I'm 19, been seeing my girlfriend for a month and a half now, tried having sex a couple of times like a week in with a condom but I just flopped after(why I consider myself kind of a virgin), but thought it was just the condom. Now tried it without one and couldn't stay hard, I lose it very fast when I go on top, I put the tip in like twice in and out but then just flopped. What's wrong with me? I lose my hard on within like a few seconds if there's no stimulation, do I need to go to the doctor?
Man, some people are being mean to you. No need to take on their stuff.
We are men, and have male bodies. ED happens to all of us from time to time. It just happens.
Hopefully your sense of self isn't tied in with your junk. Just saying.
What do you mean by that last line? Do you think I should go to the doctor?
Haven't jacked it using my own hand in like 3 months so I think point 2 is necessary?
so ED is being awful at sex? Okay
Do kegel exercises, and edge. Your dick is a muscle, and you need to give it a good workout daily to keep it strong.
Avoid fapping or cumming too often in general, even during sex. No more than one ejaculation from masturbation every 4-8 days. Even cumming too often during sex will drain you. If you're feeling too tired to have PIV sex, just say you want to focus on her tonight.
Communicate with your partner.
Get your partner off before you stick your dick in her. She should have at LEAST one orgasm before you penetrate her.
Get your dick as hard as possible, then form a ring around the base of the shift to cut off circulation. Hold it until you penetrate her, then start thrusting normally. This will keep your dick hard during the condom to vagina phase.
Take ginkgo biloba, it's like nature's viagra.
Don't worry. Worry is your worst enemy when it comes to sex. Get out of your head and into your body.
Relax. You're placing yourself under way too much pressure and it's nuking your dick.
Awkward gross virgin sex is supposed to be stupid and weird. Stop obsessing about your performance and try to enjoy it. Laugh about how much of an inept dummy you are. Just go with it.
Could be nerves, either physically or metaphorically. Next time you have sex, take your time. And no, I don't mean slow down, I mean make out, tease, and take plenty of breaks. Ease yourself into the sex and see what happens.
Hmm she does make me cum like 3-4 times daily so, is that too much? Could it be that?
I will try that about holding the ring , and theres no need for a condom any more, shes on the pill.
What's ginkgo biloba ? You think this will help me? I can buy it and try
she's pretty experienced though and she doesn't know im a virgin
3-4 times a day is way too much. Once a day from sex max, unless you're on vacation. I would recommend no more than one cum per day from sex, and only masturbate if you haven't cum during sex or from masturbating the past 4-6 days.
Source: happened to me before. Had sex five times a day with gf, eventually lost my ability to stay hard or cum when I wanted to. Not cumming for five days fixed it.
Stop fapping of you haven't already, relax yourself before jumping into it, stop thinking about it too much. If none of those work there are some creams available that can keep you up and make you more sensitive I think. Also, you put your dick on it, so not a virgin. Also, you just stopped being a virgin. You expect to be pornstar tier in one night? Most likely it's the first time jitters, don't worry about it. Maybe not make it so much of a spectacle, people value losing their virginity way too much.
The thing is there is no sex because I can't keep my dick hard, so its just oral sex
Not porn star tier but Im expecting to at least be hard so I can fuck her, its really playing on me now
You're definitely stressing on this one, anon. Relax, don't rush it. The thing about stress related ED is that it gets worse every time you fail, so the most important thing is to have fun anyways . Won't say I had the same experience with my first time, but in the times after that there was a lot of joking, a lot of giggling, a lot of non sexual fondling and just the feeling of being open with someone. What's holding you back anon?
Have same problem I'm either hard and about to explode or I'm going soft uncontrollably fast. I have the girl jerk it until I'm hard then I slide it against the vag and feel the vag against my tip and it keeps my hard I can usually put my dick inside half hard and I just get fully hard from there. Try holding the base of your dick while you fuck and have her massage your balls. You have to also be really turned on to maintain a full one
I don't know what's holding me back, but it's been a while now and it's really frustrating. I mean we are pretty open with each other, we're girlfriend and boyfriend now. I've failed a few times now which is why it feels like its never happening so I don't know what to do and feel like I can't overcome it without some help.
I generally struggle on top I think that makes me lose my hard on even faster. Yeah when she grinds on it with her vag it sometimes can keep me hard or even really close to cumming but my dick is quite fat so it takes her a while to like direct it in and slot it in so by that time I just lose it