Overcoming breakup books? Do you know any?
It is almost two years now and I am still awake at 5 AM just thinking about it and feeling like shit. She was the one who dumped me after 7 years, there was probably some cheating involved, she allegedly started fucking someone else within 48 hours. Yet, I can't bring myself to despise her and move on. I self destroy myself with videogames to not think. I even scored another loving cute girlfriend , but I feel terribly underwhelmed by her compared to my ex. I really need help, I'm 28 holy shit.
It's been two years man.You've got another girl that wants to be with you. I say give her more attention and just try and move on. Find some more hobbies. Learn some new skills. You've got this man.
Recovering from such a long relationship takes time, don't rush it.
You already are in another relationship despite feeling this way? I'd say you are still not ready for it, it could lead to many problems with your new girlfriend.
Try to do different activities during the day to keep you busy (sports, hobies, etc). Make short and long term plans for yourself and work on them.
If you really need to let all about your previous relationship out, write a book about, just so you can reflect upon it and move on.
To be honest the whole new girlfriend thing is dragging me down. After the breakup I didn't actively pursue any girl but I sure fantasized about how I would have felt and all. But even if this girl has no apparent fault, she is such
a letdown. I felt so involved with my ex, we had amazing connection ( not that amazing maybe since she dumped my ass ) .I compare her to my ex all the time and she loses hard. Such a harsh bullshit thing to do, yet I can't help it.
I don't know if I rushed this, could be. It was less than a year after the breakup. But the girl pursued me and I felt lonely and I was craving the idea that I could love again. Right now, it's a failure on all fronts. Thanks for the advices. I hit the gym regularly but other than that I have to focus on my studies and end university, which is hard because of my poor focusing skills.