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No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
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My professor flirts with me to the point that two friends/classmates even pointed it out to me after we left his office hours a couple weeks ago. He's young, very early thirties, and I'm a 25 year old grad student. No he's not my advisor, he's just a professor for one of my classes. It's weird though. I actually do like him a lot but this sounds like a fucking recipe for disaster. I'm not particularly drawn to him because he's an expert in my field or anything. It's actually the opposite. His class is required but not one of my interests. Anyway, I'm not really sure how to proceed. If I give him the cold shoulder, he'll stop helping me in office hours and those are more valuable than lecture because it's almost like one-on-one or small group tutoring. On the other hand, I do really like him and feel inclined to flirt back because we get along so well in a personal sense and he's not much older than me, but I fear I'll catch feelings (or worse, he will) and that will be a shitshow.
Any tips, /adv/? For background, he's one of those unnecessarily snarky nerds who is always throwing around sci fi and vidya references, even in a room full of normies, but for some reason I find him incredibly charming and I guess we have enough of the same interests that I always get his references, which I'm assuming is what made him notice me in the first place.
>Want to get pussy
>Fear of the Dark - Iron Maiden.mp3
>Afraid of getting beaten up
>afraid of getting stabbed by bush people
>afraid of bears
>nightlife became more dangerous to me
>not a lot of friends to hang out with
>most of my friends already have BF's/GF's
>try finding girls during daylight times
>sit in the cafe drinking coffee, expect a girl to come up to me
>tfw an unknown force prevents me from building my confidence stats
>mfw I'm scared of dating
Any one else been in a situation like this?
Any advice and tips and hints and stuff to give 'n' share?
A heterosexual man who dislikes every other penis except his own is more gay than a homosexual man who dislikes any and all vaginas.
That's what that anon basically meant, I think.
I don't see how. All they'll do is talk to him and possibly give him a warning. It'll stop him from making passes at you. It might come back to bite you (and him) in the ass if someone else reports him and it turns out you've received preferential treatment. If you've encouraged him, then it might mean that the higher-ups might be inclined to do something that'll make everything even worse for you, like lower your grade in that class. And I mean, other than talking to him yourself, what else is there you can do?
Does it make me a shitty person to want to avoid seeing someone today on account that they hurt me emotionally? I just want to know from my friends that this person squirmed and worried over my well-being.
Anon just tell him to wait with that stuff until after the course is done. If you're interested. It's way better because he will like you more and he probably understands that it's awkward.
(mostly) reformed shut in here. So when I meet a gal she'll often asked me about my history and I've never really knew how to address that, so I try to avoid the topic.
Basically after 16 my social circle fractured and I just distanced myself and focused on nonsense like MMO's. This kind of continued on for a while after I graduated, and most of my significant experiences have been in the past couple of years when I started forcing myself to leave my comfort zone.
Anyone been in a similar position? Kind of lost on how to proceed.
>Beta male dancing
>gets laughed at, shits and pisses his pants, and looks like a retard
>Alpha male dancing
>Cool 'n' smooth, good rhythm, later fucks club sluts in the VIP room, then gets bankrupt from child support later that year
I'm a girl. Honestly, it depends.
In general, no. I think of sex as the physical expression of an emotional and mental connection. He clearly wouldn't think of it in the same way. I wouldn't give myself to a person who feels the same way I do about love, relationships, sex and feelings.
If he had 40+ partners BUT he changed his views, I'd be really careful but I'd eventually be okay with it. But, like, he would need to not have had casual sex for a while, not be too pushy, respect me, and wait a LOT before he gets some sex.
Depends on the age. Just calculate it. If she had 1 sexual partner per quarter of year and is 25 and got sexual active at maybe 15 then it just doesnt seem to be that big of an issue. Im pretty sure sooner or later she/he will leave you but eventually most people settle down at some point and maybe you are the lucky one that she/he settles down with, so i dont really see a problem.
I have the tendency to either be extremely compassionate and caring or extremely flirty and snarky. They're just moods I'm in, and I don't know how to switch between them consciously.
When I show care for this girl friend I'm interested in, she seems to just dismiss and grow bored with me. Everything seems to hint at that she hates me if I'm like that. Yet when I'm in that mood where I don't give a fuck, she's all over me and goes along with everything I say and do.
What should I do with this? Should I just avoid her from now on when I'm in the wrong mood? I can't do better when I'm like that, and it's painful when I have to witness that partial rejection.
I'm really baffled right now..
I meet girl, we become friends, feelings develop. I ask her out she says "anon, I really like you. But after my last breakup I'm not looking for another boyfriend". Ohk I respect that. We stay friends but if elevates to above friend level. she tells me how much she cares about me. Sends me sweet voice messages while I'm sleeping so I'll hear them when I wake up. says how she wants to kiss me and cuddle, that I make her feel so safe. Everything is great. Well today she sent me a message saying she is going to the Festival of Colors this summer. So I said "that's great! Are you going with your friend *****?" She said "no, I'm going to go with my future boyfriend" so I said "oh ok! Let me know the dates so I can buy my ticket ;) "
No reply in 5 hours. And she's read it.
Can you explain this to me? I can't be in this delusion that she actually likes me. I mean, she has gone way out of her way for me in the past. And spent a lot of money on me when she didn't need to. She tells me I make her feel so protected and same. And I have been a positive energy in her life. But then she tells me this. I don't understand.... And if she is means someone else.. I'm going to be very, very hurt.
Sorry for your loss. You're nothing more than her emotional puppet.
This happens constantly, and guys can't seem to figure it out, ever.
If a girl says she doesn't wanna date you, and keeps you around as a "friend", then continue to 'deepen' your relationship by dumping all of her problems on you, you've become too valuable for her to risk a relationship. She doesn't want to lose you in the event the relationship goes south, so she keeps you on the side.
That's what you get for being an beta orbiter, grow some spine and don't talk to that bitch again, she used you as an emotional tampon because of her break up, now that she is healed she is going after a man that she wants to actually fuck, learn from this and never let this happen again
>If I love a person
And how about if you have a realistic impression of the developed world, where the overwhelming majority of couples will get intimate long before love enters the equation?
Let me put it another way:
>Your date stops answering your messages after several dates with no physical action. What do you do?
I never had sex with someone I didn't care about and loved. So, yeah, a small cock wouldn't be a deal breaker. It's just a cock. There is so much you can do in bed, even without a cock.
If I was looking for a hook up, I don't know, maybe I'd care. Wouldn't laugh for sure, I'm not a bitch - maybe just have some oral sex and leave, but I don't know.
Where do I meet girls who don't care about money?
I sold my company a few months ago. It's not much, but it's a lot for me coming from a poor family. I got around $370,000 after taxes to be distributed in four equal payments by the end of 2016.
I find myself in the position where this money isn't making me happy. My whole life I've focused on school and work, and at 25 years old I find myself with very few friends, none of which I really connect with on a personal level. My friends are the kind of friends I hang out with, get invited to weddings, etc, but none of them I could realistically talk about my depression or anything intimate.
I want to meet women but I don't think I could keep my small wealth a secret. And even if I was upfront about it, how would I know they like me for me and not just a meal ticket? I want to meet a woman who is happy to be with me broke or with this money.
Yes, woman or man. It demonstrates a lack of confidence or care. That's not to say people won't accept it anyway.
Girls are interested in money so far as to ensure their well-being. The more money a man has, the safer she will feel in the end.
Of course, there are gold diggers and shallow women out there, but in general financial stability is a huge matter. If you can hardly take care of yourself, financially, you won't come off as a very attractive choice. Unless you have something else to offer that makes up for it.
and what if we talked in person before, but its hard to find ways to meet her face to face.
whats better, ask her out on facebook, casually start talking to her on facebook, or ignore that, and maybe i can find a way, to meet her randomly, or just forget it.
there was a girl before, that was almost the same condition, and asked her out on facebook, but it took her 1 month to reject me, kinda sad.
How do I know if a girl likes me or not?
Because I think that I am starting to like this one girl, and I don't really know what to do. I enjoy hanging out with her, and she is fun to be around. I haven't had this sort of feelings in nearly over a decade and I am confus.
It reminds me of that episode from HIMYM.
Every one had someone on their "hook" just in case. You may do things kind of "intimate" with that person but it never goes further.
"I can't be with you... for now"
and it keeps going again and again.
You should show them that you really care. You will have to break through and start talking to them in the real life anyway so you can treat it like a challenge getting you out of the comfort zone and thus making you more confident. If you feel like the facebook would be a much more convenient option then maybe just ask them if you could get a chance to meet and talk sometime and then elaborate and ask them out seriously when you meet. This doesn't necessarily make a big difference to anyone but to me it would. If you want to spend your time with someone for real, start real.
I am in love with a friend of mine, she knows I really care about her but I don't think she knows I love her like that. Over the course of 4 days during valentines we would have sex, cuddle, talk, and have sex again. How would I find out if it was more than a 4 day fling without risking losing her entirely?
Girls (Guys can answer too, I suppose)
How do you let someone know you're not interested in them?
Specifically, the kind of things you do or say which mean 'take the hint, I'm not interested'
I've had a lot of girls just disappear and stop talking to me but I don't know if there is anything I should notice before that happens.
Not a girl here but I am pretty sure if a woman decides to have sex with you, she must be taking a longer term relationship into account.
She probably is wondering the same at the moment, and with you treating this as an adventure being much more probable, just go for it and act like you are dating. If she doesn't explicitly tell you that she won't date you, then she had a relationship in mind from the very start.
well, i dont have problem to talk with girls in real life, last time we talked 1.5 hour straight when we went with the train to the college.
i just find it hard to find time, when i can find meet her, without asking her out, thats all.
so i got 3 options:
-i ask her out on facebook
-casually start talking to her on facebook
-wait for that random moment, when we meet and talk to her and ask her out.
>I am pretty sure if a woman decides to have sex with you, she must be taking a longer term relationship into account
Not always the case. Plenty of women have sex with men even though they don't want a long term relationship with them
Its pretty easy to hide your wealth if you have a modest vehicle, no toys(ski-doos/quads/boat). I drive an old truck and live as someone's roommate and I'm very well off. Girls are suspicious I have money, one even flat out asked me, I told her thats an awfully personal question.
Entirely depends on the individual girl. Some girls will be very obvious (Ignore your existence entirely), while others do not wish to come off as a bitch, and will try and deal with you in a more 'gentle' manner, usually by leading you on infinitely (Because otherwise would be cruel).
Common examples include, but are not limited to;
"You're a great guy, but I'm not ready for a relationship right now."
"Sorry, maybe we could be friends, for now?"
"I have a boyfriend" (Clearest case of zero interest)
"You're a sweet guy, I consider you my best friend ever." (Too valuable to risk losing over a relationship/friendzone)
A girl who wasn't interested last year suddenly matched with me and contacted me right away on Tinder.
Couldn't join me to the party I was at but agreed to come to my next proposal.
Could she have changed her mind about me? Does that happen?
I also proposed to go to a party at my friend's house this week-end and she told me she was spending the week-end with her parents. No other proposal on her side or mine since.
Any ideas on what to do/propose next?
Lots of undisclosed variables here.
Was she in a relationship with someone else the first time around? If so, did she break.
How much history do you share? Would she even remember you?
Are you attractive? (Gauge)
Last, but not least, what do you expect to get out of this 'reunion'? Sex? Romance?
Not that guy but I have a question.
What do if that girl is the one who now comes to talk to you, even though you have no friends or anything in common and the very reason why you talked is that you were interested in her?
I'm asking because I dropped the whole thing with a girl who said she was lost right now and didn't want to give me false hopes, and then she was the one who came talking to me. I thought she would just cut any contact and expect me to move on, as I did.
It is still impossible to get a date with her (even ask her on things I'm already doing), as I noticed since I tried two times after that and gave up. (three times is my utmost maximum).
Has anyone here ever had a guy piss in their vagina? My girlfriend wants me to do this but not only is it physically difficult but I'm not so sure of it. I can't imagine it feeling good.
Nothing. Two offers is more than enough. I'm not saying that like "bitches ain't shit" or anything. Just think about it: you keep inviting her into your life. You go to parties and she can't come. You hang out with your friend and she can't come. Let's pretend I wave a magic wand and now she's your girlfriend. Does that sound like a happy relationship to you? You keep having a life and she can't come.
It's nothing personal. She's just not a good match. She doesn't offer you even the most basic part of a relationship. The point of dating is to learn this kind of stuff. You learned it even before your first date. Be happy that you found out before wasting your time.
You have to ask yourself what it is you want out of a relationship, platonic or romantic, with this person. Are you only interested in her friendship? If so, stick around her. If you want more and she can't provide it, you move on.
Don't act like you owe her anything, because you don't. You're your own person, and living your life takes priority, always. If she thinks you're a dick because of it, that's her problem.
Chances are you were a source of stress relief for her, and your sudden vanishing left her with a sudden hole you used to fill. She's chasing you in the hopes she can lure you back in.
Urine is sterile, there's no risk. But, I hear peeing with a hard-on is difficult.
>Was she in a relationship with someone else the first time around? If so, did she break.
She wasn't. Last year she was part of a group where people kinda fucked with each other. (I discovered that later on). When talking and catching up she told me she stopped going out every night like last year because her grades suffered from it.
>How much history do you share? Would she even remember you?
I met her through a friend, and when i made my interest known and started talking to her more, she told our mutual friend that I was "cute but too nice". Last time I saw her was on he rbirthday in a bar. (I was there to join our mutual friend, not for the birthday.) The best friend of that girl insisted that I went to see her and wish her a happy birthday, that it would make her happy, but I didn't care anymore and I was busy anyway (the reason of my presence there).
I received the Tinder note yesterday, and she talked to me right away, asking how I've been, and talking to me for the rest of the evening.
>Are you attractive? (Gauge)
Well I guess that depends on the person's tastes. My exes would say yes and some girls would say no. I don't know about her precisely.
>Last, but not least, what do you expect to get out of this 'reunion'? Sex? Romance?
I'm moving away from town in a few months and she isn't the relationship type anyway.
I don't think so, I mean... the actual moment when you get serious about asking her out is alreay face to face so I would rather take it as I would take just talking face to face from the beginning.
Sounds like she may be interested in sex. I'd say be upfront about it. You're obviously not interested in any sort of relationship, so you may as well be 'beneficial' friends until you leave.
If nothing else, it would help you on her comment that you're "too nice".
An example of how hamfisted I could do things if left alone :
>"So I realize I didn't even ask you how come you found me on Tinder. You horny? "
This is not something I would normally say. This is my vision of someone who isn't "too nice".
but it will be obvious, she will know from that point, that if i ask her to meet in face, i want something, so in my eyes the two things equals, but maybe it depends on the girl, how she look at it, i dont know.
Also second question, that might mean nothing, but i ask it anyway:
If she mentioned during our last talk, that she hates people and how many man approached her during the past, and how she stood against them, and she felt it that everybody just approached her, because she was a "fresh meat", or something like this.
Is that got any message towards me, maybe like this: "you shouldnt approach me", or she is just proud of that and got no meaning at all.
The next time she makes idle chatter, ask her out for coffee or some other cookie-cutter coax. If she's interested in you enough, she'll comply. Then, at the given time, you can narrow in on her. The fact that it will be done in person makes it harder for her to dodge.
If she doesn't accept, tell her you aren't interested in idle chatter, and unless she had something in mind, you're not interested. It'll force her to either come up with some half-assed reason (that you may use as you see fit) or she will be 'whatever' and it will be the end of it.
And, yes, inviting her out to coffee is the better move, and the least you can do if you're going to fuck her later anyway.
(If you're in need of a killer that will put her 'on the spot' so to speak, straight up ask her why she is all of the sudden so interested in you, since she said you were 'too nice'. Her answer will almost guaranteed tell you whether or not she is interested in sex, or more asinine bullshit.)
Is just going to see a movie together enough to be considered a date though?
I have done the same thing with many of my other friends too, and I wouldn't consider them to have been "dates". This was the first time I went to see a movie with a female friend though.
I do intend to keep hanging out with her, but I don't really know her that well yet. We have known her only for few weeks after all.
This is the first time in years I have felt anything remotely like this towards anyone.
Yes, that's a date if you intend on being romantically involved with someone. Make it clear you want to date her. Ask her out more. Make an effort to get to know her and show it. Good luck. :)
I invited a lady friend to my place for our second date. I made a wonderful dinner. For appetizer, I had a general antipasto platter but added my own things to it. One thing I like to spread on bread is:
- 100g sundried tomatoes
- 15g roasted peanuts (optional)
- 2tbsp olive oil
- small knob of butter, not melted
- 1/4 crushed garlic
- 1/3 teaspoon grated ginger (optional)
- 1 or 2 olives, no pits, whole
- salt and pepper
- blended so it's a chunky paste
She loved this in particular so I made her a jar to bring home for her family. A friend of mine says this is something a friend would do, not someone who is romantically interested in you. He said what I should have done is tease her and say she can have it next time she's over.
I don't get it, honestly. I was being nice.
>Make it clear you want to date her. Ask her out more.
Easier said than done.
God damn why has this sort of shit have to make me feel so anxious and scared.
So folks I'm dating a women 6 years older than me and she's 30
Yesterday I found out she's dated men as old as 45 and while I didn't care at first my friends are disgusted by it.
Should I care?
Your friend is correct, but that doesn't mean you're stuck in a friendzone all of a sudden. But, it is hard to gauge your chances without more knowledge of your relationship with this person.
Yes, it is a date. Especially if you don't know each other all that well. When you're at the movies, make sure to pick a movie that isn't depressing or too philosophical. Either pick a typical action movie, or a sappy romance. Don't be afraid to exchange looks with her now and then. Gauge the territory, and if you see a chance, either put your hand around her and pull her a little closer, or try for a hand-hold. It's not a big deal if you fail either, but it would be a plus, and show her you are obviously interested.
Well, it's a bit late for that advice, as we already saw the movie (Deadpool). She seemed to like it thankfully, and we had pretty good discussion about it afterwards. I was also able to get to know her a bit better both before the movie and after it, by just chatting about stuff. Like where she had studied before, her interests etc.
This all is whole fucking new territory for me, and I am so damn scared (though I hope my anxiety doesn't show on the surface.)
Then why does she tell me how she wants to kiss me and cuddle? Why would a girl or even a guy for that matter tell another person they really want that, If they actually don't??
I just texted her something to know if she was interested in sex since he used Tinder (in the absolute sense, not with me specifically)
>"No I just saw you and matched you. I match everyone I know. I don't go on Tinder to date"
Do you care how fast I come as long as you're satisfied? I cum in two minutes, sometimes I cum without stimulation (from just eating a girl out or even just kissing). Say she orgasms multiple times, then I'm in and out in two minutes, is this okay?
Question for the guys:
I'm extremely pale which I don't mind in the winter but in the summer I hate it so I fake tan. It gives me a slightly tan look. Natural and not orange looking in my case.
Do you mind this or do you dislike the fact that it's fake despite the fact that it looks entirely natural?
Because in the real world, words mean nothing. Action speaks volumes, and it doesn't matter if she continues to tell you how much she 'needs' or 'desires' you, if she never makes a move.
She said that she wasn't interested in a relationship. Now, all of a sudden, she talks about a 'boyfriend'. You assume it is you, yet there's no guarantee. Being boyfriend & girlfriend isn't a decision made by one person.
Doesn't tell shit. Ask her out for coffee as I said earlier. If she is unwilling to even do that, she doesn't want you. In which case, you move on. Nothing gained, nothing lost.
Depends. I mean, if I am satisfied, it would imply I don't want or need any more action, so no?
Still, with that said, there's something about finishing together in each other's arms that can't be matched, and fulfills me in another sense than a mere orgasm or seven.
The most sensitive part of my body is my left foot. I got some kind of infection on that foot in 2009, and while the infection is gone, the skin is scarred and scaly yet feels A+ when itched. I take a pumice stone and scrub it from time to time and I can seriously ejaculate from it with little effort.
Would it weird a woman out if I asked her to rub that foot? I've been recently getting a sea salt scrub and scrubbing it, it feels divine. I'd love a woman to do this for me.
can it turn off a girl, if you like drastically different kind of music, like she like the pop, electro kind, and i more like the heavy music. It doesnt affect my clothing, or appearance.
Have you ever thought of wanting to switch sexes?
I know, I know, sex changes exist, but it's just a cosmetic feature in the absolute very end.
If you truly wanted to change your sex, you would have to do it on an atomic level completely and entirely, this is what I mean, but at the moment, a procedure like this is not available yet.
Yes but not because I actually want to be a man. I'd want to see what it's like to be one but not forever. I want to know how they think, their attraction to girls, what it's like to have a dick etc.
To both sexes of advice, do you usually cut contact with someone you no longer have feelings for or can you carry on with a friendly relationship.? Im in a situation where i want to get over my ex but she constantly contacts me making me think about her and think i still care deeply for her.
I did with my previous ex. great decision.
I sort of did with my last too, but we're still in the same school and see each other. The one time I talked to her again was because she was crying. I cheered her up and she started saying she was glad to talk to me, that she missed talking to me and wanted to do it more.
I told her that since she broke up she lost certain privileges.
No news since and I don't miss her.
You need your distance to heal.
Not a question for the opposite gender, but this thread is where everyone is always, so, guys: we're social beings, we think about girls they're pretty important we can't help it, but we also need to think of our goals with lots of determination. What do you guys think is the golden ratio in terms of level of importance for a 21 year old between thinking of ladies and pursuing your goals
Male here. 23. Goals first. And that's coming from someone who's constantly chasing someone. The older I get the more I realize that goals matter more. It's all about self realization, and actually achieving things.
EXACT same situation as you. Luckily I had two girls I missed deeply one I completely cut contact with and the other I still hangout with her as friends when ever she said she missed me even tried for a week to make it work again. I'm 100% over the one I cut contact with and still get so stressed out about the one who I still talked to (and that one broke up with me 2 years ago, and the one I'm over we broke up a year ago.) This little experiment pretty much proves you can't be friends with your ex, seeing as I was over her for a whole before we started hanging out and talking again.
Thanks man your input.is greatly appreciated, it hasn't been untill recently where I learned how true this is. As that weed smoking Rastafarian said, no woman no cry. I find things less complicated when I'm in the dental lab although it IS complicated work
Yeah it sucks but i usually cut contact but she is adamant about talking to me. I really dont know how to say fuck off without sounding hurt and mean. And the thing is she broke up with me
How do i act around my bf's friends? They are 4 guys that are really close and they do a lot of stuff together. I met my bf cause one of those friends is my best female friends brother. I knew them for about 2 years till my bf and i started dating. In those years, every one of his friends tried to make a move on me. Now it feels awkward. I'd like to be able to just relax around them cause they are a bunch of very neat guys. But now that i'm dating my bf it feels weird and i'm concerned that i might be too friendly with them. Especially since they all made it clear that they are/where interested in me at some point. How do i deal with this awkwardnes? I am afraid one might have catched some serious feels... Shit
Yeah I was the same. And she broke up with me as well. She was so fucking adament. I had to tell her so many times can't do it. The. Shed convince me again. Untill finally I'm like you know what? No, NEVER talk to me again. Apparently she's been trying to ha gout with all my friends recently but at least not me
Act as you normally would. The only considerations you need to make regarding the "awkwardness" are
1) don't hang out with or make conversation with any of them one-on-one and
2) tell your bf if they cross any lines.
I know the second one sounds tough because they're his friends, but you can't hide forever from learning the truth about your bf's loyalties. That's basically the whole upshot here. You need to stop wanting to hide away from potentially bad outcomes. The only thing that it accomplishes is to guarantee a bad outcome down the road. Learn to accept things that are outside of your control and just go on with your life.
Solid advice, thanks anon.
I'm also not sure if i should tell my bf about the moves they already tried or not. But so far i figured that those thinga happened before we started dating and thus isn't that relevant anymore. Problem is, i really like to talk with one of them. He's a shy and awkward neet, he has had a very tough childhood and i think he's holding up amazingly for the start he had. He's the one i suspect has catched a feel. And i really don't want to hurt him by being a bit more cold and distant, but i don't see a lot of other options... He's just not very stable and well, i have no idea how i could let him down easily
Moves from before dating are absolutely irrelevant. Never bring those up. Just act accordingly with the consideration that they did happen at some point.
You can talk to that guy while hanging out in groups. Hell just invite him to hang out with you and your bf. But while I understand the sympathy you feel for the him, think about the outcome if it goes wrong. Your bf will be upset that you set the scene, he'll be upset for getting his hopes up and you'll be doubly upset for disappointing two people. No. You make the decision today to come to grips with the idea that his social issues and his feelings are neither your fault nor your responsibility. This is exactly what I mean about stuff that's outside of your control. You live by that understanding now or you just suffer through it four times worse down the road.
At what point does a guy become clingy/pushy/generally annoying? I usually have a wait-and-see attitude, but I didn't want to miss my opportunity with this girl and now I'm afraid she might be getting a little bothered.
All we want is to be treated like a person equal to you. So, don't treat us like we're better than you (needy guy) or just a prop (alpha guy). Be confident in your own worth as a person and you'll be a worthy person to date.
For me, the best way to be approached is just, "Hey, I'm So-and-So," with a confident demeanor. No dumb come-ons or m'ladies or whatever. Just... as if I were an interesting person you might want to know.
There's no universal answer to this question. Basically, if I make it clear I'm not interested and he won't stop hitting on me. Your best bet is to just say you want to date her and deal with her answer.
Whenever he doesn't get that I don't appreciate his attentions.
If a guy flirts with me even if I don't, he's clingy and pushy and annoying. If a guy writes me every day when I never initiate and I am always the one ending conversations, it's clingy. If a guy gets mad if I don't reply to his texts, it's clingy. If a guy sends me 3-4 messges in a row, it's clingy.
>only like 3-4 friends
Doesn't matter at all.
>how much they post on social media
If it's A LOT, like addiction-level a lot, then it's a big turn-off. If it's little to none, that's a really good sign in my book. Balanced people are most attractive.
> small social circle
Perfectly fine. I'd rather be with someone with a small but solid, long lasting social circle than with a party guy full of friends.
>how much they post on social media
Turn offs: posts a lot of selfies, posts updates about whatever he does, posts a ton of things, posts ugly/stupid stuff
In general if someone doesn't post much and I do like the things they post, it might be a good sign.
I don't really use social media much, and I don't like posting personal things on them, so I wouldn't care. But if you date a girl who is obsessed with it, especially one of those who like posting relationship-related stuff on facebook/instagram/etc, it might be a problem.
Uh. It's a personal preference thing. I like really hairy guys, so I'm not sure anything short of full-on wolfman would be a turn-off for me. Other girls feel differently, though.
Few days later. It's weird to ask someone you just met on a date. She needs time to google all your social media accounts and find out you're not a serial killer.
I'm only half kidding.
I usually prefer if he puts some effort to get to know me/know what I like etc so I know it's not purely physical etc.
So a couple of days. But I prefer if he flirts a bit while he does so.
Just had sex and I queefed a lot. It was doggy, which always does that to me, but the guy was kind of rough and took it in and out a lot, so it was a million times worse. He didn't say anything but I was pretty embarrassed.
Men: Do guys know what queefs are?
Women: how do I prevent this?
>talked with girl this past Tuesday; I suggested that we get coffee sometime; she smiled and said yeah
>talked to her today and asked what all she's got going on this weekend
>said she has a lot of work tomorrow and Sunday
>asked about tonight and I think she said she was relatively free if I wanted to hang out
>I said that it depended on if she wanted to hang out or not
>at this point she notices kale or cauliflower and walks over to see what it was to buy time to think
>after the kale thing, she told me she isn't really looking for dating and/or romantic stuff just so I don't get the wrong idea
>I kinda paused but said it was cool and that I'd still like to hang if she wanted to
>after that she asked how I old I was; I said 22 and she nodded and said something about being able to drink
I'm pretty sure that she's about 24 so it makes sense that she'd ask that. I joked about her thinking that I'm 17 and she said she kind of assumed everyone in our class is 18 (low level undergrad class). A while after that she had me put my number in her phone and I think she mumbled something about brunch next week(end).
Do you guys think she lied about not wanting to date because she assumed me to be like 6 years younger than her?
shit dude, i queef anytime my pelvis gets tilted upward too much and/or i use certain muscles in my abdomen. it's just another thing that makes me keep a tight leash on how i act during sex, which prevents me from fully getting into it
If he laughs at or gets grossed out by your queefs he's either a little boy or gay. For me queefs make me almost cum, what's gross in normal day life , buttholes sweatiness , bodily smells. Are the sexiest aphrodisiacs in the bed, I assume because when you have sex you're getting to know each other at the most intimate physical level. And those smells and functions are part of that.
In general, never talk about feelings before you even have a first date. It's creepy. Yes, ask her out, though. Women love that. Just be chill with it. If acquaintances don't ask each other out, how would anyone ever get a date?
Hit it. Damn I wish my sexyfine profs would flirt with me.
Your anxiety and fear isn't helping you in life. So rip it out and throw it away. I've done this and now life is awesome. Basically you need to get over the first mountain, which is the highest. Every hurdle after is smaller and easier. The further you go, the better you get. So just start asking girls out and learn from any mistakes you make.
Also, don't go in sniffing at the pussy. Go in with a "let's have fun" approach.
>sit in the cafe drinking coffee, expect a girl to come up to me
This almost never happens. You're the man, you ask her out 9/10 times.
Man here, yes we know what queefs are, yes we know how to make women queef, it sounds like the guy knew what he was doing, but if he didn't react to the queefs, it didn't bother him, just like it doesn't bother most men.
Doggy is a position that has a lot of queefing, if you want less queefs, try another position.
Is it weird to ask a girl out multiple times in a week?
Like if I ask her out on Sunday, and then again on wednesday. We have only been on one date. We also work at the same company, different departments though so we arent really co-workers.
Late 20s female here.
If a man has been very flirty with you (just you in particular) for a few weeks and then suddenly stops, does it mean he has lost interest, or found someone else, or what? He's still friendly to me but doesn't seem interested any more. He used to flirt a lot and suddenly last week he stopped completely. I don't know what changed. It didn't die down slowly, just ended altogether. Did I do something that turned him off of me forever? Somehow that feels worse than him just finding someone else.
So you think she had me put my number in her phone for purely platonic reasons? She said she wasn't looking to date before finding out that I'm 4 years older than she thought...
Do you think I fucked up my chances completely?
That's not even that much. At ten years of sexual activity, that's only 4 partners a year, or one every three months.
When you get older than 20 you'll realize this.
I'd be pretty disappointed desu but I wouldn't dump a guy just for that. However, you damn well better eat and finger me so I can get off.
370k is nothing so you can stop pretending you're a closet millionaire.
Ask her out.
I used to do the whole "let them down easy" but it always made it harder and more complicated. Now I'm just more direct. Girls do things like ignore the guy, say they're busy every time you ask, or turn down a lot of dates you offer.
She goes to /d/ too much. No, that's weird.
Your friend has a point, but you're also really sweet and I don't think she'll dump you for that.
No. Your friends are jealous.
>she orgasms multiple times
I'd be very satisfied with that. On the converse, going too long can get painful so I'd rather a guy keep it around 10-15 mins. But if I get off, less is good.
That's pretty gross. Feet are gross.
Not unless he listens to faggot or nigger music.
Never, ever go back to an ex. My ex and I are no contact.
There's no way to know. But it doesn't sound like she's interested. Do you like her as a person or do you only want to date her? If you really like her, try being friends with her.
Does flirting back count as a sign I'm interested, or should I have initiated some of that myself? Do you think I should have made my own move instead of only responding to his?
I guess one of the differences in the past week has been that I haven't had any time with him alone: only in small group (3-5 people) setting. But usually he's fine with flirting with me in front of other people. I feel like I just got friendzoned.
I think you seriously increased your chances by letting her know you aren't of barely legal age, if that's the thought she was acting under before. At this point, you know she has your number (do you have hers yet? Did she send your number a text?) and you can now start communicating with her through that which I think is good. You have a direct line of contact.
My opinion is probably irrelevant because I'm only 20-something I know who shut down their facebook and doesn't use other things like twitter or snapchat, but no that wouldn't bother me. I think people who constantly post on social media are trying to prove something most of the time. And there's nothing wrong with having a small social circle. I hang out with a medium-sized circle of people (10-15) but there are only like 5 of us that are really close friends, and the rest are acquaintances for chilling with.
No she hasn't sent me a text and it's been close to an hour since I gave her my number. Praying for a text sometime today. I'm really interested in her as a person which makes the possibility that I fucked it up even more self-loathing inducing.
Well, I haven't had much interaction with girls of my age, let alone actual female friends, in nearly a half a decade, so I am rather clueless in general how I should act towards her. Thus far, I have basically just behaved like I do with my other friends as well (though toned down the crude humor).
Have you initiated? Listen to all of the guys on here half the questions are "she hasn't initiated should I drop it ? " and the answer is always yes. You have to Initiate it sometimes
Good point. Thanks.
While we're at it, does anyone have tips on re-igniting a guy's interest? Guys, what would make you reconsider a particular girl, or what would you like to see her do to let you know she's interested other than flat-out saying so to you? Or girls, what have you done that has worked for you before?
>pelvis gets tilted upward
>keeping your butt lower
yeah, he kept tilting my ass upwards like a U. Really set it off. Alright, so I guess it's normal, just sounds freak me out like that. I didn't know men could like that.
I think he also was taking pics or videos or something, but I didn't ask.
Okay, the last time I spoke to her she was still kinda flirty, but she hasn't gotten back to me from when I asked her this morning if we were going to do something this weekend. :/
>meet girl, show interest
>she says she's lost and doesn't know. That she doesn't want to give me false hopes
>she still talks to me on Facebook though
>asked her out three times and gave up. She's always busy, always "can't" because of studies or others, and never reschedules.
>yesterday she's the one who texts me and asks if I'm at the same bar as her
>indicate where I am and tell her to come
>she says "Coming" and ten minutes later adds "actually I was joking. I'd love to but I have to go to sleep"
>I give up and stop replying
>she talks to me again today, tries to start a conversation and asks if I'm angry about yesterday since I'm barely talking
I then tell her that i'm busy with other things, and to wait. That I'd love to talk to her, and she knows why. But since she's impossible to meet face to face I really doubt she wants to talk. Unless talking on Facebook is all she wants, which is not what I want. (summed up).
So I guess I wont see anymore of her, right? I may have came off as a pissy baby but I don't mind.
I just want to know, would you say I did the good thing here?
>I think he also was taking pics or videos or something, but I didn't ask.
Uh, wait, what?
I haven't just because whenever I ran into him before, he would start the conversation right after our initial greeting and I would respond positively to his flirting. I'm not really sure how to assert myself as the one initiating it when I'm already in a conversation with him....Should I pay him a compliment or something? Btw he's one of those kind of "off" guys who seems almost a bit aspie at times....
Well sorry but that's what I'm actually trying to figure out - whether he has moved on. How do you even go about asking someone if they've lost interest in you? "Hey there, I noticed you stopped flirting with me. So, what's up with that, eh?"
Ladies: I have a female friend who likes art so I drew her something for her birthday. I wanted to write her a little message on the back to let her know I appreciate her, and I'm just wondering how you guys would see it (meaning is this cringy, weird, sweet, etc).
Rough draft would be something along the lines of "I'm glad to have you as a friend, you're a wonderful person and I hope we stay friends for a long time."
Yeah it's good IMO. Girls use "he was a whiny baby" a lot to deflect any kind of blame from themselves for how they acted. You couldn't win in your situation so you basically said you weren't playing her game, she may or not be mad, but it's whatever.
That is REALLY not the message I'm trying to send. I just want to get the point across that I haven't met a lot of genuine people in my life, but she is one of them.
Other anon said it implies I want to smash but hopefully she thinks like you lol
I don't really mind, but it would have been nice for him to ask first. The angle didn't catch my face so idgaf. Well I texted him and asked and he's yet to respond so idk. It was just a hookup.
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't express themselves? Isn't communication one of the most important things in a relationship. These love games are very childish. Just be honest and ask him where you two stand.
We've been friends for over a year so idk if she'd take it as wanting to bone her because I've never made a move on her.
What's weird about it? All suggestions / advice welcome
What are anyone's thoughts on even getting advice on motivation / PUA?
I'm socially introverted and don't like putting myself out there so -based on advice- I read "Models" which I thought gave some pretty solid suggestions. i.e. developing independence, hobbies, fashion, being honest, not being clingy. Basic stuff that's not at all insulting like most PUA stuff is.
Anyways. More specifically, how bad would it be if someone you dated/hung with read something like that? How offputting?
>someone who doesn't express themselves
isn't that almost all men anyway? me personally i've never had a guy tell me they're interested in me. instead they do passive aggressive shit like act jealous when i show any other guy a sign of interest and then still don't ask me out until i have to talk to them about why they're being suck a dick.
women are better at expressing themselves. even the guys i have dated have still sucked at communication and have said they don't like talking about their feelings.
It sucks because guys have been taught their entire lives to suppress their emotions. Crying is seen as a weakness, emotions are seen as feminine. It makes me sad because it makes communicating more difficult
She's made it clear she's not super interested. You would know if she were interested. If she doesn't text for that long, it doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested because girls who are interested sometimes give it a little time like that. But from what you said, it sounds like she's not super interested.
it really does. communication is so important in any relationship, whether it's with family, friends, or the person you're dating. and guys seem to clam up when you ask them personal shit about your relationship with them. so what the fuck are we supposed to do? keep prodding them until they get mad at us and finally admit how they feel? that doesn't seem right.
I've been dating a guy for over 5 years now. Over time, we both worked on our communication skills. I'd still like to get him to open up a bit more and talk more easily about how he feels, preferably without me asking. But it's possible to make progress, especially when the guy can see how opening up makes communicating easier
i'm not the anon who asked the original question. i'm just venting about being pissed off at the lack of expressiveness in the men in my own life experiences. my last boyfriend had a lot of "feelings" and shit but never wanted to tell me. his own sister was the one who had to let me know he even had a thing for me in the first place because he was too chickenshit to admit it to my face.
Well that's obviously not a man, and should have been a very clear detterent. Not all guys are like that. Have you ever dated a sucsessful or at least highly focused and ambitious person ?
I think you meant to reply to me, but yes he is ambitious and successful (he told me he's currently up for a promotion with another researcher on his team), but he's just a bit weird as a lot of engineers in his field seem to be, at least compared to the ones I've met. I wasn't really looking for anyone to date in the first place. We work at the same company but in different departments and ran into each other one day in the kitchen and bonded over mutual love of black coffee, and it started from there. Turns out we have a few similar interests and have a lot of fun talking to each other. But talking about your feelings at work, even if we aren't technically co-workers, doesn't seem appropriate.
I don't know what this "Models" thing is, but most PUA stuff seems offputting and to find out someone was interested in that or specifically was reading into it for guidance would be weird to me, especially if you were a potential date, yeah.
They're usually married to someone in the military base, I've found, so maybe look elsewhere.
Haha I'm glad someone thinks he sounds crush-worthy! My friends think he's such a weird nerd from what I've told him about our conversations together, but I really love being around him and he's honestly one of only a few people I've felt so natural talking with and being around. We actually don't have each other's numbers because the company has an "off-duty conduct" bullshit clause in our employment contracts, but I think I might take your advice and just flat out tell him I'm interested in a "Gee, if it weren't for the non-fraternization policy, we should totally hang out and do blah...." because you're right, he is pretty awesome. And he's not the type to report me or anything because everyone thinks this rule is dumb.
Hello woman, how big a deal is premature ejactulation? I've tried a lot of things, but none of it works. I usually go down on them first, and after they have their orgasm I go for mine, so to speak.
Hey well I have a soft spot for girls who fall in love with "wierd guys" and if he's an engineer he's no chump. Sounds like a great person. I'd say go for it, but keep in mind life isn't a Disney movie , he may not be your happy ending. Just be prepared to move on if need be. Godspeed anon.
Do you think her getting my number was indicative of a shift in interest after realizing that I'm 4 years older than she thought?
I mean, she brought up hanging out on her own which blindsided me and I wasn't sure how to respond so I said it depended on if she wanted to. I feel like I fumbled through the whole conversation because I don't have much experience with dating. I'm thinking I fucked it all up lol.
I've been told that I don't look very feminine.
This doesn't help with my already established self-image issues.
I scoffed the comment off at first, but has stuck in my mind since. I talked to my close friend about it, and while their words were comforting, it continues to bother me endlessly.
Am I crazy? I feel like I am going crazy. Feels like, after all this time of getting over my countless insecurities, my work has been for nothing.
how is this pic for dating pages/apps?
what would you assume based on it?
girl here. i asked a guy out and he said "im sorry" to me (we don't know eachother well and have only talked like once or twice very briefly). now he is acting really awkward around me and looks at me kind of sad. is there a chance he regrets saying no?
1) it's blurry
2) it looks a tad vertically stretched
3) filter out some of the yellow in an image editor to make it look less crappy
Otherwise, you're a pretty good looking guy. I can't say that I'd assume anything, other than you look pretty laid back based on your facial expression, and that's a big plus. You don't look like an average hipster douche who is going to immediate jump on my mainstream choice in music (though that could very likely change if we met in person, I'm aware).
Girls: at what point t would it be best to let a girl know I have a belly button fetish? Moments before sex? During cuddling? Before any sexual interaction? I don't hook up with girls for this reason, I only have gf sex. I'm not creepy about it, it's just 100% crucial for sex for me
How do I find common ground with a girl if every time I ask what she does for fun, on her days off, hobbies, etc.
she just replies with "sit around home" or "Nothing much really"
She is interested in me for sure, but seems to have self esteem issues. I am finding it hard to come up with things to say because she doesnt talk about what she likes.
before sexual interaction, possibly during cuddling if you're just chilling and not getting frisky, and definitely never bring up a fetish moments before sex in case it freaks her out.
honestly you need to take it in stride. some people will prefer you; others wont and same goes for the idea if they find you feminine or not. a simple solution is to wear a dress. everyone has their own taste.
>is there a chance he regrets saying no?
Possibly. I once said no, and I've been beating myself up ever since. I had had a rough week and wanted just one evening to myself, which happened to be when this girl I knew asked me if I wanted to join her. I wish I was better at letting her know that it was just bad timing, and that i'd love to go out with her the next weekend.
I haven't really worn dresses because I am ashamed of some of my scars. Does wardrobe really make such a difference, though? I have a feeling he was talking about my face.
Usually girls are called derogatory remarks when they post pictures here. Maybe that's different on this board...?
If her crotch looks like I have to need to a fucking machete to find the clit, then no, I don't like it.
It's short and dealt with, it's all good.
But also, if she's like Turkish or something and has those hairs around the butthole, bit of a turn off.
But, like, how can I blame her for not shaving those?
Jesus, my ass is like the forest moon of Endor
thanks. yes it is a bit vertically stretched, crappy phone back camera. so that means I basically look like a hipster?
my face is long but here it is also stretched. why exactly deadlifts?
How the fuck to I tell a girl who is into me that I just cannot do hooking up or a relationship right now? I'm transferring from this school in six weeks and I don't want to get into something only for her to never see me again. Telling her the truth seems like the best option but she is in my like group of friends and I see her every day.
How would you prefer to be let down?
Jesus, you're a teenager or something.
You're pretty and have nice hair.
Enjoy your time as being the most desirable part of your life.
Any interest you show will be returned tenfold
Ah, that's a good idea. I hadn't thought about stockings. Thank you.
Although, what to do about the arms? I get a lot of bruises there, and it attracts a lot of attention. Sorry.
I am done with my teenage years (20+), so no. Also, it is not true that, because you are teenager you receive a lot of love. Boys are actually very rude when teenage years, honest.
But, thank you for a compliment. Sincerely
Strictly out of curiosity I would never change it because I love it so much: but girls if we met and I told you I'm a dental technician, I make teeth for a living where does that scale on the cool job spectrum?
guys, do you ever have a preference on nipple color? girls, whats yours?
>tfw peach bud
Where do I meet girls like you? Sorry for assuming but you go on 4chan. Girls who don't drink and party all the time, and are somewhat introverted / quirky. In my small town POF is less than fruitless
I asked a girl out who I'm good friends with. We both care about each other a ton. But she said she was scared. I asked why and she said this
"No. Believe me. I would not to be like that. But I am that kind of person who is full of enthusiasm at first. Then, When she gets used, she gets tired and wants to change. It is handy to have someone who loves you, who gives you attention. it is convenient to have many. So when you get tired of one, you can change. I speak good of others, say many beautiful things. But then, in fact, before there's me and my needs. Then, if there is time, there are others. My parents know this. I've always been a bit 'selfish. That's why I do not want relationships. I'd take advantage of it only. And friends ... well, I have several friends, but "at the right distance." The only one who knows how I am, is my friend in Vienna;) I do not know why I am so. Maybe because I do not feel happy, and I feel that I miss so many things. And you know, when you're not happy with yourself, you are not able to be happy even with others. Perhaps this is the reason. Because when I'm happy, my god, I feel I could lift the whole world for all of you! But who knows. Maybe it is so. Maybe not. I do not know."
What do I do
what was weird about it. With this girl, we are close and have feelings for each other. We actually like each other. But she told me "you have no idea how terrible I would feel if I hurt you one day. You are far too important to me."
If you were about to take a guy to the bone zone, but then found him to have pretty bad acne on his chest or back, would you stop?
This. I honestly really hate how guys insist on having the lights on. I've been with my boyfriend over 5 years and we've had sex with the lights off like ten times. Please, just turn the lights off from time to time.
I definitely prefer having the lights off. But I have self-esteem issues as well as problems with sex, and the lights off makes me more comfortable. I do enjoy seeing his face with the lights on though
I've never had sex in a bedroom before (only in a basement and on a sofa).
But when you say lights off, do you mean like pitch black darkness? Or like the main lights off and a lamp on?
I like seeing him, but I hate the idea of him seeing me. I also refuse to do certain positions because they look gross and awkward, but complete darkness allows me to look as gross and awkward and stupid as I want. So freeing
Oh yeah, I'm well aware that I'm crazy. I'm always terrified and partially prepared for the day that he no longer likes me. I have no idea how I ever found a guy willing to put up with my insecurity, anxiety, and intense paranoia
Because she's not great looking, or she doesn't want you to see her in awkward sex positions, or she doesn't want you to see her dumb facial expressions.
Sex in the dark is so much more freeing, which makes it more fun.
So I became friends with a girl in my math class. She likes the same video games I do and we usually have a good time around each other I believe. And I think I kinda like her.
But I have a couple of questions; How often should I talk to her? I'm doing a every other day thing where I talk to her one day, and I won't the next one but will talk to her again the next day because I don't want to get bothered by me talking to her daily. How can I tell when she likes being around me? I know some girls hide how they feel about someone to not hurt them, but I don't want to be a burden for her. Also, how should I start chatting with her?
I like tits. I'm not really picky about the details. Women are often insecure about the size of their areola too, but I've been with women who had ones ranging from the size of a dime to the diameter of a soda can. All of that shit really doesnt matter in the scheme of things, especially when you can't change it.
>Men: Do guys know what queefs are?
Yes. It's more funny than anything.
Was this woman flirting with me or just being nice? I was at the grocery when I passed by her cart, she apologized told me smth about how she used to have kids, and I was like kthx, turned away from her, started looking at the spices. She asked me if I knew what I was looking for, I told her chicken broth, and she gave some vague direction to the soup section. Then she kinda laughed and touched my shoulder, which was weird.
Speaking of instruments, are there any other kinds that will get a girl's panties moist?
It's always guitar or piano that the bitches like.
How about the harmonica? I fucking love the harmonica. It's portable, durable, inexpensive, and blues/jazz music is the shit.
For the femanons:
(Or anyone that might have helpful advice in general)
My gf of almost 7 years dumped me because she wasn't happy with where we were and doesn't think we have any chance to work it out. She.didn't want me around so I agreed to move out. Now, 2 months later she's dating my ex best friend. It was a 3 room apartment situation and he was our other roommate.
How do I move on?
Should I go out and try dating to get over it or is that the cheap way out?
Also, do dating websites really work and which would you recommend?
She pretty much fucked my confidence, not to mention my life in general. What kind of things ACTUALLY WORK for getting over shit like this?
Go meet girls man, do it. Start working on yourself. You have to its the only way, it's going to be so fucking hard but its the only choice you have
You either wither away, or you go for it and trudge your way through.