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My girlfriend cheated. Our relationship is in a complicated place to begin with. She was in a four year open relationship (where the man didn't want things open, but put up with it because he loved her). I then entered the picture (experimenting with polyamory myself) and essentially stole her away into what we agreed to be a monogamous relationship. They lived together, and he flew across the country to be with her. He is now flying back, but a day before that, he came back to fix something in the apartment and they had sex. She told me that it was only for a few minutes, that she stopped it, and that she cried afterward feeling guilty for what she had done.
I've been having trouble justifying certain freedoms I've been giving up for the sake of our relationship and due to the abrupt nature of her break up and her new relationship with me, things have been mostly good, but sometimes really rocky.
When she told me what happened I felt somewhat relieved and broke it off because I had been having doubts prior, but she wants me back, and I'm realizing that I really miss her. The odd thing is that even though she did cheat, I am not all that angry about it. I'm barely angry and it feels like I'm using this as a reason to break up rather than it actively affecting me. Part of me wants to give it another chance because this reason doesn't feel like a genuine one to end things, but rather the easy one. I believe that if we can mend the issues we've been having then we can move on and have one of the best relationships of my life.