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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
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Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Shaven, trimmed or full jungle?
Trimmed. Shaven is for fags, pornstars and faggy pornstars. Full jungle is for gorillas and 80s pornstars. When the shaver hits the hairs just right, the balls sing.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frogposters
I would never have sex with a man who has paid for sex. Partially because it does seem gross, but mostly because I would be afraid that I could never come close to that "experienced" of a woman.
You're right. After Googling my question sans "within relationships," there are a whole bunch of links to articles about non-committal "man-children."
I have no clue where I got this idea from.
That sound like nonsense, I mean not that I could tell, but you know.
And what else am I supposed to do? Just hope that an attractive woman just happens to be looking for a loser who is self conscious about his virginity?
Can't believe I'm asking this on an Australian hair braiding image board but here it goes. First a little back story.
I was at a party last night with a couple of friends and a lot of people I didn't know. Naturally I was getting drunk and hitting on ugly women. Thinking I'm doing alright these girls said something that just broke my spirt.
They said I try to hard.
So my question is what the fuck does this mean. Also this isn't the first time it's happened. It just doesn't make any goddamn sense to me. What am I not suppose to try? Or do I just have super shitty game?
Naw experienced women arent a meme. In places where prostitution is legal, they train so that they can squeeze down on a man and make him ejaculate from kegels alone. Think it has a name and is popular in the philippines. Imagine having sex with a vagina that was actually alive. Sounds amazing. Id probably ask my gf to practice doing kegels while Im in her just for that.
Well fuck you then, dick head. I was trying to help. You're going to be humiliated by a prostitute. But you deserve to be a virgin anyway because you're a fucking asshole. If you don't chsnge your attitude you'll never ever get a girl.
Try not being fat. Sex isnt as good as you think. Its mainly just fun. If you remove the emotions and fun from it masturbating feels better. A good prostitute might be a good enough actor to give this to you though but its just an act and I doubt she could do this if you are honestly as disgusting as you think you are.
Just lose weight. Let your need for sex fuel you.
>I wont have sex until I drop down to 170
>I wont have sex until I drop down to 170
When you hit 180ish then hire a prostitute.
Fair enough, don't press girls that aren't positively responding it's obvious when someone is laying it on thick and you can usually get away with it if the girl thinks you're cute/funny
>If we were in the same room I would cave your virgin head in.
I'd love to see you try. I don't have an issue with defending myself against a woman, you'd get slapped around and hopefully stop being a bitch afterwards.
>Try not being fat.
>already lost 20kg
When the hell do you think I'm doing? I'm literally at the maximum rate of what is considered "healthy weight loss", if you could lose it overnight then there wouldn't be any fat people around.
How much of a turn off if a guy is into kigurumi as a hobby?
Bruh I dropped from 195 to 167 in like 2 weeks. Also entered into the best physical condition of my life with all of my stats skyrocketing. Im talking 2 plate bench for reps. You ever go 24 hours without eating and still go for that 5 mile jog. You either want it or you dont.
After I did that you know how many girls were staring at me. Biting their lips at me. Literally telling me Im handsome randomly.
Guys, imagine you had a fling with a girl and she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby, regardless of whether you were in the picture or not. Would you, or would you not stay in at least the baby's life? If you chose not to, she wouldn't come after you for child support or whatever, you'd be completely free of responsibility.
Somewhat hypothetical scenario, btw. Loosely based on a girl I used to work with.
A year ago I'd be gone as soon as I heard that she didn't want any child support, but after seeing my nephew being born I'm not so sure anymore. Thankfully I'm not stupid enough to knock someone up like that.
You sound so asspained. Losing weight isn't as hard as you think. I and a lot of other people on this board have dropped significant weight in a short amount of time by working fucking hard at it.
Yeah I would look after it.
I would look after it even if she didn't want to.
I'm Pro-Life when it comes to abortion and I believe that if you go around having sex with people you should face the consequence and the responsibility of having sex.
Why are so many women basic bitches? I've spent the last few years without pursuing any relationships, I finished Uni, got in shape, got a great job, got decent at playing an instrument, studied music theory in my free time, studied Jazz and learned how to cook properly. And now while looking for a partner 99% of women just seem to be nothing but looks, they might have a nice body and a pretty face, but as soon as they open their mouth you realize that they're dumb, basic, without any real hobbies and talents. You can't hold a normal conversation with them, they either agree with everything you say and nod like a confused puppy whenever you use a word that they don't understand or they flat out tell you that talking about politics, history or music is "boring".
Thankfully I've made some great acquaintances at jazz clubs and it seems to be going uphill, but I never realized how depressing that reality is.
So, they don't have to achieve anything or be good at anything because it's good enough to just be thin and kinda pretty? And that stops the vast majority of them from from even trying to be a better version of themselves? That's a horribly depressing thought.
I haven't men many interesting guys. It's not that they don't have any interests or hobbies, it's more that their interests and hobbies are just things I'm not interested in. Maybe, just maybe, the way you're judging them because they're not interested in what you're interested in, is exactly what they're doing to you.
There are girls out there who are interested in what you're interested in. I really don't know why you're acting like women as a gender are awful. Your interests aren't really all that common though, you know. I know only a small handful of people who are genuinely and deeply interested in jazz, history and politics. It's not a gender thing, it's an age thing. If you're in your late teens/20s, chances are that people just aren't interested in that stuff. It's not just women, it's everyone.
Why there are so many basic guys?
Three guys approached ms in a bar last night and their main hobbies were stuff like videogames, getting drunk and watching TV shows.
Most people are boring. It is not a gender thing. Get over it.
Assuming we're talking about adults, or at least people who had reached puberty, yes. STDs are a big issue among the elderly, and if we assume that they're all in committed relationships at that age, well, the STDs aren't popping up out of nowhere
Most girls aren't even looking for Chad Thundercock. Most of us just want a normal, fairly attractive guy with a decent personality to grow old with.
I am 22 and all my friends are, are looking for or have been in a long term with a nice guy.
>be insecure faggot with 10/10 soulmate gf
>I go abroad
>fear that she is cheating on me although all common sense and mutual friends tell me I'm retarded and that she's crazy about me
>Fukken... I cheat on her
>3 months till I'm back home
If I told her now, it'd totally destroy her as she is in a bad mental state because of other things as well. I really love her, and let my insecurities get the best of me. I obviously am not mature enough for a relationship, let alone with a perfect girl like that.
I can't possibly tell her now and drop a bomb on her fragile mental state. I also really, really love her and regret my decision as much as one can, but this isn't about me.
tl;dr: I cheated abroad, what do?
This isn't the answer you want to hear, but I honestly think you should tell her. As your partner, she has a right to know that you were unfaithful in a relationship that both of you are invested in.
It might not end well, and it would be extremely hard to gain her trust back if she even decides she still wants to be with you. But just tell her what you did, why you did it, and how you just let your own insecurities take over. There might be a lot of pain, but you really need to take responsibility for your actions.
Good luck man
You say you love her but you don't trust her, are willing to hurt her while she's in fragile state, and want to lie to her for your own selfish gain.
I call bullshit. Be a man and fess up, you owe her that much.
Her family and friends have all fucked her up lately and she told me that I'm the only light in her life nowadays... I don't want to just hurt her in this period of her life, as well as it seems better if I could tell her face to face, otherwise she might never trust a person again and become a fuckhead just like me. Something just tells me to either tell her when I get back or just not tell her at all. Right now would probably make her kill herself, and she is a person that doesn't deserve that type of an asshole bf in her life. I'd never do it again as I am swimming in regret, but I feel like I should wait with telling her about it.. damn.
Break up with her, tell her that your crippling insecurities have made it so that you two cant be in a relationship anymore and youve passed the point of return. Tell her you love her and that you are sorry for hurting her so much but its better she finds someone else because if she really knew who you were, what youve done to her especially she would hate you. Tell her this is you breaking up on her behalf because she should be the one doing so but you dont have the balls to put her in that position.
Mid 20s, from all I've seen it's worse with women, I'm aware that the sample size isn't big enough, but I can't seem to shake off the feeling that quite a few women think they can just "get away" with it because they're pretty while most men can at least hold a semi-competent conversation about many subjects. Thankfully I've met a girl who is a history major, a great bassist and into classical music and jazz, but she was literally complaining about the same thing and said that men (on average) seem to be less dull and uninformed on those subjects.
If most people are that way then that's just incredibly disappointing. I live in a city with incredible cultural background, we have one of the best orchestras worldwide, an amazing opera, a lively jazz scene and so much more, yet people seem to be absorbed by whatever celebrity X said last night and Heather or not they look fat in a photo.
You're also discrediting video games, they're another medium for art. I've met gamers who could talk for hours about the emotional connection they had to a character, about complex story arcs within a game, about mechanics and how they influenced a certain game and about the sheer beauty of some of them. It's not exactly my cup of tea but it deserves respect, and lumping it together with "getting drunk and partying" is a bit silly.
That depends, make-up that serves as a means for creative expression is, make-up that is purely used as a tool isn't. The same goes for fashion, if you buy stuff and then wear it then that's not exactly a hobby, if you know about fashion, know the theory behind it, maybe you're even involved creatively in some way, then it is.
Pure consumerism or utility is not enough to classify any of the two as a hobby, add more to it and I'd accept it.
So makeup and fashion are only hobbies in certain circumstances, but generally speaking don't count or deserve respect, and yet video games are legitimate hobbies that do deserve respect? Am I interpreting what you're saying correctly? Because a lot of what you say could apply to video games too, particularly the bit about pure consumerism
My first and last girlfriend dropped me because I am cynical a couple months ago (She also broke up with me because I like comiccs and star trek and stuff like that?0)
Should i drop the cynical coldheartedness of my own personality? Or are there many girls who like/are cynics and I just haven't met one yet?
Of course that applies to both, it also applies to music, movies, paintings and a whole lot of other things. Just like the consumption of said media can be both, a legitimate hobby or just media consumption for the sake of entertainment. People watch movies, but some people watch them, analyze them, inform themselves about actors, directors, cameramen, etc. and turn it into a hobby. I hope that clarifies it.
So what you said about that girl discrediting video games could equally apply to you here >>16882257 when you say girls are basic. You're discrediting THEIR interests just like you claimed that other anon was discrediting a traditionally 'male' interest
Most guys who are into videogames aren't like that and we both know it. I am sure that there is someone out there who can talk for hours about how deeply connected they feel to some One Direction member and about the deep impact that their music had on the pop scene, yet I think you don't want to associate with them.
Just find like minded people through your hobbies.
Wrong, she discredited games in general by lumping them together with mindless partying and getting wasted, I never talked about make up or fashion until you brought it up, you're also implying that all women that I'd classify as basic are automatically deeply involved in fashion and make-up as a real hobby, I can assure you that they're not. I've tried bringing up subjects like that, but barely anyone could talk about any of these "hobbies" beyond "I look cute in it" or "it looks pretty".
No, many of them are not. But that doesn't change the fact that it's still a legitimate art form. As for your little example, of course I'd talk to someone who knows their part about pop music. It's a fascinating subject, whether you like the music or not, and someone who has deep knowledge of it is bound to be able to keep a good conversation about it going.
>Sex isnt as good as you think. Its mainly just fun. If you remove the emotions and fun from it masturbating feels better.
Don't just straight up lie to the dude to encourage him. (I sincerely hope you don't actually believe this yourself.) Nothing feels as good as a girl with no gag reflex taking it to the root, nothing.
>being that guy who girls almost always just want as a friend
Who is like that here? How do you deal, and what do you do?
I've tried that before and it just doesn't work so now I make my interest known very early and won't settle for less. The last girl who said she just wanted to be friends was evasive for two weeks before I told her to finally make a choice. We barely know each other (impossible to even see her face to face) but she insisted when i said I wouldn't be her friend. Still a no though.
I've had girlfriends, but those are definitely special cases in a sea of various rejections and i'm getting sick of it.
I have never questioned it is a legitimate art form, I am just saying that sitting in front of a console or a laptop and playing isn't really a better way to spend your time than watching reality shows on TV is. Of course some people will be interested in videogames as an art form, but if a guy tells me he likes "watching sports in TV, playing FIFA and partying" I won't think he will be into them in that way
This is me and i am wondering, do I intimidate people or look like I am crazy? I can talk to guys in classes but it doesnt seem like they want/can talk to me. I have to keep pushing and say 'whats up' a lot before they warm up and have normal coversations with me. I've had guys pointedly not even look at me at all for 2 months until I said fuck it and talked to them and then they started talking and joking around with me
The guy I like fucked around a lot before we met, and he was/is a bit of a "bad guy".
We have been talking for a little over a year and I know for sure he didn't have sex with someone else since. He met my parents and some of my friends and spends almost all his free time with me. He didn't get into trouble and turned his life around (went back to college, found a nice job, etc).
He is a great guy and I really like the person he became, but his past always stopped me from starting a relationship because I am scared he will go back to those habits.
Should I give him a chance?
>made a lot of efforts to put myself out there and always talk to girls because for all i know they're not going to initiate anything (happened with an ex I met too late)
>it rarely works, get "I'd rather be friends" or evasive "sorry, i can't/busy" before I give up asking them out
>meanwhile be surrounded by guys who act like brutes and treat women like shit while bragging about how easy it is for them to bang and leave them
I'm losing patience and motivation. Should I just stop trying? I sometimes tell myself that, but the thought of passing by an opportunity to meet someone haunts me.
Unless you're a) fat , b) smell bad or c) obsess over some weird topics at length when talking to people, I can't see a legitimate reason for straight guys to avoid you. Maybe you were talking to gay people?
You probably come off as creepy/too needy or are shooting above your league. Try being more casual about your approach and go for uglier girls for the time being.
Unless you enjoy the smell of sweat, definitely yay.
>You probably come off as creepy/too needy or are shooting above your league. Try being more casual about your approach and go for uglier girls for the time being.
Thing is I don't know what's considered creepy/needy. I don't harass them. I just casually talk and see if we get along. I spend more time with other people than with them in fact.
The last one was even the one coming to talk to me again and again at the party where we met, and gave me her number. But since then it's evasive messages.
Also, I don't give a care about leagues. I just go for whoever i'm attracted to and don't see the point in going "well better choose this one instead, even though I don't like her". Worked pretty well with my exes so I know it works.
>been with a girl for a while
>everything going great
>see her twice or three times a week
>last two weeks
>see her once a week
>seems that I'm the only one initiating shit
>she keeps saying stuff like I miss you I love you etc but still seems distant
>says she is too busy but keeps going out with her friends
Is it pretty much ogre or what ?
I'm not saying we should be together 24/7 but seeing her for a couple of hours once a week is pretty much fucking unacceptable.
Why not just get to know girls as friends first? Yes it's the slow route, but it says a lot more about the guy if he can be friends with women instead of just seeing them only as dating material. Also, I hope you don't hate women because you aren't their type. Everyone's entitled to their own tastes.
Is there any hope of landing an average girl with a bald shaven head?
I'm fit, intelligent, have a good job, been told I have good banter but due to a shaved head, not that much in the looks department (5,5/6 if I'm being generous).
I mean I don't see what's supposedly needy or creepy in what I do. Especially since I'm not harassing them, nor did I ever receive any complaint or remark from anyone, girl or friend.
In fact I've been told things like >>16882674
precisely because I'm shy and not a brutish acting guy.
Funny thing is that's what my gfs liked about me so maybe I ought to just be who I am until i find someone new. The question is wether or not I can handle more rejections in the meantime.
found out froma common friend of my female crush's that all their friends approve me as a potential boyfriend. aka they like me (my apperances myself idk what really). Do you girls take into account your friend's opinions in such subjects ?
Yes, but mostly it's like "I like a guy, my friends don't, I'm probably blinded by attraction and can't see his flaws" more than "I don't like a guy, my friends do, I should fuck him anyway".
>Guys, do you think any less of a girl or think she's superficial if one of her interests is something to do with her appearance?
Nah. My GF is pretty obsessed with eye shadow and doing crazy designs with her nails. The rest of her is FAR from superficial and she's pretty low maintenance though. For her it's just a comfort thing.
I've personally got a thing about keeping super cleanly shaved and trimmed so I get it. Shaving and trimming is like a comfort ritual to me.
>Guys, imagine you had a fling with a girl and she got pregnant. She wanted to keep the baby, regardless of whether you were in the picture or not. Would you, or would you not stay in at least the baby's life?
Yes. I'd leave it up to her to decide what to do with it, but I'm going to be in it's life.
> Or are there many girls who like/are cynics and I just haven't met one yet?
No one likes a perpetual downer dude. Not even other downers. I've got a female friend who just yesterday was ragging on this motivation sign at a bar because it was too cheerful and she wanted to throw her drink at it. All of the people she's been in to have always been at least mildly positive.
>This is me and i am wondering, do I intimidate people or look like I am crazy?
Too hard to tell from one photo. It's maybe something in the way you approach them, maybe it's something in your eyes (like maybe you just keep them super wide eyed and are kind of awkward, and it creeps em out at first). No way to tell from one picture.
>Should I give him a chance?
People grow up. Go for it if you want, but only if you can get over it on your own. If you need us to tell you how to do that, maybe not.
Its fine to care about say, fashion. It's when you waste significant amounts of time and money that my tolerance wanes.
Most likely. I'd probably have an emotional breakdown if a woman I was seeing had an abortion.
Girls, I was talking to some girl I like at a party where we getting on really well but then I asked if she was seeing anyone (just to keep the conversation rolling) which seemed to piss her off and she removed me off Facebook the next morning.
Is this normal practice for girls, should I take the hint and give up?
How important is makeup ??
I don't usual wear a lot of makeup, but I try some now and then (mascara) and it make people tell me I look 'different'.
My question do you think a girl is better without makeup, a lot of makeup or little bit makeup?
How is important it is ?
Well I absolutely do not understand why men always rant that girls should not wear makeup. If a girl looks good without it that's fine but to be honest I personally love makeup. Maybe it's because I have some interest in fashion and stuff but I like to know a girl is good with makeup if she is and I think it's a way of expressing yourself too so for me good makeup is excellent.
A LOT of makeup usually looks bad though, like eyeshadows in bright colors. But for example painting your lips bright red is awesome if it matches your face, even though I've met a bunch of girls who think that's stupid no matter what.
Again, I may be almost alone in this, judging by the internet.
TL;DR: Most guys will say they disagree but I think good makeup is as good or better than no makeup.
I sometimes wear tinted chapsticks and fill in my eyebrows a bit because they're blonde and weird. If I have any blemishes on my face, I might cover them up. That's it. I have a boyfriend, and he was attracted to me without makeup, though he'd probably like me either way. A guy I used to flirt with also liked me without makeup and said makeup was a "lie."
If you don't normally wear makeup and never have, I say don't. You want a guy who likes you for who you are, which isn't someone who wears makeup.
I think the hate come from feeling 'cheated' by makeup. Guys who think they get with a 8-9/10 find out in the morning she's a six or lower. Catfishing and all that shit.
Dudes, would you ever donate to a sperm bank?
Also girls, would you ever consider getting inseminated from some random dudes sperm from a sperm bank IF you wanted a baby without the usual way?
>How important is makeup ??
Honestly, most guys don't really understand exactly what make up is.
Eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, concealer, blush, bronzer, foundation, etc, etc.
There's so much shit that goes on, and half of it's there to make it look like nothings there.
Most guys who say no make up will unknowingly use examples of women who actually ARE (some of them even pretty heavily), but they just don't realize it because it doesn't fit the stereotype that they have in their head.
I'm always of the opinion that less is more so in general:
Light makeup => No Make up > Heavy Make-up
But if you do it right (or wrong) none of those distinctions mean a thing. Well done make up (be it next to nothing, or caked on) will always trump everything because ultimately, the ideal use of make up is simply to accentuate what beauty is there (not to mask or fabricate--like a lot of people seem try to use it for).
If you liked a guy, like you actually do have feelings for him. And you know he likes you. Why would you turn down a chance to date him because you are scared? The girl told me she is scared she would hurt me, and that "you are too important to me in my life, I care about you so much. You have NO IDEA how terrible I would feel if i hurt you.. I couldn't live with myself.." She said that. But she has also told me she has feelings for me. I don't get it, it's like she's scared of the word "relationship".
It hurts because I really like her, and I know she likes me. But she won't allow me to actually make her mine so to speak, because she is worried for ME. Fuck
How the fuck do I get it clearly across that I am not interested at all without being a complete asshole. I hate to put it into tumblr terms, but I identify pretty much as asexual. I do not date, I do not find people attractive, I do not do sexual things. But I am a very social person and a friendly one. I don't mind talking to people at bars or waiting in line. Men seem to take this as an invitation to flirt or (in some bad cases) to become an orbiter, even after I've basically said "Hey, I don't date/I'm not into this" (I've stopped saying I'm asexual because a few times guys got buttmad and started tirades about sjw culture/feminism/whatever and I don't want to deal with that).
I refuse to change my personality, but I also just want to somehow make it SUPER clear I do not want anything from men other than conversation. I've been thinking of just getting a fake wedding ring or something to immediately just cut anything off.
Saying you're not interested doesn't make you an asshole. It makes them an asshole for not accepting that. But if you're talking to them and they don't want to date, what's the problem?
Depends on what you did to piss them off. If it was something not too important or petty, I would probably brush it off and just initiate with a "Hey! Long time no see, how are you?". But if it was something they could still be pissed off about, maybe ask mutual friends if they are over it and then initiate? Honestly if it's been over a year she's probably over it or will get over it if you become social again and make sure to stay on her good graces.
She likes you but doesn't like you enough to gamble the friendship.
It could be she didn't really say it growing up and isn't comfortable with the connotations now that she is older or she just doesn't say it because she didn't use it as a kid.
No the problem is that most of the time they do the whole "Haha ok" and slightly back off but they obviously still do and are just waiting for you to change your mind. Or they just keep being really forward and don't get it at fucking all.
>she likes you but not enough to gamble the friendship
Then why does she like tell me how happy and safe she feels around me. she says I make her feel so safe and protected. And she's been away for a few weeks and said how badly she wants to kiss me, and she wants me to rest in bed with her with my arms around her so we both can sleep peacefully..
>isn't comfortable with it
I guess I can live with that.
Next question: if she says that she likes me more than a friend but not quite as a boyfriend yet, should I hang around or move on?
Is going bowling just as a couple, no other friends or other couples, weird? My gf says she has never gone bowling not in a group of people and I proposed it as a date night idea with it just being the 2 of us.
Also, other date ideas for 18 year olds (so bars/drinking events are out of the question) are welcome.
Well, being me I think I would get the hint, and if you said you were asexual I would just deal with it, so I'm not entirely sure what to tell you. If they keep being forward just cut them off though. Some people can't take a hint (including me) so just don't use hints. If they keep going just keep giving one word answers or short phrases until they fuck off.
Honestly? Sounds like an 18 year old that craves attention and drama. You can probably wear her down enough that she'll agree to date you but it'll be annoying and will probably end in flames. I don't know her so I can't be 100% sure, but this whole "oh I like you but I can't date you I'm scared but please cuddle me uwu" I've seen way too often and the girls are always more of a hassle than what they're worth.
If you can see yourself genuinely liking her, hang around. Just don't be completely hung up in case it doesn't pan out and you're the asshole who was waiting for her for 5 years. Basically keep pursuing her but if someone else catches your eye don't shut it completely down.
Bowling is cute, m8. Also maybe picnics, going to the zoo, fun nature places, alternative sport locations (rock climbing, horseback riding, etc.), cool or alternative movie screenings.
Guys how much makeup is ideal on a girl? I'm not gonna go completely no makeup because I'll look dead, but recently I've toned down the amount. While I used to wear foundation, contour, heavy eye makeup, lipstick, etc, now I just wear blusher eyeliner and mascara.
I'm personally attentive to detail so my eyes tend to get drawn to the "caked on" look of foundation and it immediately turns me off. I also don't like eye shadow or very badly applied lipstick for the same reason. It's too easy to do wrong and really noticeable when it is.
A little blush is fine if you tend to look like Casper. Eyeliner is great. Mascara is dangerzone if you have clumping. Lipstick is good if it's a non-casual setting and you took care in choice of color and application.
Is it normal to have sexual fantasies about your friends of the opposite gender? I mean, only them. I can see a girl with a great body and I will recognize it, but I'm unable to have fantasies about her. I'm only able to fantasize about female friends. Is this normal? I'm a male btw.
I'm a dude and although I can fantasize about strangers I get where you're coming from. Something about knowing someone well makes them much more attractive to me sexually assuming I like their personality.
Okay guys and girls:
There's a girl at work let's call her M, and she has a boyfriend who's basically sounds like the scum of the earth. She's a typical overly girly girl, likes flowers and chocolates and all that lovey dovey mush. The dude however is really manipulative and does just enough to stay in her good graces and M was too blind to see it until recently. However, since I'm the only guy under 40 at work (grade school librarian) all questions about guys fall up to me. I'm your typical "nice guy" I guess, but I seriously hate manipulative dicks like him so I've been advising her to break it off. The problem now is that I think she likes me, and her best friend is telling me that she might.
I do like M, a lot, and I suppose buying stuff for Valentines Day and her birthday recently (when her BF got her an ID band and forgot Valentines) could be seen as leading her on, when that wasn't my intention originally. But I would feel like the worst bastard alive if I broke both of them up to be with her. To me it would be just like making her cheat,and I wouldn't be any better than her current BF. But he's a huge dick and in my good conscience I can't let him play with her like that. I catch her crying sometimes. What should I do?
Nah I'm about looking natural now. I used to put a lot on and it looked good in my eyes at least -- but not natural and it was irritating my eyes, I couldn't scratch my face, etc.
Minimal mascara, some eyeliner, and a lip pencil because that stays on no matter what and looks natural.
I'm not a guy but I'm almost convinced that most men just don't know.
I've never worn any foundation or heavy make up and my boyfriend always thought I did. So I showed him a picture of a girl with foundation compared to me. He could not tell the difference without really paying attention to detail. When I point out overdone eyebrows he just thought those were natural eyebrows
My point is, that if it looks nice, it looks nice. That's pretty much all guys see unless you look like a clown or overdone drag queen.
I'm the same but I'm female. I can't fantasize about male strangers even if they look 10/10 because I need to feel an emotional connection lol. To me fantasies are more emotional. I want to feel/imagine closeness and you can't do that with a stranger or someone you know nothing about.
say if you went on a date with a girl and before you two part, she asks if she can do something she's always wanted to do.. you say sure.. and she kisses you - where would be the least ... confusing? upsetting? I'm not sure the word I want to use here, but I'm sure you know where I'm going?
Help me guess here or humour me, /adv/.
Was flirting with this girl over text and she dropped the conversation the moment it got flirty. Didn't see or talk to her for a few days, then one day she suddenly hit me up with "check this out <link to something funny she saw"
Replied to that normally (so no flirting, I got the hint) with a funny remark of my own. And got no response again.
I don't get it. Why hit someone up if you're just going to ignore conversation? Multiple times?
We don't know anon we're not her. Maybe she's busy and it's nothing, maybe she still wants you around for the attention, maybe she's playing with your heart strings. We're not her.
>since I met her we've never seen each other face to face
>she knows I like her and apart from talking to me by text she's impossible to see or reach
>was expecting her to just let it die like other girls
>instead she keeps initiating discussions but still impossible to get her to meet me somewhere
>finally tell her to be clear about wether or not she likes me. She says she just wants to be friends
>I cut contact
>she keeps coming back insisting that i reconsider and that it's too bad to miss on a friendship because she likes me and thinks I'm nice
Why does she do that? We were never friends. We never even saw each other once and the occasional text discussions don't make friends.
Besides, I've tried being friends with someone I liked before, and it didn't work. And even aside from that, i don't feel like compromising my feelings anymore.
Well I did, but I sort of hoped for some better human behavior on her part I guess. Me being too much of an idealist (or idiot) I suppose.
I told her as clearly and simply as I could. I wont give into her either. Thanks to you guys.
I was discovered by someone else that my now ex who cheated on me had lost respect for me afterwards because i didnt dump her as i decided to stay with someone as disgusting as a cheater?
Someone bring some light into this kind of thinking
with everything she's saying she seems emotionally stunted I actually was in a similar situation recently I'm 25 and she is 23. Eventually we got together and it went up in flames like the other anon said
Didn't want to make a new thread for this:
>recently started going out with a girl who seems really wholesome
>doesn't have a smartphone
>doesn't have any interest in politics, so no SJW bullshit
>never had a boyfriend before
>few friends, ones she does have are all female
>about 40 friends on facebook
>only negative point is she's less attractive than me
>not ugly, just not good looking
She deserves better and I can't break up with her because it would hurt her too much. Why am I so shallow bro's? If she was a point or two higher out of 10 she'd be perfect for me. At a loss about what to do.
>I could never stay with a guy who chose me when I made a mistake because he chose me when I made a mistake
What is this I can't even
>Why am I so shallow bro's?
everybody is shallow to some point, its sucks but its true, if you don't have feelings for her, let her go, you're just wasting her time and being an selfish asshole, she will get hurt but she will be better when she find someone who reciprocate her feelings.
No i broke up with her after for other reasons. But she cheated then she was crying one night i asked whats wrong, she said she slept with another guy, i forgive her, and she lost a bit of respect for me after that. The break up was a little later
>how often do you have sex?
I have sex once every couple of Years. It's been 4 years so far.
>how often would you like to have sex?
I honestly don't care anymore. I overcame that wall of caring. If it's another 5 years, whatever. I guess it doesn't matter
>she slept with another guy
You forgave her
>she lost respect for you because you forgave her
You dodged a fucking bullet that's what. She was a 100%, Grade A class bitch. And you know what they say about bitches.
For the women: is it possible to be having sex, but without warning you begin menstruating? If it actually has happened, how did it go?
Wait, these things just start up suddenly? I always thought it was more like the oil leak on a car. First a little bit of sweatting and moisture, but gradually drops begin to form.
God damn I think that I am really starting to have a crush on this girl.
I love hanging out with her, and this evening, while we watched movies together from the tv, I sorta wanted to wrap my arm around her and hug her.
This is all so new, confusing, and weird for me.
We also talked about going to the movie theater again, probably next week.
I am just so unsure in regards of how she actually feels towards me.
True, which is why I am sorta uncertain about what to do.
We did go to see a movie together last Thursday, and she often comes knocking on my door at the student apartment complex we both live in and asks me to come watch tv with her. She also shows her drawings to me a lot.
I am not very used to interacting with females, let alone in a situation where I might be actually developing feelings for one, so I am pretty damn clueless on what the fuck I should do. I have never had a relationship or even really had a crush towards anyone before.
Girls and guys
How do I turn OFF feelings for a girl that I've fallen for? I can't remove her from my life because she is important. But I need to get rid of my feelings for her.
What do I do.
>realized my best friend is in love with me, because of something he posted online.
>asked him if we could talk about it and he said he wasn´t going to say anything about it
>told him it made me feel like crap because i feel the same way and i really want to be with him
>he just says he won´t say anything but that he always wants to be a solid source of support and always be there for me and that he wants to be that in my life
>i spent the whole fucking day crying because what the hell is going on
There is this girl I had a crush on but I said to myself I won't care about her anymore. But here I am, about to ask a question.
Girl is in a similar situation, she's basically madly in love with her ex, always hovering around him when she gets the chance. I am pretty sure she has realized by now that he doesn't love her anymore, since he told her that + he doesn't want to date her anymore, which was also stated by him at least once.
Last week, after a night of drinking, she called our mutual friend, sobbing, stating that her ex clearly doesn't care about her anymore. Still, she tries to be with him at every possible opportunity. Guy hangs around her too so I am not even fully able to comprehend the situation. I tried to distance myself from her, since we were just on friendly terms, but we used to talk about personal stuff. Is there a way to ask her, or maybe suggest, in a non passive aggresive way, when is she going to stop wasting time on her ex/that she should stop wasting time on her ex? I am well aware that I should probably just leave it be, but this seems like a win-win scenario. She will either do something about it or she will completely cut off ties with me, that would be probably the best outcome for me too (even though I might not get invited to some events organised by mutual friends anymore).
I make too much jizz
New phone, sometimes I miss. >>16884164
Feelings aren't an on/off switch. Every distraction helps though. Give it time. It might never go away, but it at least becomes bearable.
>Feelings aren't an on/off switch. Every distraction helps though. Give it time. It might never go away, but it at least becomes bearable
it just hurts a lot right now. I wish I could just end them.
I'm very self conscious about my eyes.
I have alternating esotropia. Basically I can't see out of both eyes at once (true monocular vision) and can switch between which eye is "on". The off eye will be slightly crooked, but it's less pronounced when I use my left eye. Because of this I find it hard to look people in the face.
Here's a photo to illustrate.
Is this worse than wearing an eyepatch? What is more weird to a woman: guy wearing an eyepatch or guy with fucked up eyes?
Is there a difference between attraction and sexual attraction?
I'm very interested in this girl who works across the street from where I work. She's soft spoken, polite, dresses very modestly, and she's a little shy. The thing is that I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever. She's very attractive aesthetically, but not once do lascivious thoughts cross my mind when I think of her.
Other women I've crushed over in my life usually have some sexual thoughts sprinkled in, but not for her. Despite this, I'm crushing on her tenfold what I would others.
Is this normal?
How do I sleep with a hippie girl? She's your standard college graduate who is super SJW. Problem is I'm very right-winged. However, I'm going to her place on Saturday to just drink and hang out. How do I get it in? What do women like this find attractive?
>attraction vs sexual attraction
Think cute vs sexy. They can coexist, but they're not the same thing. You wouldn't be sexually attracted to a teddy bear, unless your fetish is really weird. And you wouldn't usually find a big ass cute. Either way, it's perfectly normal to have one and not the other.
It's a long one. But this is why. She's afraid she will hurt me. She said I'm too important to her in her life. And she wouldn't be able to bare it if she hurt me emotionally.
"No. Believe me. I would not to be like that. But I am that kind of person who is full of enthusiasm at first. Then, When she gets used, she gets tired and wants to change. It is handy to have someone who loves you, who gives you attention. it is convenient to have many. So when you get tired of one, you can change. I speak good of others, say many beautiful things. But then, in fact, before there's me and my needs. Then, if there is time, there are others. My parents know this. I've always been a bit 'selfish. That's why I do not want relationships. I'd take advantage of it only. And friends ... well, I have several friends, but "at the right distance." The only one who knows how I am, is my friend in Vienna;) I do not know why I am so. Maybe because I do not feel happy, and I feel that I miss so many things. And you know, when you're not happy with yourself, you are not able to be happy even with others. Perhaps this is the reason. Because when I'm happy, my god, I feel I could lift the whole world for all of you! But who knows. Maybe it is so. Maybe not. I do not know."
So if you're 21 and still with your parents, it's probably a pretty good idea to just not date someone am I correct? I feel like the only girls I could date are the ones who also still live at home.
Oh well moving out when I can anyways
I don't know the answer to your question. But I'm 25 and live at my moms house. I have a good paying job and could definitely afford to buy my own house. But I choose not to right now. I think I'm going to wait a few more years and just save money
>21 and still with your parents
This isn't the 80s. Being able to move out of your parent's house early and live on your own is getting harder and harder. No shame in it.
>I feel like the only girls I can date are the ones who also live at home
I don't think this comes up as much as you think it does.
not really a big deal. you're only 21. most girls your age are still in college or still living at home anyway. if she doesn't, you can go to her place, and it's ideal. i'm 24 and haven't moved out yet, though i have a job and savings. i just go to my boyfriend's place all the time.
I think it could be that. She had a panic attack one time before and she called me while she was experiencing it. I spent 30minutes on the phone doing breathing excerises to help her calm down
There's a difference in anxiety and anxiety disorder, and hers may be more severe or advanced than yours. You can still be there when she needs you, but a relationship in that state is virtually impossible for her, and she will need professional help if she ever hopes to have one. You're out of luck here.
I was a texting a girl fairly late last night. She said we'll talk more tomorrow. I said I would look forward to it.
The thing is, I'm always the one starting conversations.
Since she said she'd like to talk tomorrow, should I wait for her to say something this time? Does it matter?
Girlfriend and I mutually broke up about a week ago. We had some compatibility issues so we decided we should break up but stay friends. She was asking me about how it's going datewise and I said "nah, not interested in anything new" and she was like "oh well lots of guys have already hit me up lol"
It's not even jealousy I'm feeling right now, I just feel kind of insignificant. Maybe she moves on quickly I don't know, I kinda regret staying friends, I don't want to hear about this stuff.
Should I go no contact? It really hurts to delete and block her contact but maybe it's for the best.
Can't have both, man. Doesn't work like that. But hell, I got schizophrenia and depression, so I'm no expert on feelings, but I have seen the way it crushes men. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Like I said before, just give it time, man. Bad things happen to good people. It isn't fair, it isn't right, it's the worst thing in the world to watch happen, but there's nothing you, I or anyone else can do about it.
What? "The only thing wrong with her is that I'm not atttracted to her"? What? Dude. You're allowed to want to have a girlfriend you genuinely want to fuck, this isn't shallow and it also isn't rocket science. The whole fucking distinction between a buddy and a girlfriend is whether you want to rail her, if you don't she's great friend material.
Did you watch the Care Bears too much as a kid or something?
What can you do? Be there for her. Ride out the pain. Get used to that horrible wrench in your heart, because it's not going anywhere. It's never going to leave. You just learn to ignore it. You can't get rid of your feelings, and you shouldn't try. They're there for a reason, aren't they? As long as you love her you'll feel them. Do you want to stop loving her? If yes, I suggest you cut your losses where you are right now and stop talking to her unless she really needs it. But you don't want that. You still like her, and you don't want to because it hurts wanting to be more than a friend, right? The two are inextricably linked. It's an important part of your relationship. Whether you started off liking her or you grew to, it will always be there. You'll always feel it. You think you can separate the two? No one can give you advice on how to do that but you. To be honest I don't think you can, but I don't know your life. So which will it be? Will you cut her out to save yourself from your own suffering? Will you bear the pain of always being close to her, wanting to be with her, but never being able to? Or will you somehow Forge your own way between the two? None of them will be easy. But your original question, how do you stop feeling....... You don't.
Talking to guy and one day he is showering me with affection and we're having a good conversation then the next he's not responsive
I have a feeling he's just bored and not actually interested in anything
Hes probably having a bad day. Or maybe busy. Girl is texting me right now, and I can tell I'm not very responsive in my messages. I'm not doing it on purpose. Just, I am alittle upset over something at the moment. So I just can't engage in the conversation
Hi guys! Any help and any replies would be so appreciated, I feel alone and embarrassed! P-in-V sex has always been hurtful for me, especially as my ex was 9 inches and very thick - we never had successful intercourse in our two years of dating, I hadn't had sex before. Even putting up a finger (I'm petite with tiny hands) or a tampon would be uncomfortable or even painful. Had sex with a few different guys afterwards who were smaller, but had to stop every time but once because it hurt - it wasn't enjoyable, but I just wanted to get it over with.
I then started dating a new guy, 10 years older than me, didn't tell him about my situation ("hey, my ex had a HUGE dick, so I was a virgin for a long time and I still can't have enjoyable intercourse, new lover!"). However, although his dick is normal (a bit over medium and completely perfect), it went so much better than usually. I had my period the first time, and it has gone relatively well since and actually feels nice! However I'm clueless about sex and still have to stop sometimes because it hurts, but I think it's embarrassing to explain I'm horribly inexperienced and have had these problems (I'm 20). I ESPECIALLY don't want it to sound like it's been a problem because the other guys were larger than him (which is only the case with my ex and I much prefer this guy's dick which is perfect and amazing). Do I tell him? How do I go about this?
Also needing some tips. I have no idea how to ride a guy. He says I do it a bit oddly, like side-to-side instead of up and down, and it's not very enjoyable. But I know a girl on top is a big turn on for him and enjoyable for many women. Any tips? Any instruction guide?
Also would it be hot to suck off a guy, then tell him how wet he made you, ride him a bit and then go back to the BJ and let him finish in your mouth? Or would it be weird?
I AM CLUELESS
I'm a dude, so I can't help you with the bag stuff, but you could just bring it up since you said you had to stop sometimes because it hurts. Just leave out the parts where your ex had a bigger dick than him and discuss your problem and the fact that it's painful. Make it abundantly clear that you still want to try though. Maybe invest in some lube.
>I think it's embarrassing to explain I'm horribly inexperienced and have had these problems
Today I learned girls literally have no idea how men think. I always heard it was the other way around, but Christ. This is like the opposite of correct.
Okay check this one out super carefully: Men. Prefer. Inexperienced. Girlfriends. You get skills from practice, okay? They imply your girlfriend's been around the block a few times. This is not attractive. In other words, don't be embarrassed to admit you're horribly inexperienced in general. Specifically, he doesn't want to hurt you, so just tell him you need his help to figure out how to make it hurt less, or whatever.
As for the sex tips in general, just ask him to teach you. I can't even envision the guy who gets put off by his girlfriend asking him sweetly to teach her how to fuck well. My brain short-circuits when I try.
TL;DR nut up and say it, nothing bad will happen.
>Well I'm officially done with girls.
That's jumping the gun a little, no? Remember that this had little to do with you. Not your fault she has anxiety. Not your fault she can't handle a relationship. Not your fault she likes you too. This doesn't happen as often as you think, and in all likelihood your next potential relationship will not have the same pitfalls as this one. Nit saying it won't have any pitfalls whatsoever, all relationships have those. Next time, however, they'll be up to YOU.
Thanks for your reply! Yeah, he must think it's a bit weird that I stop and I might not enjoy the sex, which isn't the case, and I told him it just hurts sometimes, don't know if I should elaborate. And will definitely not include that my ex had a bigger dick, like I'm sure 90% of women would prefer his and I think his size is perfect, but I guess it would feel emasculating to mention it, so I won't!
We do have some lube that we usually use for anal (woo for the first time since I started dating at 16 that I can experiment sexually!), and I usually do get really wet. I think the pain might have been a psychological thing that made me tighten up to an extreme degree (I haven't been abused or anything but I heard some girls experience it), my gyno said there was no problem physically, but I'll try. Again thanks!!
no, i think I'm just done. "One and done" as they say it. I'm not generally a emotional person. My friends have called me emotionless. But this girl caused me to actually experience emotions. And it was just easier not having them all together
>I think the pain might have been a psychological thing that made me tighten up to an extreme degree (I haven't been abused or anything but I heard some girls experience it)
You don't have to have been abused, it can be just nervosity. Plus if it hurts one time, you expect it to hurt the next time so you tense up and your muscles clench, and guess what? It hurts. It's a self-reinforcing thing.
Haha, well I'm not all girls, but I am a bit clueless and inexperienced. I do have female friends who have been dumped for being virgins, though!!! At 18 years old by guys the same age. Those guys were huge assholes and apparently only after sex, but it made me so nervous. Especially because this guy is a lot older and more experienced than me, I thought it might made me seem very young and be a complete turn-off.
Your comment made me very happy and made me relax, so I really appreciate it, thank you for that. I told him I've only been with my ex, which I guess is a lie, but we did a bit of oral.
I'll have a few drinks, tell him the truth and that I do want to have sex with him (A LOT) but I just need a bit of directions and him to tell me if I do anything wrong/what I could do better. I did it when I gave him a BJ, I was clueless at first but when he guided me, he came so much faster! So I guess you're right. Thank you so much, I felt really alone and embarrassed about this, especially as I have many younger friends who are VERY experienced and I hear so often than guys prefer experienced girls. So thank you :)
Thank you, it makes sense, I researched it in my own language (am not American) and there's not a lot of information about it, so it seemed like I was the only girl that felt this way apart from rape and molestation victims, which made me freak out and feel so weird!!!
Yeah I was 16 when I got together with my first BF, he was pretty rough and tried to jam it in, it hurt so much. I wanted to do it and was clueless and thought it was supposed to hurt, so I tried many many times, and I think it might fucked up my body and nerves for a while. Thank you for your reply!!
Can I hook up with a girl if I live with my mom.
Like is it too much to ask to go to her place. Im 24 so I do go to a few college parties, am I too old to go to girls dorms there? Im super thirsty right now and dont know how to close the deal
1) For some, depends on the girl and the situation. I'm in a group chat with 3 girls, me and my friend are currently dating and having great sex, we talk about it CONSTANTLY and discuss sex, experiences, porn, positions etc all the time. 1 girl is a virgin and not very interested in sex, she masturbates regularly but it isn't on her mind constantly. Third girl has been in a committed relationship for 3 years with the same partner, enjoys discussing it and thinks about it quite a lot, but not as much as a horny 16-year old guy, y'know? Depends so much on the girl and her sex drive and situation. Some girls are complete horn dogs, and some guys don't think about it all that much.
2) Well, I could never imagine someone prioritizing muscles over personality, but I guess it depends on what you want out of the relationship. If you want a fuckbuddy, some guy with a nice body might be enough to satisfy you, as long as he's a great lay. If you want a long-term partner, personality and a sense of humour is definitively 100x more important. But you still have to be attracted to the guy, like I doubt any of my friends would casually fuck a guy with a nice body if he had a crappy personality. Muscles don't do shit for me though, not that I'm into chubby guys, I had a BF with a sixpack and it did nothing for me sexually, I love when I cuddle a guy with a bit of meat on his body, nothing is sexier. Washboard abs are even a turn off for me (and I'm not fat or anything lel, I also do like when a guy is strong enough to lift me up, throw me around etc but I'm very petite, so it doesn't take much).
1. Nope, I'm pretty high libido generally but my libido can crash sometimes to where I don't even think about sex. I've talked extensively about sex with my girlfriends and some of them can honestly take it or leave it. I know a few who've never had an orgasm and some who think its a chore. I'm not trying to be a contrarian to the other ladies that responded either.
If you scare me or bore me you aren't putting anything in any of my holes
Well your mom wouldn't hesitate to get some dick while you're in the house. Anyways, well if you're really that against it
There's a solid chance the girl has a bed she sleeps in, inquire if thats a possibility.
Get some money and get a hotel. although beware they'll either feel like a hooker, think you're going to go ted bundy on their ass, or they'll be perfectly fine with it
Want a girls opinion on this
So prom is coming and I've asked a girl to go with me as a friend (posters, flowers, creative asking, the whole shebang). She said yes and we're going to prom. However, another guy from a different school (so different date for prom) asked her (over chat, no posters or flowers or even no creative asking which she told me she really likes and wants) and she said yes to him. So she'll be going to two different proms on different dates with different dates. I just feel a bit disappointed and a bit jealous I suppose. I'm not sure if I like her in that way but I might, I don't know my feelings. It's funny, bc another girl from another school asked me to their prom too but I said no bc I didn't want to be unfair to the date from my schoo. What do you think ? Do you guys think I like her? Do I have a right to be jealous / a bit bothered?
wait you're 24 years old and you're using phrases like "My mom would rage"
Maybe a more important thing to ponder aside from "your thirst", is where exactly you are in life, and where a 24 year old man should be. In a short 6 years you'll be 30 please for your sake let that sink in.
Context. I graduated college and had a great cs job I quit to move back home because my mom is dying of stage 4 breast cancer. Im horny but I still respect my mother enough not to bring women to her house.
okay well that changes practically everything, my bad for being rude and my condolences on your mother.
Yeah, just see if their place is good, thats your only option really. It could be fun sneaking into a dorm, good story to tell kinky af
Both sexes are equally as noncomittal.
The only difference is that guys sometimes brag to their friends about seeing/banging multiple chicks at once or one night stands because it's seen as impressive among dudebros, whereas women who engage in the same type of behavoir don't either don't actually sleep with all the guys their seeing or if they do they don't brag about it because it's generally not seen as impressive or looked down upon for them.