How come there are all these girls who can date guys all the time and they choose to date or not date depending on how they feel, but I can't even get one date with a guy?
What is it that they're doing apart from being prettier than me?
You increase approachability by having a friendly demeanor. Be aware of how your facial expression is. Perhaps you are constantly giving off a scowl or glare without realizing it.
Make small talk with people you are interested in meeting with and introduce yourself. Don't just wait for everyone to come to you. Need to take initiative.
Show some interest in whatever it is they are doing (even if you aren't really interested). Ask questions about what they do. People love talking about themselves.
Go to a place where guys are actively looking for females. Go with friends though, not alone. Dress up nice and get out there. f it doesn't happen in one night, do it again. Seriously, if you go to a club looking cute, you will literally have no issues. You can even sit like a shy dainty wallflower and pick up something. It may not be Mr. Perfect, but it will at least give you some confidence and realize that it is easier to get a guy. I went out with my friends to a desert concert, and even the semi-average and overweight looking girls will hook up with someone. Most of the dudes are total chads and their one night stands, but you literally just have to be cute and or confident.
All you get on those sites is guys wanting to hookup
They've never turned into relationships for me.
I'm still no closer to understanding what these girls do to be able to get dates so easily.
>There are these things called dating sites. Or apps. Besides, there is nothing wrong with one night stands, they can sometimes turn into relationships
Met my girlfriend through online dating. We've been together a year as of next week, and next month we're going to her friend's wedding--who also met her husband-to-be on the same site.
My best friend and his ex started off as a one night stand. They were together for 4 years and lived together for 3 of them. She's actually really cool girl and i think of her almost like a little sister.
Then you should just keep on trying to date. Dating sites and bars. The usual. Just because you mostly get hookups doesn't mean you can't meet someone serious that way.
Really, you can just meet a guy even if you're not sure about him wanting to only hook up or not. At the worst, you can just not put out.
Expand your horizons then. Online is a great place to meet people. You can find guys who live not in your city but still somewhere close enough. Or even somewhere a bit more far away but within traveling distance.
How old are you?
That's way too early to be worried. People at your age are only starting to look for their first real jobs out of college and starting their careers.
Just enjoy hooking up and dating, if you can't get a hookup to turn into something serious then simply don't worry about it. You will have plenty of time to land a guy who you click with and will become more serious with.
Most people my age have had their first relationship already. So it's way past the time to start being worried
>Just enjoy hooking up and dating
Hooking up isn't fun and I've never been able to get a date.
It's a numbers game for everyone. Just because you haven't lucked out so far doesn't mean you should stop trying. Just the opposite.
Hell, even 4chan has /soc/. You could even find something special there that you wouldn't dare mention on conventional dating sites (i.e. threads about kinks, fetishes, special wants in a partner...)
For obvious reasons, I can't really say first what how to do that as a woman, I can only relay what I've gleaned from others.
Pretty much you just do it enough 'til you find someone who wants what you want. I remember my first date with my girlfriend, at one point towards the end she literally said, "Finally. I feel like I've met a prince, after dealing with so many frogs. I was about ready to give up, but this date made it worth it." We've also traded some of the cringe stories from dating (guys get them too. Though I just find them funny), so I know how tough it can be.
Even for me it took about 2 years of constantly going on dates and meeting new people to finally meet my GF. But I kept an open mind and just met whoever, and just treated it as meeting new strangers with new life stories for me to hear about.
I have absolutely no idea what the online dating climate is like right now, but it also helps if you'e on the right type of site/app. We met each other on OKC, which--in my expereince--tended to be a lot less hookup oriented. I'm not sure if it was because you had to invest more in making your profiles, or because I just was able to weed out people better with the information I had, but I got a lot less random chicks who only wanted my dick for a night (I remember there was this girl from POF who literally started asking about what my penis was like in the first 15 minutes of us meeting for coffee).
For the one night stand to dating conversion, it's just you meet someone where in the small little moments in-between when you're laying in bed making small talk, you end up making a common connection that serves as like an anchor of interest. You get curious and start talking more, and things just kind of naturally escalate, and your one night stand becomes more.
Maybe you're annoying or boring? Make sure you have hobbies and you're not a bitch and you can carry a conversation. Be nice, make eye contact and keep yourself looking your best
If you're autistic or something then get a male dominated hobby so nerds will fawn over how cool it is that you do ___. You can rest on that while developing social skills.
Same here. Met my boyfriend online and we've been together for a while. Usually with guys and girls, you can tell right away from how they talk if they genuinely want to talk to you and get to know you or if they just wanna fuck.