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What do i do to help my bf who's scared of getting hurt in a relationship? He's suffered some pretty bad breakups before and now he's kinda closing himself emotionally, it seems, to prevent it from happening again. He's afraid of getting too attached to me and then losing me. But I don't want him clamming up on me.
He's told me of his experiences and he even flat out told me he's trying not to fall in love with me. He keeps distracting himself with work, video games and whatever, he builds himself this busy life so he doesn't have to confront the issue.
It hurt my self-esteem pretty bad for a time, and I tried to get him to acknowledge me more, work over his issues and those of the both of us, but it probably hasn't helped. Pretty much always when we discuss these things (which is OFTEN) I end crying sooner or later we've discussed breaking up any number of times. But I don't really want to, if it can be helped.
Thing is, he probably wouldn't even want me to help, since he likes to pretend to be this tough guy who never cries and who doesn't need other people, can get along on his own etc. Is there really nothing I can do, or?