So theres this girl I like, and I've asked her to be my

>girl is sad about her dead ex boyfriend
>"lol just move on"
>wonders why she chooses to date someone else

Telling her to just move on from her ex bfs suicide was kind of a dick move. That sounds really traumatizing, doesn't matter how long it's been.

You should probably just move on. Don't be friends with her unless you are genuinely interested in her friendship.

>>16859971
It wasn't quite like that, I told her that its not healthy to dwell on the past so much

>>16859980
I don't care how you said it or what your exact words were, that's how it came across to her. You just dismissed something that was very important to her and didn't even consider how she felt

>>16859980
You realize that telling someone that is basically like telling someone that you don't want to hear about their problems? Sometimes people just need to talk things out.

I just felt like it was rude of her to continuously tell the guy that she knew was in love with her about how she's still in love with someone who killed themselves years ago

>>16859967
Move on.
Also, I don't think you fucked up. The other posters are just putting her cunt on a pedestal.

Imagine you were that guy she's now dating, what would you think of your gf crying to another guy like that?
She needs to get her shit together, until then she's just ONS material, and you are not her shrink.

You should wish good luck to the other guy, he's taking one for the team you know.

>>16860002
She's not obliged to return your feelings. If you didn't like her talking about him then you had the option of stepping out of the picture, but telling her to get over it killed any chance you had. That's one of those things you think but have the tact to not actually say.

>>16860058
Yes because stepping out of the picture would have been so painless -.-

This was the first girl that I actually knew that I liked, not just thought I did

Also I didn't ask if I fucked up before, I know I did. I'm asking if I fucked up letting her back into my life now.

>>16860117
I never said it would be painless. It was just a matter of deciding which would be better for you: staying or going.

And I have no idea whether letting her back in your life was a good idea. That's for you to decide. If you can handle her dating someone else and not returning your feelings, then there's no problem. If you're going to throw a tantrum every time she mentions her boyfriend or ex, then there is a major problem.

>>16860124
Its not that I have a problem with her having a boyfriend, its just that she didn't tell me to that she did, allowing me to casually flirt with her, and that she told me that she wasn't looking for a relationship

I gotta sleep though, goodnight