I'm finally getting a girlfriend for the first time in my life in my 20s
what can I do to be the best boyfriend I can be for her?
she's a quiet, shy, introverted person
Don't rush anything. If she's an introvert, don't force her to do anything and don't only do things you want to do. That stuff comes later on. Try to just spend time with her and get to know each other. Find out what she likes and get to know her. This is the time that you take to grow in each other.
Don't be a jealous boyfriend.
Don't be passive aggressive.
Don't be overly clingy.
Don't keep score (i.e. doing nice things for her expecting things in return).
Those are the most common pathetic boyfriend behaviours, especially among 'nice' guys. I've been through all of them before and it's easy to fall into them without noticing. If you don't do those things, and just make your time together fun and enjoyable, then you're already ahead of most boyfriends.
Do not force yourself to be something you're not, because putting on a mask can be very tiresome and you'll eventually quit it. Then she'll say you changed and be disappointed. So be nothing but your most honest self.
You're required by law to fuck up your first time. Learn through experience like everyone else. After you two inevitably break up use that as a learning experience for your next one.
Don't be a pussy
Focus on you not her
There is no bank for good deeds so there's no forcing them.
Don't be a pussy
If no pussy go get it else where. Break up if you want or cheat neither matters as long as your cool with it.but you should break up.
She'll try to change you just say a firm no.
>> babe don't work out today stay and let's fuck.
Naw I gots to work out I'll fuck you after.
Don't be a pussy.
Talk to her. Communication is key.
For you to be good to her she's got to earn it.
You probably like her more than herself.so she's got to work for love. She's got to work not you she does again I keep repeating this she's got to work.
Daww you're exactly like my boyfriend and me. I bet you guys will be very happy. Just showing desire to put forth effort into yourself and your relationship is huge.
Here are some other tips that I usually post as general relationship advice:
Everyone has physical, mental, and emotional needs. A compatible partnership mutually satisfies all three of them. A life partner will be your best friend, you'll love them as much as family, and they will be incredibly sexy to you.
Healthy relationships are between people who are happy single but happier together.
A relationship shouldn't be excruciatingly hard, stressful, or unenjoyable, but it does take constant and consistent work and effort. In the end, your partner should be taking away stress and adding happiness in your life, not the opposite.
Opposites may attract, but like lasts. People who are more similar tend to be more compatible.
People can only change themselves, for themselves, by themselves.
Don't get into a relationship with someone only to then try to change them.
Build your relationship upon the five pillars of trust, honesty, openness, communication, and respect (this means respect for yourself too!)
Talk about EVERYTHING. Get to know each other as fully and completely as possible.
There is no excuse for cheating. Stay far away from people who aren't faithful. Be faithful yourself.
If a problem arises, communicate it calmly and openly, work together to find a compromise that satisfies both parties. (If that's not possible, acknowledge that you two are incompatible and part ways maturely)
Arguments do not have to (and, in my opinion, should not) be part of a relationship. You can have calm and productive discussions by
-avoiding criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling
-avoiding hyperbolic statements (always, never, every time, ect.)
-using "I feel" statements
-avoiding raising your voice, interrupting, being rude, disrespectful, insulting, or overly emotional
-if you or your partner are too emotional at the moment to have a calm discussion, tell each other this and take time alone until you are ready
Don't go to bed upset. Be able to genuinely tell your partner you love them before you say goodnight.
Take things slowly. Do not ever rush into things like moving in or marriage, or even sex.
Date seriously for at least three years before you consider marriage.
There is a chance of pregnancy every time you have sex. Do your very best to reduce your risk as much as possible, but be prepared for pregnancy. If you aren't ready to be in the position to deal with that, then you aren't ready to have sex.
don't worry about it you are on easy mode and men put up with your shit because you have vagina. men will still date you even if you are insecure,jealous or whatever defect you have. heck you can even cheat and you cuck boyfriend will still forgive you.
>what can I do to be the best boyfriend I can be for her?
build a physique like this, fuck her regularly (and well), whenever she gets upset make her a seasoned chicken salad and then fuck her some more
enjoy your healthy 5+ year relationship
Nah, we're good for each other. My wife has a great deal of similar interests/goals to myself. We operate well as a couple and as friends. We like to watch football on the weekends, play video games together, but we still have individual interests too. I enjoy my job and working on cars, she enjoys her job and likes to bake/cook/fuck around with food.
It's really nice waking up every morning to her and knowing that we're there for each other.
>Nah, we're good for each other.
>Meanwhile, at OP's house while he's away at work