How do I tell my girlfriend I have a fetish or two? I'm into some rough stuff, like painal and choking, etc. just borderline BDSM, and I'm kinda shy about it.
Well I don't think you're going to get away with choking your girlfriend unless she's seriously fucked in the head.
I write erotica for money, so I am pretty understanding about most fetishes, but violent shit is a really bad idea.
Why are people afraid to tell their fetishes to their SO? Aren't you together because you love each other. If you just say "choking is my fetish, what do you think? What are your fetishes? " she should be fine. Even if she's not into it it's not like you said "I'm going to start choking you from now on"
You have nothing to lose. Casually bring it up with her. She might like it
this has to be bait
you don't go get a girlfriend who isn't into your fetishes, this fag's jerkin us off
if he was really into the shit, he'd be enjoying himself being whipped right now instead of talking about it.
and to >I write erotica. BDSM is a lot more popular than you think.
>seriously fucked in the head
Lol. I have yet to meet a girl that doesn't lose her shit and roll her eyes into the back of her head as soon as my hand gets anywhere near her throat. Actual choking? No. But rough almost choking is like the most common turnon I've seen among women of all types. Domination in general. Hilarious that you write erotica and yet you say that.
>I'm into some rough stuff, like painal
HA. Good fucking luck, dude. Start with the choking and borderline BDSM stuff and then try to slowly transition into destroying her asshole. I'm sure she'd appreciate it.
Having anal sex with girl where it hurts them. Which, is literally 90% of the time. Painal is only a thing in porn because it means the girl getting it actually acts like (or really is) in pain, as opposed to most of the anal where the girl smiles or acts like it feels good.
Not saying it doesn't feel good for some people.
Please don't listen to this retard. Choking and 'violent shit' are common as fuck and women love that shit. Just be gentle and experiment with it so you can gauge whether or not she likes it first. Don't actually cause any pain until you know she likes it and you have a safeword.
And nothing you mentioned other than 'painal' is really fetish stuff, it's entirely a personality thing. You're either dominant and your girlfriend likes it, or you're not. If you're constantly asking her permission for things and being a little bitch then you're just digging the hole which requires you to ask 'p-please can we do BDSM?' rather than just letting it happen naturally.
Was cooking in the kitchen with the ex and jokingly ran the back end of a knife along her back and she did this little shiver thing and got super red in the face. Pulled her into the bedroom and had two hours of rope/knife/rape play, no questions asked and she loved it.
I honestly don't think anyone would be uncomfortable about being choked and similar things. Everyone I have had sex with liked it and didn't even feel it was necessary to really ask about beforehand because people (especially girls) love being roughed up during sex.