my first date ever, what clothes/stuff should I buy and what should I talk about
Just go on a cruise for the weekend. Also $1000 is really low for the first date. With that many instagram followers the usual budget range is $5000 - $10,000. Look up the most expensive restaurants in the world and fly her out to Japan or something to go to one, if you don't want her to be completely disappointed.
Just take her out for a nice dinner, you don't need a grand, jesus christ.
Fuck this dude, 1000 is pretty okay for a first date. Just be yourself, try to have fun with her, keep the small talk rolling, maybe get her a fancy gift like some jewelry. Also, don't do the dinner first, that could lead to some awkward moments. As for clothes, go classic casual, not too dressy, not clothes you would just throw on. Be well groomed, and for chrisssakes brush your tongue. What should you talk about. What do you always talk about? Just hang out, man. Like you always do? Don't ask if she's having fun more than twice.
Does she window shop? Some girls just like to look around for no reason.
What kind? If you're a reader too, talk about your genres and authors. Take her to a bookstore if she's really interested in it.
Well,take her to one!
1k for a first date is so overboard I don't even know how you're doing this OP. Don't go spending a grand on a girl you don't even know shit about. DO NOT.
Go out to a nice dinner, talk a lot, take a walk, maybe do something fun like shop at a used book store. That would be an ideal date for me not even exceeding 100 dollars.
If you bought me shit on a first date, I'd be so uncomfortable and really overwhelmed.
Hahahaha, oh man, I almost want to help you guys troll. It would be worth it if I could see the girl's face when she realizes that the guy seriously thinks $1000 is enough for a first date.
At least you seem to know where you need to be to have a chance.
$1000 is my budget for clothes and stuff like that, I'm worried because her biggest hobby is fucking fashion
Screw it, if it won't work I won't even be surprised
Still, she's worth a try
>At least you seem to know where you need to be to have a chance.
I *think* I could get more, since I've built up a pretty strong and relatively large follower-base in only about 4-5 months, so I think my potential for growth could get me more, but I like to say $1000 as a minimum.
You know I am just fucking with you, right? If you know nothing about fashion, you would be an idiot to spend that much on clothing. Assuming you have NO decent-condition clothing whatsoever, it looks like this in the US:
$20-60 sweater or shirt
You shouldn't be dropping more than $200 on clothing. And again, that's assuming you don't already have those things in decent condition.
I doubt she'd ask for Jimmy Choos on the first date anon. First dates are for testing the waters. You don't take a girl on a fucking cruise ship like this faggot >>16883722
Just don't blow your entire wad on her, and don't start with dinner. Also, why not start with something simple? Grab a coffee, lunch, a bar. It doesn't have to be an all day thing. Unless you're planning an outing. You could do one of those before the date as well, just to get a feel for her.
I'll probably have to buy new jeans and shoes, but what should I choose?
Also I'm not this >>16883732 guy
From what I know she really likes Cupcake Corner and we're probably going to be walking right in front of it, so I was thinking about stopping by. Is this a good idea?
The default answer is "If you don't know how to dress, imitate james bond." Ib4 "cringe" - the pictures I am posting are the ultimate low-key not try-hard decent clothing.
Note the picture I posted - you could do with a shirt that is a bit looser and longer. Also, jacket could be swapped with a nice black or red form-fitting sweater. If you are fat, I can't help you.
If it's warm, you could just go with a polo. I don't know who the fuck picked the shoes in the picture, but they are fucking trash - there should be something that looks like a mix of dress shoes and casual sneakers that is ideal with jeans. Someone should be able to pitch in. My problem is that they are purely for casual wear and not formal enough for meetings and you can't use them at gym, so I don't like them, but they are ideal.
Look at main picture here, not side shit - it's just something I found on google. The jean fit in both pictures is perfect.
Thanks. I'm not fat, far from it, so a tight shirt isn't a problem
Is something like pic related okay?
All right OP, I'll help you out.
Clothes and such depends on where you're taking her, and how old you are.
For an example: If you're taking her for some coffee, suit will make you look like you like a tryhard. If you still want to make it look special, you could wear a sweatshirt with a shirt under, and wear some jeans and normal sneakers.
Now over to the conversations. You said that she's pretty shy, but she has 20000 followers? Well maybe she is shy because its you. She would've maybe acted sassy in front of another guy. If you're pretty normal and social, the conversations will work out by itself. Or else just talk about movies, I suppose that you're not really into clothes and books OP.
And where you take her depends on what kind of a girl she is, is she the classy type? or the chill type?
If you don't know, just take her and have a coffee
I'm 19 and she's 18.
She's shy in front of everyone, not only me. I'm more of an extroverted enthusiastic person so most of our conversations are smooth. [spoiler] Also she never shows the face on instagram photos because they're more 'artsy' than 'cool' [/spoiler]
I'll probably go for the casual look, she's not really into serious looking dudes in suits.
Go for the casual but classy look (sweatshirt and shirt) But don't fuck up the color matching of your look. No one wants to look like Super Mario (red shirt, blue sweatshirt)
Just complete that with some nice jeans and shoes.
Do you know what kind of food she likes?
Ya'll trolls are f*cking crazy.
I took a girl on a first date hiking at one of the lesser known spots in town, afterwards shared some french fries and non-alcoholic drinks at the restaurant in the mountain village.
$30, including gas and food.
If you need to buy a new wardrobe for this girl, she's not worth it.
If she has 20,000 followers on instagram, she's an attention whore. I have only 500, and I'm one of the most well known hikers in Southern California.
Who's "hobby" is fashion anyway? If it's her career, then awesome. If by hobby she means buying clothes on daddy's credit card, run.
Okay, OP, you don't need to worry. /adv/ has got your back.
Firstly, don't say anything about fashion unless she instigates the conversation. You likely do not know anything about it, and you do not want to seem stupid for obvious reasons. Instead, steer the conversation towards books and movies. A popular topic is how movie adaptations are always worse than the original book, but I'll leave that up to you. Make sure you know what kind of books/movies she likes -there are obviously differences between sci-fi, fantasy, novels, romance and the like. You want to be reasonably knowledgeable of the specific type of literature she likes, but not too knowledgeable. Besserwissers are never liked.
Secondly, when choosing clothing go with simple yet stylish. A striped or checkered shirt (avoid white at all costs) with jeans and black shoes goes a long way. Avoid anything to fancy, meaning don't come there in fucking tails.
Thirdly, don't buy her anything, at least not for the first three dates. You don't want to make it seem like you are trying to buy her off.
Fourthly, if she has 20 000+ followers and is still shy around you she might very well be so because she finds you attractive or hard to approach. This part really depends on you, but if you are having food with her you should try to keep conversation going until you hear her voice every fifteen seconds or so. If you're a charismatic guy, twenty might be fine, but don't overwhelm her. If SHE is the one overwhelming you, try to say something, even if it's just an agreeing "uh-huh", every ten to fifteen seconds.
The Dateguru of /adv/ bids you good luck, Anon.
This thread is fantastic.
I still can't believe OP only has $1000 for a first date. On my first date I spent $17,000, and that was 35 years ago, so imagine how much that is now with inflation.
Dude,with that many followers she is used to a level of attention that no single man will be able to quench for too long.
Be chill, have fun on your terms, don't try to "win her over", just have fun on the date with you that she happens to be a part of. Don't "convince" her.
All that said, OP I want you to know that if things don't work, it isn't because of you. You most likely aren't going to do anything wrong. She is just corrupted by social media. She clearly has some kind of addiction if she spends that much time on IG accepting/sending friend requests, posting pictures of her life, etc. Even if you start going out, guaran-fucking-TEE she will still be posting pictures of her self, most likely with cleavage, just soaking in all the attention for horny perverts/beta orbiters that she willingly keeps as her followers - with no care at all that her bf might not like it.
Holy fuck do not buy her clothes, wtf is wrong with you. Max, the date should be $200 if oyu go out to eat some place nice, pay for parking, and entrance to what ever activity y'all do for the night.
Jesus, just go out and have some fun, it's a date not a business meeting. Go out for a coffee and talk, get to know each other. Don't go out of your way to impress her, that's a sign of insecurity. Don't spend 1000$ on a fucking date, that's just retarded. Don't buy clothes just for a date unless you have nothing else to wear.
It's just a fucking date.
>that feel when you only have 100 instragram followers, so men only spend $5 on our first date...
>spending a thousand shekels on a first date
no bueno, even if you are rich. especially if you are rich. you have much to learn, young one. bear in mind that this will end horribly, and try to remember everything you can about the event to refine your technique. also, do some googling. the game theory/pua shit does have some useful information, just dont take it too seriously.
Never spend $1000 on a woman that isn't the love of your life. She is 18. Take her to dinner and to a secluded spot.
By the way women with that many social media followers are usually way too gassed up to have something real with. Especially if she's 18.