I found myself in a foul predicament. I had a quarrel with one of my buddies. Cut the contact, deleted from social media, we don't talk anymore. Well, I acted foolishly and now I regret it and would like to reconnect with my friend.
I was thinking about adding my exfriend on fb and casually message and ask whether us being buddies is still possible.
That's a one option. Another option is simply leaving matters as they are and deleting contact info and such.
I'm a very proud person and reconnecting sounds reallt tough, especially given that I am the one who begs to be taken back despite the fact that the quarrel wasn't my fault. I don't even know if it's proper given my sex (pic related).
What do you think anons?
You either admit you screwed up openly and honestly, or you stay as you both are.
Pride? Screw your pride.
If your pride is worth more than friendship to you, why are you even having these thoughts?
No. No no no.
HUMILITY above all else. Holding yourself to some irrational undefined standard is the single greatest act of foolishness.
You're allowed to be happy about who you are and your decisions. But you should never think you're too good to help someone out or admit you are wrong.
That's a complete false equivalence.
Long story short, my friend wanted to meet up but of course stood me up, lied why, didn't apologise, didn't want to honestly explain what's the real reason. I got very upset cause we didn't see each other for a year or so and I felt like he treated me like shit. It was not the first time it happened either.
I assumed he just doesn't give a fuck about me and perhaps I'm right but part of me wonders whether it wasn't caused by depression or anxiety. It's a great grievance to me, really. Reaching out and apologising would mean, in his eyes I assume, that I have no self respect and therefore can be treated shitty. However leaving things unresolved is equally troublesome in my eyes. I'm lost.
Good, you should feel humiliated.
You cut a friendship over something as petty as being 'partially right'.
Regardless of the facts, you handled this incredibly poorly.
Go say you're sorry.
I doubt it is the case. He did it when I knew for sure he was single, and even then I think he was single at the time.
I suppose you are right but now this anon >>16858714 makes me feel like getting in touch with him would be invasive and wrong. I honestly do not know what to do in this case.