Help, I need your help, I feel fucking hopeless. I had a one month relationship with a girl and I fucking gave it all. Again. And before that I had a 3 year relationship, where I fucking gave it all and she fucking reciprocated with several breakups until I got fed up from her shit.
Now I feel fucking hopeless. I wish I didn't want a couple so hard, I wish it wasn't an emotional necessity. I have to work hard, endure rough times, fucking suck up feeling hurt, for what? To have a girl shrugging me off like this?! And if I make a mistake, a single fucking mistake, the relationship is nearly over?! I don't know if my heart will endure another girl in my life, I fucking give it all, I try to make them feel secure, yet I always feel anxious, I always self-doubt, I always put her before me every single time and I try to be the best fucking boyfriend ever and I get paid with this.
Please tell me I'm so fucking wrong, tell me this is not all there's about relationships. Shit, I can't even have sex with anyone without getting emotionally involved! Please help me guys, I'm desperate!
What if the problem is not only them but you? You seem to be so focused on making sure they don't leave you, that perhaps you end up being over protective and that annoys them. I don't know, I'm just speculating.
Take a look at yourself before blaming others. Let the relationship progress at its own pace, don't rush it. Don't expect her to be the one you're gonna spend the rest of your life with. You will know, after a while, if she's the one.
Probably. I know that's a real possibility, but then I literally can't act otherwise. If I did my own feelings would hurt me so much and so deep I don't know if I'll be able to help it. I would be fighting against my own will the whole time and it's so difficult! I can't!
Girls fucking suck then.
I meant professional help. Go to a psychologist or something like that. When a behaviour of yours starts to mess up with your life in a way that makes you suffer so much, then it's stopped being a minor issue and has become a problem that should be dealt with. This problem goes way beyond going out with girls. No one here will be able to offer significant help.
I've been thinking and honestly I have my doubts, I don't know if I'll be able to afford a therapist. But I don't know if girls feel overprotected, I just do what I'm supposed to do I guess... I try to even give plenty space, too, and even then all I get is a person who shrugs me off.
I've got a question everyone.
A time ago I was debating with my sisters, and they told me they like it when a guy makes an effort to be with them. Yet I believe it's never worth the effort - if someone puts a barrier, why bother?
So, I need your input. I want to know if it's really worth pursuing a girl despite how difficult she puts it.
One of them doesn't want any boyfriend, at all. The second likes being in love, but I doubt she'd fall for a drug addict.
They like guys pursuing them. Doesn't mean they will accept being with them, but they told me I should make an effort before ditching things at the first difficulty.
I can program just fine, thank you. I'm asking about something else, not for advice on how to deal with this.
It's funny because I don't see myself as "manly". And I don't want to pretend I feel like that.
>It's funny because I don't see myself as "manly". And I don't want to pretend I feel like that.
well there you have it that is your problem to everything that is wrong with you. women want guys who can be a man. that means you have to learn how to take charge and be a good leader. women want to submit to a dominant guy who they can trust and who can stand his ground.