I've realized that the reason I want to have sex with a bunch of girls is because I just want validation. Validation that I'm attractive enough, funny/cool enough, "big" enough.
It's putting a strain on my relationship because any time I get horny, I start seriously considering leaving my girlfriend in pursuit of the feelings and other girls, but as soon as I've had sex/masturbated, I realize how dumb it would be and that I don't need their validation anyway. But then when I'm around guys who are getting girls or who the girls are fawning over/flirting with, I can't help but be jealous.
I don't know if this means I should be single and just do it, or if I need therapy to kill my need for validation from sex.
>>16861205
Post pictures online?
>>16861227
what?
I don't really have advice besides not doing anything off the cuff. I'm mainly responding because I know what you mean. I don't have low self-esteem or anything but on dates and that I feel like sex means it's 'for real', seems odd for a guy I suppose.
It means you're a whore. You need to build up your self respect that's internal and independent of others opinions or you will always be a slave to your image and fuck up your life and relationships.
>>16861205
Do you actually love your girlfriend? Do you WANT it to work out, in the long run? You barely said a word about her in your post
>>16861257
I don't know. Sometimes I feel like I do, like we're really connected and good for each other, then other times she just bores me, and I'm just drained of energy being around her (but I can't tell if that has more todo with me and maybe depression, or avoiding responsibility).