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Petty committed relationship problems inbound.
>boyfriend and I hang out like once a week since he has a full-time job and I'm in school
>Invite him over for tacos at my place last Friday, he doesn't come because he's too tired
>be disappointed because I'd had an entire date planned out, but whatever, he's tired
>we hang out Saturday and everything's fine
>next weekend, he's working late Friday again
>text him in the evening because I don't know his schedule this week, ask if he wants to hang out
>he's like 'okay sure, late night because I'm working'
>text him 'do you want to do tacos?' because if he does I need ingredients/to do dishes/etc
>decide to work on a paper instead of getting taco stuff
>he shows up at 10:00 pm wondering where tacos are
>I tell him that I didn't get anything because I didn't get a reply
>he gets annoyed and tells me I didn't plan well
>mfw I get defensive and tell him that he could have texted me at any point
>he says 'I was teaching, I don't text when I teach, you replied too late and know that, you could have planned better'
>get upset because what the fuck, he can plan things too
>tell him that I was reluctant to just go out and get taco ingredients because of last weekend and I wasn't sure if he was just going to get tired and go home instead
>he's says 'that's no excuse, you have to do 80/20 all the time, it's how it works.'
>'80/20 is when you put in 80% effort and expect 20% back, you know, like I get from you'
>shut up at this point, but fuck
Idk man, him telling me he only gets a 20% return on the effort he puts in is...upsetting. Is the 80/20 thing true (for relationships in general) and if so, how can I improve my 'return' rate?