Has anyone here ever lost their virginity to an escort? I know it sounds sad but I'm actually considering going to one that offers the whole girlfriend experience just so I can experience sex and get it out of the way. How do these girls feel about virgins/guys who want them to lead and show them the ropes? How safe is it? Money isn't really an issue if it's only a one-time thing. Any advice is appreciated.
Don't do it dude. You don't need it.
Let me tell you something, OP. I grew up ignoring women completely. I had a few female friends as part of my crew in high school, but that was it. However, at some point after turning 18, I picked a girl I knew and said to myself "I'm going to fuck her."
Soon enough, that's exactly what I did.
Girls aren't that hard, m8. You've just gotta have confidence in yourself.
That's fucking stupid. Losing your virginity to an escort cheapens the experience of losing your virginity simply because you paid for it when you should be capable of doing it yourself.
Why do you care about having sex so much anyway? Don't you have more important things to concern yourself with, like your professional life or developing your self confidence to the degree where you don't actually care about whether or not you are a virgin?
How old are you, OP
How do you go about doing it anyway, especially when talking to girls that you don't know? I don't have that much experience, and a lot of the time I just end up flirting at inappropriate times and coming off too strong when I do start trying to pursue someone.
I don't have confidence issues, but girls seem more interested in me than I am in them.
As a woman, I'd say find yourself a girl... I mean it's easy. Most of us women are insecure in some category. Women don't open up as much as we'd like to because some of us are afraid of being slut shamed or anything that falls under that category. Take a girl out to a nice lunch or take her to your house to watch a movie. It's really all about right timing. You can't awkwardly force it. I mean some women you can tell that they want sex and if the women you are dating looks at you that way then that's a green light. Just don't go asking her "Do you want to have uh sex?" cause us girls hate that and that is not a turn on. If she's feeling it just stick your fingers in her pants. She'll thank you later. Also in the future if you want more pussy, don't just hit it and quit it. Keep in touch with her and you know make it something like you too are comfty with. Maybe you'll get yourself a relationship right there. But the first time having sex is always rough so make sure to take notes and let her know that you don't know that much maybe she'd lead the way
No offense, but this isn't the most helpful advice. If I were confident and knew girls and knew what to do with those girls I wouldn't be here asking for advice on paying an escort. I'm awkward, I'm inexperienced. You're describing your own personal successes and trying to pass it off as legitimate advice. I'm sorry but anecdotal evidence isn't very helpful for anyone.
I care so much because it's a basic human act that many people have done/continue to do and I feel defective for not being able to experience it myself. I feel like I'm lacking in a very basic experience and that honestly hurts. I'm 20 by the way, so I'm not just some horny teenager. Saying that a thing doesn't matter much to someone who's never had it is quite frankly arrogant, like telling someone who's starving that food isn't really that tasty, or someone who's dehydrated that water isn't all that refreshing.
Once again, you talk about getting women/sex like it's the simplest thing in the world. Yes, it is for some people, and if I were one of them I wouldn't be asking about escorts. I've never had success with women, in fact most of the time they barely acknowledge me. I'm tired of feeling rejection and humiliation just because I'm trying to experience basic human needs, in this case physical affection and intercourse.
Not op but just want to confirm what youbalready confirmed: most girls are insecure even if they come accross as super confident right
Can anyone else triple confirm. Im a retard btw
Can confirm. One of my closest female friends whom I considered to be extremely confident and outgoing asked me in earnest how one deals with being alone. She had always had a boyfriend/married since she was old enough to date. Now that she was divorced (he cheated on her twice even after she forgave him the first time) she didn't know how to handle the loneliness. It was an odd feeling having to see my hyper confident friend show such weakness and insecurity.if
Go for it, OP. Notice how all the naysayers have nothing but "waaah it triggers me don't do it". Think of the escort as your personal sex trainer. Tell her beforehand you are a virgin so she will be able to better prepare and help you.
i am 22 and a virgin, and it hasnt ever bothered me. why do you have to conform to doing what everyone else is doing to not feel defective? you are basically saying you need herd mentality to be functional.
its not arrogant, it actually doesnt fucking matter. you cant compare basic human needs to sex, because those arent optional. sex is optional. if you boil it down, you are putting your dick into a wet hole for a bit, W0W. if you do it with someone you care about and love, its connecting with a partner on a deep level (i would think).
fucking an escort is literally like renting a wet hole in a wall to fuck, except they're a person too. idk what youre expecting it to be or why you need it, but you will be disappointing if you go through with it. how do i know? you arent the first to post this.
i guess im going to be 23 and a virgin very soon too. whatever.
I'm 18, and couldn't care about this in the slightest anymore. Whether or not I lose my virginity at 40 or even tomorrow will have no impact on my life and what I plan to do, because there are more important things in life.
You know why I don't care? Because I know I'm a good looking person. I know I am capable of human kindness and having meaningful relationships. I know girls are attracted to me. But I don't care; I've seen so many of my friends neglect their academic lives becuse of women, and I don't want that to happen to me until I can secure financial and professional success first because if I'm not successful in school, I will not be successful in life because my family is middle class.
I'm not going to waste my time that I could be using developing skills and acquiring knowledge that could one day land me a promotion just so I can fuck some girl and brag about it to my friends.
You think you're the only 20 year old virgin that you know? No, plenty of people go through what you go through, just because you haven't experienced it yet doesn't mean that it defines who you are.
I'm not going to go out of my way to look for a relationship. If it was meant to happen, then it will one day.
I used to think like you anon. I really did. The years wore on and I finished college. Got a real job. Got a house. Got a car. Then, you start realizing that you're getting older and still a virgin. Then, before you know it, you're almost 30 and still haven't even had a girlfriend yet. You see all your friends living their lives with the men/women they love and you never got to experience that. You had "better" things to do. At least, I thought I did. I realized that none of that shit matters: my work, my money, my house, my car. While I was toiling away getting those I missed the most basic of human experiences and I will spend my life regretting that.
Don't be so aloof, anon. It's easy to do when you're so young but please please do not turn out like me. I hope nobody turns out like me: alone, miserable, and deserving of ones situation.
might as well be with an escort cuz i lost my virginity to my first love
now i despise love and the fact that she indirectly makes me sad because other guys are fucking her, and i cant.
sex is nothing special but id assume it would be awkward for you even with an escort.
It's not what you think. I'm a late bloomer. Four years ago I went through a tough time in my life and had mild depression after being separated from my other parent, which I was only recently able to pull myself out of.
I'm focused on the future, but I'm also spending my time trying to enjoy the present. I have all types of friends; immature ones, smart ones, goofy ones, popular ones, and leave my house as much as I can so that I don't miss out on life. I want to look back on my life and smile knowing that I never missed out on a worthwhile experience and have interesting stories to tell.
I stay up until the early hours of the morning getting my work done so that I may have both a social life and academic success.
It's just that now I don't know what to do about girls. I have been thinking about asking some friends for advice on this, because I've always had a complex about women (much like I've always had a complex about socializing until recently). Girls approach me and give me clear signs that they're interested in me, but I just don't feel it. I try to get to know them, but something about them is just off putting to me, and it's probably just because I have a tendency to overanalyze things I am not familiar with, like flirting and dating.
Thanks for reminding me though, but I don't think you deserve your situation. You can always pull yourself out of it, but you need time and the mental fortitude to get started.
It's not like I've got it all figured out, but it might trying my best, and I simply want OP to keep in mind that there are other important things in life too.
Anon you're young and you seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Please figure out your complex with women soon because once you do I think you'll look back on your old self and wonder how you could be so silly. Best of luck, anon!
Hey OP, I'm who you're looking for.
First 20 really inst that old so you shouldnt be worrying about it however..
I lost my virginity to an escort at age 27. Honestly, it was fine. It wasn't great, but for the money I don't have any complaints or regrets. I'm happy I did it.
My advice is to get a good one, pay the extra a little extra money for a good one, no point going cheap if its your first. I'd recommend finding a website like adultwork and getting a girl with good reviews that looks fucking stunning in the photos.
Honestly if you find your virginity that big of a problem I think its good to remove that problem. Get a good girl and use a condom.
he's right you idiot. you have to put WORK in it. It may take years, and you may only get her sister, but anyway after that process you are A LOT smarter and fitter.
i fucked both btw, hookers and regulars.