I had an emotional outburst in which I called my druggie, irresponsible

>>16859180
You speak pretty good English, Yakuzaman

>>16859201
Thank you.

Cutting your hair is a more traditional method of physical apology, outside of criminal organizations. Shave your head. It will grow back.

If you absolutely insist on going full Yakuza, then at least get your traditions right. You don't cut off the whole pinky for a first offense. At worst -and this is only for severe infractions- you cut the last joint (i.e. the very tip) of the pinky on your off hand, This is enough to impair your ability to hold a sword, which makes you more dependent on the organization. But not too much, because they still need men who can go out and do the dirty work. More infractions might earn you more joints (still off the pinky, then up to the ring finger, and so on), but one was almost always enough.

Losing a whole finger for a single offense would be needlessly wasteful. That is as true today as it was when the yakuza actually used swords for stuff.

But seriously. Just shave your head. It's actually more visible as a sign of shame, but it will grow back, and it will not permanently impair you.