I've had a girlfriend for a couple months, she's my first girlfriend, and I'm trying to make it so that she's possibly my last. Everything in our relationship is going extremely well, but I feel like our sex just isn't what it's supposed to be and I've never even done it with anyone else.
What concerns me is that she's had sex with 3 guys before me, and she says I'm the shortest guy she's dated (6'1") so I'm really conscious about my penis size. I always thought I had an advantage there because i'm easily half an inch above average and it curves up a little which is apparently like a holy grail for women, but I can't help but think I'm the smallest she's been with.
I also can't stop thinking that the guys she's dated before me were much better in bed than me, which makes me really concerned whenever we have sex. Even with my curved penis, which is supposed to be amazing for her, I can't make my her orgasm even once. I've gotten her to have a small orgasm by fingering her but never through intercourse.
Then the other night I was asking her if women have something like a super orgasm, and she said she's only had two, one by herself and once her ex was fingering her in public place.
since she said that I just just can't stop thinking about being worse than the other guy. I want that to be able to do that to her, and yet I can't even make her have a small orgasm. Not only that but the other night I managed to stay erect for almost an hour and I just kept going hoping that she'd have a super orgasm, but as the night went on she not only didn't have a single orgasm but instead she just got drier until it started to hurt her and we just called it quits.
I just feel like such a failure in bed and now I'm having dreams about her cheating on me, and quite frankly even in my dreams i'm not blaming her for doing it.
everyone always talks about how amazing sex is, but at this point I'd rather just cuddle with her on the couch and watch a movie then masturbate later.
I think you're kind of worried about nothing. Girls love big dicks, and that's to be expected. But they're also looking for a real man in their life. Sometimes having both is a good combination. Hope that makes you feel better.
Tell her to fuck off. It's your first relationship, unless you are 38 you can get better. You will regret continuing this relationship if you let her put you in this submissive position, given the fact this constant nagging and guilt will drive all the fun away. She is an abusive bitch who doesn't respect you.
P.S. If you are 38, I can recommend /b/ or /r9k/.
thanks for the help but i dont think its just penis size, i just feel like i should have everything going for me for sex, and yet i cant even make her orgasm once.
im not really worried about her leaving me but i love her alot and its just not fair for her to be in a relationship with someone who cant do it for her in the bedroom.
shes not the one saying this, she constantly tells me im fine in bed, but i dont believe it, especially if i cant make her orgasm even once after an hour of intercourse.
tried doing that, i think shes really self-concious about the way her vag looks so she wont let me go down on her, i tried getting her to rub herself during intercourse but she stopped and said something like she'll finish too fast or something... which is what i wanted her to do but okay...
Then you are insecure. If you see her putting effort into concealing her past for your comfort, you are the problem. Try spicing things up a bit, foreplay, erotic clothing, massage, dunno.
If you are this insecure you are the one making your sex life shit! not her!
Gettng a girl to come is sometimes hard as hell. Some girls can come easy, some girls require a new bedding's, a dark room, stroked in a a circular motion for 30 min straight, and if you switch and go conterclockwize once everything is ruined and you have to start over.
Just try to enjoy yourself, and remember a good forplay, like when you think you are done with forplay, go down again and double the amount of time you already did.
Just poking your penis in and out for hours on end is just not cutting it for your girlfriend (and unless you have a micropenis, this have nothing too do with your size, is you were twice as lang and thick and even more curved upwards she would probably still not cum form you penetrating her.
Stop worrying, being insecure is probably the biggest turnoff girls have. And figure out what she likes, and do that to her.
Trust, comfort, security are some key words for some girls.
but we've done it like 5 times now and every time i just feel like i come out of it feeling shittier, not better. then after the last time she dried up and lost all interest even though i was doing everything i could to keep it interesting, changing the pace, position, location, everything. she told me the next day she felt like she lost confidence because she couldnt make me cum, so im thinking that was it, but idk she could be saying that.
also another thing i should add is that most of the time we have sex were both very unsure if were actually gonna do it or not before hand, like she says she just wants to take a nap so i come with her then she starts getting frisky and im not sure if shes just goofing around or wants to have sex, like she just said she wants to take a nap and my dads still in the house, and neither of us really wants to just outright say it until we're making out and shes on top of me,
so what im thinking is that maybe planning our sex dates would be beneficial? like maybe if we both have a saturday night free we do it then?
she showed me how she likes it and she goes side to side seemingly trying to erase it off the face of the earth so i was just gonna try copying what she did. but thats not a bad tip though ill keep it mind