Hoping you guys might be able to shed some advice on this for me.
>be 18 year old me
>meet girl online
>form long distance relationship
>visit her for 2 months at a time twice a year for the next 3 years
>accumulate lots of photos of my trip and of girl
>break up after 3 years
>current girlfriend finds photos from my trips
>flips the fuck out
Her argument is that I still have feelings for the girl and that holding onto these photos is proof of that. My argument is that it was an interesting point in my life, and I'm holding onto the images as a memento of my time in a foreign country. I sincerely have no feelings for my ex, and offered to get rid of all the photos of her, while still holding on to photos taken there, but without her in them. Current girlfriend does not believe this is a good enough solution.
Am I being unreasonable? Anyway, bumping with pics from my trips.
She's being unreasonable. Memories are memories. She can't expect you to delete any reference to your past, just because she's now in your present/future. Your a part--a PART--of her life, but that doesn't mean she owns you. Partnerships don't work that way.
She may have issues.
She has no right to demand you to get rid of any of your photos, whether your ex is in them or not.
Everyone has a history and experiences - it's what builds us and makes us who we are. You can still have pleasant memories of travelling with your ex, even though you don't have feelings for her. If your current gf doesn't respect that, it's her own insecurity that's the problem.
No. Bitches be crazy, yo!
Post more pics of your trip.
My ex wanted me to get rid of my pictures with former boyfriends too, it's not a fair thing to expect. You're allowed to have memories and you've lived a life before you've met your current partner. They need to deal with that.
I'd understand if it was nude pictures or a ton of her in a bikini etc. But it sounds like your girlfriend is being unreasonable and overly jealous. I still have pictures with my first boyfriend from when I was 16 who was a prick to me, not because I still have feelings for him, but because I'm sentimental and like to document different phases in my life. You're allowed to keep those pictures and you need to tell your GF she's being unfair and needs to trust that you're being sincere
Thanks, glad to see I'm not being a dick for the sake of it. Now to find out how to show her that. She's now digging through her conversations with friends trying to find photos of her exes so I can see how it feels.
Can do anon.