SO /adv/ i've fallen for a girl and hooked up with her after a few parties now
main problem: she drinks hardcore, on every fucking party. she gets so wasted that she can barely stand and always has bruises and so on
(she has a past with drugs maybe thats because)
should I try dating her (like 'rehabilitate' her) or leave her and be miserable
>damn dude see that drunk dumpster slut in the corner getting felt up by three different guys
>she asked me to choke her and spit in her mouth
>oh yeah thats my girlfriend the love of my life
You've set yourself only 2 options, which isn't really the case. There's plenty of fish out there. Does she only get wasted at parties? Some people tend to do that without necessarily being alcoholics.
I see what you mean but I knew her before the parties, sober. but I get your point
she only drinks when she is partying
thanks anon I think I will leave my hands off her (as hard as it might be)
>should I try dating her (like 'rehabilitate' her)
>should I get a girlfriend and try to fix her?
Yeah, good luck with that.
>I know, sounds pretty silly
Because it was silly.
>but thats the way with the human mind, bending thinks to our liking, telling yourself how it should be...
Alright there, Socrates, just get your shit together, yeah?
I think it depends on your age - if you're in college or age 18-24, getting blackout wasted every weekend is pretty typical and expected (less once you hit 22, honestly).
But, from my experience (I'm female, for reference) the girls who drink like that every time, while they might be really sweet and fun sober, are also the most likely to cheat. I had a roommate who was (and probably still is, we don't speak anymore) a 'party girl' to that degree, and she used her blacking out as an excuse ("I was drunk, you can't blame me!") for everything, and because she was a tall, slim, pretty brunette, she got away with almost all of it.
It eventually culminated in her getting sued by the city for lying to the police about being mugged by "a group of black guys" after she lost her phone outside of a drug house (lol).
That's an extreme case, but point is that most people view her as a sweet girl, but a slut/party animal. You should take it slow with her, if anything - drinking like that usually indicates some emotional damage deep down.
Leave. Now. Last thing you ever need is a GF that constantly has bruises. That shit will get you onto some serious trubble when a white knight sticks his nose on without knowing anything first.
It'll literally fuck your life over.
Do you think there's a reason why she drinks so much? When I used to go out with friends I would drink excessively because most of the time I hated the clubbing culture and the people who go out clubbing just seem like a bunch of retards imo. So I drank to not care about them. Sometimes I would drink with the intention of getting alcohol poisoning because I naturally have a destructive personality.
But yeah, aside from that, maybe you should give it a try. You know how she is sober, and yeah her drunk self would be worrying but maybe having someone there to support her would make a difference. Just don't expect her to change absolutely overnight, because there's still a chance she's happy with the lifestyle
How old is she like 19?
Not ready for long term relationships.
You have three choices, fix her (not gonna happen for atleast 3 years), dump her now, or try to enjoy it and dump her/get dumped later.