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Old Thread: >>16868706
Girls, how often do you masturbate? Ever in the shower? In bed?
What do you generally think about whilst doing it?
Few times a week, depends on my mood and my menstrual cycle really.
Bed or bath/shower (showerhead/faucet, all that stuff) are pretty much the only places I do it.
I think about friends or just girls I find cute or ex-girlfriends. Rarely watch porn since most of it is sorta bad to me.
Heh, depends on the girl.
I got off to pretty much every sort of porn which didn't involve humiliation/pain.
My favourites tend to be anal and lesbian stuff, two things I'm not even really fond of in real life.
I hate porn with bimbos or bad acting. I don't like porn with non-white actors. Other than that, not huge problems.
Girls or guys,
Today I noticed that the guy I'm dating is really nice to me but kind of...okay, not kind of, but completely and not at all in a small way, an asshole to other people when he thinks he's smarter than they are. The problem is that he knows he actually IS smarter than them, because he's got his PhD and dream job and all that bullshit. He is objectively above-average intelligence, and usually has quite good people skills. But it seems lately that he's starting to get impatient with "dumb" people more easily. Not mean or irritating dumb people, but innocent and sometimes nice and friendly dumb people. So I'm kind of torn. On one hand, he's kind to me and actually quite sweet and holy shit a giant spider is walking up my wall. But on the other hand, I care how other people feel and I feel bad when others do, because they don't deserve to be derided not being as quick as he is. I'm also worried about the tables possibly turning, because even though he currently treats me well, I would hate for him to start making fun of me for small dumb shit in a mean way rather than his usual joking way.
I don't know what to do. He's usually just fine, but sometimes it's like a switch gets turned on and he feels a need to point out every little thing that someone did or said wrong instead of moving on or letting it slide.
Should I stay with him to see where this goes, because he seems good to me and maybe he's just having a bad week, or is this a red flag?
Guy here. I would call this a red flag. Something like this never gets better, it can only go in the other direction. It sounds like treating others as inferior is deeply part of who he is.
Right now, he's not doing it to you because he's not taking it for granted. But one day, he probably will. Once he will start treating you like they, he will never stop. If that happens, it's time for you to leave.
I doubt that this is only a week-long phenomenon, even if it's only recently been bad enough for you to take notice. I suspect it's been a part of his personality which you've been picking up on for a long time.
I can sympathize with being frustrated toward truly dumb people. Though as you say, it's extending toward people who mean well but have dimmer wits about them. That's a dangerous path to walk down. I'm not a fan of telling people to break up because of "future crime" so as it stands you might just keep an eye on him. The fear, however, is that your emotional investment might become too big to easily abandon if you only see things get worse months or years from now. That's your risk to weigh.
Maybe ask the spider for some feedback too.
Fellow guys, and girls
so I went to Europe last year and had a ton of fun. Well now that I'm back in the US. I don't see American girls the same way anymore. It's like I'm not attracted to them anymore. I don't really know how to explain it. But I just have no interest in talking to girls here in the US. It's like the European girls were so gorgeous that it tainted American girls in my mind.
Has anyone else experienced this before?
4chan grills have surprisingly good taste. As far as porn and masturbation is concerned.
Does take about a day. If it's humid and hot and we're in restricting clothing, it can take only a couple hours outside for it to get musky and feel dirty.
To reduce this, wearing very light clothing and sleeping without underwear and in loose clothing does help.
1-6 times a week. Excluding the week of my period because it's just messy and I'm usually not in the mood unless I do it in the shower.
I prefer trimmed. Shaven is alright, but the prickly stubble hurts.
I've gone to different cities and realized most people in my hometown are assholes compared to other places. But it has not effected my dating life much.
>But one day, he probably will.
That's what I was thinking... thanks for your input. I do think that him seeing himself as smarter than everyone else is a part of some sort of identity he has created for himself, so it's part of who he is. And that's not good.
Yeah I think you're right, that it likely isn't just this week. I've known him for almost a year now and haven't seen him like this before, but then again, we hadn't been together until a couple months ago. I understand that he can get frustrated at other people, but these are people who mean well and not ones who are perpetually doing the same dumb shit. If it was someone who was being fucking retarded and doing the same shit over and over again, that would be reason to get mad and tell them off. He was a total dick to one of my friends today, who was, admittedly, taking a long time to understand something he should have already known, but it was almost shocking how snarky he got and later just flat out mean.
The spider actually climbed so fast I don't even know where he is now. It was a sizeable daddy longlegs.
I'm not sure if I've seen enough to break up with him now as a preventative measure, but I will be more aware and have my eyes more open.
>'ve gone to different cities and realized most people in my hometown are assholes compared to other places. But it has not effected my dating life much
like I literally don't find Americans attractive anymore. I made tinder last week and I swipe 99% of the girls left. I know I am not a 10/10 by any means, but for some reason, I just don't like girls here anymore
>Should I stay with him to see where this goes, because he seems good to me and maybe he's just having a bad week, or is this a red flag?
Sometimes there really are days/weeks when you just have zero patience. I know for a fact there were a couple weeks in the summer when I completely freaked my girlfriend out because I warned her from the start that I don't at all handle heat well, but when that heatwave hit, and I started getting super busy at work, it's like all semblance of my usually impenetrable patience evaporated, and I was just on edge all the time. (Put me in 20 degree weather and I'm cheerful and happy. Put me in 100 degree weather and I'm half-asleep and kind of grumpy--this has always been true since I was a kid.)
But, if there's nothing else going on his life and he's just selectively doing it... kind of a red flag. Tread carefully because who knows what'll happen once that new relationship sheen wears off.
and thank you for giving me hope that others like you exist. you would not believe how awful most of the girls i fuck with are, both in their porn tastes and otherwise. im sure its not an absolute indicator, but i think good taste in porn correlates to good in bed, compatible sex drive, and compatible personality
I feel like I may have bizarre porn tastes, but that is because I've never asked any other woman.
I like that fantasy hentai kinda stuff. Not actually because I want to have sex with an alien or demon, but it just kinda takes the idea of sub/dom stuff to a whole new level for me. I actually don't like doing much of that stuff in real life, but I like giant alien weird shit because the women look so fragile and innocent and dainty and that's how I like to feel when I'm having sex with someone. I want to feel tiny and cute while a manly man roughs me up a bit..
Second is college hazing lesbians. I guess I have bisexualish tendencies. I've been with women before, but I prefer men more. I just would love for some ridiculously cute girl my age to be forced to lick my vagina by some other cute girl my age... Isn't that what we all want?
And I pretty much switch off between these two things depending on my mood. Various other hentai stuff too. Generally involving some super cute young girl and a studdish/dominant guy in like a high school setting.
So... There's a fella I really dig, and I believe he feels the same way on his actions alone when we're together unless either one of us are having an off day. Well, he said that he would text me if I did, and I sent him one last weekend.. I playfully asked why he didn't reply today and he says that he didn't know he got it. I'm not sure if he's legit or really that distracted. Granted he had a busy weekend so he says.
I'm gonna text him after work, maybe around 3-30 - 4PM and see what happens...
My question is: Did I do wrong by asking him why didn't he reply? I didn't make a huge deal, I just nudged and asked with a playful smile.
I really want this to work, so.. Male and Female can answer this if they'd like,
The question was fine. He probably was serious about having missed the message (saw it and forgot, etc.). However I also have my doubts that he digs you as much as you dig him. I suspect that his actions toward you are positive but that you're reading an agenda into that positivity. There are plenty of reasons for someone to act nicely when around you which don't involve romantic and/or sexual interest.
I'm trying to think about something in particular causing him to be this way, but can't really think of anything... I definitely understand your heat example. I don't know. I don't want to offend him by asking him outright and directly, but maybe I should.
Well the event that happened that made me want to ask /adv/ was regarding my friend asking him for help. It's hard to explain the details of how the situation came up, but basically the guy I'm dating (S) offered to help my friend (C) with something, and when C took him up on it and came over to talk and understand how to do this particular thing that is in S's field of study, S treated him like shit. C asked for clarification on something that is pretty much foundation material, and S kept making a face and saying "obviously" in this strained tone of voice. So C tried to apologize and explain why he was asking this thing, and every time he said something, S would say things like "But that's wrong. Why are you even thinking about that? No, you shouldn't be doing that. Why. Why are you thinking that when you know it's wrong" and it became this back and forth, over and over again, and S wouldn't let it go. Maybe he thought C was making excuses, when really I could see C was just sort of getting scared and couldn't stop talking as a way of constantly apologizing but all he got in response was derision. And then after this constant back and forth, S finally said "o-KAYYY...?" and it just got quiet and they were staring at each other. Awkward silence. For SECONDS. This was with like 3 other people in the room, too. So to stop them I called C over pretending I needing to see one of his documents.
And so other people talked for a while, but then C had another question and started to say, "Should I just use words--" (obviously about to say "should I just use words as explanation, without using mathematical statements as proof, or are using equations necessary" and yes this is clearly what he was going to say, because it's something people ask all the time) and before he could even finish, S cut him off from "Should I use words--" to say, "Yeah, using words would be good. That sounds like a good idea" in this fast, bitchy voice. Like damn, wtf? At that point I had to outright call him on his bullshit, by saying "SOMEONE'S snarky today!" and it's like he then snapped out of it and was like "Oh. Right. Sorry. Yeah I should probably get out of snark mode when someone asks me questions...." and he became normal again. But C is such an innocent little guy. Maybe he just can't stand C, even though he has never said anything to me about not liking him. I don't know. It was very out of character for him to be like that, but a couple days ago he was really distant and kind of bitchy but more at life and general stuff, not at me, so I figured we were just tired.
This is probably not something you care for a stranger saying about your loved one, but I think you can probably do better than a boyfriend with the personality of a conceited android.
>meet a girl
>spend time together
>after a while, when she gains my trust, she starts asking me questions
>"anon why are you so moody sometimes? I know that you're hiding it from most people, but I want to get to know the real you"
>hahaha no man, there's nothing wrong with me don't worry it's just the weather
>"don't bullshit me anon. I can see it in your eyes, the way you speak to the other people. There is something bothering you"
>since I trust her I open up about depression and stuff and tell her how I feel
>tries to help me but doesn't realize I'm on therapy and a single person can't help me, not even a partner
>a week later
>"anon... we gotta talk"
>yeah, what is it?
>"I think it would be better for us to just stay friends"
EVERY FUCKING TIME.
Why? Why ask about my problems if you're not able to live with knowing them?
Am I an asshole if I'm dating someone where breaking up is an eventuality? I don't see myself marrying this woman but I do enjoy her company. I will eventually break up with her, this is a certainty, but I don't want to right now.
I was hoping the question was fine, I just don't want him to feel pressured when he sees my text like, "Oh hell, she's bugging me again..." even though he said it was fine, I just worry that he's being friendly - like you said - for the sake of being nice. That's what's keeping me from acting.
I'm starting to think the same... we haven't been together very long so it's not like either of us is in love (well not on my part, and I'm relatively sure not on his either). We get along so well when it's just the two of us or when my best friend is with us, though he does tend to leave her out of the conversation. When he's in a good mood, he's my favorite person to be around because he's so damn funny and very caring towards me. But now after seeing his ego out the way it has been these past few days, I'm starting to think maybe his place of "caring" comes from him trying to help a girl who has potential to reach his own level. He's never patronizing to me but I'm starting to think (from other unrelated things I didn't talk about in this thread) that he doesn't see me as an equal.
Yeah this is pretty bad. If this is him exiting the honeymoon phase and showing how he's really going to be, this shit isn't going to work.
But the only way to find out whether he's just being friendly is to act decisively. You have to make your feelings known to him. Yeah, it might get awkward if he's not interested. Welcome to adult situations. The only other alternative is some silly high school notion that just being around someone can actually make them like you when they otherwise wouldn't.
>gets me going
Fishnets, kneehigh socks, stockings
>get me worked up
Facesitting, female takes control
>gets me diamond hard
Being pissed on, period sex
At what point should I reveal the top three fetishes, the second two, and the final two? I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks, I already told her about kneehighs but don't want to come across as a weirdo by mentioning anything else too early.
Because they believe they are able to save you, and you already decided they won't (rightfully so, since you have a therapist for that, and bringing your problems into the relationship isn't going to help either you or the relationship).
Show very little of your problems, and very slowly, and hope it's going to be fine.
After you establish a regular and comfortable (as in, you're not still both paranoid about your bodies and such) sex life together. Then do it one at a time with a chance for her to also share hers in equal measure.
After you have sex for a while and you're comfortable with it.
I prefer if my boyfriend gives me hints and not straight asks me to do certain things, it makes me feel a bit used.
So, like, I'd rather if you bought me a pair of kneehigh socks or sexy stockings instead of telling me to buy them and wear them. I'd rather if you encourage me to take control ("it was really sexy when you were on top, I really loved it"). Stuff like that.
I have a friend I hooked up with and I'd like to be a better friend and talk to her more. We barely talked before hooking up but she's cool and gets me. How can I talk to her without leading her on? Or should I just not talk to her?
Thanks for typing that out. He sounds like a horrible teacher and has impatience with others regarding his field of expertise. Not saying he's a bad guy, but I doubt he's much of an overall genius outside his sphere of knowledge and maybe he needs someone like you to ground him a little. I have a PhD, too (philosophy and symbolic logic), but I'm still just a normal guy and I work with people who never attended college and can still respect them. Maybe get him to volunteer somewhere with you for a weekend.
That's true. I initially was overwhelmed by how great FOR me he seemed, because I'd never met anyone like him before who I got along with so easily in person, plus everything on paper was perfect, even to my parents' ridiculous standards. But I don't think the way he is is what I want in a relationship. I don't need someone with this same level of academic accomplishment and who gets all my dumb movie and vidya jokes. Even if he's very kind to me, there is clearly a lack of empathy with other people that has the potential to turn towards me if suddenly his illusion/perception of me changes.
Thanks anons. You've all been very helpful.
>I don't need someone with this same level of academic accomplishment
To be fair, I don't think you were unreasonable in putting so much weight behind those qualities. I say that because you could just as readily find someone accomplished and intelligent who is also socially well-adjusted. That might sound like an unrealistic dream but, no, there really are just great people out there. It's really not that far fetched. Happy hunting.
Way to completely misconstrue a statement (presumably to fit some weird woman hating agenda)
>I prefer subtle encouragements and hints. >Outright demands make me feel used.
She even gave examples.
I wouldn't like if a guy I just started dating told me "You know what gets me off? X. You should do X". It feels like he's not there for me, but because I'm okay with doing X.
I prefer if he takes things slowly, if I end up doing X "naturally" or because he encouraged me in a certain direction without being extra straight forward.
This obviously in the first few months of a relationship. I've been with the same guy for years, if right now he told me "You know what really gets me off? X" I'd gladly do it, and feel fine with it, but he proved me he loves me.
You're right, he's definitely very good at a very specific field, and not one that I am strong in, which is why we seemed to be a good match for each other, because I have a ton of respect for what he does and how well he does it, but I myself have experiences and knowledge in other things which he is not so great at. The funny thing is, he took a traditional route of going to college then immediately getting his masters and PhD in a timely fashion, but I bounced around a lot as a young adult and worked odd jobs while going in and out of college trying to figure out what I wanted to do, and he doesn't treat me worse for it. I wonder why he thinks I'm a special case. He's very elitist when it comes to college education and which school people attended, even going so far as to diss a specific college in front of a group of our friends without knowing where any of them graduated (which turned out okay by sheer luck, but still, yikes). Maybe it's because I ended up graduating from a good university in the end and my family has ties with his alma mater to make up for how much of a fuck up I was when I was younger. I don't know, though. Sometimes I do wonder what is special about me to him that I am somehow exempt from his usual judgement. I don't ever want someone to pity me just because I've been through some tough shit earlier in life. I'm naturally suspicious though so that might just be my insecurity talking.
Thanks. I find it's getting harder to meet suitable people as I get older, but hope is a good thing :) Talking this out has really helped me put things into perspective.
My crush, celebrities, etc in various scenarios. If I need to just rub one out real quick I'll watch porn
creampie compilation, public sex, femdom ( especially facesitting and humiliation), pregnancy/lactation
Women, when you have sex does the penis normally fit. Like length wise.
Ive never had sex where my penis fits in a girl. And Im only like 7x5 maybe 8x6 depending on the circumstances but is this the norm. Like with enough foreplay the width isnt an issue, I think. But I never go balls deep.
Why do women even want big dicks if they dont fit in them.
Does having a crush ever make any of you sad? Like your crush gives you a not-so-great look and it ruins your whole day? What the fuck causes these feelings? It's really distracting and ruining my concentration on the shit I have to get done. What strategies do you all know that can help get rid of a crush? I can't stop thinking about all our interactions and how the next ones will go. I wonder what they will think of me if I do something in particular or say a certain thing. I can't ask them out because I'm in the process of trying to get my shit together, so I'm not ready for a relationship even though I have these feelings. How do I make it stop?
So, minimize the problem by acquiring more, smaller problems so the main one's enormity seems smaller in comparison? Hmm. That actually sounds like it might work, anon. But what do in the meantime, when I haven't found anyone else to replace them yet? It's like I can't concentrate. For a while it was making me a harder worker, in order to impress them, but now it's just flat out distracting.
If she has a thing for you, there is literally nothing you can do that won't lead her on. Sorry, anon. But if you don't thinks he has feelings for you, then just talking and hanging out in a non-romantic way (group settings are good) are ways to develop a closer friendship. But again, if she's into you, you're fucked and are better to just leave her alone.
I am dealing with this exact same thing anon.
I've been working out a lot recently because for some reason she motivates me. But if she's not having a good day, it ruins my entire day.
I'm a woman with many female friends in my lifetime. I'm pretty convinced we aren't the minority.
AND even when it's catty bitches bragging about their "huuuuge like 9 inch bf", they usually have no spacial reasoning and he's truly 6.
Talk to people you find attractive. They don't even have to be your top picks, even mildly attractive, in fact the lowest attractiveness you can stand the better. I'm not even being facetious. You need people you /could/ care about, but not every moment of your life. All of their problems stop being yours because you can prioritize yourself over them. It sounds like mean advice, but it's to keep your emotions independent of someone else's.
When you have your new social circle then you can sort out the best fits for you.
>went on a date, told the girl I like stockings
>she said she's never worn them, doesn't seem so interested
>she wore stockings on our second date, but I had to leave because my mother went to the hospital
I could have got some, couldn't've I?
Quick question for the ladies. Am I ugly? Rate pls be honest. Sorry for messy hair. I just got up from a nap
I'm dating my first gf, things are great.
Question for girls: the best way to introduce kinks? There's a laundry list of weird shit I want to do, have her wear or say, etc. How do you test the waters - during sex, after sex, in the middle of the day out of the blue?
Also does "if you let me do [somethings she doesn't want to], I'll let you do [something I don't like]" actually work or that just a TV thing
You look fine. If you seek rating only, please visit /soc/ instead. This board is for general advice.
It definitely means she likes you enough to do it for you. Whether or not you could have gotten laid is irrelevant. You had to leave.
Console yourself with the fact that she is more than willing to see you again. If she asks why you had to leave, and doesn't already know, be truthful with her.
One that compliments your facial structure. Ask your hairdresser about haircuts that will suit the shape of your head. They are trained in this, and if she can't tell, find a better hairdresser that can.
Not ugly. I don't normally like poo in loos but you're qt so quit attention whoring rajeesh
Just ask get what she wants to try in bed or what her fantasies are to test the waters. Then ask her if she has any fetishes. When she asks you roll out with the most easy to digest ones then slowly incorporate the crazy shit as time goes on.
That is the safest way to go about it but maybe not the best or most honest
So you know how some dudes like to be called Daddy during sex? Do women like it when they are called mommy during sex, or is that not cool?
Probably a combination of all sorts of things. Genes (specific to them or maybe universal to humans), certain home and cultural environment, hormone production and exposure, individual experiences, ect.
In the end, it's just who they are.
Yes that's me bb. Let's go out this weekend.
I need out of the friendzone, I want to smash awesome chick I know.
I have been hanging out with this chick for a few months and I always grinding up on her, rubbing/bitting her ass when she's laying down. Everytime I get near her pussy with my tounge, she pushes me away like "uhh what are you doing dork" so i go back to rubbing her back..then.ass..then try agai ..no go.
I think she sees me as just a friend but i want to fuck her. When we are out in public,she's always letting me touch her like in a "im right behind you squeezing that ass,rubbing your waist" type of deal. I think she's just being a tease. How should I just tell her "look...I'm horny as fuck..let's do this!" I'm thinking next time,I hug her from behind, kiss and kneck and tell her "you know I want you, right?"
females of reddit:
Whats the way you prefer to be asked out, or what qualities make you attracted to someone when being asked out cold. i have about a million girls on my college campus that seem single, cool, and good looking but im not able to really approach any because half the time i dont even have class with them and when i do they are with friends so its too awkward.
So how to i walk up to girls im interested in, but have no previous relationship with, and initiate? same goes for online dating as well. there are a million girls with a million messaged from a ton of guys. how do i get you to respond? tell me what about other guys that have just asked you out made you say yes.
I have a question. Why am I being rejected? I might have approached 7 girls so far this semester and they all rejected me. Do you have any idea why? Does it have to do with my ethnicity?
Female. I love beefy gym rats but am currently suffering a crush on an ugly nerd in my major who makes me laugh but thinks he's too smart for me. He is one of the weirdest looking guys I've ever met but makes me feel all fluttery inside, and he's a lot more social than the LoL-addicted neckbeards in my major. I can't tell him how I feel because he's a TA in one of my classes.
Just straight up ask her to fuck. I don't understand how she's letting you bite her ass but not fuck you? What?
Asking out a girl you don't even know is creepy and likely won't even work if you're attractive, anon. It's weird. Why should they trust you?
Might be your ethnicity, if the only girls you're asking out are sheltered white girls who grew up with other sheltered white people, but is likely your personality is shit. No one with a body like that gets rejected unless there is something very clearly wrong with them. Or maybe you smell. Shower, use deodorant, and don't overdo the cologne. Preferably don't wear cologne at all, just deodorant.
It's me from >>16873455
I should just tell her like "look,you obviously tell I want you..want fuck for a bit?" If she doesn't want to,should I go back to just playing with her body?
I remember she would tell me she hates when guys sc her dickpics and asks for nudes,but I'm starting to think that's b.s. she's a chuncky girl with like 30 cats. Nice tits..sexy lips..
Maybe too much cologne? Like I said, probably your personality then. You already know your body is A+, now work on your people skills.
If she says that she doesn't want to fuck, then ask her if you can keep touching her body the way you usually do and if she's alright with that. It might also be a good idea to ask her if she wants you to stop, because then she'll have to think about whether she wants your attention or not. If she says some bullshitty line like "Idk! I don't care either way!" then ask if that's a "yes" because you'd like to keep doing it.
Basically just make sure you have permission and go ahead...biting her ass or whatever it is you're doing. I have a feeling she actually enjoys your attention because otherwise she would have asked you to stop already.
I like this bookworm girl. We can have fun conversations together, but sometimes she's not very talkative and I can't really think of anything to say. So we'd just sit together and read our books in silence. Feels comfy, but is it bad to do this most of the time? What should I do instead?
And yes, I asked her out a few times, went out once and got excuses the other times. Spare me the "move on" please, I'm not going to put in more effort there.
So tl;dr is quietly reading books together a decent way to bond? I don't know if I should fight the urge and think of something to say, or just enjoy the comfy together most of the time.
I'm saying that if your looks are above average and you have good hygiene, yet 7 girls rejected you, the common factor is you, unless you were simply asking out girls who were way out of your league.
No, they were pretty average. Assumptions on top of assumptions.
Me again with ass biting:
RIGHT?! I figured that if she did not like that at all, she would have told me to stop a long time ago. This happens everytime we are alone in my room and she's laying on my bed watching TV or anything. Last time, she was leaving because "it was getting to late" so i playfully pushed her bacl on my bed (so she's face up) and got on top of her and told her playfully "set some alarms,you don't have to go anywhere" then she was like "no dorkface I really have to go" pushing me off but with a smile.
Funny thing with this chick, one of my close fiends was cool with her and hung out alot with her but never attempted to do the things I do with her. He himself would tell me. So i guess I'm somewhat alpha lol
Dunno then, mate. Go ask them why they said no.
It probably turns her on that you're being alpha, initiating all the physical contact. I still feel like you should have a frank conversation with her about the sex though, because girls can string a guy along forever without being bothered by a lack of sex in a relationship. We have vibrators for that shit. If she really just wants to be a cocktease for the power trip (which is understandable), you're going to have to move on, and it's better to find out sooner than later. But again, I have a feeling she wants it.
Girls and boys, how did you met the love of your love?
It's been a year since my last (and first) girlfriend left me, and I haven't fall in love again. I had a few affairs, those were fun I guess, but In all this time I haven't met any girl that made me want to share things with, made me want to do things with, to hang out with more, to explore things with, etc...
I'm kind of concerned about this. Right now, I feel, I'm living a moment in my life in wich I'm stuck. I'm finishing a grade, but not the whole grade but a few subjects I have to pass in order to get the degree. All my classmates passed this subjects, so I'm going with a new class, but only 2 hours per week, so basically I rarely have time to talk with people. I'll be doing so until June.
In my social life, I've been broading my social circles, and getting to know closely the people I used to just know, and so far it's enjoyable and I feel I'm slowly becoming accepted and loved, yet at times I feel I'm just an outsider that gets invited to parties from time to time. Overall, I feel I have no social circle: Just a bunch of friends from various social circles that from time to time invite me to their parties (I get along very well with their friends) So most of the time I feel I don't belong there (Until I man up and just focus on having fun, then I really have fun and feel great)
So this clearly translates to my love life, because I rarely seem to have the chance to meet a new girl. How I'm going to meet that one girl that will love me for who I am, if I'm still in this "stuck" point of my life...?
It seriously concerns me, and I'll love to hear your stories about how you met your significant other.
My girlfriend was waiting by herself for her friend to meet her for coffee so I offered to call her on the phone for company. When her friend showed up, she really abruptly said "I have to hang up, bye," and like I understand that her friend was there but I felt kind of shorted, like unappreciated. I was like "okay, I love you, text me when you get home," and she was like "I love you, bye" and just hung up. Am I being petty here or overreacting? It's like you don't have to rush anywhere, just talk to me like a person and not like someone you don't want to be on the phone with. Is this worth bringing up to her?
It would have been rude of her to keep talking on the phone as her friend stood there waiting for her to hang up. She needed to greet her friend. Maybe the friend was walking the wrong direction and your gf had to call her over? It's understandable that you felt bad, but I don't think it's worth bringing up to her because she was just trying to be polite to her friend. Also, do you seriously say "love you" every time you hang up with her on the phone? That seems a bit overkill, and I'm a girl.
Personality. You look great.
But they can smell self hate and anger from a mile away, the first thing they say is they want "confidence"
What that even means and how to stop hating yourself I have no idea
I didn't ask her to continue to have a conversation with me, I just wanted her to be polite with me, her boyfriend, not some dude she doesn't want to talk to.
>Maybe the friend was walking the wrong direction and your gf had to call her over?
I actually know this is not true, she told me he was walking up to her.
And we do say I love you a lot, that's just how this relationship is I guess.
I'm upset but I don't want to be petty.
I asked a girl out today, we have known each other a bit and hit it off quite well. She replied: Why not :)?. After that i told her the specific date i had in mind and she just replied that she probably has time. Is it just a bail-out clause for her, that she will most likely will bail out on me when the date comes or shouldnt i overthink it?
Girls whats your take on this?
It could go either way. She might actually have something she has to do (like a school project, if she's like me and waits until the last minute to start and then finds out she's fucked and should have started it earlier) but really wants to make the time for you, or, like you said, it could be an easy out. It's hard to tell without having seen her face when she said it. Don't overthink it, anon. If she blows you off and you try to reschedule and pulls the same shit, you'll know she wasn't worth it.
Can I hijack this, how long do you girls/guys usually masturbate for? Sometimes it takes me so long I just get frustrated and give up but on other days I can get off pretty quickly.
For girls or guys with adequate social skills.
I just started uni in a new town and would like to make friends but I'm not sure where to start.
So far me and one of the other guys have really connected, he's shy and introverted like me so we work well together, I've spoken to some of the other guys and unfortunately they're all the loud, look at me type and they've all been orbiting these two girls every day (before this I hadn't ever seen "orbting" irl) so I'm not even going to try with them.
This sounds egotistical but so far I think I'm the smartest or one of the smartest people in the class, that or I'm just applying myself more, I'm constantly answering questions, doing all the public speaking during group assessments, lectures say they love me etc. I'm extremely anxious in social situations (like fighting a panic attack for the first 20 minutes after I walk in every day) but I find if I focus on the task it goes away so I do.
So to summarize I guess; Guys suck, a few girls have introduced themselves to me, most of which are new quirky personalities I've never dealt with before, how do I further our friendship which right now is based on study?
To all. How do I kiss a woman, she suck my lips and all I do is kiss her lips, I don't use tongue. Techniques or something to try? Thanks.
Seems to me that dating is sort of hit-and-miss. I've gotten rejected a lot, I assume because of my unkempt appearance and fat belly. People have also told me I come off as a jerk.
If I groom, get in shape, and make nice with everyone (I really do try to be a very nice man), will this improve my odds, or is it really a roll of the dice?
>Question for the bros, from a bro
>Do you get somewhat emotional when some dies in a war movie
>Like dude saves his friend or someone gets shot up who was a main character
>Tears of the sun and t.a.p.s make me emotional
Nigga I cry during Disney movies. I find it hilarious when guys act tough and refuse to show any emotion during sad scenes of movies. It reeks of insecurity. If you were truly confident you wouldn't give a shit what people think. And if you don't cry because you just "never think anything is sad" then you're a sociopath and that isn't cool either. If you think anyone is impressed by you being an emotionless broody edgelord, then you're autistic as fuck and already too far gone.
So I invited this female coworker out to lunch this weekend,I didn't phrase it directly as a date.
How do I determine of she thinks its a friendly hangout or a date?
we've never hung out together previously, just office chatter.
>If you supress bawling like a baby then you're an edgy sociopath
It's called having self respect.
I blubbered internally at the end of Toy Story 3, but I'm not gonna show it, come on.
>Do you get somewhat emotional when some dies in a war movie
Not generally. That's not to say other movies don't provoke emotions though, e.g. Irreversible.
>currently suffering a crush on an ugly nerd in my major who makes me laugh but thinks he's too smart for me. He is one of the weirdest looking guys I've ever met but makes me feel all fluttery inside, and he's a lot more social than the LoL-addicted neckbeards in my major.
It almost sounds like you're angry that you like him.
I don't know how crying during a movie has anything to do with self-respect. It's not like you're eating out a guy's asshole. But hey you bottle that shit up. Do you bottle up your emotions in other scenarios? That shit isn't healthy man.
Ok, dude, I have no advice but an anecdote.
I had a class with a girl.
Worked up the courage to ask her out for coffee.
I thought it was in the bag.
We talk for literally 3 hours.
Turns out she had a boyfriend.
All I'm saying is make it clear
thanks, I'm 90% certain she is single, she's mentioned repeatedly how she stays home with her pets most night, after she posted a pick of snap with her and a guy she sent me a 3 paragraph message about how she hung out with her brother the night before. whch seemed really out of pace until I saw the snap.
I mean shes had chance to mention a BF and had asked me indirectly if I was single
Now that the asking out anxiety is passing and I can think clearer I'll treat our lunch as a informal get to know her better and if it goes OK ask her on a date directly.
Treat it as a test drive
it is it considered cowardice if i avoid seeing someone because they hurt me emotionally? i just want this person to worry about me and my well-being by not showing up in the group of friends.... plus, i may be running a fever so it'll most likely work out in my favor.
i ask this because right now i want to yell at him for leading me on for months only to suddenly say "oh ur sweet but i am spoken for" when i bring it up after he said earlier today how he "needed to find a good woman" ...
>standard deal breakers for women
- he has no job
- he lives with his parents
- he's short
- he has no car
Of these, which is the worst/which is the least likely I can make up for with other aspects?
>own my own company making $90,000 a year at 25 years old
>6'0, 180lbs, fit (ottermode)
>have my own apartment with expensive furnishings
>don't have a car because my office is 5min walk away, post office is 10min walk away, I live 5min from the main strip in my city with access to restaurants, grocers, entertainment, bars, etc
>not once in the last five years have I thought "man, this'd be so much more convenient if I had a car"
>only looking to date people close to me anyways
Am I a lost cause?
A car is something of a statement these days, but unless you're after any ultra rare /o/ girls you should be alright. Wealth alone should catch their attention; as should being a nice person.
girls who have casual sex, could you not always let the most charming, attractive guy get in your pants? Cause he does it often, he's very good at it and he's getting laid 10 times more often than other guys.
I ran into this girl I met in one my classes a year ago and managed to arrange a coffee meetup with her. Thing is, back then I noticed she had a crush on me, and I also had a crush on her but never did anything because I was too anxious.
This is my first "date", so any tips to follow?
Don't blame yourself if it doesnt work out. She has just as much control over whether you date or not as you do. Sometimes, there's just no convincing another person you would be good together, but it might be because that person cant see it, not necessarily because you weren't convincing enough.
It shows you work hard and are dedicated; she might not want your money, just appreciate you have the capacity to aquire it.
I want to send a message to my friend who's currently living in an out of state dorm.
Problem is, I feel like it's awkward.
Here's my situation. We used to have feelings for each other and it really went no where because I never did anything about it. But now I just want to talk to her and have a conversation but I feel like it might be weird. Our last conversation was like a couple months ago, and I was on kinda drunk (lol) and it ended suddenly cus I said something weird and she said she was going to sleep. It wasn't weird weird, it was just so awkward.
Anyways, should j do it?
asking again from last thread
How do I politely ask a girl if she is married? She has a military ID and a hyphenated name
Too weird to ask "hey are you married" because we already spent the night together
>taking large lecture class that breaks into sections on Fridays
>talked with a girl (who's in my section) a couple times after the large lecture classes
>when we talked this past Tuesday she said she had a pastry class later
>I said something like "oh we should get coffee and pastries sometime"
>after a pause she said "yeah" and when I looked over at her she was smiling
>when we went different directions she asked if I'd see her today (Thursday)
>didn't talk to her today/didn't really get a chance to
>want to get her number tomorrow after class, but she usually takes forever to leave the classroom
How should I handle this? We're breaking into groups of three tomorrow and I won't be in her group so it'll probably be difficult to talk to her during class or sit next to her. Should I just put my stuff in my backpack extremely slowly when class ends? I don't really want to talk to her right when class ends because it's a tiny room and everyone will be listening.
>i just want this person to worry about me and my well-being by not showing up in the group of friends
He's a dick, but you're being childish as hell... Plus he probably won't give a fuck either way.
>girls who have casual sex, could you not always let the most charming, attractive guy get in your pants?
Rofl. I'm a dude but come on man. 'Sif if you had the choice of sleeping with a 400 lb woman or a super model/hot actress, you wouldn't choose the hot one every single time.
>I want to send a message to my friend who's currently living in an out of state dorm.
Depends on why.
If you just want to say what's up for the sake of what's up (which you're not making it sound like), go for it.
If you just want to get in her pants/have feels for her, that means you're just doing this because you're desperate, and that shit will be immediately evident in your conversation, and it'll just be cringeworthy as hell and not only make things awkward as hell for her, but make you feel like shit afterwards.
Wait for her outside or something, it's okay, just don't stand there for two hours, if it's a short while just wait and be like, "So, about that coffee, you free [whenever]", if she says yes, get her number.
Girls, what's the most amount of orgasms you've had during sex? Or when masturbating? And how long do you normally masturbate for?
Maybe not jump straight into asking if shes married, but ask her why her name is hyphenated. Could be parents as the other guy mentioned, some weirdo open marriage thing, hard to say.
Not really, like I said, if it's a short while it really is ok.
You don't have to disguise your every move, you waited to talk to her, and that's fine if she know it.
Protip: She probably liked your comment about coffee because you made your intentions clear, guys nowadays are too much of a pussy.
Awesome, thanks Anon. Tomorrow will be the first sections class I've had with her since suggesting coffee so maybe she'll leave class a little quicker.
When we talked on Tuesday I asked how her weekend went and she said she mostly just worked. Seems like she doesn't have a bf or anything like that. She's a transfer student like me so that probably doesn't hurt either.
I always see taking a girl out to coffee as a suggestion on college campuses that make it clear that it's a date, but I don't like coffee. Should I take a girl out to coffee anyway and try to stomach it or order a pastry or something?
You could get a latte. Or you could get tea, most coffee places also have tea. Just don't get chamomile or anything like that. Earl Grey or green tea or something else earthy/non-flowery.
Girls: When do you feel is appropriate to talk about dating?
I took a girl out on a coffee date last Sunday and we've been hanging out and talking pretty frequently since then. This week was busy due it being the last week before Spring Break so midterms and whatnot but I'm asking her out again after the break. Not sure how/when to bring up the subject of dating
Just the thread I was looking for and luckily it was on the first page as the first post.
Girls: How do I become the man with whom women will want a committed, monogamous, lifelong relationship? I'm the guy who can get laid but can't keep anyone. I can get the first date but an engagement/marriage seems illusory let alone a girlfriend. I know it could be for any variety of reasons. Woman want someone who's financially independent, done with their education, and living on their own. I'm almost there. Also, I know maturity and not being stuck go a long way. Any help or advice appreciated. I'd really rather prefer to have a spouse with a family some day as opposed to dying alone, possibly bitter.
I think it would depend on the girl. IMO, black and green teas aren't feminine. Plus I think tea has shifted away from being feminine to being more 'alternative.'
The girl would probably find you drinking tea more masculine than you drinking a latte like whiskey lol.
Is it good to tell a person that you have feelings for them or just let your actions speak for themselves?
If you're ALREADY close, it can be nice to hear. But actions speak louder than words. Especially when you're dealing with virtual strangers.
Don't spill spaghetti to people you're not in a relationship with.
Not a virtual stranger, she's a classmate and we've been doing stuff together (going to the movies, coffee, etc) for quite a while, I'm obviously interested in her but I don't know how to let her know. What do?
are you capable of fucking a guy without becoming attached?
if you say youre not emotionally available right now due to a recent breakup, should i take this as a sign that you will never be interested in a real relationship?
why is it that when im not interested in a female romantically her interest grows, but if i show that my intentions are to date a female after fucking her, she almost immediately loses interest?
Girls, lets say a complete stranger walks up to you, which would be the less creepy way to aproach a woman? How would you react? And which is a nice ice breaker? Please help me, I'm a social retard with new people when I'm not drunk
Height is probably the biggest deal breaker for women just because you can't change that. You can get a better job, you can buy a car, you can work out, you can live an interesting life; but if you're 25 and 5'8", you can't really grow any taller.
Granted, you're 6'0" which is a safe "tall" status for women
I've not had sex yet so I can't answer that, but during a masturbation session I've gone for over 10 times. I have no idea how long it lasted because I lose track of time and then usually fall asleep. Probably more than an hour.
Two for femanons
Has a guy ever pursued you and you showed disinterest for whatever reason, only to find a few years down the road he's more successful and attractive? How did you feel? How would you feel if he got back into contact with you?
Also, why is it you get into sustained relationships with shitbags, bitch about your life situation, and then get pissed about being told you're being held down by your shitbag boyfriend?
Women. Assuming you have little to no experience with firearms, how willing would you be to go to the range with your SO if he invited you, assuming he had a vested interested in the hobby?
I've never held a gun in my life aside from an non-functional antique my grandfather had. I wouldn't mind going once or twice to try it. I couldn't guarantee I'd like it, but I'd try it. I don't see it any different that trying archery, which I also have.
>I don't see it any different that trying archery
I think the biggest thing in my experience is people get startled by the noise and recoil.
I remember some girl panicked after she fired and dropped the rifle. That was an experience.
If you change undies everyday and don't do anything you can go two days.
I don't anymore.
No, I like waxed better.
Lay down the law right away and tell her the truth.
The cervix is a sensitive thing that you can't ram away at.
no she was seeing if you would react.
That's my fetish
I look for bubble butts and butt holes to peg.
Face her in direction she is looking at and speak nice words about her.
Yeah literally that doesn't happen ever in real life.
Most of them turn into shitheads and try to harass you while you're doing better without their stupidity.
What defines a good male butt? A girl asked for a picture of my butt, but I honestly don't know if my butt is good or not. So I haven't sent it to her.
What is it you like about guys butts?
Would a girl lose interest if I hold off on asking her out too long?
>have to do group presentation in a class
>get in a group with this qt
>seems like we're hitting it well enough
>presentation is in a month
I was thinking of holding off on asking her to do something until at the least the day of the presentation so that if its a no, shit wont get weird in the group and that we can finish the presentation thing without any issues. On the other hand, I feel like waiting is just going to make her lose any interest if she has any, and that its better to just go for it. What do?
As long as it's not flat, it's probably a good butt.
Would do. Probably best to scope out her views on guns before asking if she wants to go to the range, though.
I've never rejected someone and then felt regret because he got attractive later. The real quality that a guy has to have for me to date him is that he has to smell good, and if he doesn't have that, he never will.
It's less creepy if you talk to her in a place where people usually socialize, as opposed to just talking to some girl on the street.
I think I can have sex without becoming attached, but I don't think I need to try it.
Better to just ask them on a date, and if you're past that, actions speak louder than words.
Be stable in mind and in finances. Don't feel like you need to put on an act to impress anyone. Don't be a jerk. Be kind to your mother.
You're already "dating." If you mean relationship/exclusivity, generally after four or five dates is the right time.
Coffee shops often have tea, and depending on where you go, non-coffee beverages. You're not a bitch for just ordering a pastry.
How do you actually find attractive golddiggers who don't already have a ton of STDs, though? I'm a young guy who is also pretty mediocre looking but I make almost $200k and would love to have some fun with a few bimbos. Just not a prostitute or an escort. Should I just flash my wealth around college campuses until a girl flirts with me?
I have this sinking feeling that my current girlfriend is cheating, but I refuse to invade her privacy because 'scruples' . What do?
More info: we've been dating a year, living together ~9 months, no fights, no problems that I know of, opposite shifts currently but that's newish. About a month ago she started acting more distant, wanting to do less things together, wanting sex less (2-3 times per day down to 5-6 per week), canceling dates (sometimes when we were sitting right in front of the restaurant, but that could have easily been her social anxiety).
Recently she was picking me up from work and had to give a (male) friend who I hadn't heard of a ride home, she dropped me off, left with him to wait for the towtruck then stayed the night at her godfather's place (supposedly), now she keeps her phone on her and on vibrate constantly (both very out of the ordinary for her) and has been 'staying at her mother' s', a lot lately(3 times this week) for various reasons.
I think you have it right. Making it weird amidst working on a project sounds like a bad idea.
It's not like you'll lose contact, you'll have to interact with her for the month before the project anyway. Maybe flirt subtly and try to maintain the spark, but don't take the plunge until after the project is done.
This probably isn't the right place to ask, but when is the right time to tell a guy you're dating about your history of abuse? I'd like advice from both guys and girls.
I've been dating a guy for a bit over a month and we were friends for a semester before that. We're both seniors in college. I don't tell many people about the emotional abuse my parents put me through (particularly my mother) and the things they said and did to me as a kid that still affect me today. Only two of my closest friends know about what I went through when I was younger, and they were both shocked by it and one of them treated me differently for a while after I told her because she said she didn't know how to act around me any more because it apparently "explained" a lot about me and she couldn't stop thinking about some of the things I told her when I would just be making offhand remarks about mundane shit during the day, so it was awkward for a while trying to convince her not to coddle me.
Basically, I don't know how to tell someone who I haven't known for very long about my past. It's not physical or sexual abuse, but basically my parents were verbally and emotionally abusive to me as a kid in kind of fucked up ways that really screwed me up and I don't really know how or when to tell my boyfriend. I feel like not telling him is hiding it, and I don't want to be dishonest. I haven't known him for a very long time, but I do feel very close to him and know he cares about me. But I don't want to ruin anything by scaring him off with how messed up I am.
I'm sorry I'm rambling. I pulled an all-nighter yesterday and should probably sleep. But I'd like any advice anyone can give me.
So I met this girl through a friend last year. I was interested and we started chatting and saw each other at parties our friend invited us to. She ended up saying to my friend that i was too nice and I dropped the whole thing and moved on.
Last time I saw her was on her birthday where our mutual friend asked me to come to the bar for other reasons.
The girl's best friend kept insisting that i wish a happy birthday to the girl , that it would make her happy. but I was busy and frankly didn't care.
Fast forward to yesterday. I receive a tinder match followed by a message from her asking how I've been. We talked all evening and since she couldn't come to the party I was at (she changed her behavior and isn't going out all the time anymore in order to study more and not fail this time.) she agreed to say tes to my next proposai.
My friends say she probably changed her mind about me. What do you think?
>This probably isn't the right place to ask, but when is the right time to tell a guy you're dating about your history of abuse?
Tough one, I think it's more of a matter of where your relationship is at rather than some given time period. I'm assuming you havent introduced him to your parents, I think it might be worth talking about it if he wants to meet them. Explain why you'd rather not and all that.
I've cared about two women who've had histories of abuse. One of them is my girlfriend.
We had kind of a whirl wind start. Our first date went epicly well, we were a couple by our third date. And took our first thousand mile trip two weeks after we became a couple. Next week will be a year that we've been together.
All of this is completely irregular to both of us, but we just got swept up by the pace of everything, but everything has always felt natural and easy with us (even the few times we've had minor arguments),
I think it was our second date she started to tell me about her past. I had unthinkingly put my hand around her back while we were walking and she immediately jerked away. I apologized and she said it was ok. As we were walked back to the car she took a deep breath and stopped me and said, "Hey... There's something I kind of want to tell you because I don't want to hide it and think there might be something here, so you deserve to know.. I'm not ashamed or anything, but I really really hope this doesn't scare you away. I was raped and abused by a family member growing up. I still have a few triggers sometimes with people touching me, which is why I jerked away, but I've done therapy and while I don't advertise it to everyone, I'm mostly over it. I'm sorry if this is too much for you, and if it is, that really really sucks but I understand"
I just told her, "Thank you for choosing to share something so personal with me.".
Over the last year I've picked up more and more details (like that it was her dad, and that he physically tortured her as well) and there are a few times she's wanted to tell me more, but holds back because she just doesn't want to re-live it, and I completely under stand that. All through it I've supported her though, because I really do love her and think she's a pretty strong person.
If you want to tell your boyfriend, do it only when you're comfortable, and at your own pace.
Been having sex with a guy once a week as we both have different work schedules and travel a lot. We both agreed that we don't want a relationship or any attachment, but we prefer having regular sex with just one person as it's more satisfying and there's less awkward encounters with strangers which doesn't interest us.
Thing is, the periods between us hooking up is becoming less and less frequent, from once a week, to every three weeks and now four. I did explain to him that I have a high urge for sex and would like to have it more frequently and that idea excited him. He's more than happy to talk dirty and flirt with me via text daily, but this is just a tease for me because I get wound up and he says he's too tired or has too much work to actually meet up. I've gotten to know his schedule pretty well and I just feel he's almost too lazy or can't be bothered which is fair enough, it's okay to not be in the mood.
I just feel like it's a waste of my time waiting for when he is feeling available when I could find somebody else who is able to meet more frequently. I enjoy the sex with him very much and I admire him as a great businessman and has a quirky sense of humour. I would hate to end things with him as I enjoy him so much, but it's just a pain in the ass that a guy can be such a cunt-tease. I have never known other men to be as bad in withholding sex like this.
Dunno. I don't really care about sexual history but maybe like 50? 100? I'm pretty open minded but if you've got anywhere near triple digits, I'm definitely going to do a double take and wonder if relationships are for you.
Honestly I think more about the why than the number more so. So if I find a chick who's had 10 partners but were all in relationships, I'll probably look more favorably on her than a chick who's just had one night stands or casual sex, even if her partner count was only 5 or some shit.
He's your fuck buddy. If he's not willing to fuck, Find someone who will. It's not like you guys have any obligation to one another, especially when he isn't putting out.
Do girls even care about sex? Let's say I was locked into a bedroom for a month with a girl (I guess the shy type) who might find me attractive. Would she want to fuck at all? Btw, we wouldn't know how long we would be locked in the room.
[spoiler]Oh, and I guess there's a month's supply of food and supplies. And maybe a bathroom.[/spoiler]
Why more than three? What sort of excuse?
Why the discrepancy?
I don't think it's possible for someone to have sex with over a hundred people when only in her twenties
>Why the discrepancy?
Because I care more about the why than number. If you're ok with the idea of casual sex, we won't see eye to eye. If you have values similar to mine but just lived a life before I was involved, well that's not a big deal.
>I don't think it's possible for someone to have sex with over a hundred people when only in her twenties
You really underestimate people. I've seen women bring someone new home every other day at college.
There are some really good excuses like you husband dies or your bf moves away when you are at 3 and theres not much you can really do about that. Then theres the excuses Im not so happy with that Im more tolerant of like you were raped and slept with like 5 guys in a year to recover or some shit like that.
As for why 3, the real question for me is why are you over 3. Like imagine if somebody came and said theyve been married 5 times. Its a red flag.
Let's say they're 26 active since 16
10 people a year for 10 years = 100.
Anyway, personally I've only had 4 partners, but I'm cool with an understand casual sex, and that's why I said that IDGAF, unless it's some absurdly high number.
it's just having a partner count THAT high means one of three things:
1. they've got issues with relationships in general
2. The only do open relationships (which, as open minded as I am, I'm not cool with), or
3. They have problems with cheating.
Some days i feel cute, some days i feel pretty, some days i feel sexy, sometimes i feel disgusting, sometimes i feel meh. There ate days where i go trough it all. I might have issues
>pic for reference
But eh no. I'm extremely shy /:
Nah I just dump them when I find out be it a few months or a year or 2. Normally comes up since we arent sexually active. That being said Ive only gone to a year and a half once.
>Telegony is a thing
Ah yes, r9ks favorite pet hypothesis before roasties took off.
Why? Does it make a difference?
I'm 5'1, i'm chubby, some days i feel like a fertility godess, some days i just feel like a fat blob. I like my face, i got a p symmetrical one, blue eyes, nice lips, my hairs are naturally blonde and i really like them. I hate my skin. I'm pretty ocd about it.
No Id never date a hambeast. The idea of a female that does not exercise or is not extremely physically active repulses me. If I cant ask you to go on a 3 mile morning run or play tennis with me then we probably arent going to date. If you have health issues besides being a fatty then Ill look passed them, but usually I expect the girl I like to be physically active.
It's good to feel good about yourself. Even if you're not conventionally attractive. I think everyone is beautiful in their own rite. I'm not conventionally attractive, I have long hair, I'm tall and have wide shoulders. It seems like I would do better in a different era. But it just takes required taste I guess. But I asked because I'm pretty up and down too like that. But I'm a boy.
I have chicken skin on my arms and my thights. As a kid, i started to pick on it and it has developed in a skin picking disorder. It's already way better than it has been but i'm very selfconscious about it. Nobody really cares THAT much, i keep my skin in comparable tiptop shape since i'm so concerned about it...
>Already been observed.
No, they found a paper and bastardized its abstract. The mother contains trace amounts of her childs cells in her blood, but it doesn't magically overwrite her DNA code.
The idea of telegony is mutually exclusive with a basic understanding of genetics.
Yes. There's also the roastie theory in that the woman gets a big labia by having lots of sex. This somehow doesn't apply in a committed relationship because it "molds itself with his dick".
People make fun of r9k here, but even they don't understand they have some flat earth tier beliefs.
I have standards and its perfectly possible for a woman to meet them unlike how women disregard men for being too short. Tumblr's opinion of me is of little consequence.
I have never met a woman who browses tumblr that meets the standards I have. Why should I care about them?
I used to have it really badly on my arms when I was a kid, but now that I'm older (24) and exercise frequently, it seems to have gotten about 90% better. I think it might have to do with hormones and sweating out / cleaning my pores. Exfoliating didn't really work for me because it just irritated my skin, and lotions seem to make it worse. But weirdly, sweating helps. I've noticed chicks skin on other women but never seen it on guys. But the again I don't really see guys arms showing so I coul be totally wrong. A lot of other girls seemed to have it when we were in elementary school, though.
>There's also the roastie theory in that the woman gets a big labia by having lots of sex
Are you saying that all scientific evidence that shows if skin is constantly stretched it is permanently warped is false.
I don't think you understand what the labia is.
girl in my lecture shes really good looking, know absolutely nothing about her. she sits with her female friends and sometimes this little scawny guy. I want to approach and maybe score a date but I am unsure what to do. Like would you say its intrusive or something to just plunk my ass next to her and talk, even so what would i even talk about? If i introduce myself and just talk about the weather or some stupid shit isnt it very very obvious i would just be trying to hit on her? I want to approach but give the impression that im just being polite and treating her like an everyday person be it male or female.
Nigga the labia isn't what is stretched during sex. The labia is never stretched at all unless you purposely pull on it with your hands.
Maybe you could get away with calling a girl "loose", but the roastie thing is ridiculous.
Wait fucking what? Can you explain why it's called "roastie" and why the labia is only suppose to enlarge with multiple partners and not a single partner multiple times? And is it like you're supposed to be able to tell she's a whore by looking at her labia?
I have so many questions. The fuck is going on over there? No wonder moot closed their board, when was it, six or so years back. /r9k/ really is the worst.
I have a bad case. I'm 27 and it hasn't gone away. I have a comparable healthy lifestyle and i also went to see a dermatologist a few times. There's nothing more i can do at the moment. And it sucks. I think if i never started to pick on it, it would have been gone by now.
>Are you saying that all scientific evidence that shows if skin is constantly stretched it is permanently warped is false.
>I don't think you understand what the labia is.
Also... lol.at your premise "constantly stretched". That means in perpetuity. Like non-stop 24 hours a day 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Not 30 seconds at a time.
This. The labias aren't involves when taking a dick. That's just ridiculous. Maybe sagging might make it worse. But we're talking about being 80 here. Ffs, i have changed diapers from a lot of little baby girls and their labias already look quiet different. Just stop it with that idiotic roasties bullcrap.
I'm really sorry nothing has worked for you. I know that feeling. I don't want to sound patronizing, but I truly hope your body somehow grows out of it like mine did. I still don't wear short sleeve shirts because of the embarrassment it caused me when I was younger. Shit sucks.
More like I'm disappointed right now.
>Can you explain why it's called "roastie"
Because it looks like an arby sandwich last I checked.
>why the labia is only suppose to enlarge with multiple partners and not a single partner multiple times?
I said it before. The vagoogoo molds itself to the guys dick but different dicks makes it stretch out.
That board is tip top fun. I really should get back to my studies.
I really hope I grow out of picking my skin. I'm working on that ocd crap with a therapist but it's hard to break a habit that has been fostered for more than 20 years. I would NEVER wear anything ythat reveals my flawed skin. It restricts my choices in clothing greatly. Thanks for the heads up anon!
It wouldn't be weird to sit near her unless you're taking up one of the spaces one if her friends usually sits in. I know it pisses me off when someone take my regular seat on class, even though there's no assigned seating.
This is a total longshot, but what is her initial or the initial of the prof? The group of people I sit with in one of my classes consists of three girls and sometimes a scrawny Korean guy, so the similarity is making me curious if it's my friend who is bubbly and giggles too much in class lol
Nooooo okay I did not see that coming
I do twelve kays twice a week, preaching to the choir.
Irrespective; don't call fat people repulsive. If you wouldn't consider them and think poorly of their lifestyle, fine, but disrespect won't impress anybody.
Yeah that makes sense although it seems very awkward because there is always plenty of spots around her she sits up the back kinda so it seems awkward to plunk my ass next to her when theres plenty of other space.
haha nah different people. The scrawny guy im talking about is Indian.
Hmm okay thanks for the advice.
I'd need eyes of a hawk for this but I was thinking maybe I could enter the lecture a bit late and once the seats are mostly gone hope i see her fast enough and a emtpy spot next to her
Lol I'm fit and lean but my asthma prevents me from running even 2 blocks without feeling like I'm gonna pass out. But I'm sure I'm probably stronger than you so your point is diluted.
I'm a boy and I've tried having sex but I felt awkward and uncomfortable and just couldn't do it. I feel to much anxiety and spaghetti starts falling out of my robes. I'm 20 and I masterbate often but ironically I can't handle sex. I really just want to cuddle. Is there hope for me?
No, in fact you only just proved you are incapable of reading. If you are stronger than me thats fine. I have the body proficient for the sport I engage in so your 'strength' is worthless to me. If you are one of those people who go to the gym without playing a sport its kinda silly desu.
Are you additionally incapable of reading? He said he has asthma, he can't do sports. But naturally you'd glance over the assurance that he'd kick your ass because muh sports. Do you have a complex or something?
No you just ignored the point I made originally>>16874965 because you cant read.
>If you have health issues besides being a fatty then Ill look passed them
Also good luck kicking my ass. What martial arts do you train in. Because Im not about to lose to someone untrained.
>strength means you will win a fight
I really hope no one believes this. Id love to fight you and prove you wrong. Its one of my favorite parts of instructing others when I get to shut them down.
Yeah that's a huge complex you've got there. The advice board is not the best place for challenging stronger people you'll never meet to fights.
Tumblr has a point; you're a piece of shit and should end your life. There's some advice.
You never know. I have a hobby going around challenging people for demo purposes so we might run into each other.
I like how you ignore the part about how bad your reading comprehension is and go straight for the ad hominem. Nothing says defeat better than that.
Those 3 miles arent for me. Its for the person Im in a relationship with. Itd be unreasonable for me to assume that they are at my fitness level without engaging in some sport that demands such physical prowess.
So we are engaging in a fight with guns? How will you show off your strength then?
Boys and Girls
What characteristics and values do you look for in a potential partner? Do you have any, admittedly, unrealistic standards for your partner, that you wish they'd have, even if it is kind of absurd to expect?
I dunno, 20-30 might be my upper limit. With that said, as long as she doesn't have STDs and is monogamous, there's still a chance.
If a girl who's had 20-30 partners wants to stay with me, a guy who's had 1, then I'd consider it a compliment.