How do I develop a sex drive? My boyfriend never says anything but I can tell he is unhappy with our sex life. Everything else in our relationship is great, I just have no urge whatsoever, and I don't want to be a shitty girlfriend denying him sex every day.
Are there any underlying issues that could be causing this? My gf has a lower sex drive when she feels less confident about her body and whatnot, in which case the solution would be to workout.
Also, working out would slightly raises your testosterone (still obviously within healthy female levels) enough to give you a little boost in your sex drive
Yeah, I've never been very sexual.
Huh, maybe you're right. I have gained a little since I quit my job. I'll try it and see if it helps any. Thanks!
Were have sex, but its not pleasurable to me at all, not because I don't find him attractive or because he's bad but because I'm just not in the mood and it just makes it uncomfortable. I give him handys and he says I'm the best he's ever had at that, but I wish I could make him flop like a fish always tbqh
Yeah the thing is. You have to look like you are getting off. You have to smile laugh a little and make eye contact.
You can totes 100% just cuddle and jerk him off but he's gonna feel bad if he thinks you're missing out. Real bad. You don't even know.
Look into health I guess. I'm told womens sexuality is notoriously hard to control but problems usual stem from mental and physical health. Work on your lifestyle.
I was very sexual with my bf when we first met. We would hangout twice a week and have sex 6 times during those two days. I would masturbate at least 3 times a day, on my own and was happy with my sexuality.
Then I decided to go on birth control. My hormones became so imbalanced that I started bleeding continuously for 4 months. My sex drive practically disappeared. I think we had sex about 5 times during that period. Then I decided to start lifting weights because lifting raises your testosterone, which rise your libido. Things have started to go back to normal now.
Lifting is a great way to boost your libido especially if you workout the muscles in your legs, since those are the biggest muscles in your body.
Not only will your body look more sculpured, but you will feel so much better about everything.
This is somewhat unrelated, but if you also have depression, lifting and jogging are a GREAT way to boost your mood. I'm speaking from experience and from studies done. Best of luck, OP!
My gf had a huge sex drive when we first started dating. Sex multiple times a day, she would be the one to initiate.
Then it started to decline, here's what she did:
Her diet increased her sex drive by a lot. When she would eat wheat, dairy, lots of sugar, she would feel bloated and not be in the mood. Now she eats mostly greens, fruits, and other healthy stuff.
>Dropped birth control
This had a huge effect. Birth control isn't intended for long term use and the side effects will only increase the longer you stay on it. A recent study shows that BC may permanently destroy your sex drive if you take it for too long.
After a day of running, she would be way more open to sex.
Talk about your needs. Communicate what kind of sex you want to have. Don't hold back your feelings.
Helped a lot, but not as effective as dropping hormonal birth control. I noticed this made her get much wetter too.
It could be your boyfriend that's the problem, though. If he's pushy, constantly trying to pressure you into sex, or just making you uncomfortable, this will make you not want to have sex with him.
Tell him to relax and "let me come to you." This will help him understand that you need more space to feel comfortable with having sex again.