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My ldr boyfriend is going clubbing with friends tonight. I do trust him that he isn't gonna end up fucking a girl or whatever but it's natural to have some doubts. Will having phone sex and making him jerk off in the afternoon help?
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WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT SILLY GIRL HE JUST WANTS TO GO DANCING
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>>16851228

>making him jerk off
>making him

go outside.
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>>16851238
I didn't mean it like that anon, Jesus Christ that sounded bad. Im not gonna be like "anon pls jerk off b4 clubz pls <3" But phone sex and get him horny and cum, yes.
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>>16851228

Retard, if you treat him like this you are basically making him cheat.
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>>16851272
How should I treat him then?>>16851272
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ldr never works sweety. i've been there a few times. we're animals with needs. unless you're 12 for your age
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>>16851281

By letting him live his life? Going to a club ain't shit, fuck.
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>>16851228

Don't be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. Doesn't matter if you're just crazy or he has actually done something to make you not trust him.

If you guys have trust issues then just end it. It is going to end soon anyway, so don't waste any more of your life trying to pretend like it is working.
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>>16851289
>source: promiscuous ho/fuccboi that has never had an ldr longer than 6 months
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>>16851228
Ldrs don't work senpai.

Get together or agree to see other people. Otherwise you're gonna be stuck in limbo and having these doubts is going to become very routine.
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we often project our own issues onto others
in this case what you're saying by not trusting him is: "if i went clubbing, i'd damn sure end up going home with a stranger, or at least banging him in the men's room" If you didn't believe that you would, you wouldn't think that he will. trust works both ways, and you're sending a very bad message.
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>>16851337
LDRs are difficult to maintain, but it's possible. I've had one for about 5 years now.
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It can't hurt, OP. I will say this, though. He probably won't fuck or even make out with any girls there but you can be damn sure some chick is going to be grinding up against him if he's at all attractive. The question is if he'll walk away from that or not.
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>>16851343
Maintain what? Talking to each other?
When are you moving in together and starting a family? How do either of you help eachother advance careers?

What you have is a long distance friendship.
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>>16851366
Not sure when we'll move in together, lol to starting a family, not sure why we need to help each other advance our careers. We do visit each other as often as we can, and we maintain the romantic feelings and sexual desire both during visits and outside of them.
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>>16851372
You're both stuck in limbo fampai.

All I can say is, what a waste of time.
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>>16851362
He doesn't seem to be interested in club girls. He has a family friend (who's pretty cute mind you, 8/10, is a partywhore tho) who's literally asking to suck his dick and he showed me the conversations and shut her down.
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>>16851378
Why do you think it's a waste of time?
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>>16851362
bumping and grinding isn't cheating,
even a lap dance is cool as long as there's no penetration involved or exchange of bodily fluids nobody got hurt.

honestly, in an ldr even condom-blowjobs should be acceptable, poor guy needs some relief. you're asking him to be faithful to his hand, and he can do that on his own. without you. you're giving him nothing he couldn't do by himself. at best you save him $19.99 a moth on porn
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>>16851386
Idk what you want out of this. Maybe you're both content living single but technically being a couple. Maybe you still will be 20 years from now.

I'd feel crushing pressure to settle down together and start actually behaving like a close unit. And I wouldn't pursue any relationship where this wasn't a shared goal.
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>>16851415
It is a shared goal for us to eventually get a place together. Neither of us know when that will be, though. I'd say the difference between LDR and living single is the emotional part of it. The emotions we have are the same as they would be if we were in the same area. You don't have to be constantly close to someone in order to deeply care about them
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>>16851402
It's totally, 100% cheating.
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Not sure why all the hate but seems like a good idea, you'd be more front of mind. Would it seem weird or phone sex is normal for you guys?

Also, who the fuck gives or receives condom blowjobs?
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>>16851487
Since we're ldr phone sex is normal for us, we usually do it every 1-2 days, occasionally 3 because we both have lives and get busy.
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>Will VR+Teledildonics save LDR?
I say it might.
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>>16851487
>who the fuck gives or receives condom blowjobs?

people with herpes. mostly clubbers
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are you going to show him this thread, or do you keep secrets in your relationship?
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