So my gf and i have been dating for 7 years and were 22 now, last month we really started feeling just like friends and that we needed to go experience things on our own and then we would reuinite. We decided to limit other people to just kissing and pepple outside our friendship group to not make thibgs akward, anyway i ended up kissing someone that fit within that boundry and she has been pretty much left broken hearted. i feel like i wanted to experience rgat stuff because i havent been able to ever, i know its not better than building something meaningful with someone for the long run but it is something im obviously very curious about, how do i justify my actions? Am i even able to?
>break those boundaries
I don't blame her if she never trusts you again. What was even the point of setting those boundaries if you weren't going to follow them? You're at the beginning of the end now, even if she does forgive you, she's going to resent you for it.
you guys admitted that you reached a 'just friends' place. finally letting yourselves have that forbidden fruit that is other people isnt going to make you suddenly love each other again. sure it refreshes you a little bit, but seeing other people isnt what re-sparks a love between you two.
kissing others is just an excuse to say 'i think i like someone else' so you can justify it over just 'im bored of the relationship'.
its normal for this to happen to be honest. after some point the person your fucking is no longer your gf, or your wife. they essentially become your sister. someone permanently installed in your life that you cant quite imagine life without, but that you dont have great passion for (the way you do friends or romances).
its just what happens. things fade.