>even if nothing within the relationship has actually changed?
That's exactly why you're getting bored. Relationships need forward momentum or else they stagnate and fall apart. For most people, that means the marriage/children/family track. After a while, if that isn't happening, your subconscious starts telling you that you're wasting your time, and it's time to move on and try again with someone else.
Don't forget that biology factors heavily into your emotions here. Even though we have condoms now, our cocks & brains are still designed with the same purpose they always were
>>16864920 this. you don't necessarily have to walk down the aisle and pop out kids though. that's one way to go, but that will stagnate too after a while, especially after the newness of being a parent has worn off and you're looking ahead to a decade and a half (or more) of never having the time or money to do anything that would liven up your marriage.
if you want to get married, go for it, but don't do it just to keep the relationship from being boring. do it because you want to get old with that person. if all you want is something new in your relationship, then do something new together. take a road trip somewhere you've never been, explore places around town together, sign up for a community ed class in some topic neither of you knows anything about. shit like that.
I'm of the mind that couples need time apart, independent lives outside the home and all that. I think that if my ex and I had our own rooms/offices, we might have worked through some problems more easily. As it was, we were both far enough from our families that we couldn't just split and chill the fuck out for a day or two.
I think a healthy extended family also helps (whether that is friends or neighbors or actual biological family).
I think that's been neglected for a couple generations (in the US) as people are more inclined to move for their career or "lifestyle", and you wind up with a family that's sort of living on an island, with no way to take off the pressure when things get strained.
>>16864903 Don't fucking break up with them if you love them You may feel like you're getting bored but don't do it. Never forget those small moments when you see their smile or see their eyes light up when the rap a whole verse correctly over Skype and thinking to yourself 'wow he/she's perfect'
Just remember feeling that love in those moments
Because in 4months time when they're going on a first date and have gotten over you it will hit you It will hit you like a child being punched in the face by an MMA fighter and you'll go to sleep with both sides of the pillows soaked and be greeted with a breakdown every time it says 'Anon is online' on Facebook Don't have any regrets like me OP, it fucking breaks my heart knowing another girl gets to call him hers when I was too deluded to treasure him when I had him
So many relationships end because of boredom. I think we're trained to believe that anything that isn't perfect ecstatic love and adoration is just shit. We put too much on a partner... expecting them to be the perfect lover, confidante, provider... it feels pretty bad.
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