Hey advice. I'm a 22 year old male who has just started working full time after completing university.
There's a girl who works in the same building as I, but for, another company. I believe she is around 24-25. I have seen her bobbing around the hallway and we only ever say good morning to each other.
Yesterday, but some lucky timing, I was able to catch her alone in the elevator. I cracked a joke about what her company does, we talked briefly, introduced ourselves and I handed her a business card. In all, it was a pleasant and good experience. She was laughing, constantly smiling and seemed genuinely happy.
The next time I see her I wanted to ask her out to lunch or coffee, know that I know her name. My question to you guys is - should I just go for it and ask her out or continue to get to know her more first?
I barley see her and when I do our conversations will be short due to working at different places etc. Should I just go for it and if so - does lunch work?
Thank you guys! This is the happiest ive been in a while.
the more shy a girl is the slower you should go. if you don't feel she's that shy you should go ask her to a casual lunch/coffee "date" (dont call it a date of course) and see where it goes from there. if she's very shy then you should take it slow and let her get to know you a little bit at a time before escalating.
To my surprise her disposition was different to how I expected it to be. Shes a lot more bubbly and open than I had imagined. I wish I could recall the entire conversation but overall she smiled a whole bunch.
How should I word it - if I was to ask her to lunch?
"Hey Anon, I was actually thinking it might be fun to grab lunch together"
So I should heat up a small conversation about perhaps what she got up to in the weekend etc and then go for it? Sounds like a good idea.
If things dont go to plan, how do I deal with the embarrassment? Just move jobs?
if she shuts you down (she'll probably say she has a boyfriend or doesnt date coworkers etc) just say "it's cool, you're just really attractive so I had to try" and leave her alone after that outside of pleasant hellos
if you're respectful about it girls cream themselves when they feel desired, even if it's from a guy they don't wanna date
....but if you get pushy HR will come knocking and you'll be the office creep