Hey its the autist from yesterday who asked for advice on talking to girls.
Ive taken all the stuff you guys have told me and I'm just about ready to start my new daily routine of approaching 20 women.
Now before I start I just have a few questions.
Where are good places to do this? So far I can only think of my school but I'm afraid that if a girl really doesn't like me I'll get charged or suspended for "sexual harassment", "attempted rape", or something ridiculous.
Should I try going to clubs? Ive never been to one so if anyone has important tips or knows of things I should be aware of please let me know.
I'm 19, if it helps.
For all those who've helped out, thanks!
IDK if you live somewhere where this is a thing, but there's this idea of 'singles meetups', arranged online, where a bunch of single people congregate in a given place at a given time and just sort of hang out. It's generally understood that hitting on people under these circumstances is OK/non-creepy, and also if you embarrass yourself you can just ditch that group and find a new one.
Alternatively, there's the low-tech/old-fashioned concept of singles' bars. You might want to ask your friends which bars are the ones that got Schelling'd into being the ones that single people go to in order to meet other single people.
Dude, just talk to the girls who you run into. Ask the checkout girl at the grocery store how her day is. Tell the girl walking by you that you like her hair. Etc. Once you stop viewing every interaction as a possible date or something that needs to happen and be forced you'll stop reeking of desperation. Girls can smell desperation like a shark smells blood. Not to be all SJW, but girls are people too and once you start treating them like you would anyone else getting to the next level will be natural. Seriously, just relax.
Dude just strike up a conversation with a girl, girls are guys without dicks, that like to talk more. I didn't see the thread yesterday, but just find one anywhere near you organic, at work, school, etc. The only way you'll come off weird is if you act weird. Talk to a different girl as often as possible, the fear is greater before the act than after. Start by asking questions, if it's in class about the class, at work about work, bounce from that topic to something about them. You'll suck at it at first, but eventually you get the swing of it. If you do it all routine based its going to feel mechanical and weird. Twenty girls a week. Sounds like some weird ass quota.
Ive never heard of 'singles meetups' but ill definitely give it a shot! I'll also be going to bars as well.
Alright! Noted down! This actually makes things much more clearer.
Thanks you guys!
I don't know what you were told yesterday, but as an asperger it helped me a lot, to get female friends before i moved into dating.
Going directly to flirting with girls will make you look like pic related
They could either set you up, or you go party with them and their female friends.
Parties where you meet friends of people you know is generally one of the best places to meet people, because it's not awkward to talk to new people there.
>mfw reading this
What did he do wrong exactly? What could he have done instead?
>get female friends before flirting
Im not entirely sure what this entails... how does this help me become attractive towards women?
I'll try doing whatever you guys tell me, but I'm sure what you guys mean.
'Getting female friends' is the wrong thing to do in that you are implying that there is a difference between female friends and male ones. Do you know why 'Chads' get the girls? Because they treat the girls like one of the guys. Do you know why White Knights don't get the girls? Because they treat the girls like girls aren't normal people. Just get friends. Don't be a dick. Don't be a white knight. Just be you. Don't count how many girls you talk to every week because number nine will be able to tell that you are more interested in gathering data than the fact that you think that her shoes look nice. Seriously, just talk to them like you would your best friend.
He could've not even tried at all. It really sucks, but sometimes it's better that way.
You should just get friends: male or female. And the only way to do that is to talk to people. To girl: I really like your shoes. To guy: I like those shoes. To different girl: how's your day? To different guy: how's your day? See how they are the same. If you treat the girls the way you treat anyone else you'll avoid any weirdness or potential harassment charges, unless you want yo motorboat guys too. People won't always answer you and not everything will turn into a conversation. But you will get used to talking to persons and you will get used to treating girls like regular people.
this will help me to eventually reach my goal? To become attractive towards women?
ok ill try then.
im trying hard to remain positive... reading >>16865960's pic has left me feeling horrible
It will help become attractive to everyone. Guys and girls will want to hang out with you. The problem with the guy from that picture is that he was trying way too hard. Did you notice that he knew how many girls he talked to in day? That he 'chatted them up'? Don't do that shit!!! Just say whatever. I live in a city that is constantly fucking wet and cold but assholes still wear boat shoes and sneakers. I was waiting for my wife the other day and noticed that some girl was wearing sensible boots. I said, 'good job wearing sensible footwear!' She said thanks and then we talked about what schools we went to etc. Could've gotten her number, but I'm married. I seriously just said that she had sensible shoes. And I'm no Adonis be any means. Was grocery shopping and asked the checkout girl how her day was blah blah blah I know that she has no plans on a Saturday night. Could've asked her to a movie, but I'm married. The key to these two, and all successful,interactions with women is to just relax. Don't tell a girl that you like her shoes because you want to ask her out. Just tell her that you like her shoes. The guy in the story went into every interaction looking for data and/or results instead of just looking to interact. Don't be that guy and you won't get his result.
This guy knows what's up.
Once you start viewing attractive girls as regular human beings and not just a hole to stick your dick into, a lot of the anxiety goes away.
Just work on being more sociable with everyone, everywhere you go. Friendships, and then relationships, will develop naturally.