So /adv/ I have a bit of a dilemma. I been with this girl for like 3 years. Didn't really plan on being with her that long, was meant to be a one night fuck. Well me being too nice wanting to keep getting laid next thing ya know we got a house together. I can hold my own alone but it's much easier with her. I still don't even feel I love her like I have other people more like we're good friends who fuck now and than and share the same bed. We don't even really have a damn thing in common. We're complete opposites and the only time we don't fight is when we have weed.
Than there's another girl, one who I had a thing for for a while. Turns out the feeling is mutual. We get along real well, got a lot in common, and I can't even think about her without my chest feeling heavy. I get a text from her and my heart skips a beat.
So the main question is: what's more inportant? Stability or passion?
When you've dumped a lot of time into someone, sticking with it can seem like the smarter thing, however it sounds like you're just wasting your time with her. Nothing in common and constantly fighting? Drop her. It's not even a matter of a choice between two different relationships, the one you're in now is toxic to you.
You should pursue the girl you like. Even if it doesn't work out you're probably better off without your current gf.
I have made it a point to only date when the girl is more invested than I am. I know I will get a lot of shit for this, but once you've been hurt badly enough you start developing what I call "life insurance". Whatever the outcome you won't get hurt, because you didn't really care.
You could have "life insurance" with the first girl. Just my two cents.
Dubs checked, and thanks guys. It's a hard choice to make cuz I do get a lot out of it. And it really is toxic. I'm always on eggshells waiting for her to freak out, sex is almost nauseating as its just fuck her til she cums that's it, haven't got head in like 2 years.
Im 24 I think it's time to move on and live my life. Thanks guys you made this much easier and I feel less guilty now